Sunday, May 24. 2009
(Bonus points to anyone who actually either gets the poetic reference or knows the song!)
I am sick and tired of people who are living on the B-list
They're waiting to be famous
And they're wondering why they do this
I know I'm not the one who is habitually optimistic,
But I'm the one who's got the microphone here
So just remember this:
Life is about love
And lost evenings
About fire in our bellies
And furtive little feelings
And the aching amplitudes that set our needles all a-flickering
And help us with remembering
That the only thing that's left to do is live
- Frank Turner, "I Knew Prufrock Before He Got Famous"
We listen to graduation speeches and write quotes on our binders. We even put our favorite sayings in our yearbooks, forever identifying ourselves with a few simple words.
We take the First Amendment for granted. By that, I don’t mean that we don’t appreciate it. We do. I think all of you are deeply aware that you’re pretty free to express yourself. Instead, I believe we rarely stop to consider what that freedom entails. We recognize the opportunities we’ve been presented with, but don’t imagine ourselves doing anything truly important with them.
How many of you honestly believe you’ll say something worth remembering in your lifetime?
I could be wrong, but I’m guessing a minority of you would raise your hands if I asked that question in class. You probably don’t feel like your words are going to adorn a teenager’s binder anytime soon.
But is that a reflection of a lack of profundity, or a lack of confidence?
Think about your parents. One (or both) of them probably said something memorable to you over the years – something that helped you build the scaffolding for what would eventually become your identity. Can you imagine they thought they’d have the chance to say something profound before you were born?
Many of you have told me you’d welcome the opportunity to be parents. I don’t know that you’ve really thought about what that entails. Imagine sitting outside the room right after your child’s birth. In that moment, you’re painfully aware of the fact that your child knows nothing - and that you are responsible for keeping them safe while helping them navigate an entirely unknown world.
In that moment, you understand how little they know – and how much you do.
Picture your mother and father staring off into the distance after you emerged into the world, trying to figure out how they would teach you, how they would guide you – how they would get you to the place you’re at today. (They planned well.)
In that respect, many of you will be teachers, guides, lecturers…speakers of profound words and dispensers of wisdom. People will look up to you. People will listen to you.
But no one will give you the lectures in advance.
Our history is lined with the words of men and women who had something worth saying, the skills necessary to say it, and the ability to communicate that message to a receptive audience. At some point, each and every one of those figures made a conscious decision: “I have something the world needs to hear; I know something the world needs to know: I will share this with the world and hope they can hear me.”
This is essentially why Rivera wrote what he wrote. He wasn't just giving a voice to a people who deserved to be heard; when he sat down to write, he knew he had something in his heart worth sharing. It was imperative that he find a way to share it. So he wrote - wrote a novel that shaped a movement, a movement whose after-effects are still rippling through every level of academia. Rivera's words have reached minds who never would have had the chance to listen to these stories otherwise. His words changed lives, including mine, because he had something to say - and he said it beautifully at the right time.
I want to give you the same opportunity Rivera had, or at least one that’s similar.
I want you to think about what you would say to the world if you knew the world would listen.
What does the world need to hear? What would you tell us if we would listen?
I don’t care how you address the world; you can format this as creatively as you decide. It can be about the world, about humanity, about yourself. (It can be about a combination of them, and I’d encourage you to try to do that!)
You can address it to anyone you choose. It can be to me, your classmates, your family, your children, the world at large, or whoever else comes to mind. It can even be your opportunity to write a graduation speech you never planned to deliver!
But I want you to say what needs to be said – the words only you can write – and I want you to write them now.
And I don’t want you to forget these words…because you might be saying them to someone else a couple of decades down the line.
That’s the prompt: Tell us something meaningful. Tell us what you’ve always wanted to say.
Be honest, insightful, creative, and clear.
I look forward to reading your work - losing an evening, as Frank Turner puts it.
What a wonderful way to get lost.
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Usually, I am not the one that people will come to for advice or support. I feel that in anything that you wish to do, you should just go out and try to have fun. Seems a little cheesy but recently that's all I have been trying to do lately and I am living a lot happier and having a better time. Whether it is spending time with your family and friends or hard at work at a job, just do something that you will enjoy doing. When you are having a great time with what you are doing it is a lot easier to do a better job and make better friendships with the people you are spending quality time with. It is not hard to have a fun time, you just have to be outgoing and willing to try new things. This is not something that is very difficult to do like world peace, all you have to do is put a smile on your face and enjoy the company of others.
Lately, some friends and I have picked up the most frustrating game in the world, golf. At first I would get so mad when I would mess up, then from some helpful advice from my dad he told me just to have fun and play. What my dad told me is that everybody besides the people on the PGA tour are just horrible at golf, the ones that take it so serious are always the ones that get mad and play horrible. So I took the advice of just enjoying the game, and I started to play a lot better. This I believe helped me get a free dinner from my losing friend, we won't say who he is so I do not embarrass him but I gave him the nickname of Phil Mickelson because he choked at the end. Back to the point, he was taking the game just a little bit to serious towards the end which I feel did not help him out in the last couple of holes. Life should not be wasted with frustration or being depressed. If you always try to have a good time, you will live a fun life whether rich or poor. For all that we actually know, we only get one shot at life, why waste it and not enjoy it?
Haha! I hope you ordered a rack of ribs and a party Pizookie or something! Anyway, I think in scenerios like your golf game, you cant let it get ahead of you, like your nameless friend. Especially in recreational games. If it had been something job related, letting it get inside of your head would have serious reprocusions on your job and your reputation maybe. The best thing to do is relax and take step back for a minute. Frustration usually leads downhill like a snowball.
Your thinking crosses mine. The sit back, relax, and take time to enjoy life. I think many of us do not truly appreciate what we have, and look at the beauty in our lives, and I think that is part of what you are trying to point out. And yes, for the record, I lost to Brian by 1 stroke at the Par 3 and owed him dinner, but don't worry, I'm gonna make a comeback. Phil isn't choking next time (I had a 3 stroke lead going into the last 2 holes and blew it). I get too competitive and it gets the best of me sometimes. I think that having fun and finding peace in what you are doing is very important.
I definitely agree with you on your thoughts on how everything will be a lot easier when it is calm. Being frustrated just makes everything worse and will only make you lose in what you are pursuing to do. Even in a physical sport in football, of course we need our adrenaline pumping for the hard hitting contact, but if we get mad ourselves and lose concentration, we lose in assignment football. Even in your example in golf; (even though I beat you in sudden death!!! =D ) we need to calm ourselves down from frustration to be able to control the ball to where we want it to go.
But Brian some people are worse at golf then others Steven>Brian. But once you feel comfortable at doing something like you just going out and having fun at golf, I think life gets better. That is another thing we should tell the world: Take life easy. Like Bob Marley said "Don't worry.. Be happy."
I really thought this blog was funny but true. As your friend, I realized that you do just have fun now, and you seem so much happier. I think that is great to know, and I need to try it my self. This summer we need to fo Off Roading. That seems like fun haha
Hey Brian, I totally agree with you when you say that you should just do what you enjoy. As you said, it is not hard at all to do something that you like, and try new things can actually be very rewarding. The things I like the most right now are things that I would have never imagined I would have liked when I was a kid. I did not have ANY interest in music when I was a kid, and now I love to play guitar and… “I bout 6 new CDs on Saturday and I just cant stop listening to them, they are sooo freaking good!!!!... Anyway, I think you just do the right thing by doing anything that makes you happy .
(Between if anyone wants to try something new in music, you can look up for these two songs that I just loved from the CDs I bought.)
From the band EDGUY, look for the album TINNITUS SANCTUS, the song named 9-2-9.
From the band HELLOWEEN, album GAMBLING WITH THE DEVIL, the song named AS LONG AS I FALL.
I can assure that those who don’t know metal would never have imagined that it could sound like this. This specific kind of metal is called “power metal”
(one last advice, don’t judge a book by its cover…or a CD )
I feel for you Brian! One day I just stopped caring about how people felt about me, so I now I do whatever I feel like doing. I honestly think that was the best decision ever because I am happier now than I have ever been. I am just having fun with life! Life is way too short to be sad, so be happy!
“Victory, is the pursuit of happiness”
To those who live in the present and to those yet to set eyes upon this world. I want to leave you all with a thought that might just change the way you think about others. We live in a world full of hate and misery, love and peace, sharing and jealousy; we have many things in common but why do we choose to be so different? Why are their quarrels when there are peace rallies? Why are their riots when there are strikes? Why is their jealousy when there is love? Why don’t we accept everyone for who they are, and why do we tend to hate one another?
Every person has an ambition or a dream. But we all can agree on common goal, we are on a journey, to find eternal happiness. Every person on this planet is on a journey to find happiness, whether he/she is Asian, African American, Russian, European, Hispanic, American, which ever ethnicity you may come from we are all searching for what makes us happy, no matter the level of sin we all want happiness.
It is what makes us different that brings us together, but a common dream tears us apart. It’s human nature to be jealous of something or someone, but sometimes that goes too far. Sometimes we think that we’re better than everyone around us and that we deserve or feel obligated to have something that we desire. Jealousy is what I believe started the original “quarrel” of mankind. We become jealous when others are happy while we feel depressed or lonely. I ask of this world that we come to acknowledge the differences and similarities between the dreams we don’t and all share, so we can all learn to not hate one another for what they might posses or what they have obtained, but to support and gratify our one forever engraved dream, finding true happiness. If we can do that, then we will all be victorious in the end, and only by being victorious can we all come to peace.
This is great! I agree with everything you said. This is an impressive message your sending about eternal happiness and the acknoledgement of your differences and similarities. I think your theory of the first "quarrel" is spot on. I have no trouble believing it. It makes perfect sense that jealousy is the center of indifference in everybody. I would not be suprized your statement sticks with somebody forever.
You are right about jealously. Jealously can ruin happiness and I hate that. If we did not have jealously, life will be easier. Everyone probably feels that they need to be better than the person who sits next to him/her. Jealously is implanted in our human nature for a reason but I do not know why. I agree that you have to focus on your dream and not others in order to obtain victory. I also agree with your statement about how people should be happy with what they have. If people do not appreciate their lives then they won't be able to enjoy it.
I wrote something very similar to you! It upsets me that people cannot accept other. Often, people focus on the negative and let hate consume them. Embrace love and diversity. Treat others the way you want to be treated!!
I never planned that i would say something that was mean enough to be embeded in someone for a lifetime. I have a few things that i have heard that stick with me and they mean a lot. I dont know if i am capable of having that effect on someone else's life. But i try and live for the moment. I feel that to become exposed to as much as possible, you need to expose yourself to different things. Up until i was about 15, i lived in my own comfort zone so to speak. I never really did anything that was new and exciting. I realized one day that i need to stand up and go have fun. I started reaching outside my comfort zone and experincing things that i had never been willing to do before. I believe this made me a more outgowing person and a more shameless human being. So, to live in the moment has so many positive outcomes, yet not a single negative aspect.
If you truly set your mind to to something, it can be done. I have found this true on many different levels. Personally i'm not the most academically active person, but i love drums. I've played for 8 years and at the begining of my 8th year, (senior year) i had a chance to play the coolest drum of all... quads. I had always liked watching a quad line play, but never thought that i could one day play with them. So when the opportunity came about to play quads, i jumped on it. I hesitated at first thinking about how hard it would be to play and learn, but i set my mind to it and practiced for hours and hours. When the day came when i found out that i made the line, i was overjoyed. However i knew my my hardwork and effort wasn't over. I made it, but i still had plenty more to learn. The year went on and i was steadily improving throughout. I kept my mind in the game and never got lazy. Before this year, i never thought it could happen, but i focused and made it reality.
I agree, Trevor. When you really want something, almost nothing can stand in your way. There is so much motivation, it overpowers the rest of the hardships that come with doing what you love. In your drum example, all of the practicing involved. So in short, do what you love and the rest will fall into place.
I agree that if you set your mind to something you will succeed. I have experienced this first hand many times playing volleyball. I've played every position except setter during a game, because every time my coach puts me in a new position, I give 100% effort in every practice to make sure that I get good at that position. I had an opportunity to play setter this year for our varsity team, but I chose not to because I wanted to hit in the front row. Now that the season is over, I find myself regretting this decision because not too many volleyball players can say that they have played every position on the court. I had this opportunity, but I let it pass me by because I wanted to be the superstar on the team. You are a very smart person, and I hope that you never pass up an opportunity like I did this year. I think that you are capable of identifying good opportunities like you did with the quads, and I think this skill will help you a lot in college, and beyond!
Trevor I agree this is something I think everyone should do, "live for the moment" absolutely! I do agree that we should all step out of our comfort zones, and experience new things. Some people are still in that comfort zone and as college approaches, and new beginnings come closer I think now is the perfect time for people to open up. I also agree that if you keep your mind set to something you can achieve anything, I know people say that all the time but it’s true when you do something full heartedly it shows and it makes everyday memorable.
It may seem, for some, that the world is slowly falling apart especially because of the situation we are in now. People have been losing their jobs, can't afford to pay their houses, or can't do the things that they used to enjoy because they don't have the budget for it anymore. For example, some households can't afford to go out as much anymore because going out to them means spending money.
Look at the world we are in today. We have so much new technology built in such a short time span...computers, cell phones, ipods, etc. Ask your parents and grandparents, and they never had these luxuries during their time. People of the Great Depression did not enjoy the things that we have today either, and yet they were able to survive through the Great Depression.
Some people today think that were are going to slip into a depression. We may, or may not. Either way though we all can survive through it. People just have to enjoy life as it is, even if it has to be simple for the time being. Children of 30's, 50's and so on enjoyed just playing outside with one another, going to a diner...just hanging out. Ask your parents what they did in their free time. It probably did not involve some and maybe even half of the things our generation has to do in order to have fun. We don't need video games to have fun, or have cell phones with us 24/7.
I'm not saying everyone feels this way, but in a general sense. We don't need to buy things we can't afford. We should be happy with what we have because there are people out there who need certain things more than ourselves. We all can survive through these hard times.
And to keep in mind that life is all about taking chances. Without them, our lives will be boring.
Maintaining optimism is key to success. I agree with everything you said, Edzelle. There are so many things we do not need to be happy, but because of the media and societal expectations, material objects have pushed their way into the "essentials" category. I remember when I was a toddler, I went with my brother and mom to the store. My brother kept nagging my mom to get an action figure because he "had to." He had to so he could fit in with his friends. All in all, it helped him become more social, via action figures, but was it really a necessity?
I agree with what you said, if we all could slow down and enjoy the little things we can find the happiness in life. Even in such tough times. Happiness is everywhere, we just have to be willing to sacrifice luxuries and look hard enough for it. We can make the best out of bad situations if we try.
I agree with the whole economic downturn thing. And especially since we both have had Economics and Government together, we understand all that lame mortgage and depression stuff. I think what really hit me is that whole CalGrant situation . CalGrants are getting cut in half -that's ridiculous. Anyways, I really liked your blog -it was really really fluent and eloquent, I love your writing!
I totally agree! People need to relax more and enjoy life. Everyone is to hyped up on tomorrow, when they need to enjoy today! Technology has consumed people. I think everyone needs to have days where they do not use electronics! Well, I still need my cell phone
I have never really had an aching desire to share my “words of wisdom” with anyone, but when I feel the need to speak up, I do. I think this is a very important trait – to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Everyone has a voice and an opinion and it kills me when I see someone sitting in a corner, burning to share their thoughts but the self-confidence just is not there. More often than not, people keep their ideas to themselves and let others overpower their own – conforming to the ideals of their peers and leaving no room to learn from others. What would this world be like if we all listened to a master thought and idea and disregarded our own beliefs? 1984 – Oceania. There would never be two sides to a story or an opposite side of the room to go to when debating with the class – everything would be one-sided; only one answer.
To be able to stand up for yourself is not an easy task. This means you have to be able to remain confident and stick by your words, even if they are contradicted. But not only must you be able to stick by them and back them up, but you have to believe them. Frequently, abnormal thoughts and theories are questioned and you must defend them with evidence that will allow the opposing side to understand your point of view, but more importantly, respect you – not call you ignorant of the “truth,” or so they think. So, I suppose if I could leave any quote or words of wisdom behind, it would to encourage you to be yourself; not be afraid of who you really are. Of course there will be people out there who cannot stand that person, but there will also people who love that character. The best part is they will love you for who you really are.
I really like the idea of staying true to yourself, I even wrote about it myself. But it is hard for people like us who are trying to find out who we are and are learning to feel comfortable in our own skin to really be ourselves. We are all influenced by others and it is so important to remain ourselves withought going too far and becoming someone we arent. It takes a confident person to be themselves and eventually I hope we all can feel comfortable enough to be who we really are.
I really really admire and agree on thoughts on standing up for yourself. We all have something to believe in and we need to stand up for our beliefs. I agree on just being yourself and not being afraid. And there will be people who criticize and people who disagree, but who's decision is it to call that human beings were supposed to act a certain way. There will always be a place and group of people who will like all of us for who we are.
Confidence is definitely important when you stand up for yourself. Lacking confidence will make oneself look like a fool. What you said about "Being yourself" is very important in life. Pretending to be someone else is just going to put you in the clone category. No one likes clones. Being yourself brings out the excitement of life and it surely does change everything. I guess sometimes people are afraid to be themselves because there is prejudice. You are right that people should at least try to be themselves even if there are people who get annoy by them.
This reminds me of the quote " It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not." Whenever I feel like I am holding myself back in fear of rejection, I try to think of this quote. I understand what you're try to say, Sam. It's definitely better to be yourself than to conform to someone that you think others will like better. In the end, you're only hurting yourself because you're setting yourself up for not being loved. You end up being loved for who you aren't. You won't ever find out who truly loves the person you really are.
When I consider the world of today, the adversity we face going into the future, I realize that we are a nation of individuals. Not individuals in a sense because we don’t depend on each other, but individuals in the sense that we collectively care about what is in front of our eyes, more than what our issues are for the future. When I look back at the World War II generation in America, I seem to find inspiration in knowing that they collectively cared about the future, and made the necessary sacrifices to make sure our nation continued to improve and stay alive. As a nation, the generation made sacrifices with the luxuries of having rubber tires, of having gas, of having sugar for cakes, and so many others, just so our soldiers defending us could have enough for themselves. It’s ironic that in a time of war filled with so much evil and death, we show our true nature by making good-hearted decisions. I have to ask, is another great war going to be our calling, or are we going to be able to do it without death?
If I could find one word that continues to threaten the stability of society today, it is intolerance and impatience. If we could collectively improve on those two aspects, our world of today would be a better place. Intolerance is ignorance at its highest point. I find that the Middle East conflict, (even though I am Jewish), is stupid, on both sides. I find it to be a ridiculous act of intolerance and ignorance, a stubbornness that doesn’t subside and is a trait well known in both Arabs and Jews. I believe that every culture has its positives, it’s what you take out of them, which determines what kind of a person you can be. The inability to be patient is one of our greatest positives and negatives. It helps propel us forward with innovation, not wanting to wait, but in our ability to treat people and our personality, it is so negative. Some people are slower than others, and our impatience for progress and thinks to just be handed to us, is one of our greatest flaws. We’re so used to people just handing things to us, we forgot what it truly means to have luxuries and gifts, to appreciate the things in life that we have.
There’s so much in life we can be thankful for, society 50 years ago, 100 years ago, and even longer did not have anything close to the quality of life we have. We have continued to get better, but at this point, I feel we have hit a plateau, and if we don’t try to improve our behavior, treat one another with more respect, and continue to be patient and tolerant, I feel we will just go backwards in our path. We have the capability to be great, but it takes leaders and people who are not afraid of evil, to stand in the spotlight and take the initiative. Sometimes, I feel as though one day I can be that person, but then I think, so can everyone else. We all have that power, but the greatest are those who take the initiative to use that power we have within ourselves for the better.
That is what I would tell my children.
I really like the way you've phrased everything, it's ridiculously eloquent. I can really adapt to what you're trying to say because of your engaging language. My favorite part would be when you talked about adversity and how we really need to step it up and prove as that example for our kids. The example of appreciating the stuff we have if we want our kids to do so as well, atleast that's what I got from your blog! That's a good little moral story I would hope to be able to speak to my kids someday as well.
Everything you said was right on the money Todd! I totally agree that intolerance and impatience are threatening society today. Our society, at this point, has nowhere to go but up because of all of our technological advances and inventions, and yet we find ourselves regressing because of intolerance, and impatience. When people become intolerant of other people, it leads to wars like the one we are faced with now, which only leads to bad things. And when people become bored with their lives, they get impatient and do stupid things with their money in an attempt to have a better house, and get rich, and when it all comes crashing down, we find ourselves in a recession. People need to band together and focus on a common goal if we want to continue progressing in the world, because if we don't, we'll find ourselves back where we started in the Dark Ages.
The world has seem the best of the human race ;the wise men and women we have learned about through out the past, truly embodies the reasons this country was built upon. We are constantly searching for something in life. Everyone has their own individual stars as Siddhartha. Love, Independence, Enlightenment, Security and identity. We are finding new discoveries and giving the bright Einstein’s of our generation recognition. We learn more than we resize through the way of life. We leave our words that are analyzed and later make up the ideal embodiment of knowledge to perfection. The greatest people of our times are among us. New creators, new inventions and an entirely different insight of life’s knowledge. I hope to make an influence in someone’s life. I feel this would be on most of my classmates “lists of things to do before I die.” I hope that this person looks back upon things I have said. I do not hope to be famous or be looked at as a role model to thousands; one person will let me know I have done something right. I would hope I would say things worth remembering. I hope at least one person remembers and uses my advice in life situations. After reading page after page of quotes, I enclosed some of the many leaders that I feel embodied the moral and values this country was first built upon.
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”---James Baldwin
“Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”---Leonardo da Vinci
“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”---Martin Luther King Jr.
“Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.”---Plato
“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.” ---Walt Disney
“I stand here today as hopeful as ever that the United States of America will endure, that it will prevail, that the dream of our founders will live on in our time.”---Barack Obama
“A small leak can sink a great ship”---Benjamin Franklin
“A life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things. There will be sleeping enough in the grave.”---Benjamin Franklin
“The reward for work well done is the opportunity to do more.”---Jonas Edward Salk
“Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings.”---John F. Kennedy
“Our truest life is when we are in our dreams awake.”---Henry David Thoreau
Most would say that our world is controlled by the media and the government. It is only our ignorance and lack of knowledge of the truth to find the facts. The world has heard everything. We simply do not listen; selective hearing perhaps. We help others when they ask and are the first to be their before the united nations. The smaller people whom only think of themselves need to listen. I would tell the world to look out for each other but still focus on the problems at hand because no one will think the way you might. I use to think our generation was worse than our parents but I realized we are not in a golden age. Our parents lived through the 1960s and 70s which is good. Our generation is striving to new heights with new technology and inventions. We are a generation of possibilities and opportunities.
The class of 2009 needs to keep the values we practice today. Life is greater than we can read about. Everything is black and white until it becomes personal; this is called life. I encourage my classmates to strive and follow your dreams. Fallow your dreams even if it leads you away from the nest. Keep in mind the memories that we have shared. The opportunities that we have shared in order to be able to go to a school as great as Arcadia. Class of 2009; do not forget where you come from. With out a past you will have no future and the present will be a pigment of what feels like doublethink.
I lastly, encourage everyone to Listen and follow your dreams to making our earth more green.
I love that last paragraph of yours. I completely agree about fallowing your dreams because its something to strive for. Also remembering where you come from is important because it brings comfort and memories that pick your spirits up in tough times like these. We can also make the earth more green along the way.HAHA
I love your quotes! My favorite one is “Our truest life is when we are in our dreams awake.”---Henry David Thoreau. A person is at its most successful stage when he or she reached the dream he always had. I actually think the world is barely controlled by media and government. They just set out a list of rules we should follow, but within the limits, we can do basically whatever we want. In fact, our opportunity is broadened by the inventions and lifestyles that were fantasies in the past.
As I read over the prompt, I tried to think of something that would be profound and insightful, but it is hard for me to come up with something like that. I am the kind of person who has trouble using words to express my feelings, and never seems to know the right words to say. But I guess if I was to think of something that could be used as advice or words of wisdom, I would have to say something that I found to be true in my own life. Ive learned to always be yourself, no matter how hard others try to change you or you want to fit in, if you are who you are truly meant to be you will be happier than conforming to others standards. I have also been learning to do the things that make you happy. Make decisions not based on what someone else may want for you or of you but do things because they will bring you satisfaction and pleasure. In the end all we want is happiness and the people and things that can give it to us, so why not spend your life surrounded with it.
As far as being yourself, I believe that is the most important thing people can be. It sounds cliché and it is, but it’s the truth. Ive gone through the phases where all I want more than anything is to fit in, so I adapt to my surroundings. I try and emulate the people I want to be with. I like the same things they do, and dislike the things they don’t. But as time goes on I’m not happy. Every decision I make and every opinion I have is fake and it’s not me. My friends are not my friends, they are pretending to like this person ive created just as I am pretending to like them. Why spend life as a lie? Being yourself and being comfortable with who you are has brought me the most happiness, because I know my friends really like me for me and the things I do aren’t wasted because I’m making decisions that will truly make me happy.
That also has a lot to do with doing things that will bring you happiness. Although I have noticed I need to take my own advice more with this because I am the person who will do anything to make everyone else happy first. It is hard for me to be selfish and think only of myself when I could be doing something to make you happy. But with certain things I have learned that I need to come first. That I cant make anyone else happy if I am not happy myself. And even if it kills me to upset someone or let them down, sometimes I need to make that sacrifice so that I can be happy first.
Ultimately happiness is key and I believe you should do anything and everything to try and find it and keep it.
Clichés describe sentiments or beliefs universal enough to be repeated throughout the ages. A cliché therefore cannot exist without saying something important!
The key is not to avoid clichés, but to use them creatively and judiciously. Don't be ashamed that your "most important thing" sounds like something that's been said before; use your gifts to say it in a different way.
Put differently, there are (supposedly) a total of seven different stories that have been written or told; every other tale since represents a variation on one of those archetypal templates. That isn't to say that great stories have not been told since then, or that there aren't any stories worth telling in the future. It merely underscores the importance of finding your variation.
That's the important thing, Samantha - not the originality of the sentiment, but the profundity and passion of your spin on it. (You have that here.)
Always remember that.
I completely agree with you that being yourself is so important. I think at some point, everyone just wants to fit in and I am no different. I also think that it is just not worth it. I am never happy when I am not being myself. I love you for exactly who you are! You are one of the most amazing people I know and I have always respected you so much for the high standards you hold for yourself.
I agree that being yourself is all that someone can and should be. People shouldn't change themselves to try to fit in or to get others to like them. I've been in your shoes and tried to be someone that I am not. But now I know it's better to be myself and people will still like me for me. And I also think happiness is what everyone what wants in the end.
“Obey your parents”
Many of us will go off to college with the mentality of leaving because we no longer want to be under the supervision of our parents. A lot of us talk of our parents as if they were like Big Brother, always watching –their eyes beaming as you can feel them burn through your back. “Old George Orwell got it backward. Big Brother isn’t watching. He’s singing and dancing, pulling rabbits out of a hat. He’s holding your attention every moment you’re awake, making sure you’re always distracted. Making sure you’re fully absorbed…and this being fed, it’s worse than being watched. With the world always filling you, no one has to worry about what’s in your mind. With everyone’s imagination atrophied, no one will ever be a threat to the world.” (Palahnuik, Lullaby). Is that really how you feel about your parents? I hope not.
I’m a Momma’s girl –I’m not even going to try to deny it. For those of you who’ve heard my deeply-rooted testimony about my mom, you’d get a gist of my undeniable admiration for my mom and my family. The thing most people can’t wait to get away from in college is their parents whereas my mom is the sole reason I am not going further away for college. Appreciate your parents, everyday. They want to be in our lives, our moms gave BIRTH to us –that’s intense. On Mother’s Day, I testified about my mom and how she’s affected my life –amidst the mini-anecdotes we both broke out in tears as I mentioned going off to college. Though I’ll only be an hour or two away, it’s the mere fact that I won’t be able to yell goodnight to my mom and dogs across to her room every night.
My mom never pressured me to do anything. I skirted my way through elementary and middle school with C’s and bad company until I found God and came around. My mom prayed by my side for years for me to come around, I stubbornly sat through her prayers and took them as lectures until I realized that one day –God came to my rescue. Looking at me now I bet you never would’ve expected, and I’m glad J. My first two years in high school –I went into classrooms with the immediate prejudice that I was dumb, I thrived through those two years off of proving people wrong. I strive to do well on the hope of my mom being proud rather than the fear of her disappointment –she did a hell of a job raising my brother and I single-handedly, wouldn’t you say?
Wow, you sound like you have an amazing mother! I, too, have a really strong relationship with my mom and always have. I agree that everyone needs to appreciate their mothers more, especially if they are well deserving of it. I hope I have a bond with my children the way we do with our moms!
This is so true, "obey your parents" thats an intense one. We all mean to, I mean no one wants to be mean to their parents, and if you do thats messed up. Our parents or most of our parents are there through thick and thin, in the good times and the bad. I know sometimes i'm not the nicest person to my parents, but i can be as mean as i want but i know they're always going to be behind me. Parents are both a blessing and a curse, we cant live with them and i know i cant live without them. Parents do a lot for us, theres no denying that, so i agree that the least we can do is show them some respect.
Lisa, right after reading your first sentence, I already knew that I could relate to what you were going to say. I am one of those people who want to go off to college in order to be more independent, to not be under the constant supervision of my parents. However, after reading more of your response, I started thinking about all the things that my parents have done for me. I was surprised that you strayed from most people. You actually wanted to stay near home! Sure, I may quarrel with my parents from time to time, but as cliche as it sounds, parents do things "for your own good." My relationship with my parents has its ups and downs. However, I'm looking that it'll get better in the future. I should keep in mind all the things you said and with both my work and my parents work, I'm sure it'll get much better.
Thanks, Lisa for you feedback. You did a great job too (:
I see you appreciation for your mother, and I have to say that I do have a close relationship with my mother as well. But I have to tell you that you should not depend on you parents having the right answer for everything. I know that that is probably not what you meant on your first sentence, but I think you should listen to yourself (I know its kind of weird, and a little bit crazy )
But I have to tell you, at some point you will have to look for yourself, and even though your parents will always want to help you and provide you with the best advice and tools to your success, you are the only one that can actually see everything around your life and chose what is truly best for you. I am not telling to not appreciate your mother, on the contrary, love her with all of your heart. But I think you can look better the situations you are in life, and chose the best paths for your success.
I think moms are all amazing, they all offer everything they have to their children. She is really lucky how her daughter completely appreciates for what she has sacrificed. I am grateful for everything my mom has given me too, but I just don't have the courage to express it to her. Sometimes, I feel guilty by taking it as granted and not considering what she really wants. After reading about what you have done, I really should have an intimate talk with my mom and thank her for everything before I leave for college.
Wow. Yea I will always obey my mom, even when I'm a grown man. She has given me all the tools necessary to live a successful life. There is no reason why I shoudln't obey her. That is the most disrespectful thing I could do to her.
Lisa, your story was as always great! you can make anything relate to anything. I believe that you are right about loving your parents and listening to them, but sometimes I feel like my parents are still trying to baby me while I'm trying to grow up and become independent.
After thinking for a while, I came to a decision that if I am going to share something with the world, it will be “Do everything like you want to, not because you have to.”. I realized that this year I have live my life the opposite meaning of this quote, and which make me unhappy with myself and with those things that is required for me to accomplish. Every time I have to do something, I always think with the aspect that I have to do it, not because I want to do it. For examples: I do not turn in every assignment that was given to me on time because I have to do it. Because I think that I have to complete them, it often lead me to believe that I have been forced to do them, thus I absolutely do not want to do them at all. Now, if I think with the perspective that I want to finish those assignments not because I have to, I will gladly do everything and turn in everything on time. Therefore, from now on I am going to try my best to do everything according to this quote. Then, I will be happy with myself and with the task that is on my hand and accomplish them efficiently.
Often, when people do something they have to do they usually do not give their 100% full effort on the task they are processing. However, if they think of the things they have to do like something they want to do, they will be excited and enthusiastic when completing that mission. Wanting to do something enable us to be able to perform with 100% or more effort, and we can do things faster and more dynamic. Throughout my life so far, all I want to do is have fun and every time when I have to do something that is a requirement, I tend to just fall apart and go to my shallowest zone. However, now that I understand that to do everything like I want to do them is very important, I have the energy to carry through whatever that comes to me in the future. By changing the perspective and the way you think and do things, it will have a great impact on your life, as well as other people’s lives. Thus, “Do everything like you want to, not because you have to”, it took me a while to finally realize how significant this is. Therefore, I would like to share this to all of you.
If I could instill any knowledge in my children, I would want them to know that “friends come and go, but family is forever”. Since I can remember, my parents have always taught my siblings and me to stick together, no matter what. I have had so many friends enter my life and so many leave too. Through all the deceit I have found in people, I know I will always have my family. My family has been through a lot in the past five or six years, but we have managed to remain close and love each other just the same, if not more. We always lean on each other for support and are able to overcome anything. I know that no matter how badly I mess up, I will always have my family and their support. While it was really easy for me to be close to some of my family members, I have had to work harder at some relationships. There was a time in my life that I was unable to be in the same room with one of my sisters without us breaking into a physical fight. I loved my sister but I just did not like her. Over time we were able to mend our relationship and we are now extremely close. Sometimes I am really amazed at how close we are because six or seven years ago, we drove my whole family crazy with our constant bickering and fighting.
I have had a great impact from my parents to have great family values and morals. Without having these morals and standards, I would definitely not be the same person. My family’s opinions are so important to me, knowing that they have my best interest in mind, whenever they feel the need to offer it. I know that we all do not see exactly eye to eye with each other and we are all different people but, it is who we are. We really love each other for who we are. My favorite memories are the ones I share with my family. My family is really loud and fun, especially when we are all together. These are the times that I treasure the most. If I do have children, I would hope they would understand and share the same family values as I do and embrace everyone in their family, even if they are weird or different. At the end of the day, they are all you have.
It is true that some friends come and go, but some could stay forever too. But, family still is the most important of a person's life because family is forever. Family will always be there for you when you need help or shelter. Therefore, a family can have great influence in one's life. Thus, i totally agree with this quote.
“Be truthful to yourself, and fallow your path”
This is something that I believe in tremendously. So many people in this world do not really reach there full potential in what they do in life because they are doing things based on other people. Students now take too much into account about what their friends think, and in result, they change just to please their friends. With this senior project, I have seen so many interesting and uniquely different careers. People that when I saw at first, I never thought that they would choose a career like the one they did. To me it was interesting but to some of their friends it would ne weird. Then they go and do not accept it. It is incredible how many lives I have personally seen, change because of others people judgment.
I personally am a “workaholic” not necessarily at school sorry to say but at work. That’s just me though. My friends tell me that I work too much, and I agree, but because they bother me about it so much I don’t change. They do not like my job or think its cool, and they do not like that I listen and obey my parents. No, I don’t like that they don’t accept these things but I won’ change these things to please them. I’m not going to work in a office and disobey at times because it’s what they do, and they would like me to also. To many people I have seen abandon their dreams and ignore there passion because of the affect of others.
In the future, who wants to spend precious moments of life wondering, what if?
Yes, i agree that people should do things based on what they know or believe. We have to be ourselves and trust ourselves. Do not change just because people think of you as an outlier, just be yourself. I almost always do things my own way and is the only way that i can be truthful to myself.
I really like this blog because I am definately one of those people who writes favorite song lyrics or quotes relating to my life all over my binder, notebook, papers, etc... For me, it is comforting to know that someone else is feeling, or has felt, the way that I feel in whatever situation I am in whether it be good or bad. Though it is a subtle way of finding a connection to someone, it gives me a lot of comfort when I'm in certain situations or need to make difficult decisions.
Okay, so I read the topic this morning and I've been running it through my head all day- what could I possibly have to say? I'm used to being the shy, laid-back, and quiet sort of go-with-the-flow- kind of girl who bites her tongue and just lets it go if something is bothering her. I'm not used to speaking my mind much, unless I'm asked for an opinion. I'm much more of a listener than a speaker, so I had a tough time trying to scramble my brain for something to say, but what I came up with was something meaningful that I've reflected on before.
If I could go back in time and give myself any piece of advice for high school, it wouldn't be to try an AP class or stock up on Monsters to pull all-nighters; it would be to get to know as many people as I possibly could. This year more than ever, I've begun to realize just HOW MANY people go to this school and I barely know a fraction of them. It really sunk in at prom while my boyfriend and I were waiting for pictures or in line for prom itself and as I was looking around I told him, "I've never even seen half these people here..." As I mentioned earlier, I'm not a very outspoken person, so I would usually let others come to get to know me rather than putting myself out there and making an effort to get to know someone else. After this year, everyone seemed to know my face from all the pictures of Courtney and I plastered all over the walls for the first few months of school. Once people started recognizing me I would get more waves and smiles in the hall. This really lifted my spirits, especially if I were in need of a laugh or a smile. With that, I began to pass on the deed to others. I would find myself smiling to complete strangers or saying hi to people I barely even know. If I had given myself this advice four years ago, I wonder how many spirits I could have lifted. So as we pull through our last few weeks of high school I want everyone to pass on the deed. Say hello to the janitor or the lunch ladies who meander around the school as their hard work goes virtually unnoticed, take the extra 20 seconds help someone who drops their books, lend someone a dollar to buy lunch; even just the pass of a smile can be contageous. You never know what someone may be going through and how much your support can help, even in the most subtle ways.
I completely agree on that idea and its great advice. I wish I knew everybody’s name in all my classes but a can't even manage that. Being senior year, I do regret not being more open to the people sitting across the way in the classroom. The best thing that you expressed is at the very end when you showed examples of the small things that you could do. As small as those gestures are, people do remember them.
I agree with you and I would do the same. It's crazy how we've been in the same school for 4 years and there are still people that I haven't met till this year. I wish I was more open and got to know those people earlier. And that's good advice you're giving. And I think the little things that people do for someone else are the ones that mean the most.
Respect - Respect is usually what I live by. I live by giving everybody a chance in their first impression and giving respect to them before even getting to know them. As people do things disrespectful little by little, I tend to see them as more of a negative person and will slowly not respect them for what they do or have done. As I give someone respect, I expect to get the same back. "Treat other like you want to be treated". And once I treat others the way I want to be treated but, get treated the opposite of how I have treated them; it is all downhill for me. I am not saying I am perfect, and I do this with every single person, because I am sure that I criticize some people that I haven’t even spoken to, but every person that I interact with is when I don’t judge from how they look but give them respect and give them a chance.
Trust – Trust is another big factor of my life. Trust is something that I have been fooled by. I have learned not to trust people too easily. Not just one person, but a couple of people have hurt me deeply, and because I have trusted them so much, the pain was even worse, because of how I believe that love and trust can fall into the same genre the pain is worse when you get hurt; just as the motto says “love hurts”, it is because of how much you trusted in them. That is why it is hard for me to trust people, but once someone does have my trust, that will definitely mean that I will have a lot of love and respect for them. This to me is hard to do. I can’t really say that not even one person will have my full trust. I have before, and I’ve learned my lesson. I am not saying that I don’t trust my friends, because I do, but there is a limit of what I trust them with. I believe that even with my closest friends I barely give into them, but still have the preparation for the worst to come.
Honesty – I am sure everybody in the world hates liars, but I can’t explain how much I hate people who lie to me (you can ask Todd Golper for the explanation of what I mean). So with me, because I am not perfect, I can’t say that I never lie, but I try 100% not to. I believe that I am very honest with anything that I do and say. What I do with my actions is something that I should live up to because it is who I am of what I do therefore I shouldn’t have anything to hide. Consequences should be taken upon me for the negative doings that I have done. For an example; I hit my friends car without him being at the scene, but I still went up to him and told him exactly what I have done, and now I have to come up with 650 dollars to pay for it. I don’t understand why people lie; it just makes them such a low person to not stand up to what they do and if they lie of being embarrassed of something, why do they do it? In my perspective, someone who lies is also someone who is very selfish for hiding what they have really done, and mostly what they have really done is something that only pleasures them but doesn’t want others to know. People shouldn’t be embarrassed for anything they do, people do things for what they believe in and if they are embarrassed for their actions; then they are fake to me. Trust and respect also implies with being honest; if someone lies to me, they lose a great amount of respect and trust. Lying is the worst thing that people do in this world.
It took me a while; about 30 minutes on what I should write about, and so I decided on writing about my beliefs and the way I try to live by.
Since you've been my best friend from 6th grade, this is exactly how you have lived by. There have been times where you have fallen of those three, but for about 95% of the time, you live by the values which you believe. We all stray from time to time, but I have so much respect because those values you have carried, especially the trust and honesty portion, you have also helped instill in me today. Like I've said so many times, I wouldn't be the person I am today without having good people surrounding my life, and you are one of them. I am truly thankful for that. And yes, you do hate it when people lie. haha.
I feel that you expressed your beliefs really well. Respect, trust, and honesty are three important factors in life. We need to respect everyone in this world, trust people in order to have people to trust us. Being honesty to the world in order to sacrifice.
My mother would always tell me a Chinese proverb after I finish my last words for the day. Her strange proverbs always kept me wondering, “What in the world is she talking about?” My mom would tell me “Don’t be a turtle”, which means a coward because they always hide their head in their shell when something approaches it. Even though I think it is funny when my mom tells me these proverbs but I would take her advice for granted. If I would want to give advice to the whole world, I would take one of my mom’s proverbs, “It is okay to be stubborn, but you have to be open-minded”. If you want to succeed in life, you have to be willing to learn from others. Keeping closed doors in your mind will not get you anywhere.
For myself, I possess a personality which has stubbornness written all over. I think I know everything but I don’t. Sure everyone my age probably thinks the same way. I didn’t even experience life yet so how would I know. I try to be open-minded with others but I would always feel I am being insulted. If I do not learn to let my mind be accessible to others, it will be difficult for me to improve my skills. Stubbornness has two sides and it can be bad or good. Everyone should take use of stubbornness in a good way like if you are persistence, believing in the factors that are right. The negative side of stubbornness like refusing to learn or accepting what is right will only lead to downfall. Listening to your elders will expand your knowledge and keep you inform with the important aspects of life. If you learn to accept advice, it will surely change the course of your future.
Like you said, stubbornness isn't bad. But too much of anything is bad. Keeping an open mind is good but I doubt too much of that is good either. Balance is the key to a successful life.
I would defiling like to address humanity, every single person in the world. I would like to tell people to love and accept one another as they are. It really distresses me to see so much discrimination in the world. Every country posses it, even ours. People make judgements on race, sex, religion (or lack of it), or orientation. Looks and preferences does not justify your character. There is too much war and hate in the world because of differences that really do not matter.
The world needs to learn how to embrace diversity. Only with understanding and positivity can humanity truly progress. Hate holds people back. People of the world! You much learn to love one another for what they are. Find beauty in our differences! Embrace everyones idiosyncrasies, that is what makes us truly powerful!
Hahaha that is pretty similar to mine lizzie, and I completely agree. It really bugs me to see hatred and jealousy in young and older adults in this world. It's hard for society to progress because we are being held back by alot of "responsible" adults in this world, they just dont have the knowledge and shared diverse background like some teens and kids have now a days.
“Dream as if you'll live forever... live as if you'll die today.” -- James Dean
For a long time, this inspirational quote has kept me fueled up to reach for the stars even though there are always obstacles in life. I want you, respective classmates, to know that you should aim for what you want to become because there is only one life and one chance to do everything you want to do. Always strive for the highest even though the result may be a downturn. Of course there will be hardships and obstacles when we graduate from high school, but we learn from mistakes. These experiences shape us to become the leaders of America. Do everything you want to do so you will not regret it at the end. Dreams are important. Without dreams, there is not hope and no future. Always weed out negative thoughts to preserve and focus what you want to achieve. May dreams become reality for the AHS class of 2009!
“You can’t always get what you want.” In college, no one will wash the laundry for you, cook meals for you, and lastly, no teacher will force you to do your homework. Instead, you will be put in the real world where you will make money and support yourself without anyone aiding you. High school would have seemed like a joke compared to the large classrooms and lab rooms in college where you will not be recognized for your presence as a student. I want to say that although college may seem like the first step to freedom, there are no chances for mistakes. If you party hard and wait till the last day to cram for your exams, you will not likely make it out of college. If you are one of those students who are lazy and never do homework, perhaps it is the time to change.
"Goodbye may seem forever, Farewell is like the end, But in my heart is a memory, and there you'll always be." --The Fox and the Hound
I have appreciated my parents, teachers, and friends for their life-lessons because without them, I would have never become who I am today. A few years ago, I would have never thought sadness would strike when high school comes to an end. Those I have met have made a difference in my life and those who I have not, I regret. Senior year has made me realize that there is more to just being a student and studying. A kind word, smile, or warm gesture can make a difference in someone’s life even though it may take little effort.
I look at myself as someone who people look upon for answers and comfort; one of the reasons why I chose the job I did for my Senior Project. I might not always have the best advice but sometimes people just need someone there for them. The advice that I would choose to give wouldn't be directed to one certain group but more towards everyone that wants to live a fun/good life. If your one of your my close friends you know exactly what I'm going to say, my mom has lectured everyone on this and I totally agree with her. Her whole philosophy is "Moderation." She doesn't ask many questions but expects that we do stuff in moderation. This is what I live by and what everyone should live by, you need to have control and not get too crazy.
Growing up with a parent who is pretty "chill" and cares mostly about moderation is the best way to raise your kid, especially in high school. In high school you are exposed to all the elements of life both good and bad and you need an attack plan to embrace them gently as possible. If you have a parent that is very protective you never get to experience life and when you get exposed to things they will hit you a lot harder. If your parents don't care and let you do everything you'll life will be messed up. You won't have much self control and things might get to bad to fix. With a parent right in the middle you are ready for what ever life throws at you. You will be a well-rounded kid that can handle himself in every situation.
Good job Steven!
I really never thought about the advice of moderation. But it is so true. We need moderation to live a well oraganized life. We need fun too, but fun doesnt always mean crazy. This blog was inspiring. I love your mom too lol
"Slow down and enjoy life.
It's not only the scenery you miss
by going too fast--you also miss the sense
of where you are going and why."
- Eddie Cantor
There are a lot of us are dying to graduate; to finally leave Arcadia. The place where we know like the back of our hands; the place where we made the best memories and friends; the place where we had our ups and downs. I think that now that we are leaving, we should take advantage of our last few weeks at Arcadia High. Although some of us are sick of it, I don’t think we realize how good we have it here. I think we’re too excited to open a new chapter of our lives that we tend to forget what we have right now. So I just want to say cherish every moment you have right now with your friends and family. And good luck with whatever it is that you are pursuing. (:
I don’t think I am capable of saying something that’ll truly mean something to someone else. But just do whatever you please. Don’t let people choose the path that you live. Don’t be influenced by others negativity. This is your life and your living it for yourself. My parents never told me what to do but a lot of my friends say that their parents do. And I think that kids shouldn’t let their parents dreams live through them. Keep striving for what you want and don’t let anyone get in the way of your dreams.
wow Amy I agree with you! I think that we should cherish every moment we have with our friends, family and loved ones because everyone is going their separate ways to pursue their dreams. Also, I agree with your last paragraph because I to, have my parents tell me the same thing...to live off of their dream. My dad especially doesn't like the idea of me pursuing my dream because of the money. It sucks having your parents tell you to live off of their dreams, that they never had when they were our age. Doing something that your completely unhappy with through the rest of your life would make you miserable.
As I sit here trying to figure out what to write, I find myself navigating back and forth between Facebook and Youtube, while simultaneously playing my PSP. I struggled to think of some way to connect these things to the prompt, and here is what I came up with. You can't take life too seriously because it is too short to waste your life worrying all the time. If you spend your time worrying about little things that don't really matter, you'll miss out on the things that really do matter. These significant moments can be a big family reunion, or something as simple as spending the day with your friends. The important thing is to not pass up opportunities to have fun and spend time with your loved ones because they seem unimportant, or because you have something better to do. You need to take time away from school, and work, to just let loose and have fun. Take a day off and go to the beach with your friends, or go hiking or something. It's not important what you do, it's who you do it with, and the most important thing is to have fun. You cannot go through life like a robot, you need to mix it up, and have fun on a daily basis.
I see kids at school that are taking five or six AP classes, being part of band or orchestra, while being on a sports team, and I find myself thinking, when do they have time to relax? Some of my favorite memories in life happen when I'm just hanging out with my friends, or sometimes even relaxing by myself. If you get caught up in school, and extracurricular activities, you end up missing out on life. Now I'm not saying that you should blow off school to party all day, but instead of worrying all day about tests and homework, spend some time on Facebook, and Youtube, and your PSP, and just have fun. Life is too short to waste your life doing things you hate. You need to find a way to balance school and work with fun activities that you enjoy. Life is pointless if you are not having fun.
Jeff! I could relate to your post in so many ways. I kinda wrote about the same thing and I completely agree with what you said about spending your time worrying about little things that don't really matter because that will lead to missing out on the things that really do matter. Life is meant to be lived! Stress can take a toll on a lot of people, just like those AP students you mentioned in your post. Sometimes we just need to take a break from everything going on in our lives, and just have fun to appreciate life itself. (:
HAHA, Jeff I can so relate! I’m on myspace and texting, as well as downloading music. I agree with you, people should pay more attention to the present before it passes them by. “It's not important what you do, it's who you do it with,” that statement right there is definitely one to always keep in mind because it’s so true. I can also say I love being by myself, it’s sometimes the most comforting and relaxing of moments I have throughout my day. Balance is so important in all of this. (:
Haha, I find it interesting what you said about having fun. It's not impossible to at least enjoy your life especially with what you do for a living, since it is basically the rest of your life. What you said is also something that I follow, but something my parents are totally against. My uncle once told me, "Spend half your time with fun, and the other half with studying; don't spend too much time on one part, otherwise, you'll fall in the pit".
I always try to say something profound and memorable in these blogs and every time I try I feel like it didn’t measure up to all the great words my classmates had posted, so here we go again. I remember back in the beginning of the year, we all had to teach the class something important, I remember a some great things and some pretty silly things to but it was all so enlightening seeing what everyone else wanted to share. I learned from that experience that I do have good things to say and that confidence is really everything. That was one of the first presentations in front of people that I was so proud of and people liked it. I may not always practice what I preach but, be confident in yourself and everything you do and you will go far. When you are confident it just draws people to you and it took me years to learn that. believe in yourself, your beliefs, and everything that you do.
Laughter is the best medicine, the lesson I taught in that presentation, is something that I definitely live by. I try to laugh everyday I read comics, listen to comedians, and just laugh about things that happen to me. It is just so much easier to laugh things off instead of getting mad or upset. It is very hard to do but when you can you feel so much better and life is so much more cheerful. The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. ~E.E. Cummings.
There seems to be tons of things pouring out of my head that I want to share that I have learned and I know I cant share all of them so just two more, I promise. Sometimes you need to stop and smell the roses. I see so many people just rushing and running to and from everywhere they go never stopping and noticing anything around them. I have this little tree in my front yard with beautiful flowers on it and my friend didn’t even notice it was there for months. One day he walks up and looks at me and says,
“Has that tree always been there?”
“Right there, always?”
I was just so amazed that someone could not notice something so pretty, and so obvious. I am always walking places slowly and just looking around, taking in all the scenery and people that this world has to offer and I really believe that it has made me a better more perceptive and appreciative person. I notice the small things, and I think it a great way to live.
Lastly I just want to encourage everyone to love. Not necessarily love as in a boyfriend or girlfriend but just love. Love you friends, your teacher and even people you don’t really know. I am a strong believer in love and I think that it is what pushes this world to move in the right direction. Just be a lover of people because even people who look different than you, act differently from you, or even believe different things than you deserve your love and respect. Someday all that love will come back to you.
“I love, love
I love being in love,
I don't care what it does to me” – The Format
Melissa, I loved your post! I completely agree that most people go on with their lives not ever noticing the beautiful smaller details, the things that matter. It's really nice just to stop and smell the roses because it makes you appreciate the things in life you sometimes forget are there. I love going to the beach and taking in the scenery because it's like a little escape from life. (: and I also wanted to add that I absolutely loved the lesson you taught in the beginning of the year! Laughter IS the best medicine; I can't get enough! (;
“There will be pain, but life goes on…with everyday a brand new song.”
Throughout our lives, we will all have experienced pain one way or another. Some handle it well, and some do not. Some hold grudges and some forget about what happened within a few hours. We all handle situations differently, but through it all, I think the world needs to know that even though life is not perfect, life goes on. I am sure each and every one of us has said, “Ugh this is the worst day of my life” at least once before. I will admit that I have, and I tend to get so wrapped up in the situation at hand that I forget tomorrow will be a NEW day. I get so frustrated that I forget to just breathe, and enjoy life for what it is. You have to take the good with the bad to find what makes you happy. If we are always worrying about the situations that bring us down, we’ll never have the time to appreciate life and the blessings we DO have.
My mom has always told me “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Even though she has a hard time taking her own advice, I can now see why that little piece of advice is so relevant in my life, as well as other’s. As I think about what all the “small stuff” in my life is, I realize that I stress way too much over things that should not really have such a great impact on me as much as it does in the overall picture of things. This is true for other people as well, and all that “small stuff” blocks us from seeing the bigger picture, the ultimate result in the end. It is important to not lose focus of the bigger picture of life, which can happen if we concentrate on the smaller details, a.k.a the “small stuff”. Life is precious and the important people and things that make up your own life, is what makes life worth living. Life is not perfect, but it does not have to be in order for it to be wonderful. There will be days we hate and days we love, but “life is short. There will be pain, but life goes on…with everyday a brand new song.”
Ugh, meant to put "...if we STRESS about the smaller details, a.k.a the 'small stuff'" **** , not "concentrate".
I think I'm one of those people who handle pain well, I just accept the facts, forgive, and forget. You shouldn't get so wrapped up in bad situations because all it brings is negative energy and you don't need another damping attitude! ;] I agree with your mom on this 100% she seems like a very bright person; like in high school don't sweat over a boy or a grade you get because in the long run it won't effect you. P.S. in the future when you get frustrated please remember to breath so you don't die!!!
Brittney i really enjoyed reading your entry because it is very relatable to everyone. Also i think that what you said is also what we think of but we just never really do anything about it. For instance when you state that we sweat about the small things, but yet we forget that tomorrow is a new day. Also i love the part where it talks about how the small things take away from the bigger picture, so true.
I agree with you totally Brittany when it comes to stressing. I know what it feels like to always feel it is your job to care about what people say or do. The small stuff about what is known as drama. It shouldn't even affect anyone knowing that it will not harm in the end. From what i hear, everyone leaves for college and causing stress about what people say it waste of time. Never again shall i care..
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anyhow, i agree with you in many aspects. but i know what you mean when we should not sweat the big things and live life! we need to calm down and just take things one-step at a time. Live Your Life like T.I. Rhianna && Sidhartha
wow Brit I completely agree! I think that we shouldn't sweat the small stuff in life...your just like me because I too stress over the smallest things when I shouldn't be..that means I would get more white hair -.- ahaha...and I think that people should live life to the fullest so that life is worth living! :]
The infamous "life goes on..." haha. I really agree on everything you wrote in the first paragraph, I mean who in this world have not said the words, "This is the worst day of my life?" It is so true on how the things you wrote happen to everyone, especially the "worst day one." Also how everyone will experience pain, grudges, etc. -And yet, "life just goes on..." it's seriously so cliche.
Dont sweat the small stuff! I totally agree because everyone messes up some times--even me. Yes, i know its hard to imagine but it is true haha. I really dislike how every time my friends messes up I get over it within 5 minutes; then when I have a little mess up I get a lot of crap for it. It just isn't fair! But oh well life goes on.
I am not the type of person to speak my mind. I go day to day thinking of multiple things in my head, just simply analyzing. Most people feel I am merely invisible, withheld in my own world. Over these past few years of high school I guess you can say I've just gone through high school just to get by. I distinctly remember the seniors my freshman year reiterating how important it was for me to make the most of high school because it will past by within a blink of an eye, didn’t believe them. Here I am now, blinked, and four years have gone by and now we are inching closer towards graduation. Coming to the end of high school, I have regrets in hope that I had really lived in the moment. Living everyday in the past, wishing I had told that person how I really felt about their actions, or wishing all my old friends haven’t moved on without me; still living in the golden days when everything was perfect. Throughout high school I have never once done anything out of the box to really live and enjoy high school, like instead of hanging out with friends I’d stay home. Sometimes I honestly question myself what have I been doing these years? It’s almost as if I were on autopilot, living within a routine life.
Now when I look back upon high school, I won’t be looking back on the memories but more of how did I make my mark? Some may say I have made a difference within their live others may have the slightest clue of who I am. I can strongly say that I have experienced most of high school through tragic sadness and empty histories. If there’s anytime for me to start over, I’d say now is the time. Now is the perfect setting to leave my childhood behind and engage a new life towards the future. So for the years to come I just like to say, you only get one life with no redoes. Live in the moment, live now.
Awe Christine, I remember the seniors from freshman year saying that too. I feel like I took advantage of time and now here we are, four years later and we have less than two weeks before we graduate. When I read your second to last line in your post, it reminded me of a quote: "Life is the art of drawing without an eraser". (: So as Gandhi once said, "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
I was talking about that just the other day how the seniors were like "get involved and make the most of it" and I just pretty much said "Yeah, whatever" and didn’t. now that I look back on it I really wish I did get involved and I would tell the freshmen the same thing I was told. Get involved be apart of something and don’t take this for granted. I know exactly how you feel and wish you well in college and everything else in your life.
Randomly, I decided to ask my mom the questions this prompt asks, because I read this and really didn’t know what to write about. I was stuck because I realized that I myself is so caught up in my world that I couldn’t think of one thing to tell the whole world. So I decided to ask, and you know what she said, “family.” I stopped and thought to myself that, that is just a original answer that anyone would say, and other posts probably are saying this; but this is really what I would tell the whole world. I look around and I see so many families that come in every shape and size. Families is what creates are world. I begin to realize that so many people are caught up in their own world and just believe they are the only ones that matters. And we all have our times like this so don’t be the person to lie and say you don’t. But I noticed that if everyone just stepped out of their own box they would look around and see other people and how those people are apart of each and every family. Every family has a story to tell, and memories to share about the world we created and to me that is truly amazing. Your family are the people who know you from top to bottom, they are the ones who see you eat cereal on the couch even though your mom tells you not to. They are the ones who see you cry over boyfriends and cut your toenails. No matter what anyone may ask to see of you, they will be the firsts ones to say “ I have definitely seen them do that.” Because of this, I truly feel that family is the most important part of your life. They feed you when your hungry and keep your soul alive when its about to shatter. And the sad part is, so many people are caught up into their own world, that they don’t even realize they time they should really make for the people are will always be there for you. Your family.
Now its time for a confession. Its 11:20 P.M and once again I am doing my homework late. (Mr Feraco don’t feel bad, Its my fault lol) I do this because I have such a heavy load of a schedule that I have to do my homework late because that is the only time. I sleep in the mornings because I am exhausted from the day before. So really, at night is the only time I find that I can do homework. I am mentioning this because this shows that time is precious. I work 6 days a week, and 6-8 hour shifts, I do this because its needed of me. I don’t complain about it because honestly the money is great to have and the hard work I put in feels amazing. I am a full time student, and do homework like any one else. I hang out with my friends whenever I get the chance because it’s a rare opportunity. But the question I ask my self is why isn’t family first at the top of this paragraph? My family are the people who I adore the most, and yet I just started talking about them. I realized that I am one of those people who are caught up in my own world, and I need to change my time to make time for my family. They are the people who relieve stress that I tend to build up frequently, and I can honestly say that I am upset with myself to know that I have spent so much time worrying about other things, when I could of stopped to realize that my mom just needed a little help with cleaning the dishes. This year I have learned so much, and once again it amazes me that I keep learning. I am going to reorganize the way I have my priorities set, and set my family at the top. So if I had to tell the world one thing and only one thing. It would be, to STOP for once. Stop thinking about what color nail polish I want next and start thinking about the people who just want to spend time with the person they enjoy. Family is so important.
The world needs hope.
In such harsh times it’s easy to let yourself lose sight of the finer things in life. When I say that I don’t mean material things, but things you can’t really put a price on. Those are the things that should and do mean the most. They are what hold us down at the worst of times, and pick us up when we’re falling. They guide us. They a the light in a dark tunnel, and that is what keeps us pushing forward.
It’s something different for everyone, like for me it’s my mom. We have been through the best and worst of times and then some, but at the end of it all she’s is always there with open arms. I really can’t thank her enough for what she has done for me, and what she continues and will continue to do for me. I cherish it with my all, even when I am angry at her. I don’t tell her that enough, or at all. I don’t think I’m strong enough too, but I’m certain that she already knows.
Love, live life, proceed, progress.
We have all made mistakes. No one is perfect, and with the acceptance is the only way we can make ourselves better.
In God I Trust.
So far from the girl that I used to be.
I've lost many more then I'd like to believe,
just goes to show how everything is so temporary.
I say what I mean, I mean what I say however momentarily.
I am Sadia Salahuddin and at times awfully contradictory.
If the world would listen to what I would say, all I would tell them is “It is okay, just got to do better next time”. I believe everyone needs to know that it will be okay. If I learned anything throughout my high school career, it would be that most students fear failure. A lot of people stress over the fact that failure is the end of the world, when really it is not a big deal at all. We only get to live once, so why live in failure?! See the glass half full rather than half empty. I always see the world like that and everyday always seems like a brighter day because I know everything will be okay.
Another thing I want to say to everyone is that “Oh well, whatever crap happens”. I cannot tell you how many times I have said this phrase. People need to forgive and forget rather than to remember and avenge. Bad stuff will always happen no matter what, it is inevitable. Therefore, we must look on the bright side of it and just forgive! Life is way too short to be mad at someone. If I was not like this I would be mad at ¾ of all my friends all the time. Luckily, I am not like this! I am a caring, forgiving, optimistic person. I just want the world to know that it will be a lot easier to everyone if we are all just accepting that crap happens.
I love your optimism!! It is okay to mess up, as long you you learn from it and not repeat your mistakes or like you said do better next time. Forgive and forget, that's definately a great one.
there's no use in holding grudges. It just brings you down to have hate in your heart.
S*** happens, all the time! haha we just need to deal with it, not dwell on it.
As Sadia have said, "I love your optimism" I think our world does need to hear that "it is okay if you don't do well" because there are always a lot opportunity to do well in the future. I also agree on how you say that everyone is afraid of failing etc. not only towards school but everything else in general. Because I myself am afraid of seeing myself fail in the future. After college and everything, finding that perfect job, essentially being independent in life. It is pretty scary , and I'm pretty sure a lot of people are as well.
I totally agree with you, people always fear the worst. People should just thin that everything happens for a reason because they will have less stress in their life. If one thought about how they could make a bad situation better, they would be happy and stress free. Everyone just needs to learn how to Breath and tell themselves IT"S OK.
Dear world speak to me. Sometimes when it’s to quite it’s too loud. I can hear your heartbeat from your core. Though I have been here for some years you still remain a mystery to me. I feel that I will never be able to fully comprehend you or the beings that rest their souls on your heart. I am a man of peace, understanding, serenity, and calmness.
Now I do not fear many things, for my physical life still remains only human. Yet in a position such as this I must say I fear for what in store. As everyone knows materialistic things and pretty much anything else in this place of dwelling that is of value has the power to corrupt. So I must ask you this; when will it stop? At what point will man stop saying yes to the unnecessary possessions of life.
Of course there are necessities that are mandatory for living a humble life, but when do we distinguish a separation of necessity and luxury. If this way of living continues we are in store for something tremendous. This is definitely is not a matter that can be handled within a short period of time. A problem such as this requires time to heel itself. This is a problem that has to be dealt with on the inside. Now as sever as this case may sound. Every problem has a solution. The answer is ourselves, we must take control of it through the power of the mind.
Sometimes I feel like praying and asking God the same questions! In contrary to you, I somewhat do fear many things. I fear for the future and what will happen. Im sure it isn’t the best outlook or perspective to have on life but I have it. Im sure once I start actually living life, like after graduation, It will change. Like you said, in conclusion, every problem has a solution!
Your blog entry starts off so beautifully. And yes, I do agree; to have complete control of your mind is the best way to have control over your life. It is true that people do not discern between luxury and necessity at times, but I hope that everyone out there can eventually. You have a pretty positive outlook in life!
"Nothing is impossible, if you believe in yourself."
Back in the sixth grade during art class, I pondered across this sign that hung across the room throughout the whole trimester... I would plop down on the chair there like a sixth grader would, and gaze upon that sign that didn't seem to go anywhere. And I contemplated to myself, each and every single year until now on what it truly meant. As my last few weeks of high school come to an end still favoring that quote, I've come to realize what it finally meant to me.
Since the eighth grade, my grades were as bad as anyone could have EVER imagined. I have had lectures with my parents basically every single day, and I knew that I had to pull myself together. When I entered freshman year, with the help of my "big sister" from the big brother sister program. I had so much motivations to do well in high school, and succeed like how my big sister had. I have always asked teachers for help on work that I did not get. I've bothered my friends for countless hours bugging and begging for their help (trust me). I've took classes to further my understanding in a class. etc.
...And I did it, I pulled myself together throughout the four years here and was satisfied with my grades every year (not that they were like 4.0 or anything). However, with the economy that we are in. Sadly, I didn't get into any college of any of my top choices. But that really didn't put me down. Because I know that if I believe in myself during the next two years at PCC, and try even more harder as I did in high school. I will succeed.
Thanks to my art teacher who simply posted up the long sign that hung across her room and inspired kids like me. This quote taught me obviously not by it's literal meaning, that virtually anything is possible. I mean you can convince yourself of anything if you liked (justify a murder or any crime if you really wanted to...) but belief in yourself allows you to suspend realities that might otherwise prevent you from achieving certain things.
With that optimism, I am sure you will succeed in the next two years at PCC. Colleges will definitely see that you are improving and hopefully, you will make it into the “college of [your] top choices.” I was once like you, constantly annoying people for homework help, but now, I am more independent. Try teaching people the information you’ve learned because it helps you understand better. In the long run, keep believing in yourself because the impossible may become the realities of today.
I was thinking for a while about what I wanted to say, what lesson I felt was good enough to share. Then I thought of these, these are lessons that I’ve heard through the years and that have never left me. Which I think shows the value of them. “Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.” Mark Twain. This is something I believe in completely; life is to short I know people say that all the time but its true. Our lives here are unexpected, unpredictable and unknown, so why would anyone waste a day? We have to live life to fullest, and embrace everything. Life’s to short to go through it angry, or depressed. Wrinkles should only show people the laughs you’ve had and the lessons you’ve had fun learning. I try to live everyday with absolutely no regrets, you can never go back, life is a one way track, and you’re the one paving your way into the future.
Another quote I’ve heard is “No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched.” George Jean Nathan. This goes back to life’s to short, it’s to short to go through it angry. Being angry takes twice as much energy as it would if you were just happy. Anger and revenge cloud the mind; it takes away from the value of life. So everyday I try to look at on a clean slate, what happened yesterday doesn’t matter, what happened last week defiantly shouldn’t matter. This is something I’m still struggling with and I think most people are; it’s hard to let things go so many people sit and dwell on the past, and they don’t realize that they’re missing out on the present.
The last one I can remember is “Home is not where you live, but where they understand you.” Christian Morgenstern. This is so true I love my family and at times of course we have our moments but home is something bigger then where you live, or where you go to at the end of the day. It’s a special place that only you hold close, it’s almost like an escape, for most people that is. I understand that some people dread or even fear the fact that they have to go home, and I believe that to be worst thing in the world. Home is where you should feel safe and protected, it’s somewhere where you can be only who you are. We all sometimes put on a face or pretend to be something different, and we all do it’s not something some people intentionally mean to do but it happens. But home is somewhere people only know the real you; underneath all the make-up, they only see you.
wow i completly agree! a home is a house but if you do not share it with your loved ones and the people whom truly influence your life than youve got- nothing. i feel more people should be family oriented because people are not going to be there along our sides forever. we need to no take advantage of others but stop, wait and enjoy the people whom are getting old like G-mom....
Life is a crazy rollercoaster. I can't think of one time where everything went exactly as it should have and everything turned out as i expected it to. Even through hard times i managed to pick myself up and continue on. I think thats what everyone needs to learn to do. We all encounter obstacles its how we deal with the situation that determines where we end up. On a personal note, I like to think positively about everything and believe that everything happens for a reason. We may not always understand why, but eventually good things come around to overshadow the bad.
Like my mom always tells me, "Life is what you make of it." It doesn't always turn out the way you hear it in fairy tales, but thats reality and that's why I love life. I love the unexpected, the mystery behind things, it makes the adventure of life that much more exciting. So on that note I dont live my life expecting everythiing to go just right, but I live it expectiing things will go wrong and that I can pick myself up after every time I fall. I've made more mistakes than I can possibly count and greatly dissapointed the people I hold closest to my heart. Yet, I dont let my downfalls define who I am.
So if anyone was to truely listen all I would have to say is stay true to yourself and just live life.
Just like you, I know that everyone needs to learn how to pick themselves up on their own and go on with life. That is the only way life is going to get better. If you aren’t living on the right path, it will eventually happen. Thinking positive thoughts about everything on life can help you get through this, as it always helps me. I agree with you when you say that everything happens for a reason. If you do good things, good things will come on to you, even if you don’t realize.
I strongly believe actions do not define who we are. If actions defined who we are then that means every accident or mistake we make defines us. People always tend to think that the choices we make define us, though I refuse to believe that. The reason is because we are not psychic, we can not know what choice to make therefore we sometimes stumble towards the wrong direction thinking we are heading to the right direction. We are unconscious of our choices till the results show. Well written.
I totally agree with you, things are not always going to go the way we expected. we have learn to stand up and dust off. Making the best out of a situation is probably the best thing one can do for themselves. People just need to learn How to Deal.
The first advice is for those who speak more than one language.
Those who do would probably understand what I am trying to say. I speak three languages; Spanish, German, and kind of English hehe. However the language by which I got to know the world was Spanish. Most of the times when I speak in English I feel my words are empty, I feel they lack strength; they are meaningless to me (sometimes, they have been gaining strength with the time). I have realized that it is harder for me to tell the truth (not that I lie a lot XD) in Spanish. When I was in Mexico and I wanted to express deep feelings I would get too nervous and forget what I wanted to say, I would have to write what I wanted to say before saying it so I could organize my ideas, and even then I would sometimes get too nervous anyway. Even with that struggle to express myself, every word I said (when I was in 10th grade), was confident, and enriched with wisdom and thought. I would be happy after I gave advice to my friends and in a weird way proud of it. When I came to the US, I felt I lost my wisdom, the words I said where empty, they where just the cover “the translation” of my actual thoughts, and even though I wrote what I was feeling/thinking, I felt they were empty and I felt I could do nothing to make them sound as strong as my feelings. Still today I feel Spanish is the language that I feel enriched as I speak, but English has been gaining strength with the time I have spent here, and looking at work from my classmates gives me the inspiration to continue writing.
My advice is to say the important things in that language that takes you more to say it, it is harder for me to talk about my feelings in Spanish, but my words have more meaning to me in it, so my advice is to express the important things for you in that language that you think words are harder to say.
I have wisdom to share, that is for sure. As it is for sure that everyone has wisdom to share. I can’t tell you everything I know, because as much as I would like to; first I would not remember it all right now. And second, many wouldn’t understand. I want to make clear that I am not claiming myself smarter than anyone else, but there are just things that you can only understand when you live them. I think we all live to be happy, and the way I found myself the happiest is with love. I can tell you to love everyone, and that by doing so you would find eternal happiness, but that is my way to be happy, everyone has its own way to find their place. So my advice is to pursuit that thing that makes you happy the most. Failure is just another step to reach victory, so don’t be afraid to step, and to step firmly to continue no matter how high the steps might be apart from each other.
My quote is; live to love, and love every moment of life. Maybe you have heard it before somewhere else, it might be similar to something you have read, but I don’t really care and neither want to know. I came up with that by myself and for myself, I share it with you to use as best as it can fit you, I know I use it as best as I can. (Oh since people cant see my face when I write XD, I didn’t say the last being mad or stubborn, but I don’t really see a reason for me to know that someone else came up with the same mixture of words before, I like to think to myself it is some great quote for me. Anyway, I wasn’t the guy who invented language, there is no way I can claim a quote as mine since I just copied words I saw/heard from someone else right? XD)
Nice heart-felt response. I do feel that there are occasions when I am put in a situation where others “wouldn’t understand.” For example, a person who has never had his or her wisdom tooth pulled out would never understand the immense pain I had gone through. I think living through experiences puts you in a more knowledgeable position and will remind you to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. There were times when I went through pain and nobody cared or knew what I underwent.
I agree with you that people define “happiness” differently. You stated that loving “everyone” would cause you to be happy, but I think just the aspect of loving something, whether tangible or intangible, will lead you to happiness. It is a feeling that can come and go. As long as you don’t hate something, you will not be disappointed wherever you go.
Victor, I enjoyed reading your blog as always. I think that you express yourself so well in English and that your words sound so strong and full of meaning. The only language I speak is English and I think you write way better than I do. Don’t worry what people think and keep writing you have a gift. I think you have lots of wisdom to share and I am glad that I have been able to read some of it this year. I love your quote!
When i was a little boy i always wondered why people would always compare families or just from one another. I remember my auntie once telling me, " Judge or, be judged." I understand what she means now, after four years or having people criticize or plainly just judge me. I found the trick that surviving would only be achieved if you are only willing to have an open mind about people and just judging them back. I find it easier to see who my friends really are when judging them makes me see if i can be comfortable about them.
Then again i don't judge unless i choose to want to. I tend to have the open mind for making friends if they come to me but in the end i have tried to mingle and found it easier to be comfortable when i get the chance to judge them through a conversation.
My favorite quote:
To live is to learn
To learn is to know
To know is to grow
To grow is to give
To give is to live
I don't remember exactly who was it written by but it was from a tile in my cousin's house. His father told me to memorize it because it was also one of his favorite quotes. The quote to me is the basic structure of life as in it is what i follow and pretty much do everyday. I wake up and go learn so i can know as i graduate from school. Then i grow from what i know and help others from my experience. To give is a great feeling and just knowing that helping someone is part of life.
I feel really like this quote because it sounds very meaningful. Maybe whenever I have problems, I can read this quote and remind me the meaning of living. It will be a great way to brighter my life and understanding that life means something. People are here to grow and experience new things in life.
If the world would listen to everything I have to say, it would be miraculous. They would need to hear all of my pet peeves, not just within my everyday life, but within the whole world. I could go on and on, telling you my list of them, but that would simply be pointless. I’m the kind of person to do that, just nag, and not do anything about it. If I could tell anyone one thing, I would tell them to listen to your parents because they know you the best. Even though you might not be around them as much, you were always around them when you were younger. I’m sure just like my parents do, they know you probably better than you know yourself. I recently had a deep conversation with my parents, partly because of some questions that Mr. Feraco encouraged us to ask our parents. I told them to tell me honestly one thing that sets me apart from people. My mom jokingly said that I was super tall, not fully understanding the question. My dad said that I was like a chameleon. He said that I change my personalities when I’m around different people. He told me that it made him sad because when I’m around my parents, I’m not the same kind of exciting and outgoing person that I am, say at school, work, or playing sports. He explained to me that it should be the other way around, that I should be outgoing and lively with my family. I think this is my greatest challenge, especially with my family members. I think the world would have to know this about me. I would give the world advice, and inform them that their families should be their first priorities, simply because they are the best things that could ever happen to someone, and you never know when they are going to be gone.
Because I have this major complication in communicating with people, I’ve seem to realize that I also have a lot of regrets. Having regrets is the worse feeling ever. To know that you could’ve made a difference in someone else’s life, or yours, just even 2 seconds ago can discourage you. It certainly does to me. My dad always tells me that I shouldn’t take no for an answer, simply because rules are made to be bent a little bit. I never saw the importance in this statement, but living in society today, I am beginning to understand where he is coming from. You cannot take no for an answer every single time because you will probably end up being taken advantage of. Once this occurs, you will feel major guilt, and if necessary, you might be angry because someone else got their foot in the door for not taking no for an answer. I would encourage the world to also abide by this standard. Realize your regrets, and understand that next time you must not make the same mistake.
I agree with the way you feel when you have regrets. I try my best to avoid having regrets because all they do is bring you down and make you think too much about mistakes that you're supposed to make and learn from. My mom always taught me to let go of all my regrets.
“Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly.”
I remember a time when I was in elementary school; I dreamt of becoming a teacher, not because I simply wanted to but because throughout my life I’ve been surrounded by teachers who made an impact in my life. They been so supportive and they motivate me to do better as a student and in my academic. My dad wasn’t really supportive on me heading towards the education route. He wanted me to do something better such as doctor, nurse, police officers etc. I didn’t want to do those things because I didn’t care about it meaning I had no passion for it. But I didn’t let my dreams get in the way when my dad told me what I should do in life. I believe that if you strive for excellence you will receive it because no matter what your goal or dream in life, I believe you should go pursue it. Don’t let anyone stop you from pursing your dream.
“In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.”
My family has been by my side through the eighteen years of my life. They were there when my mom brought me into this world; when I learned how to tie a shoe, first learned how to blow a bubble from a bubble gum, my first crush, and they will be there on June 12th cheering for me at graduation for I am last in my family to graduate from high school. Every family has a story to tell, mine is filled with laughter, tears, and disagreements. Even though, there are times where my family disagree with one another because they are so stubborn and can’t see eye to eye, we manage to walk away from the situation and forget about it. Families are there to turn to when you have no one to go to when you need help. They understand you from head to toe. I don’t want my family to be broken because other people that I know hardly speak to their brothers or sisters and I just don’t want my family to be like them. I want to my grand children to have that special bond that I share with my family.
"You Can Never Lose"
I believe that most people have serious doubts about themselves. There are always at least a couple thoughts in the back of one's mind that reflect a certain type of failure, whether it's big or small. People in general would be a lot happier and more successful if they had absolutely no doubts about themselves. But then again, it's human nature to have a second thought or opinion about something that's important to you. Some people take things too far though. For example, a student gets an F on a big test in the beginning of the school year. This student thinks that he/she will do badly in that class for the rest of the year just because of tat failing test. That is so not the case. I believe there's always a chance for you to redeem yourself and your mistakes and make the best of it.
I, personally, know what I am capable of, in just about any situation. I know myself very well and my main source of strength is my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He is the reason why I know that I can never lose. But this is not the case for every one. Not every one has the same source of strength. But my point is, if you believe in yourself at all times, no matter how deep you think the situation is, just know that there's always a way to come out victorious or in your favor.
Staying positive around people, well my close friends in particular is hard. I feel as the society we live in now is increasing that doubt/negativity feeling. The society we live in changed compared to a while ago, perhaps four years ago? Probably when I was in middle school I guess, was when people still at least tried to stay positive. If one is not positive then they can never believe in themselves. I hear too many "I'm going to fail the test." and not enough "I am going to do really good." In fact that sounds odd because hardly anyone says that. Corbin, you brought a good point.
Amen on that. Negativity has been a pretty loud presence the past year or two what with the high gas prices and economic
crisis which seems to affect most people. Not to over do it but being positive makes all the difference. Especially when things are gloomy. It' s important to have a smile and a light heart.
To be a light during hard times is the essence of hope.
Walking Down the halls you hear people talking about what their best friends have done to them. I believe that if someone has to go behind your back to talk about you, that’s not a friend, if you have to work extra hard to be a good friend and get nothing in return except a bad friend, that is not a friend. People always think that the people they meet in high school are going to be with them their entire life, but in reality once we start college and meet knew people those people will be our past. In life we will probably have only a couple true friends who are actually there for you us when in need. In high school people try to compete on who has the most friends because they think this makes them “popular”. To me popular is a term used in movies to show all the stuck up rude kids. I could care less if everyone liked me, yea it is nice to be well rounded but really everyone has that one friend who is there for them while the rest of the people they call “friends” are just there. One should not worry about what people think they should just be happy with themselves and treasure the friends they have. You always see in movies the popular kids ditching their true friends for someone who has money and style, so what I am trying to say is think about the person who knows you best. The one, who knows when something is wrong, will try to make you laugh when sad, and who will always be there for you. Treasure them because that is probably one of the few people you will keep around for life.
People are always trying to avoid things that they feel are dangerous or they are just scared of. I think the things that are most worthwhile are the things we are frightened to do. Once you have done something, like for instance sky diving you will feel like you have accomplished something not many people have. Everyone always thinks for the worst well what if I die, I like to think that we are all going to die so why worry about or death when we know we will die eventually? One should just go out and have a good time not worry about dying. People who are always worry are usually the ones who die first because they try to stay so sheltered and safe that they die without doing things they would have wanted to when they had a chance. Everyone should live like they were dying, don’t wait until you are out of time do what you want and make it worthwhile.
“Work like you don’t need the money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like no-one’s watching.
Sing like no-one’s listening.
Live like there’s no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.”
One of the facts that I came to realization about the world is that – the world goes around without me. Everyday on the news some people die in different ways: some commit suicide, some die from swine flu, some from airplane crashes, some are prepared, while some are not. To the world, one person can get as infinitesimal as an ant to us, so suck in the pride and be happy. It is a short lifetime; I have lived eighteen years of my life, there isn’t so many 18 years left in my lifetime. Whenever I recall my childhood, I would be surprised of my own innocence and immaturity. The behaviors and thoughts are like what I have done yesterday, but no, it was almost ten years ago. I am amazed how I could build a paper yacht with an electric light bulb connected to a battery back then that I do no even comprehend nowadays. I had the time to put together a 2000-piece jigsaw puzzle by myself, piece by piece, that I would just set aside if I had it now. I don’t know whether my childhood should be considered perfect, but it certainly was a good time. We spend too much time worrying about how others look at us, what we should achieve, who deserves to be better than another, but barely ever about HOW we live.
I felt embarrassed even thinking how I used to walk to school everyday last year, in a Jansport backpack, with few five-pound books in my arms. There are clothes that I loved but I would never wear nowadays because I feel like the styles don’t suit me anymore. I began to scribble cursive so it’s faster to write. I put stickers on my TI-84 which now I think are ugly, but too hard to take them off. There are traces I left in the past, some can never change and some are easily thrown away. It is possible that in the near future, I will dislike my dwarf pencil bag, my heart shaped hair clip, or my Juicy Couture bags, because by that time, I am not the same person as I am now. Even the person who will attend school tomorrow will be the same person who sat on the chair today. From the trend of chronological events, I learned to cherish my time right now. Do not ever wish time goes by faster, because every number the clock strikes, it is gone forever.
Every person has a different value for words that mean a lot to them. There is not a definite preference for what words are worth the most to whomever. What I say may not meant to be special or meaningful however in another person’s perspective, it may be the exact opposite. Everyone understands words slightly different then others. I tend to believe everyone that I have a chance to meet; I have said something worth remembering at one time or another. I believe each person is meant to have an impact on this world, whether or not it is for good or bad.
In my own perspective, I have not said something worth remembering in my lifetime yet because the right moment isn’t here yet. I have to be at the right place, with the right person/people, in order to say something really worth remembering in my lifetime. I fear that I will only say something this important when my dad leaves us because I never went through a death of a loved one. Plus, usually people don’t say something worth remembering if nothing bad happens in their life.
I hate to talk about death of a loved one but it is inevitable to avoid. Death will probably trigger myself to say something I have always meant to say, it’s just before I lacked the right words till that moment. What I mean to say is, I know my dad will not be with me much longer because of his recent health problems but that doesn’t mean he will leave mine or my three little sisters heart. When that day arrives, I can live knowing I said something meaningful in his lifetime because what’s meaningful in my father’s lifetime is meaningful to my lifetime.
“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln
One of most famous quotes, even till this day. On a regular basis I never say this quote word for word unless I feel I really need to express its full meaning. My attitude towards life is always persuaded by this quote. I try to enhance my life and let others realize that the number doesn’t matter. You can have many apples from a tree, but what is the point of those many apples when only one of the apples is the sweet one?
The loss of a loved one is tragic. Yet at the exact moment of their passing, you remember all the good times you've shared with them. As long as you have enjoyed the time you've spent together, that's all that matters.
If there was anything that I had learned in my four years at Arcadia High, it would have to be that one truly needs to stand out to be heard or even acknowledged. There have been so many instances where I have either seen people or I myself remain silent in discussions where we DO have a voice in the topic, but we just can't find the courage to speak out. Unfortunately, such silence is what prevents us from growing as individuals, where we put ourselves out into the world to be recognized. There is no punishment with being social, being able to socialize with others and create a friendly atmosphere with anyone. On the other hand, remaining reserved and quiet creates a bad vibe where people would remain uncomfortable talking with you. This very topic is about what we would tell the world if they were to listen, and I would definitely tell the world to listen because I sure do have something to discuss with the world. You don't want to be the outcast who can't speak his mind because he doesn't have the courage to open up to others. Such confidence is important, especially once one is out of school and thrown into the working world, where hundreds of people will walk in and out of your life every day.
It's funny how I am comfortable talking about this issue, yet I 'refuse' to listen to my own advice. Such 'hypocrisy' may make me a bad person, yet I do cherish such advice. If there were any words to remember in the eighteen years I've lived, they definitely would not be from my own mouth or mind. The family we live around, the friends we hang around, and the teachers we learn from all influence the character we become. You definitely will not settle down on the weekend the same person you were the weekend before, and you won't be the same person the next weekend. Time can really change a person, but what matters the most is what and who was in the time you spent, and how that meeting impacted the individual you would become.
In my life i never thought about the important things i would say when i were to give a speech or even when i was thinking about my future. i grew up thinking that all i would want to be was a drummer, not saying anything to anybody but, i was hit with something hard a few weeks ago and that was that i am growing up a child's dream is what i had. Dont get me wrong i am going to be a drummer but i am going to be somebodies role model just like my drummers are to me. big words and speeches are what they use to inspire other drummers, they inspire from other sayings to but i am realizing now that i was wrong i am going to say something important to someone one day. when i think of my parents i think of wisdom, same with my grandparents. I remember my grandpa mckinley talking to all the boys in the living room one day when he was visiting and he told us something that we would never forget for two reasons #1 because he died the next day #2 because it meant alot to us. papa mckinley was a great speaker he was a pastor like my dad. he told us that one day we would have grandchildren just like him and we would want to set examples for them. he said to gather as much wisdom as possible now and when we get grandchildren we would pass it on just like he did. He was a great man.
i personally, am a outspoken person i like talking, and being in discussions i think its from my grandpas and my father pastor traits passed down on me. if i were to give a big speech or say something really important i would be ready because my family says alot of important things around me. if i were to say something important to the world i would say why cant we all just get along, gnaw just joking. i would say dont let life pass you by because you can lose something important to u really fast, faster than you think, you will never know when the last time you see your father will be or your mother live life love life and be free of stress. my mother always told me not to stress or worry just let god take care of everything. and this was the most important thing she said to me because this works for me i put faith in god just like she said. those were the important words of my life time that i will never forget.
"You are all PHONIES."
That is the one line I know I would shout at the top of my lungs if I ever climbed Mount Everest. Naturally, I doubt I could accomplish such a feat, but I have an innermost desire to scream this down the halls of Arcadia High School. It has come to the point where I have stopped caring about how the world has perceived me, because I hate how the everyone else cares about how they perceive themselves. Everyone is obsessed with their image, from the lovestruck teenagers dressing to impress, to the members of the student council who don false smiles at assemblies. It is unhealthy to obsess over anything, and it is quite possible that I may be hindering myself by obsessing over what others obsess about. I identify myself with Andy Warhol, who is quite phony, but his line of thinking matches mine; I am both fascinated and horrified by the obsession over images, and consumerism as a whole. Is image really everything?
Self-perception isn't the only phony aspect of society. I consider, as a whole, the world as a gigantic phony planet, with a few tinkering genuine diamonds embedded across the land. As I grow older, I learn more and more of the true nature of the world, about how so many atrocities have been committed because of the primitive drives of the powerful. Even in contemporary times, the minority are crushed by the ideals of the majority because it disrupts "traditional" lines of thought (yes, I am referring to same-sex marriage). It has greatly disturbed me, and I have to admit, I sometimes wish that I stayed ignorant of these facts. It is appalling to me, as a human being, that people are willing to sacrifice the freedoms and happiness of others to satisfy their own personal selfishness. The world is no longer the safe place I thought it was as a child.
Therefore, I want to be the "catcher in the rye," the model set by the fictional character Holden Caulfield. I want to save those few sparkling, genuine diamonds of the world before they become tainted by the evils and cruelty the world has yet to throw at them. I do indeed identify with Holden, but that would certainly also mean that I am the biggest phony of them all.
Out of my family, I am the first to attend a school in America as a child. Although my parents did attend school in America, they did not do so until the middle of high school because they were both raised in Vietnam. Because my parents did not speak English well, it was hard growing up. I have learned many things in life the hard way and I wished someone were there to tell me earlier. I have also met many people each with their own unique personalities and because of this; I have learned to deal with all sorts of different people. Everyone is unique in their own way; nobody is ever the same.
The most important lesson I learned in life thus far is, responsibility. Responsibility is a big factor in life because it’s something you must have and gain more of as you grow old. Because people are all different, everyone has their own goals to achieve in life. Those goals won’t be achieved unless you are the one that is leading yourself to attain that goal. There are times when the people around you cannot support and be there for you. It is not because they cannot, but because everyone lives their own separate lives.
It's very true, I do believe responsibility plays a huge shaping factor in life. Not everybody is going to hold your hand in life. But, I think we can all appreciate it when people are willing to help. I feel that's one of the better qualities of human nature.
I believe that all American’s should appreciate the life that they live. Whether high class, middle class or low class, they probably have it better than people in another foreign country. Many American’s take life for granted and don’t even think about the less fortunate. I have been on several mission trips to Ensenada, Mexico and have experienced the first hand view on a life of poverty. In Mexico, the conditions are severe and it is hard to maintain a good lifestyle. American’s need to realize that they have amazing lives compared to those in third world countries, and should give something back to the community from their fat pay checks. We only get to live once, so I say that people should give to the less fortunate and sacrifice a few bucks a month to better another’s life.
One of the things that I believe in personally is always having a positive attitude. Having a positive attitude is a key to my own personal existence. If I begin to have a negative outlook on life and become all sad, I immediately talk to someone and get over it. I think that if a certain peer or another individual is always happy, they make others around them joyful as well. Whenever I come across someone who is depressed about their sad life, I tend to talk to them and humor them until they are happy again. If a certain situation comes up where someone is acting in a negative matter, I always think of ways to prevent this from happening, whether it be comforting the individual or just not saying anything at all. I think that in order to live a good life, all you have to do is be positive and many great things will happen in your many years of life.
I totally agree with what you are saying that everyone here in this country should appreciate what we have. Sometimes even I lose track of that, but when things get hard I always think about how much my parents struggled to come to this country for me.
One can appreciate the good stuff pretty easily and we are all very happy for it has given us many comforts and a unique lifestyle . But we must also look into the dark corners and work tosee how we can improve it for all.
Best of luck in your life.
This is a messge I want to say to my loveable sister.
Jannie, I know that you will be living me soon and returning back to Hong Kong. I do not how will live be like after you left. Maybe I will be startving to death everyday asking myself what should I eat and how come I never decided to learn cooking from you when you were here. But using this time, I want to say thankyou to you. For all the time that you spent with you and for everything that we shared together. I know that Hong Kong will denfinetly be a better place but on the other hand it will be fairly stuff to start off with. No matter where we are, I know that you are always here for me and I promise that I will work hard in school and graduate as soon as possible. I promise that I will take good care of myself. I will miss you and Brandy a lot.
I feel that life is actually pretty short because people cannot predict what will happen next in their life time. I believe that people need to cherish the time they have and use it wisely and do not waste it all. Not a lot of people have opportunity to do the things they want to do. I understand that I have to cherish every chance I have and live a life that I want during the future. I understand that I have to work and to become successful. As people said,"No pain, No gain". So first is to work hard and give everything that you have so later you will earn the things that you wish for which is what I am heading toward.
Graduation is coming very soon and it will probably be the last time for all of us to gather together and it will be the last event that I attend from Arcadia High School. So this is a day that I will never forgot, June 12th, 2009.
Even if the world was not listening I would love to tell those who would listen to me. I believe that you should love your life to the fullest because that is why we are alive. We don't live from point A to point B, just like the movie click its not about where you end up but the time in between that matters. Ever since I could remember I always thought I was destined to do something great, do I still feel that way? Yes, I do. I always like to think that so I can put my all into what I love to do. I don't really know what I'm destined to be, maybe something big or maybe something small it doesn't matter to me as long as I know that I did the best I could do that's all I can ask of myself. That's all anybody can ask of themselves is to offer the best and be able to be on your death bed saying "I lived my life well"
America is all about dreams and hopes, this country was founded by people who had a dream and had a hope. Many inspirational character in my life gave me hope and always push me to be my best even though it is easier to be average. I would like to thank everyone who has supported me through high school. I would also like to thank all my teachers who challenged me, who did not just let me get away with things and making me think.
As for the world I hope that one day people would be more open minded and for racism and sexism to disappear and hope for a world that's better than the one we have now. I know its not going to be perfect nothing in this world is and will be perfect. But it sure make things better if we strive for perfection and make this world a better place.
If I have the opportunity to say something to the whole world, and everyone would listen, I would probably tell everyone to listen to each other. Humans are selfish and ignorant about each other’s feeling. All we care about is what we say or how we feel, we never really try to listen and understand others’ feeling. Just imagine what if Hitler listened to the Jews for once or President of North Korea listens and tried to understand his citizens’ hardship? Honestly, if everyone tries to listen and understand each other, this world would be a much better place to live in. Now many of may ask “what if they don’t listen to me?” One can never understand where his/her influence stops, so therefore, I would just do my best to influence the whole world.
If I have the honor and the opportunity to sign my friends’ yearbook, I would probably write “don’t forget our friendship”. I want my friends to remember, how we have met, what we have been through for the past 4 years, and why our friendship is so strong. After high school, people tend to forget everything and move on, and I do not want that to happen to me and my friends. If I have the opportunity to sign my friends’ yearbook, I would also tell them good luck instead of goodbye, because after all, I don’t want this to be the last time I see them. In the end, we’ve all let our friends to become part of our lives, and we should cherish and appreciate the friendship every single day. GOOD LUCK CLASS OF 09~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not to long ago when I was younger, I was always afraid to dream about my perfect life. What I was planning to accomplish, and want I wanted to accomplish in my life were two different things. I was afraid to dream big because I thought, "what if I fail, and I accomplish nothing? What would I become? What would people think of me?" I always said I wanted to be an architect like my grandfather. To me, this was a pretty safe choice. I was sort of interested in architecture, I admired my grandfathers work, and I knew people approved of this because its a safe career to go into and it always looks better to follow in some ones footsteps who was close to you. I was taking the safe route out, because I was scared of failure, and I wanted to please my family. Once I realized I probably couldn't do this because I wasn't good at math, I started wondering, 'what now?' My father always drilled into me that education was incredibly important and that he wanted me to get a degree from a university so I could have a good paying stable career that he didn't have. I agree education is important and I want a good education, but it always felt like he was trying to force me to do what he wanted, and was pressuring me a lot. Meanwhile I was getting more and more into music. My dad always tried to tell me not to go into the music business because there's no money in it, and that I needed something more stable. I always just told him it was a hobby and that was it, I would never go into music. I thought that if I told him I was interested in being a musician he would get mad at me. But eventually, my perceptions started to change, and I started to become a dreamer. I started dreaming big about my future, and one day I decided that there was nothing else out there for me except music. It took a while for me to tell my family that, because I was still afraid they would disapprove. But they saw that I was getting very serious about it and being smart about it too. When I told my dad, by my surprise, he was OK with it. I realized, for that entire period of time I was scared to tell anyone my dreams for my future, I was only crippling myself. Even if they didn't approve, it was always better for me just to decide for myself and not worry about others reactions, because after all, its my life, and I'm the one who has to live it. Why not enjoy it?
Moral of the story - dream BIG! Only you and yourself alone can truly shape your future. It's your life, and its OK to live it! Don't wait around for things to happen, make them happen. I know most peoples parents have high, and specific, expectations of their kids, and it can be hard to go against their wishes because you want to respect and please them. But think about it, the only reason their trying so hard to convince you to do what they want you to do, is because they want the best life for you, which is great. But who knows what's the best for you, better than you? So you have to take the same approach as them, and show them you know what your doing, and convince them you know what's best for you. And if you can't, then oh well! you'll just have to prove them wrong in a few years when you accomplish all your goals, because you will. If you have a strong will, have your life planned out, and always having that dream in your mind, you can't fail. You won't fail! Just never have that doubt in your mind that you will fail, because if you dwell on the negative, that dream will come crumbling in. Just stay true to yourself, stay positive, and always have that dream in sight. Don't be afraid, take risks, and dream big, because if you don't, you'll be regretting it for the rest of your life, looking back on your life wondering what could have been if you had followed that path. If you fail, at least you will be satisfied that you tried and got a taste of that dream. Life is long, but opportunities come once in a life time, so don't be afraid to chase that dream and see where it takes you. Aren't you just a little curious?
--As far as what I think of the song; Its referencing the poem "The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock" by TS Elliot. I remember I took a bit of a shine to this poem when I read it last year. Prufrock was a man who dreamed but never took any opportunity to better his life. he just waited, and didn't do anything with his life, and he would regret it and think what could be. The song is similar to this, because Turner is saying the same thing as Elliot has, take chances and live life. Don't wait around for things to happen, you have to make them happen. And how people watch others get what they want, and pass them by, but instead of doing what they want, they just sit around living the only life they know, their "comfortable" lives, but they will never know what's out there, and all they can do is dream and regret. The poem and the song are an awful lot like mine when it comes to what its about which is a weird coincidence because I wrote this before paying attention to the song ha-ha.
I am sick and tired of people who are living on the B-list
They're waiting to be famous
And they're wondering why they do this
Is there really a b list celebrity roll ? I am wondering because if fame is truly significant it would not be a passing fad ? In that case, fame is fleeting after all. Matters of judgment probably ? Poetic rumblings one and all.
All this may be fine for self consumption but to be given a soapbox calls for a more world view of
things. If the world would listen I would use the opportunity to clearly state that which I find important. Important from our gentler sides and our giving side. Here' s what seems logical on that is a world based on peace and justice deserves to be examined at least. I would want that particular idea, and to educate oneself of the peace movements, such as Gandhi' s in India and Martin Luther King' s crusade here. I would imagine that if we seriously wanted to learn something from peace practitioners we would apply it to international friction as a problem solving tool. Something that starts off with practical purposes and hopefully ends up as a tool for upgrade on a global scale. I think a time like this requires idealism and of course, hope. Hope that I, and we, shall make good decisions. Hope that things are always clear enough that the choice is easy. And if not, I hope the we all have acquired enough of something, call it wisdom, to not only lead a meaningful life but also to be there to help others who may need a hand at some particular time. If we can help others we shall be blessed.
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“The world ends with you. If you want to enjoy life, expand your world. You gotta push your horizons out as far as they'll go.”
I wouldn’t consider myself a very social person. Lately, I’ve been growing more distant from the rest of the world. I didn’t care much for anyone else. My world view became dull and gray. Everyone else just seemed like the same annoying blob. I continued to push everything and everyone aside while focusing on whatever I wanted to do. Everyone was just a mere annoyance, and I simply ignored them all. I never felt the need to talk to someone unless it was absolutely necessary. For the moment, everything went along fine. But as the months went by I felt that my life was empty. Every day was the same old boring routine. I didn’t bring myself to enjoy life’s moments.
Everyone has their own story to share. Inside our minds, no one is ever the same. The world is massive. We are in control of our own worlds. We decide what we want to do with it. If we are to enjoy life, it is up to us to expand on our worlds and broaden our horizons. Enjoy every moment that comes our way as we only cross through this world once. Never give up on ourselves or we give up on the world. Reach out as far as you can. The sky is the limit.
But I want you to say what needs to be said – the words only you can write – and I want you to write them now.
I cannot tell you how many times my ex-boyfriend and I have been on and off…for a year. It has been difficult especially these last few weeks. He likes to keep things to himself, therefore we argue about the little things he doesn’t do that he should be doing or saying. I tell my friends all the time how much I want him to say certain things to me or text it to me, but you can’t make someone do something, they have to want to do it themselves. It’s not like I was pressuring him I let him do things on his own time. Another thing, I can smell a lie when it is said to me more than written to me. I’ll believe it more when written down or texted to me. That may seem hard to believe but it is what it is. One thing I have learned is that it is better to have loved, than to have never loved at all. All relationships are learning experiences, sometimes they end and sometimes they last forever, to really tell, you should test the waters. However, don’t waste your time unless the person has the potential.
And I don’t want you to forget these words…because you might be saying them to someone else a couple of decades down the line.
When I told my ex-boyfriend I loved him and when he returned the favor; I didn’t want him to ever say those words to anyone else down the line. To me I only say it if I really, truly mean it. To have exchanged such strong words or even the simplest “I never want to lie next to anyone else again…” things like such, stick to someone who really cares. To find out they have been playing the same tricks on someone else makes you feel less valuable than you thought you were. But with the way things ended, I learned that I deserve better. I am way more worth the time than wasted.
I don't really have a whole paragraph or explanation but rather a bulleted list of things i wish we could work to change
To the world:
I wish for the world that could learn see the bigger picture.
I wish that we worked hard to change our corrupted and flawed systems to better fulfill their intent and benefit those who really need benefiting.
I wish "go green" wasn't just a celebrity fad but rather we, as a whole, did it because we care about the world we live on and what we leave behind.
I wish rather than focusing so much on individuality we focused on joining for a better cause one that benefits everyone.
I wish the United States government really was by the people and for the people rather than by the corporations for revenue.
All in all for coming generations I want to leave hope for a better future, a less selfish future.
For my sister:
I know life has been hard over the past few years but I want you to know how strong you are, and how much of an inspiration you have always been. Its your never giving up attitude that is going to be the thing that continues to take you places. You've survived through the worst and all that lies ahead is the best, the things you have worked so hard for all along. I admire your willingness to care for those who are sick or outcast from society. It is apparent that whatever you end up doing as a career you will excel in and become a leader. You are an amazing woman and I hope that in my life I will amount to someone half as incredible as you have become.
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