Tuesday, January 13. 2009
This will be your final required blog post. There will be a couple of others to close out the semester, and the study session, materials, etc. will still be posted here...but this is the last post everyone will respond to, so knock it out of the park!
Wanted: Single F, under 33
Must enjoy the sun,
Must enjoy the sea.
Sought by Single M: Mrs. Destiny
Send photo to address,
Is it you and me?
Reply to Single M:
My name is Caroline;
Cell phone number here,
Call if you have the time.
I'm 28 and bored,
And grieving over loss.
Sorry to be heavy,
But heavy is the cost…oh, heavy is the cost…
Reply to Caroline:
Thanks so much for response;
These things can be scary,
Not always what you want.
How about a drink
At this ancient club at noon?
I'll phone you first, I guess;
I hope I see you soon…
I never got your name,
I assume you're 33.
Your voice…it sounded kind –
I hope that you like me.
When you see my face,
I hope that you don't laugh;
I'm not a film-star beauty,
I'll send a photograph –
I hope that you don't laugh…
Note to Single M:
Why didn't you show up?
I waited for an hour,
I finally gave up.
I thought once that I saw you,
I thought that you saw me;
I guess we'll never meet now,
It wasn't meant to be…
It wasn't meant to be.
I was sure you saw me…
But it wasn't meant to be.
Wanted: Single F, under 33
Must enjoy the sun,
Must enjoy the sea.
Sought by Single M: Nothing too heavy.
Send photo to address,
Is it you or me?
- Stars, "Personal"
"We stood in your room and laughed out loud.
Suddenly the laughter died,
And we were caught in an eye to eye...
Too scared to say a thing,
I left your house and kicked myself.
I put those feelings on a shelf to die.
I guess I'm not a gambling type,
But think of what the two of us had lost.
I needed some time to think it out.
7-Eleven parking lot:
A toothless woman turned and stopped.
I gave her a dime and a Chesterfield.
She leaned down and kissed my cheek.
I was scared but it felt sweet, felt so sweet.
I took my car and drove it down the hill by your house.
I drove so fast, but the wind couldn't cool me down,
So I turned it around and came back up.
You were waiting on your step,
Steam showing off your breath and water in your eyes.
We pulled each other into one,
Parkas clinging on the lawn
And kissed right there...
Held your hand and watched TV
And traced the little lines along your palm.
- Jawbreaker, "Chesterfield King"
What has been the source of more greatness and failure, of more risk and reward, than anything else?
First, a bit of a personal anecdote:
I like to collect things. It’s a tendency I’ve inherited from my father; my mother is incredibly neat and organized, but my father and I are pack-rats. It drives my mother crazy, and I don’t blame her. I have a stack of a dozen empty Wheaties boxes with my favorite childhood athletes on the front teetering in the closet of my old bedroom, and I don’t even live there anymore.
I’ve wondered in idle moments why I like to collect things. After I started teaching at Arcadia, I thought about whether my habits resulted from a need to reinforce one of the star points. Perhaps I wanted to make myself feel more secure by surrounding myself with familiar objects. Maybe these objects reflect parts of my identity that I don’t want to lose as I age; after all, my heroes aren’t on Wheaties boxes anymore.
But I don’t just keep Wheaties boxes. I keep everything in boxes. Pieces of bark from hiking trips in Yosemite during high school. Grass blades, covered in blue paint, that I pulled from Cal’s Memorial Stadium after I ran down to the field following my first Golden Bears football victory. Dozens of haphazardly-shot pictures of squirrels…well, my family only owned disposable cameras, and I liked finishing off the last three pictures of a roll by taking pictures of squirrels. (I don’t know why; I was a little kid, and that’s probably an explanation in itself.)
The only photograph I have left of my aunt is in a box; I put it there after taking it out of my wallet, which I lost a week later. I have a box in a box; it was my big sister’s, and I coveted it because it had a picture of a treasure map on the box-top. The letters my high-school sweetheart wrote me, the mementos she gave me, the fragments of an old relationship, have all been collected in a Nike sneaker box and stored in a closet, just below the Gap box that houses the photos and concert tickets and memories from my current relationship. I even have a “student box”; it’s where I keep the cards and letters I’ve received since I started working at Arcadia.
But I’m missing a box, and its contents can’t be replaced. I’m missing a box I threw away after a relationship ended poorly. I kept everything in that box, but mainly letters, friendlier, handwritten ones. Three weeks after the relationship ended, I was in an awful mood, sitting alone in my room – and I suddenly stood, seized by an urge to purge, and began pulling everything that reminded me of my old relationship off the walls. After that was done, I went through my desk and removed all of the mementos. Finally, I picked up the box, took out the letters, tore them up, and threw them out, one after another. Then I took out the trash and threw the box in on top of them.
I still feel awful for throwing those letters away.
You may wonder why. They were just letters, after all – scraps of dead paper left over from a dead relationship. But they were more than that; every one was written happily, affectionately, genuinely. And I just threw them away like gum wrappers or old homework. No, worse – I tore them apart first.
It’s hard to explain to anyone who doesn’t love words, and I'm aware most of you don't. But you can probably understand if you've ever written someone something like that, something that meant something to you as you wrote it, something that expressed affection without the guard you usually raise and maintain around yourself. To have the recipient throw that away, to repay your honesty with indifference, to respond to your heartfelt words with heartless action, just seems wrong somehow, almost cruel.
I don't think of myself as a cruel person, but it’s not something I can undo, and the more I look back on it, the colder it seems. The very things I once collected so lovingly were the things I discarded in a heap. I keep everything, empty cereal boxes and blades of grass and pictures of squirrels, but I didn’t keep the pieces of paper that chronicled some of the happiest times in my life.
I resolved never to do something like that again after some time passed, and went back to saving everything. But that incident has nagged at me for a long time, even though I'm not sure it would have mattered to her at the time.
I'm a curious person by nature - the type of person who re-assesses his pack-rat tendencies in the context of his curricular framework. I enjoy thinking about the nature of love and how it affects human life.
The love I've received from others has allowed me to explore the world around me with open eyes, to dare to travel to new places and try new things, and to do what I enjoy doing most for a living. a great success. But love also provides me with a toxic sense of security, and allows me to take important things and people for granted. In some ways, I'm a better person when I'm more alone; in others, I require connections with other people in order to be at my best.
The more I think about it, the more I find that love lies at the root of my successes and my failures, my friendships and my hatreds, my moments of clarity and moments of confusion. Love drags the other points of the Star around with every shift, and it's the point I fear losing most.
That leaves me with the simplest, most difficult question around:
What has been the source of more greatness and failure than anything else?
How closely are they linked?
When I first began planning the curriculum for this class, I wanted to structure the schedule in a way that would allow me to seamlessly move from one thematic concern to another. I wanted to be able to cover little things (ambition, loyalty, etc.) here and there, but I also wanted to build some sort of framework – like an umbrella – that could connect everything that we read. That’s how I came up with the star; those five points were my way of connecting the works with one another.
I don’t know if any of you have found a “favorite” point on the star, but I’ve always had one, and I probably haven’t disguised it well. I am fascinated - fascinated - by the way love pops up in everything we’ve read. More importantly, love appears in a different guise in each story, and seems to have different effects whenever it appears. Love is the key to enlightenment and transcendence in Siddhartha; love keeps Neo going in the face of nearly impossible odds; love – or lack thereof – fills Beowulf with a terrible, powerful emptiness, as he dies childless after a life of earning the respect and love of others; and, finally, love appears in Macbeth as both twisted and pure, inspiring some to commit atrocities while giving others purpose.
In short, love affects people in different ways. It's undoubtedly one of humanity's greatest attributes, but it's unpredictable, almost indefinable.
It drove me to keep reminders of Shannon in a Gap box.
It drove Macbeth to kill a king.
How can one emotion do this to us?
Love is ever-changing, simultaneously useful and destructive. We crave love, yet sometimes cannot handle its demands; we seek love, yet sometimes lose our happiness. Love can make us do crazy things. (See: Macbeth.) Yet love, like faith, can often inspire us to do great things. In fact, there isn’t a lot that separates deep love from deep faith; after all, love requires deep, unwavering faith in another person!
Basically, love is versatile, and affects different people in different ways. But why? Why do we have our own unique, deeply personal perspectives on love? Why do we value love differently from one another?
It’s an interesting question to ponder. You can’t hold or measure “love” – it’s an abstract concept. Everyone knows what love is, and (at the same time) no one does. And this confusing, ever-changing thing helps shape the course of our art, societies, and lives.
When we’ve talked about friendship and family, many of you mentioned the need for companionship in terms of survival. Yet there seems to be something more than companionship at work when it comes to relationships, and it seems to transcend a simple urge to make sure the human race doesn’t die out.
There’s something about love – especially romantic love – that moves people. Friendship is all well and good, but it doesn’t seem to be enough to sustain us, at least not indefinitely. Otherwise, why would people ever enter into lasting relationships? They’re messy, and complicated, and difficult to sustain; for that matter, they also leave us vulnerable to deep, devastating pain, and the wounds a bad relationship leaves don’t scar easily (or painlessly).
Despite these inherent dangers – dangers we’re all aware of – we enter into relationships, and we fall in love. For that matter, we enter into long, committed friendships, which many of you know can hurt almost as badly when they crumble.
We know love can hurt us.
We know friendship can hurt us.
We know family can hurt us.
We know this because all of the above have hurt us before, and will hurt us again. Yet we seek these connections out, and we usually feel that these connections enhance our existence somehow. We feel somehow completed in the company of a loved one, even though we are formed as individual beings.
Aristophanes once tried to provide an explanation for this feeling, and for the existence of love itself. He postulated that ancient human bodies had two heads, four arms, and four legs. According to Aristophanes (and retold in “Hedwig and the Angry Inch”), our original design was cut in two after we angered the old gods. As a result, human beings are born both complete and incomplete; we exist on our own, yet long for a re-connection with our “other half.” Love results when sundered souls encounter one another again, capturing each other in a mutual orbit like unsteady satellites. Love therefore embodies the expression of this re-connection; theoretically, by searching for love, we are searching for completion, for enlightenment, for purpose.
It sounds crazy on the surface – human souls searching for the pieces they’ve always missed – but what better explanation could Aristophanes have composed? Really, we can explain love in terms of chemicals and learned behaviors – but isn’t Aristophanes’s explanation more reflective of the human spirit, ever-curious and eager to explain the unexplainable?
Love is an incredibly powerful force, affecting all our lives, but it’s also incredibly difficult to understand. Some will search their whole lives and never find it; others will find it, but fail to understand it. Love is the reason Macbeth is so tragic, Siddhartha so beautiful...and graduation day so bittersweet.
With love we'll succeed, and with love we will fail;
with love we'll be free, and with love we'll be tied;
with love we will give, and with love we will take;
with love we will dare, and with love we will fear;
with love we'll be lost, and we'll be lost without it...
But with love, we will live.
That's love's greatest quality, when everything's been said and done. It's the flawed, beautiful engine of existence, giving meaning to a flawed, beautiful species. It can inspire greatness or villainy, but it inspires.
We collect and befriend and memorize, trying to hold on to the sound of voices and the sight of places, keeping our friends and our Wheaties boxes close, our photographs, letters, and memories safe - because even when we know we'll let go someday, love makes holding on so sweet.
In the interest of attempting to understand love – and in the interest of pushing this semester toward a conclusion that celebrates one of humanity’s greatest qualities – I will ask you a couple of questions.
What do you think about Aristophanes’s explanation about love? If his explanation is unsatisfactory, how do you describe love, and how do you explain its existence? Is it just a matter of chemical interactions, or is there something greater at work? Why do we feel more complete when (one could argue) our independence has been compromised by our commitment to another person?
Why can love inspire us? Why can it drag us down? Is love more helpful than harmful, or vice versa?
What is it about love that allows us to drop our guard? Why are we willing to risk being hurt in order to enjoy a relationship that transcends friendship?
Is love the answer to the question we raised in the “Deal or No Deal” exercise (Options A and B with numbers) today – the factor that determines what, how, and why we take risks? Is it the key to our survival as human beings, key to the development of civilizations, key to the advancement of our species? Is love the most important point on the Star, or is there another you still feel takes precedence?
Finally, why do we dare to love? What is it about love that isn’t satisfied by friendship, or by any other type of connection in the world? Why is love something that human beings long for – and why do we long for love in a way that’s entirely different from our other desires and ambitions?
This post is due at 11:59pm on Thursday, January 15th. As per the usual, you can respond to a (or a few) question(s) from the end of the post here, or you can write a more general response to the whole thing. Your post should be at least two seven-sentence paragraphs long, and punctuation, grammar, and mechanics all count towards your grade. Compose your replies carefully, and always remember to state the why for every what!
You are also required to write a four-sentence (minimum) response to at least two other posts. (Your post will not be graded unless you provide feedback!) Make sure the response is a legitimate continuation of the discussion the poster has started with his/her comment! Remember, agreement is not required – I want you to have real conversations with your classmates.
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I’ve often thought of the word love and what it really means. I’ve asked myself many times already what love really is and I guess I’m not the only one who has pondered about this. Is there a real definition for love? Do we all agree with that definition? Everyone has their own perspective on what love is and many underestimates what love can cause one to do. People don’t usually stop to think about the reason for every action they make but none the less there is reasoning behind everything that someone does. Depending on someone’s experience with love, people think of it differently from one another. Some people have had great experiences with love while others, not so great of experiences with it. Can we predict what love will cause us to do? No, we can’t because love can cause us to do too many different things that it just seems endless if you really think about it. It’s amazing what someone would do for love. This might make me sound emo but oh wells! So, I have asked myself if someone told me that I had to choose to either let one of my family members die or die in place of them instead, which I would do and truthfully I would rather die in place of them. It’s a hard choice but at the same time such an easy choice. It’s not that I don’t cherish my life, I love my life and every moment of it and I have so many goals that I aim to achieve and so many things I wish to do. But the love I have for my family is so strong that I am willing to give up all the great things in life for them to have it instead. It’s the same as when someone asks “would you take a bullet for…” whoever it may be. Then you ask yourself and you think about it. What you’re really questioning is, do you love them enough to die for them? Crazy how strong love is, isn’t it?
Right after reading this post I went to dictionary.com and searched up the definition of love. There are twenty eight results. I read through every single one of them and put them all together yet, I’m not satisfied with any or even all of the definitions. Love is an extremely deep word, a word that I feel I understand so well yet know nothing of it. Words don’t seem to be enough to tell what love really is, it’s through experience that we know. I think that too many people overuse the word love and they don’t realize how strong of a word it really is. Many people sort of just let it slide out and I think that its worthy of much more than just an ordinary word. It’s as if this word itself has its own life. We know that love can cause us pain yet we desire it all the same. It makes us so vulnerable but that doesn’t seem to matter because it’s a feeling that is greater than all else. Love is so great yet so horrible at the same time. The things it drives us to do (good or bad), the feelings it give us, and the force it puts forth that impact the ways we live our lives. Love can do too many things to someone’s life but it all really comes down to each individual, their intake on love and the way it impacts their lives. Many will be driven and inspired to do things because of love while others will be scarred from it and not want to risk getting hurt once again.
I know, it's sort of early to be posting this already but this topic is something I've often thought about so I couldn't wait to do this! There's so much more I wish I could say but I don't really have the words to say it so this will do.
Ok, I have to post some quotes. Like your collecting thing Mr. Feraco, I like to save quotes! Here are some that I have saved that relate to this blog.
"Love is un-explainable. If you can explain it, you haven't experienced it."
If you agree, try to explain it. Maybe you can but I know I can't.
"Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you."
"Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle but rather, a great reminder of just how strong true love can be."
"The only people that could hurt you are the ones that you love, because if it wasn't love, you wouldn't care."
Ok, I'll stop now.
Dude Ashley ! Your quotes are super cute, especially this one:
"Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you."
I would just like to say, I collect quotes too ! In my old room, i decorated the walls with quotes, I filled like most every wall with them. Now, I seriously have at least 50 quotes stored in my phone that i just stick in there whenever i hear one that I like. I even have a computer post it filled with quotes.
YAY FOR QUOTES !!
Ashley, this just totally reminds me of our random catching up conversations... but seirously though, people do, do crazy things for love. I can't believe what girls and guys put themselves through just for "love" I mean, we really are just teenagers we have more than 60 more years to live HOPEFULLY! why put oursleves in commiting relationships with immature boys when we know that divorce rates are sky rocketing. We probably won't even marry them anyway~ i sound like i "love" hater... dont get me wrong i support ALL love, but soemtimes it just gets way too overrated
haha and you've always had the best quotes since eighth grade but i really liked the first one. if you cant explain it then you havent experienced it" i guess that could go both ways tho, maybe there aren't words to desribe how you feel but maybe that's just an excuse... who knows! anyway good job Ashleeeeey!
I totally understand what you say about that everyone might have a different definition or explanation for love, and that love might not be the same way for everyone. Also that love is unpredictable. And ah!!! Totally agree that people just use it randomly and without the understanding of the deepness of the word. And loved the quotes as well J
We like someone for the skills we admire, but we love someone for their mistakes.
First of all, I absolutely love your quotes!! It’s so cute! Anyways, I agree with you that everyone has their own perspective on what “love” is. This is probably because everyone has probably experienced it differently so they develop their own definition. I also agree with you about how there’s a reason behind everything that people do. It’s true, because I don’t see why anyone can do something without a reason.
I would die in my family member’s place, too. I would die for them because I love them enough to sacrifice my own life. Since the word love means differently to everyone, nobody could ever define it. For me, love is a word that I cannot describe with words and if I really need to define it in words, I could never get to the point where I think how love should be defined. Sometimes people say love but it really is not love because love is a strong word that cannot be use to describe many situations.
HEY! I did the same thing before! I went on dictionary.com trying to find a way to define love because I couldn't really do it on my own. I don't think that love will ever be satisfied through a simple string of words. And about people over using the word love, I agree but I can also see it through their perspective. I think that some people honestly think they're in love even after a mere week. Though I think to myself "are you kidding me" all the time, as you said before love is different to everyone. So some people really think they're in love and they constantly use the word which gets annoying but it's okay.
Ashley, I loved your post! I agree with your view on love because even though dictionary.com might have twenty eight different results, love cannot be defined. Love is harmful and amazing at the same time, which makes it inexplainable. I love your quote about how if you can explain love, you have not experienced it. (So true!) That quote also goes along with how people throw the word "love" around carelessly because they do not fully understand its meaning.
WOW, yeah ashley i agreee with you 100%. i understand, too that people are crazy, and they will do absolutely anything for love. i wrote in my post that people act like this because they dont want anything to go wrong with the relationship. they dont want anything to change so they feel that they have to do everything in their power to keep it the way it is. i think it is only like this in like, the boyfriend/girlfriend relationships though. i think with family type relationships, its completely different, and that people do things because of love, and because they truly care for them.
I REALLY LIKE YOUR QUOTES. They truly reflect on how we feel towards love. I like the one about completion between the two. Honestly, no one is perfect in this world, but we just have to get along with each other.
i totally agree with you on the fact that love is responsible for senseless action. Everyone has the control over his/her action. And that person must not blame it on love, or else it would be selfish. In the end, love is a great, wonderful thing which shouldn't be blamed for stupid, senseless action.
GOOD GAME TODAY~!!!!
I believe love is more helpful then harmful, because love can give us this warm happy feeling. With this feeling it can make us feel wanted in someone’s life. At the same time love can drag us down; by getting hurt from someone we love the most. Love can make us feel heavyhearted and also it can make us feel joyful. Some people are willing to risk being hurt in order to enjoy a relationship, because love is a feeling that we can feel special and a chance to feel important. Many people find that love is great trait to live for. Love can inspire us in numerous ways. Like helping us do well in our life, or it can let us have a great time of our live. Love can inspire us by letting us feel this wonderful feeling and let us express it to others. I believe everyone should experience love, because love is a passion.
Many people let love drop their guard down because they are willing to risk anything to feel love. Human beings dare to love because we are willing to take the risk. Compare to other, I think love is the most unique trait. Other traits have only one meaning, but love has more than one meaning. Everyone have their own definition to love. Love is something we human beings long for. Most people want to have someone that will love us back, because some people love to have this feeling, and will give up anything to have this feeling in there life. I believe love is the most important point on the star, because I think love is the trait that holds everything together. Without love there won’t be any other traits. I think love is the key to hold the star together.
I agree with you that love has more meaning than the other traits do. The other traits may have other meaning, but each meaning that is in “love” is highlighted in everyone’s life. I also agree that love holds everything together. It is like a Rubics Cube; it (star) would fall apart with one piece (love) missing.
"Some people are willing to risk being hurt in order to enjoy a relationship, because love is a feeling that we can feel special and a chance to feel important." That's exactly why I open my heart; to feel something important. I agree that love inspires us to do things we never did before. Just having love seems to make the world go around. Now that I see it, love does hold the star together. The basis of the star seems to arise from love because with love, we can arrive at all points of the stars.
I think you are very smart and have all the answers to your questions buried inside yourself. I also agree with you that love is the key to obtaining and drawing in the 5 points of the star. To bring in any of those 5 things means to have a love for each of them. To find your identity you must love and accept all aspects of your life, to be and feel secure you must love the work and effort you have to put in to gain that feeling, to be enlightentened you have to love seeking out the answers to your most important questions, and for independence you have to love and understand that your thoughts and time alone is important, but also that being with others is to. And for love you have to love all of the others and when their are complete you can work on finding that special person. take care
I don't believe that love makes us feel important, or that people seek love to feel important. I do agree that people seek it for that warm happy feeling. You're right about the heavyhearted thing. I've felt that before. I also think love can make you very vulnerable.
I agree with you that love can be both helpful and harmful. The fact that it can be both is what makes it so interesting. If love was alwys good or wlays bad then how would you be able to tell if you really loved someone?
In my own world of love, I think love is a neutral feeling. It can be harmful and helpful at the same time. Love is a feeling that cannot be expressed through words, it’s something you can’t touch, but to experience and feel it by yourself inside your heart. People around the world have different expression about love, it might be good and it might be bad, depending on you. To me, love is a strong compassionate feeling, it’s very magical, and love is very precious. Love is very strong; it can change a person’s lives totally, also it’s a feeling where everyone wants; because of having love we are scared of losing it. We will want to protect this love for a life time. Love is not like chocolates where we can buy or sell. It comes out from our true heart so there’s no way of trading it just like there’s no way of trading our heart. If there’s a way of buying love, then I would’ve use anything I have to buy that love, even if I end up homeless, but I know for sure that love is priceless. There’s a saying that the more we love the more we hate. Love can hurt sometimes just like how truth hurts. Just like when we love something so much but when the moment we lose it, it’s really heartbreaking. If you love someone so much, but in return that person don’t love you, then you’ll feel really hurt and some people will end up hating. Even though I know the consequences of love where sometimes it’s sweet but on the other hand one can also fall apart, I still choose to love.
There are some people where they are not daring to love because they are scared of being hurt. Some just can’t open their heart to accept love because they know the consequences in the future of loosing love. For me, I open my heart to accept love and give out love. Even though I know the bad side of loving, maybe one day I will collapse of loosing love, but I still want to love. I’m ready to face whatever that is coming up; I think it’s an opportunity for me to experience life. I wanted to face the real thing, being true to myself, not lying or hiding myself up. We only have one lifetime, so why don’t we use this precious life to feel love or give love? Being in love is a very beautiful thing, feeling sweet and romantic no matter if its family love, friendship, or relationship. I would give up anything for love because I think love can overcome many things and love is just so precious, we should cherish every love we have now. Love is just too wonderful to express through words, without it there would be no point of living, everything is being held up by love, nothing is possible without it. Maybe one day I will end up heartbroken but I will still be satisfied because at least I tried to love and have loved, I wouldn’t have anymore regrets because at least I tried to get the love I wanted. I would definitely risk anything for love because love to me is very important; there is no point of me living in this world without love. Without it, I would feel I’m living in a dark hole where there would never have sunlight.
-Serina Yee (Period 6)
I really liked your explanation about love, I wasn’t expecting someone to define it as a neutral feeling but I really liked the way you described it. I liked when you said that we can’t buy love like chocolates, it comes from the deep hearth and when we less expect it.
“We only have one lifetime, so why don’t we use this precious life to feel love or give love?” I loved that quote and I totally agree with you, life is to be lived.
I also agree on that you can only experience love by yourself and not any other way. I am sure that there are books and movies related to the topic, but you cannot really learn it without actually going through. Once you taste the sweet, you would never want to taste the bitter and same thing for love. When you are in love, you are enjoying it but also you are afraid of losing it. No matter if its love toward person, hobby, or other things, it is very heartbreaking when you no longer have the love. As Serina said, “we should cherish every love we have now” because you will never know when it be gone.
I agree that love cannot be described with words; it is a feeling that people have to experience themselves. Love is so powerful that it could have an impact on a person completely. I think love is one main reason that let us live and cherish our lives; it could also be a reason for us to die. Love could lead you to do a lot of things that you never thought you would do before. It is harmful but helpful at the same time and it is also addictive.
That is true. Everyone wants to protect themselves away from the hurt, but that is not help. Heartbroken isn't the scary thing, the scary thing is we loose ourselves. I don't hide myself back too. You are a brave girl. But is there only reason we living in this world just because love?
Although love is an important element to human beings, it can sometime be harmful. We often hear relationship tragic in news, a guy killing his girlfriend because they break-up. Before they break-up, they were in deep love with each other; however, something chaotic happened and changed their relationship. Handing love with out care can be dangerous. People go crazy and kill each other because of love. On the other hand, love can also be helpful. Patient in hospital who has major disease requires love. Caring about people who are suffering from illness can be very warm-hearted. With kindness, patient will recover faster and fell that there are people who care for them. I think love is necessary to me. Without out it, my life will be like a black and white TV, dull and colorless. Love not only allows me to have relationship, but also consider in others. Love can bring us joy and happiness. All in all, care and love can be more helpful than harmful if people handle it with caution.
Love is very inspirational because it makes people feel important. Like other element, love is a very strange feeling. People tend to get lost and frustrated in love. It is not always smooth in a relationship. Just like wave, it moves up and down. In addition, we are able to risk everything just for a simple relationship because the feeling is just great. It cannot be described by words, only through own experience. Different people might have different opinion on love, and I would try my best to strike for love. Back to the question in class the other day, if I never try how would I know the result? One thing I know for sure is that love is not always full of happiness, and I will definitely get hurt by it. It is almost impossible to have a forever relationship, but I am still willing to risk everything just for the shot of that one unforgettable experience.
Love is definetly scarey. All the stories that are on the news and stuff like that involving tragic deaths and what not are really sad. You see a happy couple in love one day, and the next they are both dead. It's weird and sad but hopefully we don't find ourselves with a partner that would be chaotic. It's really weird to see someone go crazy on the person they love. If things don't work out and they decide to go kill the person, it's just horrible and makes no sence.
I think you are right about how love is very harmful, because alot of people hurt each other even though they love each other. This sound ridiculous because we are supposed to be smart and rational human being, but we often become irrational when our emtions start to take over us.
Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person and a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Sometimes love does harmful but it’s the way how life is. Without love, life will be nothing. Love not only allows having relationships but also considering others. I agree with you that care and love can be more helpful than harmful if people handle it with caution.
It is true that love can have both positive and negative affects on people's live. Without understanding love, one might lead people to failure. Love can be expressed as a kind of caring for others. A person's life would be dull if there is no love, so love is as if the basics of life.
Aristophanes’ explanation about love is sort of romantic. It can be interpreted in the way that we are born with the other half somewhere in this world and that person is our true love. You and your loved one are born to be together and you will meet each other at some point in your life. However, the reality is not that romantic. I always wonder that how can a person find someone else to replace the one he/she used to love. You may say that it is not easy to find your true love and people make mistakes, but sometimes I just do not understand it. For example, a man loves his wife so much and he is sure that his wife is his soul mate, but unfortunately, his wife dies in an accident. He is sad for a long time and one day he meets another woman and then he falls in love with her the same way he did with his deceased wife. He is supposed to move on, but that suggests that love has nothing to do with fate.
What is love? I do not know what it is but I know it is confusing. People say that you do not need a reason to love. I love my parents. They are my family and they are the ones that will never hurt me on purpose and I can trust them. Is that the reason why I love them? I would not know them if they are not my parents and would not love them, either. However, I would hate myself if I say I love my parents because I need them, and that should be called love in the first place. It is hard to explain what love is. Love between families can be the product of time since we spend so much time together and we do things for each other. The romantic love can be explained in the same way then. If two persons can spend time together, talking, doing things they like, they can love each other. Since most people get married, it becomes a tradition and most people try to image their future spouse and at the same time our brain send out a signal to our unconsciousness. When they meet the right persons, they fall in love. Maybe I am wrong, but it is okay.
I agree with you that people do not need a reason to love. Love is not a very logical feeling. It can’t be explained. Sometimes, you can’t even explain it to yourself why you are in love with that person. If someone asks you to list ten things you love about your lover, you might not be able to give all ten things. You love the person because you do. The connection between you and your lover is a mystery. In that sense, love is more than a feeling that can literally take over one’s life.
I agree with you, we can never change our fate by loving. It is really difficult to explain what love is. Yes, the love has reason. We love our families because we need them and by staying with them for such a long time, it is a habit to stay with them. So we love them by staying and know them. We love our friends because we usually talk with each other. Actually I am confusing about love, too. Sometimes, we can just feel something that we love, but if we lose it, we can forget it after a long time. I don’t think you are wrong because what you said is just what I thought. Your analysis is very comprehensive.
Love is one of the topics I'm most confused about. I've thought about what love is a couple of times before in my life and finally I can post what I know on the blog. Love is the greatest source of strength to me. It brings me risk and also reward. A month ago, I risked my heart AGAIN but this time I got a good response. I got a reward. This reward made my day so much better and gave me strength because I knew that I wouldn't be lonely. Although love is a source of greatness to me, hate is too. When I'm emo I come up with so many ideas on whatever I'm working on because I hate something so much that my mind blocks it out, making me turn out better work and the creative juices.
For the five point me star, love is still the farthest point to me and seems like it will always be the farthest. My favorite point would be enlightenment because I like learning about more things. Well back to love, even if I feel like I have love, the feeling of losing it is always in the back of my head. I think I said it before but I think love is like a double-edged sword. It can make us feel like we're on cloud nine or we're in hell. I think love can do this because we open our hearts to see what will happen and also we realize that we are vulnerable to heartbreak. When the right thing happens, its like adding oil to the good fire.
Aristophanes’ explanation seems very weird at first and I don't know if I FULLY agree with it, but I somewhat agree with it. Love to me is opening our hearts and letting the right one in. They can make us happy but sad too which is a part of love. Aristophanes’ explanation explains why love makes us more complete and to me, it adds a sense of accomplishment. You have someone to spend your life with and have someone in common that will share the same happiness that they have for one another. This happiness inspires us to do greater things. We have a sense of nonfailure and can take risks to do things we want to do. Although these seem like great things, they are not key to survival BECUASE we will always have love. Love doesn't apply to people, it applies to objects, animals, emotions; there is a wide range to fall on.
"I think love can do this because we open our hearts to see what will happen and also we realize that we are vulnerable to heartbreak. When the right thing happens, its like adding oil to the good fire."
I really enjoyed that quote. It shows alot about your perspective on love and loving. What I don't quite understand, however, is when you say that "love doesn't apply to people, it applies to objects, animals...". I don't really understand what you mean? I agree that love is... somewhat maybe imperative to some extent, and in my life it's what gets me through the day to get up every morning and do it all over again. I guess what I'm asking is what exactly do you mean by "love doesn't apply to people"?
Thanks Lisa! By saying love doesn't apple to people, I mean people show love towards animals (like dogs are a man's best friend), food (like I love pizza), etc. There is an extent but no matter how you look at it, it is still a form of love. Got it? :]
OH MY GOD!!!! I knew the love blog was going to be the last one!!
Messing around with words,
Lost in my thoughts.
Wondering about the meaning of love,
Could there be something beyond?
I can’t figure out a way to start this blog, there is so much to be said and too much to take it out at once. I live to love, and I love living. But I know that without love I would have not lived. Love gave me the best year of my life (I know I’m only 17 but who cares) and also gave me the saddest one. Love changed me totally in a positive way, I still conserve what I learned while loving and I also conserve what I learned when I lost it. Even though I felt really bad when I lost her, I would have not changed any second I spent with that girl for anything, I know that even what I suffered when I had to let her go, was worth it. Love drove me to write a lot, I even wrote poetry. It drove me to try new things and to better myself, while I was in love with that girl I know I grew a lot more mature than I used to be and learned to appreciate life in a different way. I decided to live every day of my life as it were to be the last one; I didn’t keep bad feelings inside of me, and everything I thought about someone I told them (not bad things though, I just forgot about those). I realized that living like that brought me a lot of new friends and I lived totally happy and relaxed. I felt that I had no reason to “hide” who I was and I even learned a lot about myself. I was totally happy with who I was and I felt that I could have done anything I wanted. I kept the tickets of the movies we went to watch and the ones of the parks we went. I still have them along with the things I wrote her. Even though I know that those things are only material and that not because of conserving them I would remember her more or less, I keep them as an additional bit of memory.
Love totally pulled out my human potential.
I do understand the theory of Aristophanes, I think it’s somewhat accurate about that we look for our other half. But I don’t think that there is only one other person with the one we could spend the rest of our lives together (I don’t mean that we can have many girl/boyfriends at the same time), just that sometimes it is not the time for us to meet that person, and if we do, it’s ok to let them go because it’s not the right time. I think there are many special persons in the world with the ones we might click, but once we find one of them, we have eyes only for that person.
I believe that love is powerful, and I know that as it can bring us to “glory” it may also bring us to misery. However, people learn when they fall down and stand up again. And life is about experiences. I love being in love, but (in a really weird way) I am happy that it ended so I can find it again. I am willing to find love again, or I might better say, to wait till it finds me. I know you can’t push love and I know that when the time is right for me to feel it again, it will come on its own.
Love is about trust; you cannot love if you don’t trust that person. And therefore u lay your guard down. I think of the hearth like a flower (a really weird flower). On the outside lawyer, its made out of metal and its hard, no one might enter if its not allowed. As the lawyers come more to the center, they start to become softer and more sensible. If u want to feel how it feels to be touched on the deepest lawyer you have to let that person pass, and of course that leaves you vulnerable, and as it is more sensible, a “hit” may hurt you a lot more than a hit received on the outer lawyers. Yet wounds heal, and memories last forever.
I do think love is like the question of deal or no deal, you might get a 10 or end up at 0, or even might get a 10 and afterward end up with a 0, but again, I think life is about experiences and I think that feeling love and feeling deception is better than not feeling anything at all, I am happy to say that I have experienced both and that I am still at my feet, waiting for my next experience. We also dare to love because we always want more. We do appreciate friendship and we think of it as something great, but we want everything and we are willing to risk it all to get it all, we are gamblers for nature and we love the risk as well. Just by the simple reason that nobody is pushing us to love, if we want to, we do it, and we know the consequences. We want love because it provides us with a sense of security and stability, a sense of freedom by being just the way we are even though if that means only having one person.
Live with open hearths guys.
"I believe that love is powerful, and I know that as it can bring us to “glory” it may also bring us to misery. " I completely agree. Though loves brings us to our highest it can shoot us back down to our lowest, it brings grace and grief sometimes all in the same day. Love is SO powerful! Sometimes I don't realize how much some people's simple actions that are filled with genuine love and care affects me. I'm glad that you've gone through alot but seek to continue to go for more, because love is THAT worth it. "sense of freedom by being just the way we are even though if that means only having one person. " Agreed, :] that is very insightful.
Yeah it is much better to experience love then to not at all. Without love then we will live life without passion and time passes by because you are afraid to take a risk. Well life is about risk; you have to give a little to get something. Even if the outcome may be bad, it is still better to experience love then to not love at all.
Victor, I also agree that love is about trust. Without trust, a relationship cannot build and grow. When people guard their heart, they just need to find the right person to get to the center of their "layers" like you mentioned. I also really like how you said that love brought out your potential. That's so true because I think love fuels our actions.
Victor! You should keep your other little you talking away from this blog. haha You should not start sentences with But's either! Also you should use less contractions!
What a way to relate to human potential！Your words sound like your writing from the heart. I did not know you had it in you. The part where you said you are happy love ended so you can find another love makes somewhat sense and is truth that not a lot of people have the guts to admit. For most parts I do agree that wounds heel even though it is one that may scar you for life. It can impact you greatly.
I’m not exactly sure what love really is, but I think we can all agree that love is ambiguous. For me, I feel more complete when my independence has been compromised because, I need to be dependent on someone. Honestly, I have been in 3 relationships during high school. However, I found that once one relationship ended, I looked for another one as a replacement—to complete myself. I felt so lonely and vulnerable, that I felt it wasn’t just whether I WANTED to be in a relationship or not, it was that I NEEDED to be in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 21 months now, and I must say that I am extremely dependent on him. He calls me at the same time everyday, I talk to him every night before I sleep, I talk to him throughout the day, and I see him on weekends. It’s always the same thing. Though I am not as independent as most people, I wouldn’t have it any other way because, well, I love the relationship I am in.
We dare to love because we want to feel complete. We want to be able to experience the 4 letter word that everyone always talks about. It seems that in superficial movies and books, love is always accompanied by happiness. I think that for me, I dare to love because I trust the person I am in a relationship with. I trust that he will not hurt me, at least not intentionally, and that he really does love me for who I am. Love is an extra step above friendship, and sometimes I feel like people do it just for the sexual aspects of love. However, my definition of love is so much more. Love is being able to give yourself to someone, whole heartedly. In obtaining love, you shouldn’t have to pretend to be something you’re not. You shouldn’t have to because if it really were love, you would learn to look at an imperfect person, perfectly.
I really like what you said about you needing/wanting to have a boyfriend. I tottaly agree, it's so true that once we breakup with someone we are on the quick to search for someone new. That's really cool about your almost 2 years with your boyfriend. I'm in a situation similar to that and things are also repetitive and i'm really happy about mine too! Love is something so amazing and when someone has it, life is amazing as well.
I loved what you said about being yourself and not pretending to be someone else. “If it really were love, you would learn to look at an imperfect person, perfectly.” This summer, I had some major “boy problem”. I had a crush, well, it was more like a summer fling. Anyways, my crush and I were SO different. We had like no common interest. we had fun hanging out though. but since we didn’t talk very much, i felt so distant. As much as I liked him, I tried very hard to get to know him. I had to think for hours before I talk to him. Sometimes, I just wanted to be someone else. However, I realized everything I went through was not worth it in the end. If we were meant to be, I wouldn’t have to try to change myself for him. To complete myself, I was looking for someone who would love me for who I am. But I ended up liking someone who didn’t really appreciate me. Love is not for encourging one to be someone else. Love is for helping one to find a big missing piece of their life.
Love is completely ambiguous to me too. There isn't one easy way to define it. Is it simple? Is it complicated? Both? Love really does push us along the road to happiness.
"In obtaining love, you shouldn’t have to pretend to be something you’re not. You shouldn’t have to because if it really were love, you would learn to look at an imperfect person, perfectly."
-I feel like I could have written that line. Beautiful!
I have always felt incomplete without someone to love too. Its something about the fear of being alone mixed with the longing to be with someone who understands you and completes you. There will always be someone out there. It just depends on how hard you have to look.
Love is a very strong and important thing in life. When it comes to having love from family, friends or a loved one. It's what helps us and motivate us for a lot of things. I personally think love is one of the most important things in life to feel complete and happy. Even though at times love has a huge impact as to why people struggle at times. I know for myself that I have been dragged down a lot of times because of love but at the end of the day it is usually resolved and back to inspiring us. It is so much more helpful then harmful because without love what is their? Most people feel very lonely without having love around them. Mostly everyone wants to get married and when you see a 40 year old single person, I am sure they are lonely and probably wanting a loved one with them. Love is also a reason as to why people do the things they do, for example Macbeth kills Duncan mainly for his wife because he truely loves her and wants her to be happy. I'm sure if Lady Macbeth wasn't on him before the murder, the death would have not occured. Having a loving family, friends and a loved one will probably make a person really enjoy and be happy about themselves for the future. For me, I am so happy with the loving surrounding I have and even though love drags me down at times, he inspires me a lot more of the time. Yes it may be harmful as well because you can set your self for failure at times but if you never try, you will never know. Overall, love is important and very strongly used.
I think we are willing to risk being hurt in order to enjoy a relationship because everyone wants to have that special someone to make them happy and spend their life with. I know quite a few people that are either married or in a commited relationship and even though they have all had their problems and been hurt through the relationship, at the end of the day they are so blessed to have their special someone. It's hard to meet someone you can or want to spend your entire life with but a lot of people are willing to risk their emotions in order to reach their goal. Their goal, to meet a special person they can spend all their precious memories with, to laugh with and to enjoy life with. When they turn 90 and are both sitting on their rocking chairs, they will look back on life and they will probably break a tear because they are so thankful to have met such a person. I think their is a quote that is "Love is Pain, but Pain is Love". Even though high school relationships are not to realistic and strong compared to a relationship between people in their 20's, I have been through a few and even though they are stupid little crushes, I have been hurt. When it comes to hearing stuff, a breakup or even having to break up with someone. It's tough but it's something that everyone probably expirences. I am willing to risk being hurt because I want to expirence and hopefully really try to make a relationship work. I don't understand though when people get with someone with such a bad reputaiong, like cheating or just not known for treating someone right. That's obviously something I won't ever know but that is something that goes through my head a lot because they are pretty much seeting their self up to get hurt.
I agree with you Ann Marie. I believe that love is also very important. It does inspire people to do things that they normally would not do. People do look for someone to spend the rest of their lives with, I know that I am going to want that person, and not a lonely unloved 40 year old.
Ann i agree with you when ever i see someon old whos never been married i feel so sad for them, because i think love is very important. I think having a loved one keeps people going because if they have had a bad day when they go home they can have something to look forward too. Having love motivates people to do things because they do not want to dissapoint the people they love.
Love is of course very important. It is what drives many people to actually keep on going through life. I know that love also helps inspire people to do great things.
I agree with you that you think love is important, I think everyone should and eventually will experience it throughout their lives. I think that once people fall in it, they will be able to see the important things in life and what matters and what doesn’t. That’s just what I think. We are putting ourselves in a position to be hurt when we TRY to find someone we love, but when you finally do its worth it.
"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaking suspicion..."
-Hugh Grant, Love Actually
I realize that the thing that lifts you up the highest can take you down to your lowest points, the one feeling that encompasses society's search for the better of human kind is the one emotion that can raise a white flag to the search. Coup de Grâce. I feel as if I'm sort of asked to define love but I can't. It's one of those things, like my "guarding your heart" lesson, something we all must experience ourselves. Love doesn't know its own depth until its hour of separation, I mean if you think about the adage, "You don't know what you have until you've lost it" then it really applies. Well same goes for love, I like to think that if you're not ready to see your significant other with someone else, you're not ready to not be with him/her. Love is easy to spell yet SO hard to define. Four simple letters that shake the world. What to do with it... what to do.
There's this stage in life we go through... it's confusing. It's happy and sad. It's awkward -it's relationships. When we hear "love" we tend to think of our prospective significant others and yet, I can't help but thinking of my love for God. I know, and by no means intend on offending anyone with my constant religious talk, but it's true. My father left before I was born and I told myself that I didn't need a dad. I took that empty hole in my heart and covered it up with the love of my mother, my brother, dog, friends, and cousins. When my brother was emotionally taken away from me and my cousin passed away, I was left with an awkward conversation with my mom and a persistent silence from my dog. I didn't know what to do with that hole in my heart so I told myself that I didn't need the love of a father, only to realize that God created us to be loved by both a mother and a father. So when I look back at that empty spot, I realize that covering it only hides my pain, covering up a hole does not fill that hole in -underneath its covers is the same dark, cold emptiness that will never disappear... but that's okay! I love love. I love loving. When we were asked which was easier to do, love or hate? LOVE. It's hard to explain and I don't truly intend on attempting to do so, and why people insist on hating more than loving? Well, that's beyond me. All I know is that ... if you really, really look for it "love actually is... all around."
Lisa, I love Love Actually to the max--I watched that movie like six times already and I'm glad you used that as a reference. I fully agree with you that loving is just so much easier than "hating". Hate just drains your system out; the feelings you get and the spirit that you embody when you have so much hatred inside are just so ...exhausting and terrible (sorry, I don't really know how else to put it). I'm glad that you've accepted your situation and that you're able to love love! Love really does make the world go round.
It is much easier to love since hate takes so much effort. Hating is only easy to start out, but hard to endure. You always feel heavy and sad, leaving you nothing to live for. While love only gives us something to look forward for and always make us feel needed. Having love in our life keeps us happy, so I agree that it is important to love loving.
I believe love is a thing that is impossible to fully understand. I do not feel It is an emotion or feeling because feelings come and go. The love for another person with always stay the same. The best way to describe love is an unconnectedly strong bond you share with another person. You can not picture your life without them. I have to admit I do not know a whole lot of the factors of love yet but I know my emotions and how I feel. In a relationship; love is the feeling of butterflies when that person walks in the room. The feeling that they might be the one to change your life. I know love exists because I have it. I have the love for my family and in return. I love my close friends; the ones that have my back when I feel alone on the sidewalk. Love is like a Plain White T’s song; “1 2 3 4”. The song is simple, to the point and very catchy. “Make it feel good when I hurt so bad, Barely gettin' mad, I'm so glad I found you; I love bein' around you. You make it easy, it's easy as…..There's only 1 thing 2 do 3 words 4 you- (I love you) I love you. There's only 1 way 2 say those 3 words and that's what I'll do….I love you”. The person you love acts as a support system and dependable but you must not be dependent; stand tall and they will be right next to you.
When people really love each other and share into a commitment they make compromises for each other; this is the simplest definitions for marriage. According to Mr. Nowa, “The day a man realizes he is getting married is the day he realizes he has two dollars in his pocket”. You sacrifice everything for your loved one. Marriage is a wonderful and beautiful thing to check off your things to do before death list but only when you are in love (obviously) and financially stable. In high school word gets around quick. Who’s dating who; who dumped who and who wants to date who. Basically I’m trying to say people are rushing into situations that feel like love when they are indeed “lust”. I have girlfriends that are obsessed with their boyfriends and think they have found the love of their life in two months. Yes I do believe in love at first sight but I feel you need to wait to experience all of it’s givens. Love can drag us down by being miss represented. Say you have a child, do not feel obligated to say with they just because your love of the child.
I think love is more helpful. Some people do not know how it feels to be in love or be loved. Their parents do not say it nor be affectionate but this does not mean their parents do not love them. They end up searching for love in all the wrong places and becoming distant with the people that do love them. This is one way love can drag you down but I do agree it is more helpful. I think being in love makes a person drop all guards because the trust barrier is strong.
I would have rather known love than to not have loved at all. When you find that perfect person who truly “get’s you” and they are suddenly gone, I would rather have the memories of meeting them and having their love than to wish the day I met them. We dare to love because it is how we are programmed. Everyone is searching someone who makes feel them whole. Penguins search their whole lives to find the right match, then in the first minute they know if they are going to spend the rest of their life with each other. We are all looking for our penguin mate.
I agree totally! When you said that some parents say "I love you" to their kids, that doesn't mean that they aren't affectionate towards them. I would have to agree with that because my parents don't say that to me or to my bro and sisters. But I know they love me though! I like when you wrote about the quote about Mr. Nowa. It's so true and its sweet too =D.
Michelle I love how you put that song to support it. It makes perfect sense to what you are saying. Also that is a good similarity with the penguins. I agree with the people in highschool and mixing their feelings of love and lust. I also agree with love being more helpful.
I also like to collect things; or I would say, to keep everything that has some kind of memory that comes to my mind when I just see/look at it. It does also drive my mom crazy, but this school year, around December when I was cleaning my room, she admitted or noticed that she does the same thing. She told me that might be the reason we have so many things in our house, and same with my room. Just like Mr. Feraco, I have kept notes and cards from people, little things such as name tags, balloons,(don’t ask me why) even tags from new shirts/jackets/jeans..etc. To be honest, I think I keep too much things, even clothes and stuffed animals from when I was little. But, I am working on trying to not keep so many things, so I can actually clean my room better.
Love is in every relationship. I believe that it is that way because God has made the world with love. He made everything with love, and so without love, he couldn’t have created what we are, and what we have now (nature, people, relationships, things). Also, I believe that because Jesus died for our sins, with love, we are able to love each other, and is why love inspires us, and drag us down. Without love, no one would care about each other, and no one would probably care about anything, essentially. Love is what connects us all together and makes the world, THE world.
I cannot find a reason why love allows us to drop our guard or why we are willing to risk being hurt for love. I think love is just too vague to understand, and have to experience to understand it. But even if you experience it, it is still hard to explain. It is not a concrete word; it just floats there, vaguely. However if there IS really a reason why we become weak with love, I would like to know; I would love to find out.
"Love is what connects us all together and makes the world, THE world. "
I really like that line. It's a bit ironic how love is so vague, yet it connects all of us together and makes it possible for the human race to survive. It's just that powerful, I guess. It has been said many times before, that love is just something a person has to experience in life, even if it means having your heart broken. But that's the thing, love is something worth fighting for because life would be void without it. As you said, if there is no love no one would essentially care about anyone or anything (that is significant).
I can not really say I know what love is because I have never experience it, but I have had crushes before and know it makes you act in ways you usually would not. However I can expect what it would be like from the experience of others. In my perspective, love is the absolute emotion a person can feel. Love is the emotion that shapes a person’s star for the better. So Aristophanes’s explanation makes sense, it seems when you can understand love; you will understand the essence of other emotions and thus your life. In other words, love is an enhancement to your life that makes it more enjoyable. If we do not open up to others then we can not experience the passion that makes our lives worth living.
We dare to love because it mysterious. I do not know what love is, but I know I want it. It may sound weird, but I want to have some kind of randomness in my life that makes life enjoyable. Friends are great, but they won’t give you that excitement in life that makes you quiver. There are people who go through life without knowing love because they are afraid of rejection, but that is what makes love more desirable. It is not easy and fighting for it only makes it more important. Even if you get rejected, it only makes you stronger to search for love again. I think having love gives meaning to a person because it means that your life is important to someone else. For once out of all the other emotions, which are driven by self ambition, love gives you the motive of living for someone else.
Vincent, I totally understand what you mean when you say that fear of rejection makes love more desirable. When you have something that you know takes a lot to get and the risk of getting rejected, you cherish it more. Just like how in some cases when parents tell their kids not to do something they like to rebel and do it. It’s weird and I don’t quite understand it completely but I just know that when there’s a risk of something bad happening it makes the goal so much more worth it.
I do agree with your statement that love is mysterious. We do not know what to expect, yet we know its a good thing. That's why we search for it. Love can bring excitement, fulfillment. This sort of satisfaction, as you said, can not be fulfilled by friends or family, which is why we search for it.
Love is a complete mystery and we will never understand it completely. It is one of those feelings that everyone has but can never fully describe. That is exactly why many people love various kinds of other people because it is unique feeling.
I agree with you when you say how “we dare to love because it is mysterious.” However, I do not think it is fair to say that you have never experienced love. Love doesn’t have to come from a boy-girl relationship: it can be from family, from friends, and from religion. Can you honestly say that your parents and friends don’t love you? If not, you KNOW love. Search deep in your heart, you will eventually find out what love really is.
I understand how you said that love is a mystery. It really is; because no one knows the true meaning of it. It makes me wonder everytime I hear people say they have a "true love". Don't worry if you don't know what love is yet, because I believe that everybody someday will.
Love is quite the anomaly. To my opinion, I believe love is probably the most powerful weapon that can drive any human on this planet. We seem to have guards that prevent us from doing stupid things in life. This social guard prevents us from beating up friends or stealing from other people. However, when in love, this social guard completely fails. People in love will go to the extremes to please their partner or to see them. The famous Trojan War left thousands of dead because of a dispute between two men over a woman. We see in today’s songs that people will do anything for their loved ones. They will “walk a thousands miles” or they will either die or suffer incomparable pain if separated from their loved one. In order to love, it is essentially a requirement to drop one’s guard and trust the partner. In turn, we make an agreement to ourselves that we are willing to be hurt in order to fall in love.
We dare to love for no reason. What is love? It is one of the hardest questions to answer. However, my version of love is the foundation of ultimate trust. We trust our friends with a little hesitation. However, we trust our loved ones completely. Many would think I’m crazy because there are a lot of couples that think that one another are cheating on them. That is not he trust I am referring to. The trust that I am referring to is the trust to call someone your loved one and submit yourself openly to them. You would rarely be bothered if your friend to bad things to you because they are friends and it is understandable. With your loved one, you are deeply hurt by even the smallest things because you have placed this ultimate trust upon them. This is better than friendship because when relationships do work, it is a beautiful thing. Life seems beautiful every day. It is an indescribable paradise.
Dang Clifford, I completely forgot about the Trojan War and how the Trojans were driven for the love of Helen to fight so vigorously. I would disagree though that it was love that drove them to fight, I think it was the hate that the Trojans started to feel when they felt challenged and was stripped of who they loved, was what drove them to fight and even dedicate some lives towards. Even though I believe that love an be defined as multiple things, anything actually, I agree when you say that love can be defined as ultimate trust. I think that that could be one of the many definitions of love and a really good one because, come to think of it, what I sometimes think is love can be the same feeling when I really trust someone.
Love can be a little difficult to discuss because it is such a variety of things. There is no single, true definition of love out there; it’s just kind of what we think it is from what we hear or experience. I don’t think love is something that anyone can truly understand, yet we all desire to have it. However, I think that there are different levels of love; from family, to friends, and a significant other. You may feel love from all three, but they all feel a bit different from one another. How is that possible if they’re all considered feelings of “love”? We all want to have that special connection with other people, a connection that makes you feel important in another’s eyes. I think that love is more than just chemical interactions. It’s a possibly that people seek in others what they don’t feel that they have; therefore their spouses “complete” them.
Love can be a motivational factor. For example, you feel love for your family, and that motivates you to work hard to make them proud of you. I don’t think that love is necessarily harmful. Without love, we’d be living in a cruel world full of hate. Everyone should be able to feel at least some type of love in their life, or their life would just be a sad one. When love does bring us down in certain situations, I think that we can learn from it, especially in relationships. Falling in love with another person always forces you to take risks. Sometimes you’ll have to sacrifice some things in order to be with the person that you love. I think that people take those risks because love is such a powerful force and feeling that can’t be comprehensible. We dare to love because having just friendships wouldn’t fulfill the need of that feeling that we desire to have with a special someone. We want the security of knowing that someone will always be there for you; that you’ll be able to show him/her the love that you feel you know that you’d receive it right back.
I agree with you that there is no single definition to explain what love is. Love can be a positive factor and it can help us in our life. The world would be better if there is love everywhere, and this love is the simple one. Whether love is a chemical reaction or not. it is the thing that we all need and want.
I totally agree with you that there is no true definition on love and it could be anything. Like I’ve always said, to me love is kind of like happiness, we chase it all our lives without really knowing what it is, for all we know we could have it right in front of our eyes or even already with us all our lives. Also with the part that you said that possibly that we seek others to make us feel complete, maybe that is what love is. Maybe love is when we can find someone to complete us. The phrase, “opposites attract,” works because the opposite of us, is what can complete us. But, I will have to say, I disagree with you when you say love is the motivator because I believe that hate is what drives us.
I agree that love has variety of feelings to a lot of people. People have different kind of love for their family, friends and spouse. Without love, out lives would not be as interesting and will not satisfy our hearts. That’s why love is the most important part in life and also the hardest to deal with.
Yes, I agree with you. Love is a motivational factor, sometimes we fall in love probably without any reason. It does not have to be a reason for love, at least we chose it so we will not be regret. If there is no love, then there will be hate.
Love can inspire people by giving them reason to do things they wouldn’t do normally. People are known to do “dumb” things when they are in love. I think it’s because that feeling gives them a new perspective on life and maybe everything around them. So then what they do might seem “dumb” to someone who hasn’t been in love before. So people in love may be inspired to act more selfless. When in love, people tend to drop their guard because they are investing their faith in another person. People in love share a connection that allows them to put all their trust in them, and not be afraid of being who they are. Love could drag us down because it could be dangerous investing your emotions in someone else. This is especially dangerous because people are naturally flawed. You could never know what’s going on in the minds of other, no matter how in love people may think they are. I think that people risk this because they long for a sense of completion and meaning. People long for greater relationships than just friendships because they need someone to be there for them both emotionally and intimately. Without having to share your whole world with, then it may not seem as rewarding.
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Love can definantly be an insperation. We use it as fuel. Love is something very beutiful and something with so much beauty can only inspire more of it's kind. So im going to have to side with you we kind of wrote almost the same thing. The only difference is that my blog is better. Haha good job man.
To think about it, I agree with you when you say that we do "dumb" things when we are in love because it is true. It is like we would do anything for them. And on top of that take up some consequences because we did some "dumb" thing for the person we love. Love is so crazy...
I completely agree with you that love is dangerous. Love is just the same thing as gibing the key to your mind and heart to the person you love. However, if your “soul mate” did not love you back, he or she has your weakness. Or depending on the situation, your girl or boyfriend can become your weakness. Knowing this, I am still currently in a relationship like many other people. Knowing that you become vulnerable does not stop many people from falling in love.
i agree that people do weird things when they're in love. People get so caught up in their emotions that they do things without thinking them through. Everyone is going to hurt you, you just have to decide whos worth the pain.
Love is the most important part of the star to me because it has some connections to the others. Even though I think the part that Aristophanes said about humans are suppose to be born with two heads, four legs, and four arms is somewhat unbelievable, the explanation that by searching love, we are searching for completion is true. A person’s life has to have some elements of love in it, whether it is love for family, love for friends, or love for a relationship. Without love, a person’s heart could be empty and the person will always feel left out by the world. Because we cannot live without love, it could have a great impact on us. People could do anything for love if it is a passionate love because they are attached to the love and could not give it up. Since love could make people do anything, it is mostly harmful. Just like Macbeth could kill his king for his wife’s love.
If you love a person, it means you have faith in them. And faith makes people drop their guards because they trust them completely. When a person is in love, they will assume they could get something as a payback if they do something that is in the favor of their lover. This often leads people to get hurt because most likely they will not get their payback. Love can fulfill a person’s heart, so we dare to love and take the risk of getting hurt. Love could also create a bond between two persons closely and let them enjoy the happiness of being together. The two persons that are bonded rely on each other; it is a kind of security between them. Human beings long for love just because love can fill the emptiness of their heart and make their lives more complete. A fulfilled heart could make a person’s life much more meaningful.
My ideas are similar with yours is that a person’s life has to have some elements of love in it, whether it is love for family, love for friends, or love for relationship. Love does exist in anything we do and without it we will definitely feel left out. Love gives us the motivation to do and to live. We dare to love because love can fulfill a person’s heart; because of love we are ready and wanting to take the risk.
Without love is like a bulb without lighting. It is colorless. I think love is very important to human because it brings happiness and joy. I really agree on that if you love a person it means you have faith on he or she. When you are in a relationship, you should respect your partner. Because of that, it makes you trust them and eventually drop guard again them. You believe that they will not do harmful thing to you, although it is not always true. Love can fulfill a person’s heart with warmness.
I agree with your idea that human beings long for love because love can fulfill the emptiness of their heart and make their lives more complete. Because even though one has wealth and everything they want, but except love, he or she will not have the happiness one wants. Love is like the key to have the perfect life, because with it one can know that someone is appreciating, accepting, or just caring him or her. Therefore, people are craving to have love in our life, so they can feel satisfaction and good.
I agree with you that people will have faith in the person that they love. This will cause them to feel they have 100 percent trust of them when sometimes they don’t. That leads to them thinking they can do whatever they want because they think they can get something good back from their lover. Like you said, love can fill a person’s heart and that’s why people dare to love.
It is interesting that you brought up the star in this discussion. It is fair to say that faith and trust build up most part of love. Human beings are willing to drop their guard and give in to love. It is true that love can fulfill the emptiness of our hearts, but having love be weighed too heavy is also harmful. If you have love weighed the most in your star, you would have to give in to the other four and eventually have an imbalanced star. The best way to live life is to balance between all five things on a star, not allowing one to overwhelm others.
For me, I’m not really sure what love really means. I think it’s somewhat confusing because I don’t really have any experiences on love. I had my share on crushes and I know how they make you feel and act in some ways that normally you wouldn’t act like that. It’s like the feeling of butterflies in your stomach when you’re near each other, or feeling of how that person makes such a huge impact in ones life. They leave footprints in your heart by having something to remember them by. Also, being able to trust each other is another reason too because without the ability of trust then how can a relationship be strong? When it comes to loving your family, friends or even love ones, there’s something there that makes you love them unconditionally. I think it’s what motivate and help us when were confused with what to do or when were trying to seek advice. They are there for you no matter what. Love can be the source to inspire us as well.
When we really love one another I think it’s a commitment to take because we compromise certain things for each other. When I think of that I know right off the bat its marriage. Marriage is something beautiful because you are always there for each other, like in sickness and in health. I’m sure in some relationship there are problems and feeling have been hurt, but no matter I’m sure that they can overcome it, at the end of the day, all that really matters is that they are so content to have that special someone to go home to. I think it’s hard to find that special someone to give your love to and being able to receive the same thing in return, as well as being able to risk your emotions on the line, in order to reach your ambition or aspiration. Their aspiration might be that they want to make memories that will last a lifetime, growing old and grey with that someone, to laugh and to take pleasure in their life.
I think there are different ways of showing love you can say it and not say it at all. My parents have never really said those three words, “I Love You”, to my brother and sisters and me. They aren’t affectionate towards us but that doesn’t mean that they don’t love me because they do in fact. Family is always there for you through thick and thin, through the good times and the bad times.
Jessica, I like how you said they leave footprints in your heart by having something to remember them by. I think that if you have truly loved someone even though later on you don’t anymore, they will always be in your heart as a memory and they will be remembered. They are definitely different ways of showing love; it really depends on yourself and personality. People show their love in many different ways, some just don’t really know how to express through words but through action, vice versa. As long as there’s love, everything will be perfect.
When you love soemone, you just feel happy to be with them and you are willing to do things for each other. Sometimes, you can love someone without saying it, or you may not even realize it. Your parents mush love you and your sisters. Maybe because our family cannot stay with us all the time, we need to have someone else to share our life. That person is you loved one.
I think that it is true that it is hard for us to talk about love and what it means, becuase in terms of romantic relationships your right we really havent experienced too much of that love. We can only base our opinions off of what we have experienced so far or what we want to feel one day, what we think love will be like. But there are many kinds of love, not just romantic. Like the love we feel to our friends and i think most importnantly our family, who will always love us no matter how many times a day they say it.
I am so glad to hear that some one else does not truly know what love is about. I know how I feel and what “lust” makes you do. I think people need to really consider saying the words that to some people mean a lot to. I think people reuse the word love too much. Just because you love someone and feel it and they feel it, you do not need to say it because actions speak louder than words. I know that you truly understand this. I mean personally my family says it all the time because I think I can not stop telling the people I care about how I feel. It is not a routine, I truly feel loved because I have realized you can not take advantage of your loved one thinking they will always be there. I am not saying that you are Jessica, I am talking about my family. So I encourage you to tell your mom those three words once in a while to see how she feels. I think those three words could not hurt any situation and nothing sounds sweeter to a mother.
Like you, I also don't know what love really is. I've had my share of relationships and I still don't quite understand. I agree that love is definitely a commitment and compromises do have to be made in order to make things work for the both of you. I like that you said that there are different ways of showing love and that you don't necessarily have to hear from another that they love you, you just know already how they feel about you by their actions.
Just like everything else in this world, love has its side, it has its up and downs, everyone's perspective of love is different, everyone's way of loving is different. There is definite definition of love that can satisfy every single individual. Love is one of the most difficult concepts of living beings. Why does the black widow eat its mate while product it’s off springs so dearly? Why there is existence of the term 'unwanted child'? Love differs by each and every case. It is the most complex concept that can exist with in the universe. However as hard as it may seem to grasp, love is pivotal for each and everyone in this society, it is a emotional dependent, EVERYONE have someone or something they love, weather it is gone, forgotten or right in front of them, it is a destiny that no one can escape- to love. Franklin P. Jones had said that "Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. ”Life is sort and I have always believe to live in the moment, and enjoy it while I still can. Love doesn't really give us the courage to dare, as I believe, it is the need for adventure, the need to LIVE life, not to have on with life. Although Love may seem like just simply a small part of life, it is impossible to live with out it. At any given moment, there is something you love, something you miss. Every living second, you are traveling on a path toward something you love. Love is simple yet complex. Love is giving yet selfish. Love is warm yet cold. Love is ironic yet it makes perfect sense.
and here's one of my favorite quote from Shakespeare
"Love is a child that, that longs for everything it can comes by" The two gentlemen of Verona William Shakespeare.
YAY! I have the same point of view as you. I do believe that everyone loves SOMETHING! Love does make the world go round because with love comes so many other traits. I like how you end the writing with, "Love is simple yet complex. Love is giving yet selfish. Love is warm yet cold. Love is ironic yet it makes perfect sense." I also think love makes us do crazy things, both good and bad. These things also make us experience life which is a must!
I totally agree with you about how our destiny is to love. Love is impossible to live without. We are always longing for it and are always looking for ways to find it. I understand the way you interpret love that can satisfy every single individual. I believe is the most diffcult concept of life to undertsand. One moment you can feel love for someone and in another moment, you can wish never to feel love again. It can destroy us but build us up as if we were on top of the world.
I totally agree with you about how our destiny is to love. Love is impossible to live without. We are always longing for it and are always looking for ways to find it. I understand the way you interpret love that can satisfy every single individual. I believe is the most difficult concept of life to understand. One moment you can feel love for someone and in another moment, you can wish never to feel love again. It can destroy us but build us up as if we were on top of the world.
I think love is more greatness than hate because hate is a bad and evil thing in this world. Everyone is eager to be loved and everyone wants to have a peace life or glorious life. Hate is the thing without any love. People usually say if you hate a person very much shows you love this person very much. Actually there are different kinds of hate and different kinds of love. Someone hates another person because that person killed or grabbed his most favorite thing. So love and hate and interdependent, if there is no love, then there is no hate. Different people have different views on love because everyone’s experience is different. I think the feelings may be different. Actually, there are many kinds of love: the love between friends, the love between lovers, and the love between families. So everyone has different ideas about love. I think love is better than hate. Hate is very sad and torment. To be hated is also torment and suck. So we should be kind hearted to everyone to love this world instead of hate or revenge. Love is like an enzyme can make us become successfully or failure. Love can make us happy, but sometimes love can make us sad. It is very difficult to explain love because it affects everything. Without the love between friendship, family, or even the things, we can not live any more. Sometimes, we set up a goal and live in this world just because we want to get our love things or people.
I think love is both harmful and helpful. Love can inspire us because it is the power to make us advance. It can also drag us down because we love a ting so much, but were hurt by it, and then we will be dragged down. For example, last time, I watched television which is about a girl loves her father very much. Since that girl very young, her mother left her and made her and her father lives together. They are poor but happy. The girl’s father is a fighter who went to fight with another person and was killed by that person. So this girl was very sad and advances her skills in order to revenge for her father. Ad this point, because she loves her father and want to revenge for her father, so she was advanced and became a very good fighter. After she grew up, she saw a guy who was mesmerized by her. That girl also loves that man, but she though in her whole life, she should only love her father without any men else. But later, she found out that that guy is the son of the person who killed her father. Under the pretext of it, she tires to consult herself she just stay with that man for finding out the way to revenge successfully. In fact, she loves that man. After three months, she left that man and asks that man’s father to fight with her. But his son came and was killed by this girl, before that man die, he asked her if she has loved him before. But the girl said “never”. So I think the girl was confused by her love and she was hurt by the love because she thought she should not betray her father. Eventually, when she realized she loves that guy, that man has dead.
I agree with you, because I think love can overcome all hate. Everybody longs for world peace, and we try to avoid people who hate us. I think it is a very ironic that love can hurt us if we give too much, so people always need to know where their upper bound is. People cannot just blindly give love, but we need to know if that person is worth the amount of love that we give. Anyways, I like how you said love is greater than hate, so it has the power to drag us down to hate.
I think how love turns into hate is that some people have greater expectations toward the people they love. They expect that those they love are understand, honest, and nearly reaches perfection. But as time ellapses, the flaws in the ones we love are gradually turned into neutral emotions, because we adapt to what others will behave like and we persuade ourselves to accept them as they are. People are not always perfect, I think this is what the "haters" should always keep in mind.
I agree with you that love is stronger than hate because love can make people feel peace and happy. Sometimes love makes people selfish and doing crazy things. In the other way of thinking, love can make people warm and simple. These things also make us experience the ups and downs of life.
I agree with your idea that love is both harmful and helpful because with love, it had let everyone around the world to treat others equally and nicely. This had maintained our society with strong peace in everyone’s heart. If we don’t have love in this world, I believe every thing is going to be a disaster. Because everyone will have the hate and gorge at others, and there will have no peace in our society as well. But, at the same time, love can still harm one’s feeling. Because along doing anything to achieve what one wants as for love, there’s half chance one will earn disappointment, sorrow, or even lose his or her self confidence. Because everything in this world there are half chances, which one can get what he or she dreams to come true.
When I think about love, I think about the inspiration and courage it has brought me to really enjoy the world around me. We as people were born with emotions and I feel it is the greatest gift we were ever given. Our emotions allow us to live life with passion whether it be great or poor, we still get to feel excited about living each day. Love is the shell of all emotions; I believe through it we feel every other emotion and it inspires us to better ourselves. When we let our guard down and open up to others we feel timid but ready to show them who we exactly are. We want to show the best of our ways so they can accept us for who we are. When that other accepts you, it is the greatest feeling in the world. You have many great days sprout from that one feeling. Although when things go wrong, because they always do in some points of our lives, then that is when we get hurt. Love has its dark side as well. It shows us our flaws and reminds us of our mistakes. When a relationship fails, it is because of both sides. No one is perfect and when you loose someone you loved it hurts and proves to you that you could have been better to them in some way to prevent their lose. Of course love brings hate and sadness, but it helps you in my eyes. I feel we all have to experience it to grow from it. Yes, after falling in love with about anything and losing it, it will cause you to be cautious towards the next chapter of love that comes your way but only in a good way. Once you experience a down fall, I feel you gain its importance and become a better person. Because it shows you your flaws from there you work on them, and yes it takes many falls more then others for people to change, but sooner or later they will.
We drop our guard to others because it allows us to feel vulnerable and safe. When you have your guards up you feel insecure about your surroundings and always looking for something wrong. It takes many people a very long time to see that there is good in everyone. Yes some people may not be for you, but when you find someone who is, letting your guard down only allows you to get closer to them. We as humans search for that certain relationship with one another because it shows importance to our life and allows us to truly care about others. We are so eager to let our guard down because we search for acceptance through one another. Yes we fear of getting hurt but there is no feeling that is better in this world then having a relationship with someone else and truly knowing each other like the back of your hands. When you find a friendship or relationship like such, then for that time period you know you have someone to fall back on to when you need it the most. That is why we allow ourselves to drop our guards, because it gives us true love and friendship in return.
dang gurl haha jp
No but seriously im going to have to agree with you. Emotions truly are a blessing. As well with that statement that we are so quick to put up our defense system.So yeah bravo haha.
Wow, I really liked your second paragraph, and it sounds like you just may be on to something. Letting somebody in to your world can be a very tough thing for some people, and I am one of them. I have a hard time letting my guard down in most situations and so I express who I am in far more subtle ways, I think now i'm finally feeling comfortable in my own shoes.
When I see you, you always seem like an uplifted and smiley person, but at times it makes me question whether or not you ever put your guard up in a way true to yourself. I began to question whether or not you have led yourself to believe that finding good in everybody is what we should always look for, and It's a question I myself do not know either, but I definitely do not force myself to only look for the good. I don't know if you can understand what I'm saying as i think i got it a little confusing. Anyways I think your life will be full of of love if you don't compromise yourself for others. take care
We grow from our experiences. That statement is true in every way possible. Falling in love is a way for us to grow as people and to form who we are. It is fearful, yet the experience, both the good and bad, teach us valuable lessons about who we are today. I believe your experiences have helped shape you, and have made you the wonderful girl I love so dearly as my friend.
I feel your right with letting your gurad down. I also liked the fact that you said love was "the shell of all emotions" that is so true. I feel love also does give us a sense of belonging as well. You had really great points.
“There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done. Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung … No one you can save that can’t be saved. Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be in time. It’s easy. All you need is love” – The Beatles, “All you need is love”
But is it? Is really love all we need? There are many quotes, sayings and theories about love out there. Love is one of the most common topics of people’s conversations. However, the feeling of love it self is complicated and ambiguous. Love can never be explained or understood. I believe it is because you don’t love with your brain; you love with your heart. Love is not a very logical feeling. It's not like math. It doesn't have right or wrong answer and It can't be solved. The world with love will be the worst scenario. The world will be cruel, heartless and cold; we’ll be no different than robots.
I remembered reading this magazine article with a bunch of stories about how your biggest enemy became your best friend or vice versa. The writer concluded the article with a phrase, “love equals hate.” Although it took time to get it, I somehow figured what the writer’s point was. Through my past relationships and friendships, I learned people come and go but true friends stick around till the end, so does your love. Friends you believed in can turn their backs on you anytime. Your romantic relationship that seems ever-lasting can hurt you any day. But at the same time, rivals can be best friends through a fair competition and some respect. You may find your soul mate at any random moment. Whether it is love or hate, your feelings entirely depend on your will; are you willing to open your heart? Both love and hate is based on how much you pay attention to someone. By saying “I hate her”, you show people that you’re paying attention to what she says and what she does. You care when you can just ignore. Hating requires a lot of energy and it gives such an unpleasant feeling in return. Compare to hating, loving is so much easier. You don’t feel like you’re wasting your time or energy when you’re in love. Love brings joy and happiness.
You made an excellent point that love and hate is equal. The world seem to be full of parodoxes like that, just like joy and sorrow re paired together. But, is love really much easier than hate? According to Freud (that is if I understood it correctly) , hating someone could release a lot of negative id energy.
Love can be a very beautiful thing. It is kind and gentle, but yet again it can be cruel and painful to endure. Usually when love is first thought of it is commonly received as a relationship shared between two beings that long to embark on a journey through each others soul and mind. There is also of course the physicality. So much love for one another that the only way to reach the climax of your desire is to conquer the highest and final level of her beauty. What needs to be understood is that there is so much more to love. Love is life. The anticipation of waiting from dusk till dawn every morning only for the slightest bit of hope that somewhere out there you’re significant other is waiting.
Love can never be hurried. Sometimes we rush into it so rapidly only to realize that it’s not the beautiful sculpture that we had placed so high upon our pedestal of consciousness. This is how we build ourselves up for defeat, and failure. It’s a scary thing this love business. Yet despite our knowledge of the many downfalls we choose to take a breath taking plunge into the pool of chance. Why, because we crave the challenge. I guess what I am trying to say is that life can be looked upon as a game and love, well love is your first place medal.
wow!! This is a really interesting blog. I like the way you look at love, it's a different view and unique too. LOL! What i am trying to say it that your view on love is so deep. And I liked how you said it as like we have to jump in a pool for the start of this "love risk."
Wow Laz, so much enthusiasm, and so strong word usage. i agree with you because i, myself have been in a relationship when ive rushed into things because i felt like it was so perfect. i thnk we rushed because i didnt want anything to go wrong. but ofcourse it did. lol yeah, but now that that has happened to me, i realize that i cant do that anymore. i know now that every relationship that im in from now on, will never be like that, and i tend to judge people now too. the people that try to just get in the pants to fast, and then kick rocks.
Lol no on a serious note, that was a great way to put love. We do set ourselves up for defeat, because we think love is always dandy and perfect. When it really isnt, it also has its down fall, but everything does!! Good job Lazar!
Your description of love is amazing. I enjoy how you defined your views on it and how you stated. Like reading it out of a book. nicely put with sentences that i can appeal to. I agree whole heartily with what you are saying.
DAGGGGGGG!!!! Lazer you KILLED IT! That is the absolute perfect description of love bro. All the ups and downs, the emotional rollercoasters, and love games are all apart of how you explained it. I agree with everything you said. Man you seem like Hitch or something!
I have always kind of wanted to believe that love was what drives people but slowly I’ve come to realized that I think that hate is what drives us. Hate is what drives us to do things, such as the fact that I hate failing a class drives me to do well in school or work hard on class assignments, or the fact that I would hate to get into a car accident drives me to pay attention to the road and drive as safe as I could. Hate brings fear and fear is the root of the drive I believe people have. One may say the love or the passion someone posses is what drives people but I believe the opposite, I think it is the fear. Sometimes we are driven in life to look for love and all the happiness that it is suppose to bring but I think that we are all driven in life through hating the fear of being lonely and unloved. Love is what we are looking for, but it is the hate that drives us to do so.
I have a tendency to not being able to let go of things or leaving situations or people, but not in a clingy way. I am actually stuck in a situation right now where when I take a step back and look at the situation, I can see that this kind of relationship is not healthy for me and that it truly doesn’t not make me happy now and probably wont ever put a lasting smile on my face, but why cant I leave? I know that I can do better and that maybe I even deserve better but I keep holding on hoping for the best, in a sense I feel like I cant leave. Is this love? If it is love, this sure isn’t really the kind of love I pictured having but I’m here, with it. Sometimes I believe that love isn’t real, and it is just something we are told is nice so we have drive towards it, but then at times I think of the feelings I have and dismiss those previous thoughts. I knew when I went into this that there was a chance of this feeling, and I also knew that I could be hurt. Love can bring joy but pain, happiness but sadness and sometimes it seems like a fair trade. I think that we excuse the negatives and outweigh them with the positives so that we can live our lives until we get our “Happily Ever After.”
I thought you were crazy for thinking hate is what drives us, but as I continued to read you really proved your point well. I never thought of being driven by hate, but I like thinking outside of my comfort zone so thank you Michelle! I think that eventually you WILL be able to let go and be happy but it’s probably going to hurt when you first let go. You really do deserve better than someone who isn’t making you happy, especially since we are still in high school and it’s the time to be free and date! (I know I’m being a hypocrite right now but I think you get my point?)
Wow Kim, you make a pretty good point there about hate being the thing that drives us but at the same time I think that love can also drive people to do things. Although we can think of it as looking for love because we hate being lonely I think that once you find someone that you really do love or even family we would do everything or almost everything for them and that is because we love them. I think that hate does drive us to do things but love on the other hand may do the same. Fear, I believe is another thing that drives us human beings to do things. The fear of failing especially puts on such a great impact on what drives us to do things.
OOPS! Sorry MT I got you and Kim's name mixed up cause Kim's was right under yours!
When i first began reading Michelle's blog, i was baffled. I find it hard to believe that a person can be driven by hate, all the timel. But as I read further on into Michelle's work, her arguemtn began to make sense. The line that caught me, and really helped me understand Michelle's point of view was when she said "we are all driven in life through hating the fear of being lonely and unloved". It is so true that humans generally hate the thought of being lonely, and because of this they seek out love and companionship.
Michelle you are right about trapping your self in a cycle that can often be harmful to yourself but you aren't able to let go. Somethings have to come to end no matter how hard it is to let go. My favorite quote is "Nothing Gold Can Stay" and i feel its fitting for the way we have to live our lives. Best wishes in your emotional wanderings.
Michelle! Your post sounds so negative. I try in school because I love the feeling of understanding. I pay attention to the road because I love my car. I think love drives me because I noticed when I have love for someone, or something I would protect it and try to hold until it fades. Love is my greatest strength is and also my greatest weakness. *frowny face *kissy face
One Bible verse that is rehearsed at almost every wedding I have been to is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, which states, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” Although the Bible states all the things love is and all the things it’s not, I still feel that love cannot be defined. Everyone defines it differently because we all have different experiences and perspectives in life, but I think love gives us a reason to LIVE. It allows us to appreciate the little things and the joy life brings, but it also allows us to experience pain like no other. When we mix love and humans together, love is the one reason why we are able to see imperfect people perfectly. I somewhat agree with Aristophanes’ explanation for love and its existence, that humans long for a re-connection with our “other half”, but at the same time I believe people can experience love without ever finding their “other half”. He believed love was the result of re-connection, but I think that when we finally encounter our “other half”, that is when we fall IN love. We do not necessarily have to find them just to experience love. Prior relationships do not always result in true love, but they do teach us what we deserve.
Love is the one emotion that has the ability to hurt us the most, yet we all dare to experience it, but why? That’s the one question I used to ask myself when the people who I never expected, hurt me time and time again. I had major trust issues and thought everyone was going to hurt me one way or another, but it all changed when I met my boyfriend of 2 and a half years (as of today! Yay! ). As corny as that may sound, my boyfriend showed me that love and hurt are connected. We have to experience the bad to find what makes us happy. We set ourselves up for potential harm and hurt to experience the one feeling that cannot be explained—love. Even if love hurts, it is the one feeling that cannot be replaced by anything. Love may have the ability to hurt us, but at the same time, it also heals the wounds from any previous hurt.
I totally agree with that Bible verse. Those are all the things it is and isn't. And when you said that people have different perspectives on love due to prior experiences, you were totally right. Not everybody looks at love the same way, that is just unrealistic. Love can be painful, yet joyful.
I have to say the bible verse defines love better than Aristophanes’s explanation of love. Love never fails. Throughout my whole life I always see love prevail. Even when a relationship is ended horribly, love always seems to bounce right back up and a new relationship blossoms as good as the last one. I also agree how love has almost the same power to hurt as to heal. I think it all depends on how you take on love and how you decipher its meaning.
I seriously think that Aristophanes’s explanation about love is bizarre. How can he say that human’s original form was two heads, four legs, and four arms? This is insane. I never really thought that someone would explain love, a connection, like that. Though I think his explanation is unsatisfactory, I can’t describe love myself. All along, in my head, love is an indescribable feeling. It’s unexplainable. When we experience love, we feel more complete because we just do. In our lives, we need an accompaniment, and the word and action of love can fulfill our want of accompaniment. This is really hard. I can’t really say anything about love, because it’s a feeling no one has explained. Just like in Ashley’s quote, “If you can explain love, then you haven’t experienced before, you can try, but I know I can’t.” This quote is really true because, until now, as far as I know, no one can explain it in understanding fashion yet, which also means, we have experienced love. Maybe, I can kind of say that love is this happy feeling?? Bottom line, love is love and no one really can come up with an understanding explanation.
Love can inspire us because we love the other person so much we would do anything for them… even kill. Love is so strong that we would do anything for the other no matter what consequences there are. But it can also help us, because we would listen to their ideas more carefully and it would help us in life. On the other hand, love can definitely drag us down because we love that person so much, we would do anything, and when we do everything, something in that everything might be bad, and we would have to take up the consequences for what we did.
We dare to love because we are here on this world to take risks. We only have one life to live; we must take the chance and live it to the fullest. I’m not saying that we have to go kill or whatever, but I’m saying that we have to do everything that we want to in this span of life time. I don’t know about other people, but this is what I think. For me, I am willing to take any chances to love because I’m not afraid to be hurt. Yes. I remember four years ago, I was in a relationship, and it turned out bad…I guess. But at least I know what I was doing and it was a great learning experience. I learned to look before I act and to go for someone whom I know that won’t hurt me. Though I know that sometimes my observations can be wrong, it’s ok; I mean at least I tried. And if I fall, no big deal, I’ll just get up and try again. Yes, I also know that getting up and trying again might be a while, but I’m fine with it, as long as I live my life full, that’s enough. And to experience love is a wonderful thing, not a sad thing to me, a least. To me, when I break up with someone, I always learn something new and the next time a new relationship starts, I fix something I didn’t do well the previous time.
By the way, one more thing, we love because we have hormones!!! Right?? (what I said in a previous blog) :]
wow.. no wonder you were so excited about this blog=D good job you relate these to psych too:)
I think Aristophanes idea is not that bizarre if you think about it deeply. Maybe not physically but spiritually. This idea leads me to think of enzymes from biology. Enzymes are initiators of many activities in our body, once they encounter a "stopper" to bind to them, their shapes do not fit completely. But over time, they change their own shapes in order to be more tightly connected. It is like human beings having their own goals and must give some up until they are in a relationship. Even though no couples match perfectly at first, they begin to gradually forgive each other's flaws and adapt to the personality of the opposite sex.
haha I agree that we love because we have hormones. I also believe that love is dangerous in that you will do anything for a loved one..."even kill". Other than that, I think love is a great thing. Love makes us happy
I absolutely love the outlook you have on life Sandy =]. You explain that even though we are hurt, at least we learn from our experiences. I myself have always felt that there was something wrong with me beause it usually takes me a while to recover after a relationship ends, no matter how short lived it might have been. When you said "I also know that getting up and trying again might be a while, but I’m fine with it, as long as I live my life full, that’s enough", I was so happy. Finally someone has been able to put into words, what i have been struggling to explain and understand myself for so long. Thank you =].
Sandy, I actually can somewhat understand Aristophane’s explanation of love. Although, the physical description doesn’t sound so great, I think it’s about sharing our hearts together when in love. After all, you need two in a relationship to work together and support each other. When in love we put more of our feelings out for the others just as they would do the same, so in a way we do share a lot of things and give up a lot as well to be in love.
Also, I still remember your other blog post about hormones. That other one was fun to read as well and so cute!
You're right Sandy. I think we are put on this world to take risks/chances. But some people might not take these risks. They might be afraid and such. I know for a fact that I won't take risks if it involves a loved one.
Even though Aristophanes’ theory might seem ridiculous to some people, but it actually connected with many people’s modern belief that there is one right love out there waiting for everybody and it is just there waiting to be found. I always thought that love makes our lives more complete once we find that person, and we become braver in life because we know that person will always be there no matter what happens. We feel confident in front of that person, because we know they will always like the way we are. I think love is different from reliance of security, because I think people need to feel comfortable about themselves before they have the ability to love. However, Love is a feeling that no one could accurately explain, but everyone can sense that it is there when it comes. We just want to do everything we can for the other person, and we become less selfish with that person. Love can make people do crazy things, and many people start to cross boundaries that they had before when they just want to grasp their own love. Love can overcome obstacles, and people could still feel happy when they are with their true love no matter how much trouble they went through. Love might seem to be very complicated things, but in the end it all comes down to the simple everyday lives and two people could still feel romantic even if they live a very bland life in other people’s eyes. Love is much softer than gun or bomb, but it has a stronger than gun or bomb to change a person’s world.
Love can definitely inspired a person, and motivate them to be a better person. It can be very helpful to a person even though they might get hurt, because many times their spouse helps them to reflect on who they are as a person. I think becoming a better person does not mean that we change completely for the other person and it definitely does not mean losing ourselves. We do need to make compromises at times, because there can be many problems in a relationship and we need to know where the upper bound is while we make these changes. We should motivate ourselves because we truly like to do it, not just because we want the other person to feel satisfied. I think a relationship would not be very stable if we motivate ourselves just because we want to prove to the other person how good we are, and work hard at things that we do not want to do just because we know the other person will feel happy if we push ourselves. Maybe a person just liked another person for who they are in the beginning, and a relationship will for sure shatter when that person starts to change. A relationship is very important is everybody’s lives, but it is not everything. I think people should always leave spaces to themselves, and figure what they truly want occasionally.
We dare to love, because love help to define who we are as a person. We always understand a little more about ourselves every time we love, because we are forced to put down many things in us and face our original sides when we try to analyze our own relationship. Because we love a person so much that we are able to do this for them, and we have the courage to face things that we were never able to face before. I don’t think a friendship is able to achieve all this, because friends does not understand each other as deep so many “tragic” have happened where two friends broke up over a lover that they both long for. Friendship is the base for relationships because lovers are best friends who need to honestly face each other, but many times it needs to go much deeper than a friendship. Love is not so much desire or ambition, moreover, many times it contradicts with desire and ambition. Many people have big dreams, but they were stopped because they did not want to lose their love in order to choose. I think love is a miracle, because people sometimes actually value love over money. Love is truly one of the greatest human accomplishments, because it is the strongest bond human could have with each other.
I agree with you. Sometimes love make a person crazy and less selfish. I also think love is stronger than hate. People can be moved by loving which are surrounding them. People can change his character by love. We should not love someone or something without thinking. Sometimes, love can also make a person become down. So we should not blind love something. Your writing is very good because you use your analysis to show all the possible ways of this topic. I like your writing because it is very sensitive and well written. Love can change another person and it can also change us. I like your last sentence very much which is the truth forever.
I believe that the Aristophanes’s explanation for love is very logical. It makes sense to me and it is something that I would believe. Love is something that I don’t think man kind will ever be able to fully interpret or explain. For this reason people have come up with various reasons as to why love affects us so much and why we seek it out. What fascinates me the most is that almost every person wants to fall in love, they want to experience loving someone and being love, yet love is often times what causes the worst hurt and pain a person will ever experience. For this very reason, I do not feel that love is simply a product of chemical reactions. For something so grand and powerful, there has to be something greater. I also believe that so many people feel complete when they love someone and are loved, because it gives them a sense of purpose in life; to care for and cherish the one that they love.
Many people may have different opinions on whether or not love is more hopeful than it is harmful. I myself have a hard time deciding which one it is. Overall when I consider love, I conclude that it is more helpful than hurtful to a person. Love is, for the most part, exciting and joyful. It brings happiness and excitement to a relationship and a person’s life.
I cannot say that I have the slightest clue as to what love is like or how it would affect me personally. However, when I look at my mom and my aunts and uncles I get a little idea of how exhilarating love can really be. I also often wonder why love hurts so much, when it’s supposed to be something so great. My mother has always been a very guarded person; I believe it is because of the trials and tribulations she has had to endure throughout her life. Up until a couple of years ago, my mother only let her guard down when she was around me. Then she met her fiancée and he was lucky enough to see the side of my mom that very few ever got to witness. Throughout her relationship with her fiancée there have been some rough patches, as there are with any couple, and I have seen my mother angry, frustrated, annoyed, and at times lost. What I think is amazing though is that after any argument, no matter how small it may be, my mom and her fiancée will always apologize to each other for any hurtful things they may have said or done. When they do this, I can see the undeniable love they share for one another. A bond so strong, that they can almost guess what the other is thinking by just looking at them. I have always question why a person will get involved in a relationship, if they know that most likely it will not last and they will be hurt when it ends. This pain is something I do not want to risk, and because of that I tend to keep myself very guarded when it comes to relationships. Regardless of how I live my personal life, I define love as giving someone your heart and trusting them not to break it. Through my family and friends, I have learned that love is a great thing but it has its flaws. It’s the little glances that a couple exchanges, or the knowledge that there is someone out there who cares for you more than they care for themselves, that makes it all worth it in the end.
You're right, love IS something that no one will ever be able to fully explain. I'm just speaking for the general public(not based on my experiences), but when you say "that almost every person wants to fall in love, they want to experience loving someone and being love, yet love is often times what causes the worst hurt and pain a person will ever experience"-yes, very true, but, if you don't take the risk of wanting to be in love then it'll just never happen. Yes, pain and being hurt comes, but that's the "experience" you mention.
As for the reason why we seek love, i think it's pretty obvious that it's because most of us recognize that life without a person to share it with would be pretty boring and meaningless. It's not true for everybody, but I definitely feel this way. All those thoughts and feelings that you want to share everyday with somebody, but you can't and you sit their thinking of who you could tell it to and for some of you their is somebody, but for a lot of us their isn’t and I think we would all like that.
Love for me is the one thing in my lifetime that I hope to truly find. I agree with Aristophanes’ explanation of love, because i believe that their are certain people that complete you. I don't know if I believe in soul mates because by definition that means that their is just 1 person in the world compatible with you, but i definitely believe that their are people that connect and complete another person so well that they could be soul mates. I would definitely classify love as something more beneficial than harmful, and i also think it can be the biggest motivator as well as somebody’s biggest fear.
Not to sound cheesy, but I think love may be one of the most important things we must all find in life whether it be with a person, animal (not that way sickos), a job, or a hobby. For most people it is a person, and I think I may be able to explain why. So when we are born the thing we hear over and over again is "I love you" from our parents and close relatives. When we were little we could share everything with these people and tell them all of the wonderful things in our lives, but as time went by we grew up, and society demanded we do other things with our time. I think our quest for love is fueled by the love we were all given throughout our early years and we all hope to rekindle that emotion by seeking another person.
To find true love one must first love themselves and become the best person they can individually. Nobody is perfect and their are some things that you can not change/learn/or fully understand without the love of another person. Then when you find the other half of you that has found their true self and is ready to share their world and let you in on their life, which is when you have found love. It's a joining of your two worlds to make each of yours more meaningful.
I really wanted to get across the point that all of us see live vastly different, and part of finding love is finding another person who sees life in a similiar perspective as you. We might all be living, but were not all in the same world.
Ya, I can not imagine life all by myself. I think that would probably be the boringest thing ever. WoW, yes its fun, but its that special feeling from someone that makes loves so special. I think you are right, you can't truly understand everything without the love of another person, they teach you things to do and what not to do. Just by having that other person you can become so much more.
Jon, when I first read your blog especially the first paragraph I was like that is so me! That is exactly how I feel a lot of the times! When I’m out and I see something cute I always pick up my phone and start texting someone about it. Yes, I text a lot basically every hour of the day besides when I’m sleeping I will have texted someone a new text. I love the fact that I can share my thoughts with someone; it just feels good to do so. To say what I feel and what I think. After I read your first paragraph and went to the second I was nodding my head in agreement LOL (that sounds dumb, I know). I don’t exactly believe that there are soul mates already out there for us but that we find people who we can consider to be our soul mates because of how well we can connect with them. Along with loving yourself before someone else I also believe that people need to be able to believe in themselves. Anyways, I really like your blog and I can agree completely!
OOPS! Sorry MT I got you and Kim's name mixed up cause Kim's was right under yours!
SORRY JON! LOL! I'm totally messing up this blog thing. I keep posting comments at the wrong spots. -.-
First off i really liked your comment, your were completley honest with me and for the first time i got to see myself through someone else's eyes (yours) so that was cool!
But ok, I know i may seem like I like everyone and everyone is great, but in reality my life hasn't been the easiest. I have been through some tough times, but I dont pity myself because I know i'm not the only one who goes through it. I used to be a really negative person and closed people off right away. I didn't even give the chance to let my guard down, but one thing I learned was that being vulnerable and trusting others until they give you a reason not to, truly makes you happier. I do keep my guard up at times, but iv learned to set it down when i feel that im ready. I noticed you said that there isn't someone for everyone, and i disagree with you, because there are so many people out there that think the same way but come to realize they did find someone. I know there isn't all good in everyone but for the majority we all have great qualities, even if some look down upon you for the way you are, there is always someone who loves you for it. So remember that.
P.s If you always have your guard then you pass up oppurtunities passing by you.
Four letters, one syllable, and very much universal. I am always intrigued about people's insistence to discuss love. I can understand why--love is just indescribable. As to the question "why", I can only reply "because, it's everything and anything". That's probably the most vague answer I've ever given in this class, but at the same time, the question is unanswerable. Or is it? I don't know. I watched this one show once where they discussed Aristophanes' theory (at the time, I didn't know it was Aristophanes' idea, but isn't it interesting how the show depicted that little segment of goodness?) that man and woman once lived in the same body but then got separated when the gods became angry. We then live our lives to find our "other fated half". When I first came across to this idea, I didn't really know how to react. It was strange, fictional, and may I even proclaim delusional. After some extensive thinking, however, I realized that it wasn't such an appalling idea. I understand it, but I don't advocate it (that, I'll leave to the individual experience). But, maybe that's why love is something we constantly seek and crave; we are all searching for the someone that is supposedly already a part of us.
Love makes us weak and powerful, and I think that when you come across the right one, your world can fall into the right place. I hate to think that love is a double-edged sword, but there is no doubt that love can trigger our frailties and shatter our supposedly impenetrable guards. It can rescue but also abandon. It can be warm or cold. It can leave a person with everything and to another, nothing. Human beings dare to love because that's how we feel happy, secure, accompanied, and LOVED. To put it shortly, we just don't care if we do get hurt as long as we have love in our lives simply because we are lost without it. There's no shortcut around it and there's no such thing as an alternative. It's just there--simple, direct, and beautiful. I'm uncertain about many things including love, of course, but there's one thing I'm certain about and it is that "all we need is love".
can I just say that I really like the way you word things. It just flows so well!! I think it's interesting how you mentioned that "man and women once lived in the same body but got separated when the gods became angry and that's why we live to find our 'other fated half' ." I'm agnostic, so this sort of stuff really gets me thinking and interests me. It seems fictional, like you said, but you just never know right? "We are all searching for the someone that is supposedly already a part of us"-that's deep. Maybe we ARE just finding someone that's apart of us and to complete us.
I agree with you. In my blog post(before i read yours), I also mentioned love being a double-edged sword. It can hurt you and make you powerful at the same time. Love allows you to loosen your guard around the person you love, and allows you to strengthen yourself to others. I agree that love is beautiful.
Intan, I totally agree with you. I feel that love is definitely something that we are on a constant hunt for. And even though, “because it’s everything and anything,” is a hazy way to put it, it is probably the only way to describe it. I also agree with you about how people choose to love because the benefits of it far outweigh those of never experiencing it.
Although love and hate are both sources of greatness and failure, love is more powerful in both cases. Love is something a person would desire. Once you have love, you will do anything, well almost anything, to preserve it. You are willing to do anything for the one you love, and you are willing to do anything for love. I once told my dad that I wanted to go to the library to see my girlfriend. “But you haven’t eaten yet” my dad replied. I told him that it was okay and I really wanted to see her. “So you’re giving up your meal even though your hungry, just so you can see her?” my dad said, “Your blinded, that’s not good.” I realized that I’ve been complaining to my father about how hungry I was. Then my girlfriend called me and said she was at the library. It’s amazing what love can do to you.
On the other hand, you come across hate a few times in your life. Some of us more, and some of us a lot. The difference between love and hate is that you seek love, but you never seek hate. Hate finds you, but you never go looking for hate.
Love is one of the most indescribable feelings. We seek love because we know people are happy when they have it. So everyone wants to be happy. The funny thing about love is that once you find it, you become afraid of losing it. This fear is very different from normal fear. You feel this fear in your heart. It makes your heart ache. It’s an awful feeling, yet we seek for more love. We dare to love because we fear being alone. We like having someone there. Always.
I agree that love is powerful and causes you to do some things that you don't do. I like how you said that people are always seeking for love and not hate, but hate somehow always seems to find us. I agree with you that we fear to be alone and we always want someone to be there with us. Though love does have it's faults at times, it's definitely a feeling that people desire to have to make us happier.
I also think love is much more powerful than hate but I think fear is just as strong. In one of the mafia movies I have seen, one of the mafias explained why people respect him and would obey his every command. He said that people don’t respect him but fear him. Once you die they wouldn’t cry at your funeral, they would in fact smile. Love in the other hand, comes with respect and would cause people to cry in your funeral. Both have nearly the same effect except at the end where it counts the most.
Love is an inspiration in itself. Love drives most people and is what everyone seems to be looking for. People want to love and be loved so badly sometimes they do things that the normally wouldn’t do. We constantly are reminded of how great love is in the media, like in songs and movies, that we are willing to put our hearts on the line. I think that while this is a very brave way to live your life, it can also bring you down. By putting your guard down, you become more susceptible and can be hurt badly, causing you to be vulnerable. I think in the end it is worth it to put your heart on the line because if you don’t, you may never know what could have came of it and could have lost your chance at truly being in love. Love is mostly more helpful than harmful because I believe you can learn more about yourself through all different types of love.
Love is something everyone is capable of feeling. I believe we dare to love because it is one of the most optimistic things we, as humans, know how to do. We love with hopes of being loved back and risking being hurt to feel that way is very brave and shows just how much we want love. There are many different types of love, all completely different from each other, so it is hard to find the same things in every type of relationship. The love between a mother and her child is completely different between best friends and two people in a romantic relationship. I believe that the difference between each or unexplainable because I think each can be deep in their own way. I think we long for love in a different way than we do our ambitions because it can always be attained in the present rather than something you just want to achieve in the future. Love is always a reality and is always available, even if they are different kinds of love.
I agree that love is an inspiration even of itself, and I agree most people look too hard for it; they drive themselves to do ridiculous things for love. I believe that some people do put their guards down all too often; people are going to get hurt no matter what but maybe if we keep our guards that will cushion the blow. I agree that most people only want to love so that they can be love back, love is something that should come naturally.
I agree that love is such an inspiration. We hear about it all the time in the media and it builds it up to be such an amazing thing. Everyone wants to feel that way and aspires to find that sort of love for themselves. Everyone wants that fairy tale ending.
I see putting your guard down as a sigh of be vulnerable and for the younger audience, a bit naive. We are so desperate to find love we are willing to “put our hearts on the line”. I think you are one of the people I do fully agree with on this blog. I think there are also different kinds of love for each person in your life. Family, friends and romantic partners are just some one the top picks. You make a really good point about humans wanting to also being loved back as in a way of searching for it (love).
Love doesn’t have an exact definition because love is what we make it. We’re the only people that can define what we think love is there are many different kinds of love, there’s the love you have for a best friend, there’s the love we have for our families, and then there’s the love we have for a husband or a boyfriend, not all love is the same. Love is inspiring because it’s so mysterious, some people can spend their whole lives trying to find love, trying to experience that feeling, I believe love is not something you chase, it’s something that comes to you, its something you have to feel; if you start chasing it that’s when I think love stops being helpful and starts being harmful. Love is something that’s complex, it can make someone’s life or it can destroy it. Love is something that has to be embraced; you have to be open to it, willing to put it all the line for someone else, when you’re able to lay yourself out that’s when love finds you.
For some people it’s easier to keep their guard up, most people are unwilling to take it down for fear of getting hurt. I have that guard up, and I think most people do we put so much into making it what it is, why would we not want to not use it? It’s something we’ve made for ourselves something that can keep us protected from the damages of the world. Love is something that is unpredictable, it’s something I fear. Letting someone get so close to you, letting someone share a life with you is something I cant really understand, some people are so open to love and so open to let new people in and let new experiences take them over, but what happens when those experiences fade? What happens if those people change? Will we still love them? Will we still trust them? I think people choose to risk being hurt because they would rather have broken relationships in their past then to have never loved any one at all.
I don’t think love is the most important point on our star, I believe we have to find who were are before we can begin to share ourselves with some else. I don’t think love can be satisfied by friendship because it’s a different kind of love. You don’t have the same kind of love for your friends as you would with someone else, you see friends in a different way, and you love them with a different part of you. I think that love is different from our desires and ambitions because these are things we really work for, these are things we need in life, their the things we want and their what we stride for, while love I think is something that should find you it’s not worth it if your chasing it.
Love isn’t something we understand completely, but I believe love is what helps keep a family together and it’s what keeps our friends close. Love has many different sides you can’t look at it head on, you have to look at all the sides and you have to understand each part in order to know if you’re in love. Love is always what we make it the beautiful thing is that it can always change, you never forget who you love every relationship has a memory.
I really liked your idea about love being the reason we're so guarded. The idea or pain of getting hurt is unbearable to some, and to sacrifice there hearts for love, is not something they are willing to risk. That is the difference between those who find love and those who don't. The one's who chase love are still guarded, so they never truly find it. The one's who let it come to them, as you said, find it and are happy.
I really like hor your response is brutally honest. Some people put so much energy and work into finding love and I completely agree that it is not something that you can chase. I also agree that we should use our guards because we did build them ourselves. I think you hold a very logical perspective that makes a lot of sense.
I believe that love is the most inspirational thing there is. Having love for something whether it is your profession, family, soul mate or any other thing you could possibly love can give you the extra strength to improve in anything. You hear plenty of times when famous sports players pursue their sports in order to help their families out. Having that love for their family gave them a goal they wanted to achieve, and in order to show their love they work as hard as they can do to reach it. This isn't just for sports players, many people have pushed themselves through work to put a roof over their head. Love is possibly the one thing that can always help you out. When you are in a bad situation you can always think of the ones you love to get you into a better mood or even have them help you get over that problem.
People will give anything for love. Love is different, no matter what it is that you love it can always bring you happiness so that's why I feel everyone searches to find that special someone. Its hard to find love, it could cause stress trying to find it, but when you find it I think it would be so great that you'll forget about everything else. So thetas why love is so dangerous. People will do ANYTHING for it. Some look on websites, bars, or even TV shows, no matter what they are looking for fame, marriage, or spotlight its different for everyone. People need that one person they love because having that relationship with someone money can't buy. As fast as you can drive down Pacific Coast Highway on your brand new Ferrari it can not bring you the special happiness that another person can give.
I totally agree with you that anyone would do anything for love. For the better or worse, love drives and inspires people to do many things. But I don't think I agree with you on the part where once love is found it will bring you happiness. What if you find out something about that person that you extremely dislike? Or maybe one-sided love? Those add to the pile of reasons why love hurts sometimes.
I am a person who believes in true love and happily ever afters and I am fascinated by all of it. I believe that love is such a strong and powerful emotion that when we find it, it seems to dictate our lives. It is always interesting to me how love can cloud people’s judgment and blur their morals. I haven’t ever really seen another emotion that is able to do that to people. People are blind when they are in love and often we see the girl with the loser boyfriend, but she doesn’t see it because she loves him, or when a girlfriend or boyfriend takes their significant other back after cheating because the love they feel for them is so strong that it can erase all of the bad things they did.
Aside from blurring our perception of the world I think that it can also do so much in the other direction. It can inspire us and give us that motivation to keep going or try to aspire to greatness because we have someone who we care about and care about us backing us up. And who, no matter if we fail or succeed will be supportive of us, which I think is more than we can say for ourselves. We are always our worst critic, and it can be helpful to have someone who cares about you unconditionally in your life to praise you even when you don’t feel you could praise yourself.
We also will do most anything to find it. Everyone wants to fall in love. No one wants to be alone. It is interesting to think why we desire it so much. I obviously understand we want to share our lives with another human being, but why do we feel that way. Mr. Feraco brought up is it chemical or something more. That seemed very interesting to me. I feel that not only is it a chemical instinct to find a mate, but that love goes much deeper than that. It is something that we ache for in our souls. We feel a sense of emptiness without it and with it we feel whole and complete, and ultimately happy. We take such chances in finding love because it is so worth it. We want to find happiness and love brings that in our lives, our significant other is that person who can brighten our day no matter what. We have little to loose and so much to gain by searching for love; the positives definitely outweigh the negatives.
I love how you are so optimistic about love and everything. I alsoagree that love is not just a chemical trait we have but something much more deep. I think it is so true how you described how love can inspire us to do good things. i also agree that people will do anything to be in love and thats just the way people react to it.
Love is one of the natural human traits; it is like desire or greed. Love does complete us, by assuring us the extremities of human emotions. It completes us with unconscious changes that define our lives. Love may hurt people more than they enlighten people, and yet people are willing to fall in love with his or her other half. Finding love, to me, is also finding myself, where I can grow and experience the miracles of life. I feel more free when I am in love because I am secure and I am being protected, that I know whatever I feel and accomplish there is always someone who supports me with no reasons and no complains. Maybe it is this warmth and reliability that allows me to feel more like a completed human being. Love can also overcome everything else in my life; it is weighted beyond my accomplishments, goals, and even me. Because we are so into the feeling and emotions of love, it affects us greatly and sometimes fatally. It can drag us down with its willing expectations and inspire us with its never experienced feelings. It is this passion, intimacy, and commitment that form the component of love.
Love reduces the desires for us to take chances. With a complete family: a husband/wife, some children, living not necessarily prosperously under the same roof, one realizes that this is what they need the most, not pride, not high ranks, just a family. To me, love is the most important among all five components that forms that star; it is in fact the most permanent factor. Security, independence, enlightenment, and identity are somewhat related to love but without love, they can not stand by themselves. Without a family, a person is standing alone on the earth. We dare to love because whatever the consequences is, it is worth to face and overcome it. It is a complicated addition.
I agree on how love really does make us fear more and not willing to take risks as much. We fear that if we fail, our family would have to suffer with us too and we don't want that. Without a family or love, money, status, nothings means as much anymore
I believe that the source of more greatness is hate. People hate to be failing, and hate to think about the risks and consequences, so they act differently. It could also be love because of the lust, craving something that is good, out of love. They are so closely linked because in a flash, love can lead to hatred, as well as hatred can quickly lead to loving someone or something. Depending on how important or serious the situation is, it can lead people into doing the wrong things, like Macbeth, killing that king. We can get so caught up in what other people think, and how other people will view us, that it unfortunately ends up leading to tragedies. Another reason it could be love, is because love is so strong, and once you are in it, you do everything you can to stay in it, if it really truly means something to you.
In a way, love is just a bunch of chemical interactions. To other people, it is different because if you’ve felt love before, you know it is a wonderful feeling. You always want to have some form of love in your life, whether it’s with a boyfriend or girlfriend, a family member, or a close friend. It is nice to always have that feeling. Love brings a certain level of security into our lives. I think this is the reason people act different when they are around people that they love. They have a different level of trust, and just a different relationship in general. This security gives you the freedom to feel more complete. Love is such an inspiration because we don’t want to hurt the people that love us. If someone that we love asks us of something, it is more than likely that we will try our best to fulfill their needs, just because we love them. I think that there is nothing stronger on this earth than family and the love that each has for one another.
I agree with you love is like a sercruity blanket. When we are around the people we love we act so much different , because if you just met someone your not going to be telling them secrets about yourself. Love and trust come in like a combo because if you love someone their going to be someone you can trust and someone who wont hurt you.
I think its difficult to determine whether love or hate is our source of greatness. You bring up good points to each side. Love makes you do things that sometimes you would never do. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. Like the example of Macbeth that you brought up. I don’t think Macbeth would have ever betrayed his kin like that but with love he was corrupted to do something wrong. On the other side, love can make you become honest and open, it can reveal a whole different side of you.
I agree that love is like a security blanket because it is someone to fall back on when someone is in need. I do agree that family and friends are the strongest areas to recieve lovce.
How did I know this would be the topic for our next blog!? Anyway:
I’ve always been the one to say “ Oh gosh, how can people so young fall in love! They’re too young!” I would walk through the hallways in school and hear those three little words floating around. I was young and naïve then. I still don’t know the meaning of love but I know that it can happen to anyone at any time. It could be love for your pet, love for your family, or love for your job. That is loving someone or something, but being in love is different- you can just feel it. Most of us have been in situations where relationships didn’t work out and have thus been hurt. So why do we long for it? Love and companionship and to be understood and appreciated by another person is one of our basic needs. Yes, we take a chance on being rejected and losing that love when things don't work out, but we do it anyway because that is the risk we take to have love. We always feel that the next time it will work out, that is called hope. The sad part is when you have been hurt so much that you can no longer take the risk, you harden your heart to the caring of others and expect them to reject and hurt you. Without it this world would be in an even worse mess than it already is. If you don't take a chance it's guaranteed that you won't win.
As for me, it’s different. I fear being hurt. It’s not that I’ve been in prior relationships and that I don’t want to be hurt again. I’ve seen many of friends or just acquaintances being hurt and fear that I would end up the same way. The amount of time it takes to fall in love when compared to the time it takes to try and heal a broken heart, is far too much. People fall in love everyday. They also have broken hearts everyday. Some people fall in love only after knowing one another for a month, which amazes me. Some people open up extremely quickly to love someone, but then when it's shattered, it doesn’t open up as fast anymore. Love will sneak up on you when you least expect it. I can say that love is innocent and does not hurt. It only hurts when the one you love takes their love away. This is what makes me afraid to love and that is what I fear to go through if it doesn’t work out.
I agree with you that love is something that you can just feel. It doesn’t have to be explained it’s just there and that’s how things go, but it’s not always there forever. As I agree that love tends to sneak up on you from nowhere. That’s the dangerous thing about love as well.
I believe that love can be both helpful and harmful to one’s life. With love in one’s life, it can transform him or she’s life more joyful and full of excitements. Because when one has love in his or her heart, one can feel satisfactions and warmth as well. Love is one of the most important support people need in their life. Because love can give people the happiness they need when they had a bad day. Also, with love, it had let everyone around the world to treat others equally and nicely. This had maintained our society with strong peace in everyone’s heart. If we don’t have love in this world, I believe every thing is going to be a disaster. Because everyone will have the hate and gorge at others, and there will have no peace in our society as well. But, at the same time love can still harm one’s feeling. Love is a very powerful feeling, and it can totally change one’s life not only toward better life, but also toward worse life. Because when one has love, one will have the motivation to do anything for one to achieve what he or she desires. Along doing anything to achieve what one wants as for love, there’s half chance one will earn disappointment, sorrow, or even lose his or her self confidence. Because everything in this world there are half chances, which one can get what he or she dreams to come true.
For me love is like magic, and it is very powerful which is hard not to avoid. Because when one likes something, he or she will still have the interest in that thing even though one may try to avoid it. Because love is in our nature, and we all have it in ourselves. Even though everyone may like different kinds of things, but what connect us is the love in each one of us. With love, we are able to give our care, time, or even focus on others we love. I believe that a large amount of people around the world are all longing for love. Because even though one has wealth and everything they want, but except love, he or she will not have the happiness one wants. Love is like the key to have the perfect life, because with it one can know that someone is appreciating, accepting, or just caring him or her. Therefore, people are craving to have love in our life, so they can feel satisfaction and good.
I really like your description of what love feels like Amy! I can see how love can be for the worse as well. Sometimes people may be really hurt because they put so much effort in loving someone or something and when something inflicts that love and causes pain that’s when we get really hurt. Then it leads to the possibility of hate due to heartbreak. However, because the feeling of love is so great that we should always motivate ourselves to move on if we ever get hurt by love.
I think love can inspire us because, when we love someone or something we keep on going. Love inspires us because we are able to open up to people we love. We don’t have to feel embarrassed or afraid. Doing the things we love or being around someone we love makes us feel good and happy. When we love something or someone we are happy because we feel like there is nothing that can stop us from we are feeling. I think love can inspire us because when we are around people we love who have accomplished many things, those people inspire us to go out and fulfill our dreams. I think love is more helpful than harmful, because being able to have people and activities you love is a good distraction from all the bad things going on.
There is no exact definition for love because everyone has their own insight on what love is. I think Love is something that leads to our happiness. Without love I would be sad and lonely. Love allows us to risk anything because we are so happy and caught up with what we have that we don’t want to lose it. When we are in love with someone we forget about everything because we feel important and want stay feeling that way. I think we are willing to risk being hurt because of happiness and the independence gain. Love is something that we are able to choose on our own. Know one can tell us who to love except for ourselves, because we are the only one who decides how someone makes us feel.
I agree with you, love can definitely be a good thing. When we are with someone we love, we feel great about ourselves. We have that emptiness filled up and we won't be lonely. Many of us are willing to take the risk of getting hurt because the rewards can be great.
I, like Mr. Feraco, collect things. For example, I have every single ticket(with the name of the people who accompanied me written on the back) for every movie, concert and sporting event I've been to since 6th grade. I guess they kind of serve as a reminder that people do love me or did, at least enough to spend two hours with me. All my life I've thrived on love from others, so much so its almost pathetic. Want proof? I haven't been single for more than 3 weeks since eighth grade. But with this insistence for love comes wisdom, the more people I spend my time with and get to know the more familiar I become with the ways of love. I've found that everyone has their own ways of showing love. For instance, Because my father grew up in a low income family without a father of his own, he shows love by providing for people. BUt, because my siblings and I grew up in a home where everything was always there for us, we seek a less material expression of love. Along with this I've also learned that everyone has different ways of receiving love, My current boyfriend takes an almost unworthy approach at it while I tend to be on the more affectionate side.
To go back to our stop and think activity one of the quotes was "The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost." I think the most intense part of our emotions come out when we realize our love might be threatened. I use the descriptor "most intense" instead of "best" because in reality love really doesn't always bring out the best in us but rather the extremes in us.
Ok. I am not sure what to agree or disagree to. The fact that your boyfriend does not take the same approach as you do concerns me but you know what your doing, least I hope so. You might want to improve on that because I've learned one problem leads to more bigger ones. So take care of it one by one. The sooner the better.
Since you have everything you need, objects are not worth anything to you which is good because it lets you focus on seeking for true love.
I think that since we are human beings that we are willing to let our guard down because we want to feel secure and cared for. Isolation only causes human beings to destruction from withdrawals of love and compassion. We acknowledge that any type of relationship can cause hate, pain, and even destruction, yet we still bargain for it because we are given love and compassion. Although, we all experience betrayal and hate at some type of our life, we still bargain for more because it is natural for us to still feel loved by others even if we have been hurt. In my opinion, as we all enter relationships, we are risking ourselves, our hearts and compassion for another person that we trust and hope will not destroy it. To be loved is a feeling that only you can gain from other people and the feeling is more incredible that we are willing to have the possibility of being betrayed. We are willing to take more risks that it I usually that we do not involve our love ones, but when it does, it makes it harder for us to make risks and decisions because we speak for our love ones. If we made a fatal mistake that all our love ones are to suffer. Everyone has their own definition of love, some believe to fall in a committed relationship while others may believe flying from mate to mate is their destiny.
Love can inspire us because it is human for us to find someone that we can feel secure with and have someone to always fall back on when we are vulnerable. Our goals and ambitions are different from have love from someone else because love gives us something that we cannot receive if we achieve our goals, that love gives us security and a different type of happiness that we cannot receive anywhere else. I think that love can both drag us down to our core and can inspire us to change for the better, I do no that one or the other overthrows the other because everyone in my opinion, will be betrayed at some point and that we need to move on and find ourselves someone else and not to be struck with hate and anger because it is a part of life. Any struggles that we encounter will only make us stronger so I think that is why we somewhat embrace love acknowledging the troubles it can bring us
I agree with you on when you said that human beings want to let their guard down so that they can be cared for and feel secure. If you always have your guard up, you would be too scared to fall in love and in my opinion, falling in love is a risk because if it doesn’t work out one can get hurt or depressed. I also believe that love inspires us to be good people and take more shots down the road because if it fails, you will always have your lover.
I agree with you jeannie that everyone has their defination of love and that some people have higher standards than others. I do not agree with him when she said that love less harmful because i think it can be vise versa.
Love by definition has many different meanings that entail stories of courage, humility and an everlasting affect that changes people’s lives forever. Regardless of how it came about, love affects everyone in many different ways. Whether it be your passion for sports, your love of music, your unbelievable feeling of joy towards your family, or just your willingness to sacrifice for your country; these are all examples of love.
Love entails all of life, which explains by itself why it is so inspiring. It has an effect on everything that surrounds us. Love inspires us because it is that unexplainable feeling within your chest that for some reason, just sometimes does not go away. Whether it be about the girl I fell in love with for several years, dreaming, hoping, and praying that someday she would feel the same for me. Or the inability to walk away from a game you love, even when it may threaten your ability to ever walk again. Love can be so zealous that it drives people for more. It is a thirst that is never quenched. Yet, it does more good than harm. If you ask anyone who has ever been in love, were the good times great or were they just good. Love is greatness in all shape and form. Love can tear you down as much as it can build you up, but once you’re built up, you can’t go any higher. Once you tear down, there is no place to go up upwards.
Love is something that is unexplainable. No matter who it is, love cannot be explained because it becomes different for everyone. Anyone who has ever fell in love, cannot say that it is the same with each person they fell in love with. It happens for different reasons. Love is the most natural feeling in the world. How easy is it to love our family? How easy is it to fall in love with the girl you find the prettiest or the most subtle, or just the overall best. No one is perfect, but love seriously makes people sure get close to perfection. That is why we drop our guards and submit to its ultimate force. Friendship can only satisfy you so much. Love is natural for humans, not matter who you are, or what you think, love comes naturally.
I believe that love is in everything we do, everything we feel and every reason why we do what we do. Love is embedded in all of life. I believe love isn’t the most important because I feel love and enlightenment come hand in hand. If you are able to find one, you will find the other. Enlightenment can bring you love, and love can bring you enlightenment. Maybe not about God, but maybe it does. I have talked to countless people who have found religion through marriage. When their wives or husbands really want them to be christened or convert to Judaism or Islam, enlightenment can find its way into their lives and hearts.
We dare to love because it is in our DNA. It is in our hearts and mind, embedded by the songs we sing about, the feelings we treasure, the memories we have in our minds, and the unbelievable feelings of loyalty to our family. Love entails everything in life and has a part to play in everything that we say, do, accomplish, dream of, or take part in. I cannot explain it other than love is embedded in our souls. Love is the essence of life.
to add on to my earlier comment...
I was reading someone's blog, but i don't remember who's it was, they were talking about how they always thought young people couldn't be in love but then later changed their mind. WHen i thought about this topic I thought well no duh they can't be in love. Younger people haven't developed their own personalities yet nor have they haven't decided what qualities they admire, in other words they're innocent to the ways of love. But I thought about it some more, I came to the conclusion that the younger a person is the purer their love is. Children put everything into their love because they lack the experience that causes people to become callused and jaded.
Love will not be treasured if there is no time pressure. When we first enter the world, we already have an unconscious feeling that we cannot stop time. Time would slowly march forward. It would not turn back for anyone. It would only march forward. Sooner or later, we would become old. We would pass through this life but once. As a result, people would naturally be open to exploration and search for love. After all, people naturally want to experience life to the fullest extent and leave the largest impact, right?
Even if time doesn’t play the most important role in the lives of human, it still plays a significant role. One of the crucial factors that determine my choices in the “Deal or No Deal” exercise was time. From my guess, many others also base their choices on time. Those who chose option A doesn’t want to risk their whole lives living in poverty. Yet, similarly, those who choose choice B, at least for my case, wants to experience different levels of life and get the fullest extent of life out of it. Even when it comes with family involvement, time plays a crucial role. The choice of not taking risk to protect the family could be explained that the next generation’s time is more important than this generation. One does not want to cut off their children’s future and wants to give them the full benefits of life. That doesn’t mean that love doesn’t play a role. Love could play a major role in the life of people. However, it is time that makes love significant.
You know that feeling you get when you go on a date. You’re nervous and so happy you don’t want the day to end. You’re always anxious for the next one to come. What else gives you that feeling? It’s the feeling of being loved, secure, and important to someone all at the same time. I can’t explain it. Or when you hold someone’s hand or kiss them for the first time and how it sends chills all down your body. There is no feeling in the world that beats that. The love of family is also important. It’s the feeling of always knowing they have your back. Or that they know every minor thing about you and they love all the same. The love of friends also is awesome. Just to know that you can go out and have a good time. That’s the reason why we love. Most people are willing to risk anything to just get that feeling. Nothing can beat or even come close to the feeling of love.
This does relate to the Deal or No Deal scenario. A 10 obviously has to have some love in them. Think of a life with a lot of money. You have the house of your dreams and you enjoy your job. But you have no one. Or would a better 10 be you have enough money to not worry about it and you have a normal average looking house, with a wife or husband that you love madly. I don’t know about you but I would choose the second one. Money and big houses mean nothing if you have no one to enjoy it with. Love has to be in your life somewhere. Family, friends, or a significant other, or it’s worthless, you will live a very lonely life. So if I had to choose between a 2, 3 or a chance of getting an 8 or 9, I would have to take a risk. In order to love you have to take risks. You have to put your guard down to love and that is a huge risk in itself. If you don’t have your full heart into it then it’s not love.
That is why it inspires us. It makes us feel so good and gives us a feeling that nothing else can come close to. It’s is a risk taker and it is hard to find love. It makes us happy and excited and those are the feelings that inspire us. But it is such a deep emotion that if anything goes wrong or the love is lost the inspiration will turn evil. It will turn into the most opposite feeling, hate. So in the end love is helpful to us by giving us a since of security and belonging. It helps us to live better and happier lives. But it is harmful because when you put your heart into things it may get broken.
I totally agree with you. I think that loves give you the feeling of being able to have security and being able to be loved by someone special. Love can also give you the ability to be inspired by your loved ones. Without love we wouldn't be able to be happy, we would only see things in black and white, when we should live a little!
I fully agree with you that I would much rather have my family members and people to truly love me than being successful. Money and success can't be satisfying and cannot buy love or the feelings that you have when you love someone or being loved. I really like the phrase about how if you don't give your whole heart into a relationship, then it isn't love. I've never thought of it like that before. Yes, it is very risky and we all wish and hope that we're giving our whole heart to the right person and not wasting all that energy and love to the wrong one.
Aristophane's explanation of love satisfies me. In fact, I have heard multiple interpretations of his attempt to define love. Every human is born with a chest and a key to their hearts. That key cannot open their own chest but instead it can open their special someone's chest. They have the keys to each other's souls and heart. Aristophane's explanation is the bit morbid one of these two, but I still love the concept on how love is defined. I feel more complete when I have made a long term commitment with someone. The relationship with this special someone makes me feel complete because I am allowed to have someone that's only for me. Not as a possession but knowing that they will always be there for you, no matter the circumstance, makes me feel that love is the ultimate feeling that binds people together.
Love can inspire us to do many things, but as it inspires it also destroys many factors of our lives. I sometimes refer to love as a double-edged sword. As it makes us focus on the person we love more, it also blinds us to almost everything else such as friends, family, etc. Depending on the situation, love can be either more helpful or more harmful. If you fall in love, you start to ignore many other things in your life and focus on that one person. If that relationship is successful, you have just created an inseparable relationship. If it wasn't successful, you've destroyed your life with the people you have turned a blind eye to.
When you refer to love as a double edged sword, I somehow think of this like gambling. You could win big. At the same time, you could lose big. However, I just don't agree with how love is defined, especially Aristophane's explanation. Maybe it is just me, but that explanation makes little sense.
I think love is more helpful then harmful because love is a part of life. It can bring joy and happiness into our lives, yet it can bring us down sometimes because love is not easy to obtain. It will help us realize or better understand who is really there for you. Love can inspire us to things we would never thought of doing because it makes us more confident. No matter what feeling we had experienced, love is the best feeling in the world. Any relationship will not be perfect; couples will fight sometime and willing to risk in getting hurt because they love each other. In the end, all relationships must have trust in order to keep the relationship alive.
People dare to love because it’s the ultimate best feeling in the world. People will feel more security, and be more appreciated by a person that is there for them. Human beings are meant to be loved because like I said earlier, its part of life. Obtaining love also gets a different and deeper type of a connection than what they have with their friends. When people are down, they want to have someone there for them and that’s where love takes place, to support the damaged person. Love is a type of thing that can make a person feel like there on top of the world and can crush you badly. Love is not a easy thing to work with, it comes in with a lot of package, its just the matter if people can handle it or not.
Love as a word is used so loosely it’s almost impossible to have a single standing definition that agrees with everything else. I believe love is something that we as a person define ourselves. Nobody can define love for others, but only for themselves. I define love, because I’ll know its love when I feel it. People may tell me it is not love, however then to them it is not love, what is love to them may not be love to me. I feel love is an emotion that giving your full trust and loyalty to the one you give it to. You trust that person; you want to be with that person, and however you maintain your identity as well. You maintain who you are. You are able to forgive each other no matter what happens.
As human beings we long for this feeling of love because of some sort of indescribable satisfaction and safety it brings. Someone that’s not your family that you can depend on, someone that you can trust and know that they will always be there for you, we want that. Love is complex, yet simple in many ways. “I love you”, these 3 words are so simple yet can mean so many different things. Love is always desired since we are constantly searching for it. I know I probably won’t find love anytime soon, but I know I’ll find it sometime in the future. However, do we find love, or do we look for it? Simply put, love can come completely by chance, and love can come after years and years of searching. Different methods, yet same results, however possibly different levels of feeling.
I agree on how love really has no one definition. And I think, it's easier to try to find love than to have love come find you. Because if you're trying to find love, it means you'll meet more people, have more chances of finding love. It's like a choice that you make too. Do you choose to go find love? Or do you choose to let love come find you? People don't want to be lonely, and that's why we do everything we can to find love so we won't be lonely anymore
Goodluck finding you love
I also agree that love is impossible explain to another person because it's kind of like explaining color to the blind. How can you possibly convey the emotions that are evoked when you see red or blue? Also, I don't think you can actively search for love because love just happens. Falling in love happens by chance, it falls into your lap and the only thing you can do is be ready to catch it.
Many people have their on different opinions about my issues in life, that work out better. So by saying this my opinion in wether what source is greater between love, and hate, I would have to say that love has its own source of greatness, even though it is rare to find.
The reason for saying that love has its own source of greatness is because love is really hard to find in these days, genuine line, real love. I know some people may say that love always comes from your family, but some people do not have families, and some people just simply need a different kind of love, that dose not come from family but comes from friends, or even someone greater. Love is a feeling that is indescribable. But hate, has several words to describe. Love and Hate are to most powerful words that are rarely used today. They have a powerful meaning, and leave a permanent mark once used.
For instance treat this two words as a “chemical” or “product” that has a warning label. As you may see on a warning label the words “caution” or “WARNING”. Everyone is in search of love, and everyone tries to avoid hate. Love has a great emotion that can be a feeling of good, or lifted. But then it can also leave a bad emotion, love can hurt us more that what we have ever expected. Our risk that we have to take is to take that chemical or take the chance of love, and try to protect ourselves from burning our skin or braking our heart. When hate comes in, we try to avoid being hated everyday, or even we try to never feel that emotion, because that is like the feeling of love, but being hurt by love. I guess were I am going with this is that Love is a risk that we take every time we get an opportunity to take, because we know that we want to feel that feeling consistently. But by taking that opportunity we are all well aware that its a big risk, because love can come back and hurt us. I believe that love is a source of greatness because its rare, its risky, its indescribable, and so much more. Our weakness is love.
Love can inspire us because it is a very strong desire. The more we want, the more we are willing to do things to earn it. We would do everything we can, just to get that love from someone. Love is usually more helpful because when most people want love, they want to look nice and look good in front of the other person, therefore we do a lot of good things to try to leave a good impression. Even though sometimes it’s harmful. Such as in Macbeth, Macbeth, is willing to kill a king because that’s what his wife wants. We’re not sure if that’s the only reason, but we know it’s one of the reasons Macbeth killed Duncan. In this case, love dragged Macbeth down.
We always want love because love is something that we can’t just have and keep it with us forever. Love can change, just like how love has no definition. Some can say love is sacrificing, and some can say love is selfish. Love can change faster than you think. The person who tells you he/she loves you and is hugging you right now may not like you anymore in a week. Love is also very strong. It can turn into hate faster than you think too because the other side of love is hate. Love and hate are like the two sides of a coin. They’re so close to each other yet so easily distinguishable.
I suppose you're right when you say it can make a person better. We would do things for other people if they ask because we love them and don't want to embarrass them. But it can also change a person from good, to bad. They begin to see flaws and start to take the person for granted when really, the person is the most wonderful person that one will ever meet.
I agree that love is something special that we all desire. I only wonder if we all try to leave good impressions aren't we being fake? I think love can be manipulative many times.There are times where people tell themselves "I love that person" yet I feel do they really? Love is fast and hard to describe, what a tough subject.
Love is irresistible, beautiful and ugly at the same time. Love is irresistible like a perfectly juicy steak in dancing in front of a hungry dog. Love is beautiful because of the amazing lengths we’d go to just to impress the person we love. Love is ugly because of how broken we feel when things fall apart. It’s a parallel to how humans are, beautiful yet ugly. It’s the humanistic side of love that just makes us swarm to it like bugs to fire. Love works like unsatisfied hunger and it drives us to keep searching for that special person, so we can’t possibly resist what feels natural. We’d do things we wouldn’t normally do, so love doubles as drunken friendship. And, like all things we want in life we want what’s bad for us, so naturally we want to be drunk.
Even though love is a double edged sword we dare to love because we want someone to love us back. I like to attribute love to sports because like sports, those true winners have failed so many times, but they keep coming back for more because they know that winning is the greatest feeling. Love is like winning in life, so it’s definitely worth “losing” once in a while. It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all because love adds more meaning to our lives. The moment you are joined with someone you no longer think about just yourself, you think about them as well. You begin to realize that your actions affect them as well as yourself and that just adds more to our lives. We become more than ourselves and that’s what we all strive to be in our lives, something more. Love unlocks the chest that holds our human potential.
I like the part where you stated that love is irresistible. It really is. Because every human longs to be loved, when that special comes around, it is our nature to be attracted. When you said that love is like when bugs being attracted to fire and falling for it, it made me think of the same, of how flies love bright light and when they see it, that's all they see and it'll eventually lead to their own death. Just how we don't know why flies love bright light, we can never fully comprehend why we're built to love and be loved. Sometimes when we're blinded by love, we won't be able to see anything else and that can be dangerous.
I loved how you contrasted love to sports. It is VERY true, no matter how many times a team loses, we still get back up and fight again for victory. However, it made me think what is the victory in love? Would winning in a game be equal as becoming a couple with the person you loved for many years? I don't know. But I know, people would never stop falling in love.
At this age I know I do not understand the full meaning of the feeling you call love however, I can try to relate to you through my own mistakes and experiences. Love can bring out your best and worst side of you. It can also bring happy and sad memories that we are permanently scared with. Memories can be carried through feelings, images, objects, clothing, words, sound, air and even food. These memories can never be lost unless your brain is surgically removed and you function on a computer generated one. The habit of storing every single little detail of the good times represents that your the kind of person who truly cherishes the past time spent together with that special someone. You felt horrible for tearing up those letters however did you think about the benefits it has brought you? From the sound of your words, you still feel incredibly negative for doing so. The way you told your story makes sense with one major flaw attached. Instead of feeling more positive, you blamed yourself.
Ripping the letters up ultimately helped you a long way by letting all your past go and moving on to improve your life. You deserve to feel free of any sort of old attachments. If you had still kept those old memories in a box, you would never have been the proud bold person you are today.You would be the bird trapped in a cage saying. By letting those letters go, you have set your heart and mind free from the past. Nothing mental is ever easy to accomplish, though you had the power to do so. To me that is similar to what I call a pure advantage. There are too many people out there who are depressed, and stay that way their entire lives without ever healing. They never gained the power and courage like you did. You know now you are more mentally powerful as well as stable then a majority of people because you made the right choice.
Like Miss Ottaviano always says "You deserve the BEST". (Yes you, Mr. Feraco!)
Love is the strongest religion in the world, and all one needs is love. Love for your siblings, kids, husband, wife, pets, and everything and everything. Love is hate, love is power, love is bitter, love is everything, and everything is love. What is love? Love is the ticklish feeling a boy gets when he gives away his first kiss, writes his first letter to his mom away from college, etc. As we go through the relationships of love, we grow stronger, tougher, sweeter, or even bitter. Love is such a simple, yet complicated relationship that none of us really treasures it until we have lost it.
I love my parents and my friends, yet, sometimes I don’t appreciate their loves until I have lost them. Just recently, I almost lost my parents’ trust and love because I lied to them. I lied to them about my grades and my attendance. Their hearts literally broke when they found out the truth. I have never wanted to die so bad before until that time. As one can see, a loving relationship is valuable, yet fragile at the same time. It is how to protect it that makes it meaningful and long-lasting. In the end, love is everything and everything is love, but don’t wait until you have lost other’s love, trust for you to start appreciate. Once again, love is the strongest religion and all one needs is love.
Hey Terry! I really enjoyed reading your blog. Your examples of it are really cute and funny in the first paragraph. You are so right about how we take it for granted while we have it! I like how you used examples from you life to show this and how you talked about the importance of trust.
Terry, I liked how you described love as not just an emotion between a two lovers, but between anyone and everyone you care about. I also agree with love being the little things, the little feelings and experiences we take part in that only adds to the strength throughout our days. I can also relate to what you went through with your parents and know how hard it must have been. I went through a similar situation with my parents back in middle school. So I totally hear what you’re saying about love being fragile object that need to be carefully handled.
Hello there Terry.
I agree with you, love is a great thing. It's sad that love isn't always valued. Since we sometimes take love for granted, we just don't really care about it. We end up thinking about ourselves rather than thinking about how our actions affect loved ones.
I agree that you really dont appreciate love until you lose it. thats why its so much sweeter if you get a second chance. but its also sad that you have to realize it afterwards instead of before. it really does make you feel like dying without love.
Love is something we take for granted. As humans we grow use to things that are given to us freely. Like if every night i was to cook you the most richest steak and you ate if for years. In a matter on months you will grow tired of it. Do we grow tired of love? Is that why we have so many broken relationships? Interesting!
When I read about Aristophanes’ explanation about love, the longing for our “other half” reminded me about the book Golden Compass. In that world, humans cannot live by themselves without their daemons (animals), which are like their “other half” and are part of their soul. I find it true how we as human beings depend so much on love that it becomes our “other half” up to the point where it feels like we can’t live, unless we feel loved. Love, as it is written, is something that one cannot be described and fully comprehended just by describing it with plain English or language. When we read about romantic books or just talk about “love”, it automatically clicks with our feelings and brings up experiences that we can relate with and understand. Love can work both ways, being helpful and harmful. When love is going well, we receive all the benefits of it and enjoy life but when we supposedly lose “love” and are disconnected, we’re scarred and discouraged by it. When relationships happen, we tend to trust that person and give them our all and once that happens, we lose our guard. We’re not aware that people change all the time, so love blinds us to just think that we should give our whole heart to our loved one.
I believe that it is worth the pain to have been in a relationship. Of course when you break up with someone it is painful and difficult to bear but when you think about it with a broad picture, there are positive sides to it. Relationships and love can help shape your personality and make you into a better-rounded person. It can also be a good lesson to learn from and become more aware of what’s going on in relationships. As human beings, we long to be loved by others and to know that someone cares for us. Love exchanged between human beings is temporary and can never be certain when that love will fade or change. However, the love that God offers to people remains constant and abundant and will never disappear, even though they neglect Him so many times. Love drives us to run after our goals and ambitions. Many people want to have a professional occupation because they love their family so much that they want the best for them and live comfortably. I believe that it motivates us to go so far in life. Love can make us go extraordinary things, but at the same time, it can drive us to do the worst, like taking revenge for your loved one. In a way, love is like the food to our soul. In some situations, if a loved one died, people can suffer from depression because their heart cannot cope with the loss. We all hear stories about people committing suicide because they don’t feel loved from either a specific person or they just don’t feel like anybody cares or loves them. However, when people are in love, their whole facial expression brightens up and everything about them looks more sunny and optimistic.
When you talk about how when people talk about love and how it just clicks with us i think that is so true. I think it is very interesting that everyone has something in common, everyone can relate to love. Love is something that everyone feels whether its a love that hurts or a love that is just indescribable. I also agree with you about how we learn from every relationship, you gain a large part of your personality from frienships and relationships, we are capable of learning all sorts of lessons that we can relate to in the future and how we can change for the better.
Without love where would our world be today? No one really is able to define love to any real extent but we all know what it is and many of us have felt what it is like. I have no idea if love is just human hormones mixing together in the right way or this deep and unexplainable bond where two souls unite and share this immense energy between each other. Love is everywhere and it is no where, it can be expressed or suppressed, and is done internally or shown externally. Love gives you that warm fuzzy feeling inside that is unexplainable yet everyone knows what it feels like. Its obvious love has an impact on us as humans otherwise there would never be as many songs about love or as many books and stories about it. Love seems so simple but it could never get more complicated.
I have discovered with myself that when it comes to love it is all or nothing and if you don’t pour out you all you have nothing. There are many sayings about love is blind or love will rob you blind. Is that really the kind of love we long for the kind that takes and takes or the kind that fills you up till you can’t take anymore and then fills you up some more. This idea of love has gotten me to think about love and hate and what makes them different and what makes them the same. They both share a deep and intense passion for whom or whatever the recipient may be. Yet one is full of a good passion while the other is full of disdain and disloyalty. Just as I bring the point of love on the star closer I lose some of who I am in the other person and bring my identity and security further away.
I agree that love seems simple but really is very complicated. As for the all or nothing I agree with that as well. Love is an all or nothing gamble there really isn’t any between points. Even though there isn’t a between point it isn’t all black and white either, but more of a grey.
Seriously, like you said, what would the world be like without love? Love is what brings everyone together, because everyone is born with it in their hearts one way or another. I agree with you when you said you have to give it all or nothing for love, or you end up with nothing. If you love someone or something, you have to give it your all to pursue it.
Love is a very complicated thing. Of course there are many views on how it works. In the words of Thomas Chen, Mr. Feraco you would probably know who this is since he was one of your students last year and a good friend of mine, there is no such thing as love and it’s all just various chemical stimulations in your brain. I agree and disagree with this statement myself. I do agree what there is of course a bit of chemical stimulation that goes on in your head that clouds your judgment in a way and tends to impair your thought process. Along with that there is something else that no one can really describe, but you know that it’s there. It’s that warming feeling or possibly the butterfly’s in your stomach feeling that you get when you’re around someone who you really are in love with. I still consider myself to young to understand love to its full potential, but it’s something that always seems to change and grow which adds mystery to what it really is.
Love is a funny thing in the way it can build you up and encourage you when it can also destroy you and break you down to tears at the same time. I myself am not really sure how love can inspire us so well, but I have some idea on why it can also drag us down. For love to inspire it needs to really make a big impact on that one person’s life. An example is the common said that the person they love has made them a better person and that can be the key to their inspiration to do better for that person. As for dragging us down I think love can do that much quicker then it can build us up. Love for the wrong reasons is the main cause of being dragged down by it and always seems to happen to many people. Basically you can’t really tell right off the bat whether the love is inspiring or is just going to be a weight to drag you down, only time will tell.
Anthony - Of course I remember Thomas - I wrote his Eagle Scout letter after I wrote yours! In fact - and I'm not sure he knows this - when I did the first version of this thread a year ago, I made a tiny bet with myself that he would post some version of the "there's no such thing as love, because it's just a word we use to describe chemical interactions" refrain he loved so much.
I won that bet.
Love, is what I believe to be the greatest feeling that we can feel from our heart that only we can experience and know for ourselves. Love is passionate, love is strong, love is deep, love is influential, love is unstable, love is unpredictable, love is happiness, and love is hate. Having loved for someone or something is basically giving apart of you away and putting your heart and feelings in a place of risk for better or for worse. We need love to know what hate is and vice versa. Thus, I believe that they are closely linked together. Our love and thoughts about love also transforms as we progress through time. For some love overpowers our decisions.
It is because the feeling of love is so strong that it can sometimes override all our other emotions to do what we feel strongly about. Love can also be for greed and selfishness, which can be compared to those wants of Macbeth. Macbeth starts losing himself as his feelings makes him want more and more for himself. His love and loyalty for things eventually fades and turns him into someone that we would hate. For example, we can see how at the beginning his relationship with his wife was close for he would go talk to her and listen to her, but as we move on he didn’t tell her about some of his plans and has focused his feelings more onto himself.
It’s really hard to put love into words, because there are many perspectives and different feelings of love. I believe that to actually love someone or something it takes time to build that love. Love, to me, can’t be determined in just a short period of time. If it’s really love then it will have to be able to last for a while making the feelings stronger and helping us to differentiate it with infatuation or just admiration. I think things will be fine as long as there is commitment, trust, communication, and heart in love. Overall, love is something I believe that everyone needs and what makes life worth living for.
Love can inspire us because we are attracted to it and tend to focus on it. Since it can be constantly on our mind, love gives us many ideas, being the source of our inspiration. However there is a bad side of love, if we get too wrapped up it can drag us down easily. In my opinion and from prior experience, love is more harmful than helpful. Love distracts you and you’re world seems to revolve around it. If you have it then lose it, you really can’t function properly for a while and you sink into depression. It seems like your whole world has crashed if you lose it. Proving that is it more harmful then helpful, after all they say “nothing gold can stay”. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship so it takes a lot of effort and energy to make it work, most of the time. I think that since most people desire it they are willing risk it and drop their guard to experience it. However they do this not thinking of the consequences and pain of it if it is lost. I think people are willing to risk being hurt for a relationship, because they think it’s worth it. They are risking to be hurt for a period of happiness, even though the pain lasts longer. I guess in the end, it is worth it. To experience love and to be loved even if it may be for only a short period of time.
As I read through previous posts, I find that there are many mixed emotions throughout about the nature of love and its place in the lives of people. But for the most part, love is a positive. People seem to look to it for hope and fulfillment, security and assurance in something that is true in a world full of deceit. For me, I feel that putting effort into trying to describe love to someone who hasn’t experienced it is like teaching a deaf man how to appreciate classical music. The effort is worthless and the descriptions we tirelessly use to attempt to define it are beyond jaded. (See following paragraph) Yet we are still taken by the idea. We still see love as one of history’s greatest unsolved mysteries. The puzzle to which we must solve without looking at the box or knowing we have all the pieces. We long for the reassurance of knowing that the feelings you possess are mutual between you and another person.
We dare to love because love is like glue. (Corny, I know.) It comes in all different types: super glue, wood glue, glue sticks, spray glue, there are hundreds of types; but at the end of the day, they all do the same job: they bind. They bind us to complete, to create a whole. And if the proper type is used, that unity is a tough one to undo. But if fallen into the wrong hands, it becomes just a sticky mess. Each and every one of them has a certain “something” they’re looking for, a counterpart, to make the connection and fulfill its purpose. We know that what we’re looking for is out there, we just need to find it.
Nice love to glue comparison. I was really interested to see how you would pull it off, and after reading your post, I have to say that your comparison makes more sense than Aristophanes’s interpretation. I can imagine trying to explain love to someone who hasn't experienced it. You can't simply show or explain what love is, you just have to experience it for yourself to know.
i dont think your comparison is corny. its actually really well thought out, the perfect analogy. i also agree with you that its pretty much impossible to explain love, it must be experienced. just like how siddhartha couldnt teach enlightenment to govinda.
Love is a strong word that has so solid definition that is overly misused. Love is a term that does not have a set definition. The definition for love varies from person to person. In my opinion, love is commitment, trust for me, and love is sacrifice. In order to truly love someone, commitment and sacrifice are needed. In order to stay committed, we would have to give that person all our trust and faith. Rather than going out with friends, we would have to sacrifice time to spend time with that special person.
I see love as bittersweet. Love can be very satisfying, yet we are still vulnerable to getting hurt. When we are with a loved one, we’ll feel satisfied. We’ll feel great about ourselves and have this emptiness inside of us filled. We take the risk of getting hurt just so we can have that feeling of happiness. Love is also spontaneous; it brings a nice twist to the boring everyday life. Although love can be painful, I believe the good aspects outweigh the bad. Everyone should be able to experience love because without love, life is meaningless.
I totally agree with you about how love is different from each person, i think that with love its how a person wants it or how much someone wants it. Commitment and sacrafice is needed to love someone to be in a relationship with someone. You need to be flexable with whatever your partner feels, but a relationship is two ways and both have to understand and commit to what both persons have committed to. Love is bittersweet, there are times where you just want to let go of everything because it gets so hard but you dont want to because you know how much you love that person and how good they make you feel. There is that comfort that you feel when your with the person you love, you dont want it any other way.
I don’t necessarily agree with all the mythology that Aristophane’s puts into his studies. His explanation about his concept on love seems a little out of time. I think love is a feeling that can’t be described in words, the existence of love is something that everyone has, and shows it in there own ways. Love can be all sorts of things, a physical attraction, or a comfort type feeling. I think that we feel that love completes us because they way we feel when we are loved; it feels that we are needed and that we mean something to someone. When there is someone in the world that you feel you can just be with and want to be with for the rest of your life, it is a feeling that cant be replaced. Love can inspire us to do all sort of things because we can either be blinded by love and make us do things that we wouldn’t normally do. Love can be both helpful and harmful, it depends on how you look at everything, and there are different situations where there are choices that have to be made. Love gives up a certain type of hope and guidance that lets us drop our guards because we’re able to rely on someone else to make us happy or just to find comfort. We risk the will of being hurt because without taking chances it doesn’t feel as good when you know that you’ve found that perfect someone.
Yes love is the answer to those questions, for example when I choose to pick different options when my kids and husband was in the cost of it I still wanted to stay with them instead of taking a chance of having a better or worse life. I had them in my perspective because I loved them; I would risk almost anything to have them in my life and to live a good life. I don’t think it is a key to our survival but for our development of civilization I agree and the advancement of our species. I wouldn’t say love is the most important point in our star because I think every point in the star is equally important because without each point your life cant really be perfect or as perfect as you want it to be. We dare to love because it is something of our nature and we want to experience that feeling that we’ve grown up to want to experience. A connection to the world with love is all around us; it might not always be an intimate love it can be a different kind of love that relates to the world. We long for love because as we’ve grown up we’ve always viewed love as something you need and something we want when we get older. This type of desire and ambition is totally different from many other different types of other desires and ambitions. We always put love by itself because it is such a big emotion and feeling. Love is such a big part of everyone’s life, whether or not you want it or not. It makes us feel certain emotions you cant feel with any other type of feeling.
I agree that love helps to connect us with the world. However, since love connects us to the world it also makes us feel more comfortable with our own lives and with that it makes us feel more secure. Love also affects our independence because once we're bonded to someone we're never really the same and they will have a hold on us. I disagree that all the points on the star are equal because love just affects us more.
You have too many brilliant ideas in your paragraphs, I don't even know where to start... I think that most of your points were right on the money.
Do we really need to perfect, or as perfect as we want to be? I think we can live happily with either more or less of each point of the star - we just need a good balance. We
Love protects, preserves, and hopes for the positive aspects of life. While at the same time is can be meaningless and false. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship. I believe in Aristophanes’ explanation because it helps relate love into something that’s very familiar and understandable. There are times when the very existence of love is questioned. Many see the absence of love in relationships that have demonstrated hatred and brutality. The history of the world has seen these instances. Even in our literature there are examples of hatred between brothers, parents, and children, sibling rivalry and marriages failing. Friends plotting and betraying one another, like in Macbeth, and countless more. I wonder to myself if there really is a scared bond between two people that can never be broken.
I don’t believe love is responsible for these senseless acts. It is us, the people who loose sight of the true meaning of love and are undertaken by apathy. We dare to love to escape the emptiness inside of us. It’s like that quote about how humanity’s greatest feat is to overcome loneliness. I believe this is true, love is the answer I come up with when I saw this quote. We look for love so that we become secure and feel protected that someone will always be there no matter what. Love can leave us completely vulnerable because when we share it with someone we become so open and honest about ourselves. I think I would take the risk of getting hurt to find myself and discover a whole new side of me.
i totally agree with you on the fact that love is responsible for senseless action. Everyone has the control over his/her action. And that person must not blame it on love, or else it would be selfish. In the end, love is a great, wonderful thing which shouldn't be blamed for stupid, senseless action.
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Yes, i totally agree with you how Aristophanes idea makes it easier to relate to and more understandable. I know exactly what you mean by sometimes questioning if love is really there or not. It is harder to see sometimes but it is always there :]. Love can be hard but in the end it is totally worth the whole ride.
Love can be so mysterious yet inevitable to human beings. Often times we overlook this important aspect of our lives and later find it around us in every way we can possibly imagine. We live because of love. Parents’ love and Lord’s love allow us to come to Earth. And with their love, and the love from other friends, we are able to live our lives with companions. With love, we will never be lonely, but strong enough to face difficulties on our way of life. With love, we can hold each other’s hands and push forward together.
God has already planned out the relationships among people. He knows our lives before we were even born and He has blessed us with the ability to love. Although things may not always be right in our eyes, God has its purpose in everyone we encounter in life. Good or bad, different encounters can teach us different things as well.
Love can shift to the opposite end if things don’t work well as we expected. In life, we always have people that we do not necessarily work the best with. It might be because of miscommunication, because of something that we don’t share in common, or because of betrayal. Often times when people say they hate someone, they think their emotions have driven by hatred. However, how are people able to hate if they don’t love? Love and hate are relative to each other. When someone we love betrays us, we say that we hate him/her. But why do we care about this betrayal if we were not to love him/her in the first place? It is because we love our friends so much that we put trust in them and love them with our whole hearts, we expect them to do the same to us. When they fail to meet our expectation, we feel as if our love is torn apart and ripped away.
Love can be hurtful sometimes, but despite the ending of a relationship, the experience can always teach us a lesson in life. As much as people think love can drag us down and be harmful to us, I would argue that love actually inspires us and is really beneficial in understanding the world as well as ourselves. Living on Earth without anyone’s love can be lonely. That loneliness and lack of support, not love, will eventually stop us from trying hard and give up on our goals in life. We dare to love and are willing to risk being hurt because love has its magical power that allows is to drop our guard. Love completes us. Love may not be the answer to everything we experience in life, but it is definitely the strongest backbone that’s holding us up, encouraging us and comforting us. With the love from friends, family, and from God, we are able to wipe away our sorrow and exhaustion and head on to the infinite many “tomorrows” in the future.
After reading Mr. Feraco’s anecdote on how he enjoys collecting (and saving) everything from his past, I started thinking deeply. There are so many good memories, so much hard work that I have thrown away without thinking twice. Every year, every memory that I have wanted to save, I have kept telling myself I would put it in a safe spot so I could find it later. I misplace things. I accidentally toss useful items, because they have been lodged in between stacks of old papers. I keep all of my wonderful memories inside; memories that will last me a lifetime, but I won’t have anything to stimulate those memories. I won’t have anything to bring them out…
Ultimately, I believe that selfishness, greed, jealous are the driving forces behind human thoughts. All of these different, negative aspects go hand in hand as well as lead to hate.
Hate is a harsh reality in our world. It is everywhere; omnipresent within everyone’s lives. People will always find a way to “hate.” My prime example would be Yao Ming; who is a Chinese basketball player playing in the NBA. He is the epitome of class: humble, hard-working – somebody who rarely complains. Yet, his critics are always calling him soft, demeaning him for not getting more blocks, not scoring more points, not showing more emotion. Hate is human behavior at its absolute worse, yet it is essential, possibly even necessary because it directly guides us to the most beautiful feeling that we can feel.
Love is our most powerful emotion, yet it is something that probably is truly impossible to define. There are so many things that are woven in with love; happiness, satisfaction, other humans, even hate. This word truly is versatile because it can apply to so many different things. You can love food. You can love playing football. You can love your family. Everyone needs love.
You went out of your way to explain your memories and hate that you left love out in the cold. While it's true that the two tie very deeply into love, I would've liked to see more of your opinion on love (since almost half your post is dedicated to hate). I mean you can't hate if you haven't loved right?
I agree that love helps to connect us with the world. However, since love connects us to the world it also makes us feel more comfortable with our own lives and with that it makes us feel more secure. Love also affects our independence because once we're bonded to someone we're never really the same and they will have a hold on us. I disagree that all the points on the star are equal because love just affects us more.
I think Aristophanes’s explanation is very interesting and romantic. However in reality do people actually feel “complete” when they date the ones they love? Because for my boyfriend and I, I don’t think we had ever thought that we complete each other. And according to Aristophanes’s explanation, that would mean that we are not each other’s “other half”. But that bring up another question to my mind. Do we have to feel complete for each other, for a couple to work out? I don’t think that is necessarily true. Even if we don’t complete each other, we can work together to fill those gaps in.
I think love can both inspire you to do good deeds as well as bad ones. Speaking from my own experience, my current boyfriend restricts me from enjoying my time with my friends but at the same time keeps me away from harm. Knowing that I am pretty innocent and naïve, he suspects that I am vulnerable and easily influenced by others. After dating him for a while, he made me promise several things and said if I don’t follow them, we are over. Although at first I thought how demanding, but thinking about it now, I notice how he was worried about him since I only see him two or three times in a month. However this protective nature of his sometimes goes overboard. He restricts me not only from harm but also at times from my friends. He drags me down in the sense of losing some of my friends. He would rather have me hanging out with him on the weekends rather than seeing my friends or going to my practices. Many of my friends tell me that he is somewhat selfish. But for me, I just overlook it. I mean no one is perfect.
Love can both inspire us and drag us down because when in love, people try to stay in love and gain the love through listening to and achieving your mate’s desires. In Macbeth, becoming King was Lady Macbeth’s desire and Macbeth listened to her with the cost of killing the current one. This can be seen in both positive and negative terms. He was inspired to go beyond his current position. But it was done wrong, killing the King.
Love, is a most complicate thing in the world. There is none of a particular way to define the “love.” I asked myself many time what the love really is, eventually I felt that love is sacrifice, it could be an action, or it could be a thing. Therefore, depends on different kind of situations we involved, we could clearly see there is many types of love right on our front. However, loves are have a common point, they all fatal. I mean this “fatal” is not refer the death, it seems a power or something can give an incurable hurt that makes you suffer and torture. Different types of love has their own special properties, as friends’ love and parent’s love might give confidences and supports to help you achieve whatever goal you desire. Love proves the existence of a person. When we think about love, then our heads will come up with, care, warm, happiness, or more positive words we can imagine. The reason is only time we can feel love is when you are happy. Love is greatness.
Love is both helpful and harmful. It encourages me to do the work as hard as possible and become a successful person. Unfortunately, some people have pulled down by love too. Usually love gives happiness to people, but instead to give happiness; it gives pain and torture to their mental and become disorder. Like Macbeth, he loves his wife, once that she yelled him a coward as a loser; he loses his mind and killed the King Duncan. This is only way he can makes her happy, then he will be happy. Personally, I think they both are pathetic. Love makes Macbeth cares to his wife, but everything is cause by love, by a belief. Love is not satisfied, it is desire. We desire to get more and more love to keep us being satisfy.
Love is a belief, and is everything. We use many different ways to express the love and pursuit it from each other. If love means sacrifice, then we can say people need sacrifices from others in order to live, also we need to sacrifice back to keep them balance. Otherwise, one side will die and another side will not long to survive either.
Love varies itself in different situations. It can warm people's heart in difficulties but it can also hurt people's feeling in misuses. For me, love motivates to finish my duty when I am weak and lazy. Furthermore, it would someitmes even encourages me to sacrifice myself for the better good.
There isn’t one specific definition for the word “love” because everyone has a different meaning for it. But one thing for sure, I’m certain people use it when they want to express a feeling of happiness to something or someone that they can’t explain in any other words. Love can inspire us in many ways; it teaches us how to forgive, how to trust, and how to be happy. However, love isn’t always a positive thing; it leads people to jealousy, crimes, and sometimes even death. I believe that love is more helpful than harmful because without it, there wouldn’t be such things as happiness. It’s harmful when people abuse it and they let their emotions take over their actions. People are willing to risk being hurt in order to have a relationship with “love” because it brings happiness in people’s lives and it is the experience everyone wants to have.
In the questions of “Deal or No Deal”, depending on people’s perspectives, love may have been the answers to the tough dilemma. Some thought of their loved ones first when it came down to decision making for the future, while the others only thought of themselves. I believe that this is love; caring about the loved ones first. In my opinion, out of all the points on the star, love isn’t the most important one; enlightenment is. Love is an element that’s just always around you while enlightenment is something you have to actually go and pursue. Love is something that human beings long for because it’s hard to pursue, especially in a boy-girl relationship. It’s a different kind of ambition aside from our typical dreams; we long for it more because the meaning is indescribable, it makes everyone curious. More people want to experience it.
"Love is something that human beings long for because it’s hard to pursue, especially in a boy-girl relationship." I don't think love is hard to pursue, because Jackie.. I LOVE YOU! Okay, but any ways I don't believe enlightenment should be most important because it is a star... If enlightenment is most important you would have a very weird looking star. The star should be balance!
I think love has more the source of greatness and failure than hate. Hate only has one affect; that is, failure, and it would only lead people to failure without turning back. On the other hand, love can result in both greatness and failure. When I face obstacles and stress, I would think about the love my parents gave me. This love would allow me to have the strength to overcome stresses. Likewise, love is the source of greatness for me is that I could help people through love. Love is the one that keeps the society working because everyone is willing to help each other through love. Nevertheless, people would have value love differently from one another. I think one of the reasons is trust. People need often need to establish trust in order for them to express their love. This also applies to friendship and family. Love is what makes friendship and family firm, but it also required trust for one to love one another.
I argee with the statement that love is an incredibly powerful force and that it affects people’s lives. People would be willing to take risk for friendship mainly because it is hard to establish a strong relationship, and it is important to have good relationship with others in this society. Furthermore, a strong relationship requires love, and it is the key that holds the society together. For me, I also think that my star cannot form without love, and love is the basics of life. This is another reason people often search and yearn for love. There are millions of people around the world that need help, and it is our care and love that helps them continue their journey of life. Love is something that will not only benefits ourselves, but others will receive the warm.
“I love love
I love being in love
I don't care what it does to me
We'll take our chances
We’ll last a month
We’ll never speak again
How I love being in love”
-“Inches and Falling” The Format
Like Mr. Feraco, I too love to keep and collect things and I’ve slowly become more and more aware of this weird habit that I seem to have. I have a little cloth handmade doll from my first boyfriend and every single note that my friends and I wrote to each other back in middle school. Not to mention very strange things like chocolate from Mexico and fancy water from Las Vegas I always want to keep everything just incase I need it later or want to see it later. I have yet to figure out if I am driven to do this by fear or by love but I think it is a strange combination of the two.
As for Aristophanes’s explanation, I think it is great really. It is a really beautiful thought and makes a lot of sense. His idea explains the feeling of love really well, searching for that other half that completes you and makes you feel whole. I do believe that there is a right person out there for everybody or their “second half”. Love is what everyone is looking for and maybe his explanation is the best, we will risk everything because we want to be complete and have our other halves with us. That I think is the best feeling in the world to feel completed. It is worth all the sacrifices and all the fear because its just so amazing and so comforting at the time. We cannot be constantly satisfied with everything all peachy our entire lives or, I think, that we would never really live.
I think love is the most important point on the star because without love what’s the point? If you don’t have love you probably don’t feel very secure. In Siddhartha he needed love to finally achieve enlightenment so that’s out. It doesn’t really matter who you are and what your identity is if you don’t love or no one loves you. Finally what is the point of being independent if at the end of the day you have no one to share it with. So basically What I'm trying to say is all we really need is love and everything else will come to us.
“All you need is love, love, love is all you need.” -The Beatles
Ah! like every song has thing i want to use. One more than I'm done.
but sometimes it's a good hurt
And it feels like i'm alive
When it transcends the bad things
have a heart and try me
'Cause without love I won't survive"
Love is the most powerful of all human emotions. It is the only emotion out there with so many plays, songs and stories told about it. It even has the power to turn friends into enemies and enemies into friends. So why does this powerful emotion actually exist? In order for humans to exist, we must have happiness. Without happiness there would be nothing left to live for. Love is a major fraction of human happiness. However, with love comes misery and if you’re not prepared to experience sadness then you are not ready to love. Many people enter relationships without realizing that love means you are giving others the power to hurt you. This is the reason why many relationships end in failures. However, you shouldn’t just give up on love after experiencing the pain of separation. Instead, be happy that you were able to experience the sadness because without it, how could you have loved in the first place? Don’t quit on life just because you lost love. Realize that you were able to experience love, and turn that ugly sadness into a beautiful one.
We dare to love because we need it. Love gives us a sense of belonging. Even if it requires us to become incredibly vulnerable, the risk is worth it if we can shatter loneliness. If we are to live happily we need to be loved. Without love, it would hard to find happiness and without happiness we would not wish to continue living. After all, what’s the point of living a life if we have nothing to live for?
Honestly, love is the ultimate gift to human nature. I mean, without love, what kind of society would we be living in? Quite a boring one I would say. Love is energy, hope, happiness, and life. It fuels us to make ourselves better, not just as people, but as good souls. Love inspires us in a way that nothing else can; a way that can totally change the positive or negative ways of an individual. It's just that powerful. I believe love is more helpful than harmful because once you find it, you learn very many things from it; things that are more real than anything else. Love allows us to drop our guard because it is naturally requires us to do so. How can you love with your guard up and strong? You can't. Relationships that involve love are more important to us than friendships because it is more meaningful and powerful.
We dare to love because it is the ultimate challenge for any person. It is full of mystery, excitement, suspense, and surprises. There is more to love than any other kind of relationship because it contains the most of anything; physicality, romance, future, and life. Love is the thing we long for the most because if you find the one for you, then you will be the most satisfied that you could ever be. It is the ultimate reward for hard work towards a relationship with your better half. Love wants you to enjoy it to the fullest because it is ultimately your best buddy. No other feelings that come from love can be felt with any other feeling. I personally enjoy the gift of love because it holds the best experiences of your life.
I just want to start off by saying I am a lot like you, because I keep almost everything my friends give me. And I also threw away something my friend gave me, through rage and embarrassment. When I attended Longley Way, I would walk home everyday reading the letters my friend would give me. I don’t really remember what they were about but I remember smiling after reading them. Then my nosey brother had to go read my stuff and I was pissed off but embarrassed at the same time. That caused me to put the letters in this bush and every day for almost a year I would see my letters in there. Then one day when I was walking home I see the owner slicing through his bush with his chainsaw looking thing, and he happened to sliced up the letters. I felt so STUPID for putting the letters in that bush. I think I was so sad losing the letters because that was the first thing that I have ever gotten from a friend.
Love can inspire us in many ways, in one way if you love someone that can inspire you to change for the better to get your lover. However, it is still able to drag you down because you will be blinded by the chase leaving you very vulnerable. I think love is both helpful and harmful. I guess it wasn’t for the “love for the game” sports wouldn’t be intense. It can be harmful because you may love someone, but that someone may not love you and that will hurt you. We drop guard because we want them to enter our hearts. We are willing to take the risk of being hurt because it is worth it at the end.
I don’t believe in the afterlife so that makes life right now very precious. What I’m trying to say is that I would choose option B if it was 50/50 because I know if I don’t, I would be saying “what if” everyday… even though I would have a family it wouldn’t matter at the end, because we all will die. This might sound selfish but I want to live my life to the fullest… however, this is now when I am childless, I know I would probably pick option A because of love. When I think of my parents and what they sacrifice for me, I feel like I should pay it forward. I don’t think one point on the star should be more important than another point. I believe all the points on the stars are equally important because it needs to be balance! I guess love is a contributor to the key to everything. Love is important but set limits.
Aww I'm sorry to hear about your letters that totally sucks. I used to keep everything in a journal when i was younger and my friends would look through them i would get so embarrassed so i threw one away. I picked option B almost every time as well because i don't want to sit there for the rest of my life thinking what if?
Aristophanes’s explanation about love is perfectly explained. We yearn for love in order to complete ourselves, to find that other half that’s missing. I don’t think we can ever say we have lived a fulfilled fruitful life if we have never experienced love. It is something we need to experience before our time runs out, something we should always aim for. As soon as we find that someone we love, we feel complete because that person fills in the gaps. That person fills in the holes in either your personality or interests by doing the things you would never do. Take for instance, Macbeth and Lady Macbeth. Both incredibly different and yet very affectionate towards each other, each fills in each other’s holes very well. Macbeth fills in her struggle to have power, rank, and recognition, while Lady Macbeth fills in his aggressive side. She makes him stronger, more adaptable in his society, even if it is for the wrong reasons.
When I think about life, I picture life as one big never-ending war. Battles with nature (germs, diseases), battles with people, battles with knowledge (school, admissions to colleges), and battles for love fills up our lives, it literally consumes us. We need to take risk in order to win and emerge victorious. We can’t just lay back and hope love would come to us, we need to work on it and actively use up our free time even if it means a little bit of our happiness. Sometimes we must give up a little bit of happiness in order to gain much more. Love is well worth the fight and many wonderful things can come out of it.
I think the reason that love inspires us is because it's such a wonderful thing. When the media, or whatever shows love, it's portrayed as something really wonderful. We start to see it as just something to have possibly. Then we realize, as we get older, that it'll makes us happy. Then it just becomes this powerful emotion that one can't overcome. Once it's high up, if something bad happens in one's relationship (life), it's bring us all the way down because the emotion is so powerful. I believe that love can be both helpful and harmful. It can make you such a strong person. It'll give you experience throughout time. But with experience, comes bad experiences. Bad experiences can harm you and might make it hard for one to trust again.
The thing about love that allows us to drop our guard is that once we start to sink into it, we automatically leave ourselves open. The feeling is so great that we become so involved/into it, that we just concentrate on it so hard. It becomes a whole new level of happiness. But the thing is, it can be a whole new level of pain also. That's why some people close themselves off, so they don't get hurt by it again. But other people risk it all over again because they really are in love and they believe that this time, they won't get hurt again. Love is such a strong emotion that we do (almost) anything for the person we love.
Even though love can hurt us deeply if it backfires, we still yearn for it because the good experiences in every relationship make the pain worth it. We tend to drop our guard because we cannot experience the full measure of love unless were completely open. Seeing as how a great majority of people are intent on finding it, some are almost desperate.
I think true love is putting the other persons feelings above your own. It always reminds me of the story of king Solomon and how he decided who the child's real mother was. The woman that was willing to give him up to save his life was obviously the one who loved him the most.
Like Mr. Feraco I too collect certain items, but my favorite is saving certain text on my phone that I think are important or cute. I thinks it's because I like to save something happy to read during the sad times. Love is so hard and nearly impossible to explain, but sometimes there's a brief period where everything becomes clear and understandable. That's why I like to save texts, because if my relationship is in a slump I like to go back and think why I'm still in it. It's a friendly reminder of what i have.
Some people believe that love is hindering and not worth it. For example often times my parents show sings of their love through lectures and brutality because it is necessary for me to learn a lesson in order to mature. Yet, often times I feel that it is hindering and irritating. Nevertheless, from this prompt I realize that that actually there is no downside to love. What appears to be hindrance is actually the opposite. Love, more or less, is like a test for perfection. Often time love would allow people to manifest their own human defects because if two individuals sincerely love each other, they would constantly help each other to recognize their fault and help change it. Love ones are often bickering considerably more than with their friends and it appears that it is detrimental to the family, but the truth is that by showing each other’s fault it proves that they care for the other individual. As an entity, the couple is trying to help each other improve and hone down their own characteristics, which one-day may lead to perfection. Most deficiency cannot simply be found by looking within but it is necessary to interact with other people in order to uncover it. Without darkness no one would know what is light and without hate no one would realize what is love. For example, if someone had a lot of money and is showing it off, it would reveal several things about myself. I have jealousy, greed, and hate, but from realizing that I have these characteristics I could fix they way I live and think to improve my lifestyle. Moreover through love it can help the society as a whole making it a win-win situation.
Although I have never felt true love other than towards my parents and siblings but they way Aristophanes describe it, it sounds like the purpose of love is to find one’s true entity. I believe that there are many levels of love, first of all there is love for an individual, love for a group, and lastly love for everything. Eventually after many generations, all humans would become capable of loving everything and it will become a lifestyle resulting in the creation of universal harmony. There use to be a saying that “all humans are imperfect” but I disagree. Since flaws are based on what other people see in each other, I believe that humans can be perfect once everyone learns to love. Therefore, if everyone sees each other only through love and perfection, deficiency would not exist. With love we could learn to appreciate everything including what is considered despicable now. Most of all, extending love to everyone and everything, it would make the word a brighter more appreciable place because everyone would know that people would look out for each other no matter what happens.
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We dare to love because it is our way to become that much closer and realize what you get from the person you love; you can’t get from anyone else. When you love someone, you are willing to do almost anything for them even if you are going out of your way because that person is on top of your list. I don’t really know what or how love is differentiated from friendship, but it’s something that just happens. It’s a feeling you get when you tell yourself you need to be with this person. It can happen at any time and most of the time it happens when you least expect it. When you are in love, you are devoted to that one person and you find that person irresistible. The difference between friendship and love is the passion. You are much more passionate with one another in love, than you are when you are just friends. I don’t know how else to explain it but I guess love is more of a warmer feeling than friendship.
Love is something that human beings long for because it is a connection that you can’t get from anyone else. Also, we look at the person we love, as someone who we can spend the rest of your life with and continue to build on the already strong relationship. But that’s the key, and ALREADY STRONG relationship, so you can’t just say you love someone when you’ve only known them for a week or something. That would be just asking for disappointment on ones part when you thought it could go somewhere where it was never headed. We long for it more than any other of out desires because it’s something that only 2 people can feel for one another. You can’t share it with a third person- it would be really weird if you did. We feel as if one’s life will be incomplete if they don’t get to experience love. That’s why there is a saying that “there is someone out there, for everyone”, it’s just something that we all look forward for and I do believe that there Is someone for everyone. Even though some people remain un married, there had to be someone out there that they loved.
Great post I agree that love is being able to let someone in your life and in your heart.
i agree bro. Love is something that uis aquired, love on first sight is good for movies but really come on. The only thing you know on first sight is how good looking or how hideous the person is. Love is so much deeper than that.l
Love is a very hard subject for me to discuss about, not because I am a bitter person that is incapable of experiencing love, actually I receive love every single day from my family and friends and many people around me but one of the best love that I received I ended up selfishly destroying. It all began a couple of years ago when I first started dating this guy, when we met we quickly became friends and I developed a strong interest for him because of his amazing personality and capabilities in making me laugh, however I liked him for months and he would never return the favor. I liked him so much, instead of kicking him out of my life which is what I should have done because I could not stand it when he talked about other girl around me I became his best friend, This was a even huger mistake because he shared his deepest secrets with me and often came to me for advice for about this girl he liked which sadly was not me. After awhile of being his best friend I didn’t have the strength of being hurt by him anymore and decided to not talk to him at all. Months past and we did not speak and finally I gained the courage to talk to him again and I was certain this time I would not like him because of how much he hurt me in the past, and to my luck we talked and started becoming closer and I felt no emotions towards him instead of just being friends. This was great; I could keep him in my life and not get hurt anymore because I didn’t like him. Then as days passed he started developing feelings for me, I did not know how to react .This was a huge surprise but I felt as if this was revenge. This time he was the one liking me and I was the one in control, I felt that I had his heart in my hands and I can do anything I want with it and because he hurt me so much in the past I decided to get even, He liked me so much he even asked me to be his girlfriend and I accepted for all the wrong reasons. We dated for months and he continued treating me with much love, kindness and respect and In return I did stuff to hurt him but I knew that he loved me so much he would never leave me and this was true. He literally would go to the moon and back for me if I wanted to; he gave up his social life and literally would choose me over his family. I was his world and as much as I hate to admit he became mine, after I realized I slowly started developing feelings for him as well I treated him better but every time I thought about the past I would get hurt and then that just influenced me to be heartless to him once again. This continued on for months and finally he realized who he was becoming and how foolish he was and our relationship ended.
Thinking back I regret doing so much and if anyone ever asked if I was in love I would reply back with yes, even though our relationship had problems dealing with trust at a point of our lives we were truly happy. I know it is my fault that we ended up like this and as much as I wish I cannot rewind back into the past to change everything I did and did not do, and just like you Mr.Feraco I also threw away everything that reminded me of my past relationship with him and I regret it because they were memories I could now look back on. I know people that spend their whole lives searching for love and die in vain and desperation not being able to find it but I was blessed being able to be in love once and I hope to find it again soon.
love affects only those who have been blessed enough to feel it in a way that is acceptable to their standards. when you see those people they always have their heads in the clouds, believing that they are indestructible and have everything completely under control. when in reality love is the greatest illusion in the world and should not be allowed to be left unchecked, and should only be allowed for people who truly deserve and can handle love. when someone loves you back it's the greatest thing in the world, i can tell you that from experience. but if it's fake or dramatically taken away from you, it's crushing to find out the truth and only brings people down harder.
the reason we dare to love is because it is one of our oldest urges and instincts to care for someone else, and possibly mate with them. procreation is the reason our species has survived so long, it is also the reason we are so infatuated with the opposite sex, our primal instincts take over and help us reason with others to achieve our own selfish goals. we only love to look less evil to others around us, and in short to be closer to perfect.
Love is such an important quality to have and share. I think it is more helpful than harmful. I know that if i was feeling down and just wanted to be loved, I know that one guy who loved me would be helpful. I mean I do admit that it can be harmful, for example I know kids, that are going out and the first two months into their relationship they are already saying "I Love You", I personally think that the word love is overrated. People tend to use it as advantage. I think some people don't really mean it. People throw the words " I Love You" around like its just simple words, but the fact of the matter is there not. Those words are powerful but can also be destructive.
I think we dare to love is because we don't want to be alone and we want to take risks and feel like we are worthy of someones presence. Ive been in that position where I just want to be loved for who I am and not someone im trying to be. Love is something I will always cherish and plan to be in when I get older!
I want to start with the fact that I have felt love. I have loved baseball since I’ve been old enough to understand its more that catching and throwing. I have felt the love for my family as well. The love that sticks out in my mind out in my mind more than anything other would be the love I felt for a girl. This girl I had never met until freshman year and I don’t think I really began to love her until we had broken up for the first time. She cheated on me and I still could not get her out of my mind. I did so many things for her and thought about her all the time. I never realized that I always though about her. The best part is we even got back together a year and a half later, about the time I started settling back in with my friends and being able to move on. People to this say still ask me “Why did you forgive her dude?” and “You’re and idiot you should’ve known this was going to happen again” is another common saying. But I know why I did and if I could go back and time, I would forgive her again.
Love is such a funny thing in that it can take you to the highest highs of you’re life, but in the same breath plunge you to the lowest lows. I think love changes people so much because you have to be yourself. When I am at home with my dad and sister I act different then I do when I am with friends. Why, because I don’t have to impress them, I don’t have to make them like me, I do things for them and make space for them in my life because I care about them, not because I want them to like me. With girls and others it’s different. There is nothing (until you get married) that permanently binds you to that person other than wanting to be with them. You have to be nice and helpful and listen when they need you not only when it’s convenient for you. That’s why it is so hard to maintain relationships because it’s a lot of sacrifice. Love doesn’t go away, it is just forgotten. People forget why they love someone because they are sick of dealing with all their crap. I said a whole lot of mean things to this girl after the second time I was betrayed. Most of the things I said were unfair but were said because I didn’t understand. I got rid of everything that we had like you did except for one picture. It’s the picture that shows me that I made the right decision and that no matter what she did or what I did, we both felt the same way. Love made me the happiest and saddest I have ever been and I will continue to love for the highs and will continue to look towards the other loves during the lows.
Love is the most basic of human emotions. I think every emotion is built upon love, and thats why its so powerful. I really like Aristophanes’s explanation of love. You can say that the explanation is kind of stupid, and isnt real, but on an emotional level, its so true. But I think theres more to love than that. I think theres more to love than anyone knows. As far as what causes more greatness and failure, I think love and hate can accomplish similar things oddly enough, but its the end result thats ultimately different, and love will always be more satisfying. Love is so interesting. To see how far people will go to feel loved. I think in some aspects, love is a trial and error thing. Thats why you hear so many older wise people say that they didnt even know what true love was until they were married for 40 years, and still dont. People are meant to love and be loved. That is why its human nature to go chasing after it, but at the same time, love can be blinding.
I in some ways am like you Mr. Feraco. I too like to collect some things, because they remind me of my past. Whether it was good or bad, I like to remember where I was at a point in my life with pictures, ticket stubs, and songs ive written. Music in general is kind of like that for me too, because when i listen to a certain song, it can take me back to a certain time and place and emotion in my life. I save all the songs that i write. Unfortunatly, many of them are lost, but i like to go back and read them because its an exact reflection of my emotions on that time. I have them all in a big manila packaging envelope, with "NASTOLGIA" written largely across the front. In one way or another, all my songs have to do with love, whether it was about that girlfriend, just a friend, the world, a hard time in my life. the basis of all my songs is love. Sometimes its hard for me to read them because its so emberessing that i sent such a technically bad song to a girl, or even if no one read it but me, but i love to read it because i like to remember how i was in the past, and see how ive grown as a person, and theres no better way to see that than in your old poetry. I can see in those old songs what stupid things love can make a person do, how a person can act so different in the face of love. I think people are willing to drop there guard because of love, because they want to trust someone. they need to trust someone, and love in that matter can sometimes blind a person, because after all, love is not the most logical of emotions. But love is an amazing thing, no matter what kind of love, humans need it. Sometimes love isnt the greatest thing, especially when someone goes looking for it too much, but love always can teach us a lesson in life no matter what. Love is so much more than romantics, and without love, life would be pointless. Everyone loves love.
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