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WARNING: DO NOT READ THINGS AT THE END BEFORE THE BEGINNING, IT WILL RUIN THE EXPERIENCE FOR YOU!!!
- Potential : having or showing the capacity to become or develop into something in the future
Synonyms: possible, likely, prospective, future, probable, chance
“We chase our dreams to the ends of the earth, even if we have to leave ourselves behind.”
I have no idea where that quote comes from but it is something I thought of when I read about Rolle. To me, he seems to be the man everyone wants to be, the single star on a stage of millions, the top dog, and the big cheese. He is the definition of excellence, the perfect candidate in almost every way. But the one thing holding him back, the thing most people cherished and saw as a gift, a ticket to a great life – his potential.
Is it a blessing or a curse? I already made you think about it right from the title of the article. But what truly makes you think it is what you make it out to be. Mr. Feraco described it in such a way that it seemed to be something of a curse at the end right? It seemed to be a great blessing at the beginning but got progressively worse and turned into a curse at the end. But realize that is how he wants us to think about it when we start writing. What I want you to all do is forget about the passage for a bit and look back on it after reading this blog.
Potential is dangerous because it is a known unknown, or rather a potential potential. We all know that deep down, we all contain some type of skill, a light of truth in a world of darkness and cruelty. It is what we train with and look to for a goal, a purpose in life. Rolle saw football and neurosurgery as his light of truth. He followed his passion, his potential, and made himself a future to look forward to. But now I want all of you to look at the synonyms of potential that I placed at the top. The one I want you to look at is “chance”. This word basically means that there is a possibility for something to happen, a ratio or percentage. This means we have a chance, to succeed or to fail.
Remember that in 1984 we saw Winston living in Hell on Earth and we journeyed with him into it, dissecting every part of it to understand his world and why he continues to live in it. At first, he was living as a secluded hermit, conforming in order to survive. In the middle, he lets go and becomes what he truly wants to be. Finally, he ends up captured and turned by the Party, the higher force. Rolle is not so different it seems. If we look at his situation occurring at this very moment he is actually still in part 1. He has the choice to be in the NFL or go for his dream of being a neurosurgeon which contradict each other meaning that he could potentially only take one. But again, potentially means a chance. He might be able to take both, or maybe neither, or only one and let the other fade away. He could enjoy the path for one moment and it turns bad after a while or it could just work out completely. This, this is the danger of potential.
Now forget everything else for a second and look at yourself. Are you filled with hope or doubt? What potential do you have, success or failure? What is the better side, light or dark? The answer to all of these questions, especially the one about whether Rolle’s potential is a blessing or curse, is both. Yes, both, and right now you must think I’m crazy, but am I? How many times have you guys doubted yourself for something yet at the same time you still believed there was hope? Everyone doubts, everyone fails, and everyone chooses darkness, but everyone also hopes, everyone succeeds, and everyone chooses light. The idea I am trying to stress here is BALANCE.
What is light and what is darkness? Think of Yin and Yang (no not Ying and Yang, I know some of you might think that). The idea behind that is balance, the equal choice of both good and evil, success and failure. We all need balance in order to live a perfect life. This is the same for everyone and no one is different, trust me, I should know. I always go overboard with many things, especially when it comes to changing my personality, I either become too nice or too mean, too cheerful or too depressing, and too doubtful or too hopeful. You simply need to know the balance between all of them in order to be happy. Why do you think monks are so happy and peaceful?
What I really want you guys to realize is that there is a limit to everything, even potential. Human potential is dangerous yet at the same time it is beautiful, allowing us to explore a greater world and find a better future. Everything in our world is like a paradox, a contradiction in every way, but if we can learn to accept both sides, to learn doublethink, we might just live happily … like Winston.
Remember, 2+2=4 but also 2+2=5
"It is both a blessing, and a curse." - Soos (Gravity Falls)
“No one can have everything, but everyone has a choice, and it is your choice to choose my blog for your extra credit” – Eric X.
“Right now you must think I’m crazy.” Why yes, you are crazy, but we are all crazy because we were born with a mindful of contradictions.
I agree completely with the idea of the necessity of balance. But then again, the scale always tips and chaos ensues. Balance is what we strive towards, and at most, is only rarely obtainable.
Welcome the crazy. It makes life that much more interesting.
“Everyone has a choice, and it is your choice to choose my blog for your extra credit” - such a wise quote, from such a wise man.
Where did you come across such enlightenment? Because I will definitely ponder that thought.
Good job with your analysis.
I really enjoyed reading your post, though the length did discourage me a little. I completely agree with what you said about people doubting themselves but still having that tiny spark of hope on the inside. I feel like many others would agree with that also, with college admissions being my example. I'm sure many students applied to schools they think they have no chance of getting into, but they apply anyway because they have that little seedling of hope they'll get in anyway.
P.S. Love the quote at the end.
Hey Eric! I like how you talked about "BALANCE", because even though you try to be good, try to choose the light, or rely on hope, you still have to acknowledge the dark side of this world. Really enjoyed how you threw in "cursed blessing" and "known unknown". Chance, potential, fate, destiny. How are they all connected? Its the choices we make that results in our fate. I thought this quote would fit well with your writing, sorry in advance for the length:
"There is good and there is evil. Right and wrong. Heroes and villains. And if we're blessed with wisdom, then there are glimpses between the cracks of each where light streams through. We wait in silence for these times when sense can be made, when meaningless existence comes into focus, and our purpose presents itself. And if we have the strength to be honest, then what we find there, staring back at us, is our own reflection, bearing witness to the duality of life. And each one of us is capable of both the dark and the light, of good and evil, of either, of all. And destiny, while marching ever in our direction, can be rerouted by the choices we make. By the love we hold onto, and the promises we keep."
-Mohinder Suresh, Heroes
You've outdone yourself this time around, and I look forward to reading your next work!
That's so deep, I love it. I really wish I could change my post and add some of that in there, that is really awesome. Thanks for the support Angela!
Hello, Eric. Nice writing! This post is pretty interesting. You reminded me an old saying that, "one's fortune lies in his(or her) troubles, vice versa." This is also my point of view about the potential for people. You go beyond the entry and catch the point of the entry and define it in a creative way. From your comparison, I can clearly understand why Mr. feraco want us read the reply first. After all, this is about life.
A bit melodramatic, but you really got the point across.
Potential is dangerous because it is a known unknown. I think that's ultimately why the party had to vaporize Syme. He was doing good work for them, but he had the POTENTIAL to do bad. That's why people like Rolle are hounded in both The World State and Oceania, because we know is that we don't know what they can accomplish. They can help the current establishment, or they can hurt it.
Really amazing work you've done this time around. Doing what you want is hard. Choosing between two things you want is even harder. Your point about balance really struck a chord with me
Nice choice of quotes, by the way.
There’s something about time that pushes us to make decisions. I think as a population (similar to the mindset of the World State), we’ve acknowledged that time is short and that we need to use each and every minute, every second efficiently. I think we’ve some how manipulated this idea into a fear. We fear that we won’t get to do what we want so, we feel the need to chose what we want now! We force ourselves to vere from making mistakes because somehow and in some way, we are wasting time. Far too often, I find myself very hesitant to make a decision because of that. I fear the if I make a mistake or make a decision that goes sour, I’ll have to spend time repairing it. I always think about how if I made the right decision in the first place, things would have been different. I would have more time to do the right thing, rather than making up for the wrong.
But life doesn’t work that way.
We are made imperfect for a reason.
Rolle faces talent. Well, actually talent isn’t is problem, but the mere fact that many people see potential and want it to be used. I mean, it makes sense, who would want anything with potential to go to waste? But I think what Rolle faces is the chaotic mess of expectations. It seems as if the World is asking him to reach for the stars, but with the intention of seeing him please their wants and needs rather than his own. Maybe, he didn’t know what he wanted. He might’ve known, but lost sight of it all within the opinions, media, and expectations. I couldn’t imagine what he was going through. I can hardly handle making a decision to apply to a job out of fear of disappointing my current boss. When in fact, in the end, the only thing that matters is that you make a decision for you, not for anyone else.
I think that’s what Rolle’s did. He followed a “guilty passion” for his own sake, not for everyone else. I think he even knew that going down that route that the odds were against him, yet he still pursued it. I guess some people would believe that it’s a waste of talent and time, but it’s really not.
Sure, he might’ve lost a few years of medical school or lost an opportunity to be president, but that’s probably something we think he has lost. We know ourselves far better than anyone else does. With that said, Rolle’s knew his limits and made a decision . Although we see it didn’t work out quite as well as we hoped for, it still shows that he’s still human. He’s just like us (no matter how much talent he has), he is just like you and me.
Yet, I think he saw something that I probably would never have the audacity to do.
He really did make a decision for himself instead of others. I think he saw something most people would not. That is, when we live for others in such ways as pleasing everyone, we tend to want to lead a perfect life, at least in their eyes. It’s as if we want to avoid taking risks or making decisions out of the possibility of failing.
Because, who would want to root for a loser when they could root for a winner?
I think people, including myself, should deviate from the idea that failing is bad or at least define something not going as expected as “bad”. We should break the fear of falling and worry more about how we should pick up the pieces. Rolle’s career in football didn’t work out, but he picked himself up and is now currently in a pursuit of becoming something great.
Life is about growth, learning, taking risks, and anything you can imagine. I jsut think that sometimes we stump our imagination through the fear of judgement, failure, and pleasing others. My fear is falling and letting people down, but then again, it’s not about the fall, but the way a person gets up. That’s how we grow as people and become better.
Life works that way.
We are made imperfect for a reason.
I agree with the point that we all try to please our peers and family members but truly not ourselves. I try to impress my peers all the time in sports especially in big games I'm the type of person who wants that big hit or big play.
I agree Erika with that we are prone to being so concerned with our image or how we want others to see ourselves, that is a medium to behave certain ways while staying true to yourself. Sometimes it is easy to lose yourself like the way how athletes are with the media. I was inspired today by your post, however, I saw your post as a reminder to not let anybody think of me a certain way and only I can create my image. Excellent post!
Thank you Erika! Yes! He is human and all humans make mistakes and we all need to understand that. I agree with you about how he might have known what his passion was, but lost the sight of it because he placed his eyes and thoughts upon what people thought. Sadly, as for me, I try so hard to reach the expectations the world has placed for me. I constantly try to please people. But that is not the way to go of course.
Thank you Erika! Yes! He is human and all humans make mistakes and we all need to understand that. I agree with you about how he might have known what his passion was, but lost the sight of it because he placed his eyes and thoughts upon what people thought. Sadly, as for me, I try so hard to reach the expectations the world has placed for me. I constantly try to please people. But that is not the way to go of course.
I really enjoyed reading your blog post this week i agree that we all make mistakes and to understand what we have done and that we all try to please other people.
I agree with your point that all humans make mistake. I really enjoyed reading your blog post this week!
I love how you made a reference to your previous blog post about choosing a certain job. I definitely agree with Harutyun that this is extremely inspiring, because we are not perfect. We will have times when we just literally kill it, but we can have times when we get totally wrecked, and even the best in certain things (I have to say I started the semester acing every AP Chem quiz/exam but I've gotten wrecked on a quiz and maybe even the test). So yeah, even people who excel still fail. However, we can definitely learn from our failures and improve .
Great blog, Erika! I completely agree with your opinion, people should really fight for their own future, and not care about other people's opinions.
I totally agree Ericka. We are too easily manipulated by today's media and friends.
I first want to mention how well written this blog post is. Also many of your connections toward your personal life were spot on and additional emphasis to your points.
Hey Erika! I really enjoyed reading your blog post! I can tell that you spent a lot of time thinking about your answer. I agree that our greatest fear is to waste time.
I agree. Rolle's human and so are the rest of us. He makes mistakes and finds himself beholden to the expectations of others. When he finally made his decision, I think he broke free of those expectations.
First of all, I have to say that I feel that I am the opposite of Myron Rolle. Although I have some talents and advantages, I don’t have as many expectations from other people pinned down on me. Sure, I’m “smart”, but the only time I’m smart in other people’s eyes is when my friends say it in a joking or an overly exaggerated manner. I just have the ability to get through my classes through a combination of a moderate amount of effort and the way that I learn. If I just pay attention in class and do my homework, I’ve got most of the class down. I don’t have to study a lot, and my study sessions (only the day before the test!) are usually just a few minutes of me reinforcing my knowledge by looking over whatever notes I have. Things like mathematics, writing, and memorization come easy to me. But, not so easy that I’m at the top of my world like Rolle is. If our school did rank our students, I’d probably be in the top one or two hundred, but you wouldn’t see my name above number fifty. I’ve only won like one or two awards or honors worth mentioning in my entire life. I don’t stand out. Nobody has high expectations for me, not even my parents. In fact, my parents keep telling me that I might end up a good-for-nothing if I keep lazing around like I do now. The people who set the highest standards for me are my classmates, who just think that I’ll do well on tests and assignments. If I get a bad grade, it’s not that surprising. They know that I fail too (I hope). I’m free to chase my dreams. I don’t have to be a doctor or a lawyer, and it’s okay if I end up running a shop instead of a multimillion dollar business. Good thing my aspiration is to enter the research field, where I can actually put my knowledge to use.
I myself don’t have a lot of dreams or goals for myself. This lack of ambition causes me pain that Rolle will probably never feel. In fact, his kind of pain is opposite of mine. Whereas I’m fine with doing anything respectable as long as I can survive comfortably, Rolle has too many ambitions that conflict with each other, and he doesn’t know what to choose. His menu overwhelms him; my menu is empty. Sure, I want to be a scientist, but I’m fine with being an office worker or a shop employee, as long as I can pay the bills, put food on my table, and have enough left over to provide for some wants. Besides, I don’t even know what my dream career is beyond the scientist part. Science is vast, and I can’t find a more specific field inside of it that I really want to enter. Rolle’s predicament is just the reverse. He knows he wants to be a neurosurgeon. He knows he wants to be in the NFL. He even has such fine details as opening a clinic in his hometown thought up. But, his two main goals are such opposites that it would be very very difficult, if even possible, for a human being to achieve both. Being a neurosurgeon would divert his attention away from the much more competitive world of professional football, and injuries that he might suffer in playing football could lead to ruining both his football career and his ability to be a proper neurosurgeon. Given two equally tantalizing choices, Rolle can realistically only take one or the other. Given an entire world of options, I cannot find any to set my sights on.
We all want to be like Rolle. To be exceptional at what we do. To find what most people find incredibly hard to be easy, even second nature. And, yet, we don’t stop to consider the distinct set of problems that plague the excellent as well. The way people perceive you as an infallible overachiever, when you’re just human. The struggle to find your true calling, what you truly wish for yourself. The weight of society’s expectations pressing down on your shoulders no matter what you do and where you go. People who are less than exceptional have to battle with outside forces; people who are exceptional find that the battle occurs within themselves.
Therefore, I think that Myron Rolle will probably have to choose one dream or the other. He has the power to fulfill either in his hands; most others can only wish for that sort of opportunity. But, he cannot fulfill both. Overly greedy people end up losing it all. It is very likely that he won’t make it very far in the NFL if part of the time that he should be devoting fully to football practice goes into studying neuroscience. And, on the football field, it is very likely that he will soon sustain some sort of injury that will impair his ability to think or to operate on people. He’s just too high risk for the drafters to want to pick him. The only thing he could possibly offer would be his own popularity, if he does in fact succeed and is able to live a dual life as an NFL player and as an accomplished neurosurgeon, and not his skill. In trying to pursue both dreams, he may end up getting them both crushed. If that happens, it is not only him who suffers the blow. Those who had put their hopes in him, showered him with words of praise, and even told him that he would make it big, these people will see their expectations fail them. And we all know that the pain of failing somebody’s expectations can be severe.
I did say earlier that, although I don’t feel that many people have high expectations for me, a lot of my classmates seem to single me out as one of the smartest in the class. Not very accurate, when I’m sure that, although I do know my stuff, there are others besides myself who are probably doing much better than me. But, for some reason, people like to use me as the smart kid stereotype in the classroom when they joke around. All in good fun, and I’m okay with it, as long as I make sure that it doesn’t get into my head. An overinflated ego can be fatal. Still, when I do get handed back a test that has a worse grade on it than what I usually get, I feel a strange twinge of disappointment when somebody asks me what I got and I them tell them. I was unable to match their expectations, I think to myself, and my pride is damaged. My classmates then learn that I, too, am prone to error, and the infallible me exists only in jokes, and not in actual perceptions that other people have of me.
Rolle, then, must have it much worse. It’s not just a class of kids watching his every step; it’s the entire world, or at least all of America that knows of him. And, when you’re involved in professional football and in the higher echelons of the intellectual world, that’s a lot of people whose eyes you can’t allow to see a single slipup. And, that fate of always being propped up above the masses, I think, can be harder on the mind than the straightforward struggle against a normal fate that presses you down. It’s a lot easier to push up than to push down when your limit is too high up to push against.
Now that I’ve seen what eventually happened to Rolle, I have to say that this is just how it is. He couldn’t manage a life that demanded his 200%. You have to pour 100% into your efforts in the NFL league (or any professional sports league, for that matter) if you want to make it big. And, yet, studying to become a brain surgeon isn’t easy either. If not 100%, it’ll require at least 80% of you. Unless he could have split into two of himself, Rolle could not have hoped to be able to give 200% to a world that demanded it of him. He might have wished that splitting into two of himself and being able to experience what both ‘clones’ did was possible, sometime during this period of chaos. One could become the football star, and the other the neurosurgeon in Exuma. But, life doesn’t work that way. Sometimes, we have to make choices, no matter how much it pains us. And Rolle was forced to choose his. He decided to put medical school over football, and that’s how it turned out.
So, was his journey in vain? Could all that time spent struggling to find a place in the NFL been better allotted to his studies? He could have been better off if he had only taken one path from the start. But, no, that’s not how life is lived. Our experiences are a combination of the good and the bad. We have to live through our downs too, if we want to make it to our ups. It’s our mistakes and our trials that we have to learn from. Like Gilgamesh, like Dante, and like Ben and Jake Sisko, we learn from the past, and we need to keep the past in memory in order to move on to better days. A boulder rolling through a series of hills has to gain momentum going down in order to make it to the peak of the next hill. We may not like it, but that’s how life works. Our life story is what makes us who we are. And, that includes the pain and the suffering, not just the happiness and the achievements.
Everyday we have decisions to make that can we better from or we can fail from. Mr. Rolle has two great futures ahead of him that both will drive him crazy but which one is he most likely to succeed in. Nobody will never know the answer except for himself. He's a hard worker and he will do fine in any decision he chooses.
Really like your post Jacky. Though I had a different angle of deciding whether or not to take Myron Rolle in the draft, I do agree with everything you said about him. I too believe Rolle has his own goals as we all seek them no matter what goes on. I think you expressed good views as it is not easy deciding the future of a young kid ready to go all-out in the NFL. Enjoyed your blog this week
Rolle is trying to do too many thing at once; he cannot be both a football star and a neurosurgeon. He should take control of his own life and form his own goals instead of trying to live up to others' expectations. Attempting to do everything while excelling at nothing is a waste of talent.
Awesome Post. This story overall just teaches us a lot of great life lessons too. I definitely agree that we will make mistakes, but we can always better ourselves by looking at our mistakes and using it to change ourselves
Great post this week Jacky! I can definitely relate to you in that unlike Rolle, I don’t have a set career path or goal in mind yet. I liked how you related Rolle’s journey with Gilgamesh, Dante, and Ben and Jake Sisko from last semester. Your work was very insightful and I enjoyed reading it.
+ One of the most challenging aspects of Rolle’s reality is listed at the beginning of this post: There is no
enough. He’s lived a life of constant challenge. He’s never known peace. He’s never known real satisfaction
because he’s never had time to enjoy it, to get complacent with success. Is this a blessing, or a curse?
The feeling of satisfaction after a great football game or after an A on the test is the best feeling in the world. There are no words to explain them. Celebrating after a big game are always the best. I remember after our football games we would all go to In-n-Out to grab food and to hang out with all our friends. In-N-Out truly is the spot for all post-game meals. Even after eating In-N-Out most of my friends and I would always try and find something to do. Especially since its senior year we have to enjoy these times while they last.
It’s sad to hear that Myron Rolle has never truly enjoyed the satisfaction and feeling of celebrating after games and hanging out with your teammates because he’s too dedicated in other subjects that he has no time for it. I believe that it’s a curse because everyone deserves some type of celebration. There’s always that incentive that we have for playing sports and a career in neuroscience. But Myron Rolle has no incentive as he’s just trying to make everybody around him proud. But the true question that I’m wondering is if he’s even happy with himself.
It’s truly a curse for someone to always live a life full of challenge. It’s not good for you physically and health wise. As there’s a lot of stress and pressure in which ever career he decides to choose. I hope he chooses the one that will make him happy and is the right one for him. I realize that life is too short and that we should all just be in a state of piece with ourselves. Challenge ourselves for the better good not for the better good of other people.
I agree having a life full of challenges really is a curse since you won't be able to enjoy the feeling of success.
Alex! I liked reading your post i agree on how it can be a curse and how everyone needs some type of fulfillment or they wont feel the sanctification of that success. Good job
I agree, we all need challenges in our live because without challenges we won’t be able to know what’s the feeling of success. Good Job!
I agree with you, in irder to have success we need to look for something that really satisfy us or that we enjoy.
Alex, I completely agree with your entry. Living a life of nearly impossible expectations like Myron Rolle is certainly a curse. To not be able to simply stop and enjoy the little things in life is no way to live. And in the end, Rolle needs to realize that he should take his own happiness and satisfaction into consideration more than those of others.
I really liked you post Alex! A lot of people right now still want to make their parents proud. I think even some of us at Arcadia High School has felt that pressure from our parents. They want the best for us although their best is very different from our best.
I like how you shared your fantastic career in football. I agree with your point. Rolle does not feel satisfied at all. To be a good athlete, you really need to have a positive mind and a persistent heart.
Hey Alex. Nice blog post. I have the same idea thinking that having a kid with such potential and talents is a curse. I like the way you have compared Rolle with your experience in football team.I too can relate to the the time back when i was in basketball team. Therefore it was great reading your blog.
“There is no enough”
It's curious how this statement can have such different and contrasting meanings. On one hand it can convey there is no limit to what we can do. In Rolle's case, there is no end to what he wants to accomplish. NFL, Neurosurgeon, his dreams are endless, there is no enough. On the other hand, it can have quite the opposite meaning, as in, there is no end to the struggle that we constantly face in order to achieve our goals. It means that there will always be a struggle, and never time to relax. Curious enough, this applies to Rolle just as much as the other interpretation. Two contrasting ideas coexisting yet making sense? Sounds like doublethink to me.
I like to think I'm a pretty active kid. With a day that consists of school, soccer, percussion, piano and homework, I don't usually have time to relax, sit back, and either watch TV or read or play video games. I spend more time on campus than anywhere else, including my house, and when I finally do get home, I shower and then crawl into bed on the verge of exhaustion. Now, don't take this as complaining. I absolutely love the activities that I dedicate so much of my life to, and without them, I would be Wall-E without Eve, Ash without Pikachu, Johnny Depp without weird acting roles. I would be empty. Whether it's your phone, your laptop, your stuffed polar bear, or your cheetah print onesie (I know that one of you will definitely have one, don't be shy), we all have things in our lives that we can't live without. And in addition to video games, mine are my activities.
However, we all have those days. You know the ones I am talking about. The “Wake up at 5:00 in the morning to finish homework or study for a test, get to school early for zero period or an extracurricular, somehow have four tests because your teachers conspired to make your day suck (except Mr. Feraco of course), get to Chipotle only to realize they have no more carnitas, get swept by the tardy sweep, have fitness day for your sport (does everyday count as a fitness day for track?), then go to band for another four hours, and finally get home around 10:00” day. Okay, maybe not that extreme, but you get the general concept. Even a combination of three of these events is enough to wreck even the greatest of human beings, especially if there is no carnitas. And the activities that I love end up making me exhausted and disgusted with myself for enrolling in so many time consuming extra curriculars. I'm going to be honest and say that it occurs more than I usually like to admit. Just imagine what Rolle has been through. Sure we have a lot of pressure on us to do well. We go to Arcadia High School for crying out loud. A school where expectations are extremely high and competition exists in every student. But to Rolle, that's just as normal.
Much like with fitness and getting in shape, we think of our struggles as a curse in the moment, then looking back on it in the future, we recognize how much of a blessing it was after all. And I think this is true for both Rolle and well, me. When I get home from the days I described earlier, I despise everything. You know its bad when not even chocolate ice cream cannot cheer you up. Yet even in the next day or two, I look at it again. I think about all the hard work I'm putting in for a good cause, and it makes me proud of myself, proud of my achievements and the goals that I have set and WILL achieve if I keep putting in the effort. So when I get to the end of my struggles, when I get to relax and look back on my life and just enjoy and reap the benefits, I will understand the blessing I received. In the moment, it is a curse, for it makes us despicable people, yet in the end, we will know that it was truly worth it.
Yes! It is worth it at the end. I agree with you about how during our pain, we see it as a curse that was placed upon us, when in truth, it is a blessing. I myself have experienced those moments where life seems so hard to the point that i consider the challenges I face as a curse. However, weeks later, I realize, that the challenges were there to build me and make me stronger. Thank you Wesley! This blog is uplifting!
Yes! It is worth it at the end. I agree with you about how during our pain, we see it as a curse that was placed upon us, when in truth, it is a blessing. I myself have experienced those moments where life seems so hard to the point that i consider the challenges I face as a curse. However, weeks later, I realize, that the challenges were there to build me and make me stronger. Thank you Wesley! This blog is uplifting!
I like how you centered your blog on your everyday life and told your audience about how although you have a lot on your plate on a daily bases, you are still able to handle it all while enjoying what you do. Sometimes when I am exceptionally stressed out, I feel as if my life is deteriorating. However, what you said was right, when we look back, people would be able to see that all their hard work was not for nothing. Keep up the good work!
Wes, I loved how you connected to 1984! Doublethink is indeed as you said. I also think Arcadia High School's expectations are set way too high. I am trying to keep fit as well, and it is quite difficult.
Hey Wesley, yes I agree with you. Your examples of your personal habits was really cool as how you see your daily activities as a course but in the end was totally worth. Also how you connected double think with course or a bless. Good job!!
After reading the first blog, I appreciated your work even more, Wesley. Thanks for giving "curse" and "blessing" in daily level. At first, I think what Rolle's decision was not appropriate, because a man who ask too much would get nothing in the end. However, you give me a another understanding about the topic. After he went through all these, he will get the valuable experience. People can get bless after those curse.
I have been fortunate enough not to have great expectations bestowed upon me. My parents did not force me to perpetuate the stereotype of becoming a doctor for the sake of becoming a doctor. Because of this, I have never been in Rolle’s shoes. Like Rolle, I have my own passions, but I do not carry the burden that comes along with his passions.
There is no doubt that Rolle is highly intelligent and highly capable, but his approach is substandard. His resolve is shaky and his focus is scattered. There is such a thing as having too much on one’s plate. There are only 24 hours in a day and Rolle is asking for too much. He must know when to give up and decide on the things most important to him.
Unlike Winston, Rolle is capable of excelling at the fields he puts his efforts into. However, Rolle’s superior intellect and ambitions is highly draining and even controlling. Even Winston, who is controlled by the Party can reach some sense of happiness and fulfillment. Rolle on the other hand, spends too much effort trying to balance his ambitions and never reaches a sense of fulfillment in any field.
Ambition is Rolle’s enemy. He is too ambitious for his own good. He is never given the chance to put in 100 percent of his effort into any field because he is inhibited by all his other efforts. Realizing that one must give up some goals to actually achieve others is hard, and Rolle has not realized the importance of this reality. Because I only have one real passion to put my full effort into, I don’t really know how Rolle is dealing with his position mentally.
Would I have the resolve to pick one passion over the other if I were in his position? Would I be able to follow through on all the claims I made above? Would I be able to bear the emotional pain of giving up something that I love?
All these questions remain unanswered because I am not in his position. Everyone is different – in ability, in intellect, in ambition, in work-ethic, in every aspect of life. Why should we question his decisions? The high expectations others have for him are just projections of others. Rolle can take the suggestions of others, but in the end he must live his own life. He must realize the expectations of others are not as important as his own expectations for himself.
I think that things turned out as expected. As harsh as it sounds, he is not qualified to be an NFL star. Even if he has immense talent, he is not worth compromising the opportunities of others who put in their whole effort, unlike Rolle. His approach to his ambitions is lackluster because it lacks focus. He is a brilliant person, but apparently not brilliant enough to hold onto all his pursuits, which he should hopefully realize.
In summary, his life is very easy to explain as an RPG character. Rolle wants to be a tank and a healer, so his stats are well rounded. Nobody would choose this character because if people need a tank, they would choose an actual tank; if people needed a healer, they would choose an actual healer. These “purebreds” do a much better job than any well rounded character (even if the total stats is incredibly high). If Rolle wants to be the S-ranked character he is capable of becoming, he should allocate his skill points into a particular field.
Hi Raymond. I love how you describe Rolle's life "his life is very easy to explain as an RPG character. Rolle wants to be a tank and a healer, so his stats are well rounded." I agree with you people these days want someone who is proficient in one particular field. Great post!
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The instructor kept the pace at an even, constant tempo. 4/4 was the easiest tempo, 3/4 a bit harder, 6/8 much tougher. She clapped her hands as I attempted to play the sheet music propped up in front of me. It was my 9th year of playing piano, yet I knew in my heart that this was just not something for me. The arduous, monotonous sound of the clapping droned in my head, washing away all of my energy like a mind-numbing headache. My hands wearily moved in unison to one another. The left hand began the background, while the right started the melody. It didn’t feel right. The instructor stopped me, yelled at me musical terms only someone who had learned music theory would understand.
“No, no, no, you’re doing it all wrong!
“Remember this piece is Allegrissimo!”
“You’re not showing enough emotion in your performance!”
“Did you already forget? That one is sharp, not flat!”
It wasn’t always like this though. I remember the days when I found excitement with piano; my fingertips touched the keys with just the right amount of pressure. There was no struggle, no dislike. Though I was inexperienced, I still found joy in playing. I felt empowered when I played. I felt in control.
It all started when I was just 3 years old. I don’t quite remember much from that time period other than the first time I played piano. I remember a colorful toy piano in front of me. It’s keys lighted up as I touched them, and it was a pretty awesome piano for a 3 year old. While I had been dabbling away at the keys, something within me stirred. I wanted to play a REAL song. At the time, Old Macdonald was my jam (He just had so many cool animals on his farm). I clumsily placed my hands on the piano, slowly listening to each note, and began to play it. It was slow, but all of the notes were perfect. When I finished, the room was silent. I remember how my parents looked at each other in awe, and in the next couple of weeks I was signed up for my very first piano lesson.
From there, I became polished in my piano skills. However, the more I continued to play, the less I became interested in it becoming my career. The less I wanted to practice and become better at it, and the more my parents would constantly nag me about it. As I got older, I found new experiences that thrilled me. I found the violin, the cello, and even learned how to play tennis. As my world expanded, piano had become a part of my time that I no longer cared for. I was considered advanced for my age group, but it didn’t compel me to become better. I wanted to do other things, which I thought would make me happy. It was important for me to enjoy what I did rather than struggle through something without any similar goals in mind. As hard I tried, I could not see playing piano as something other than a hobby. Though my parents disapproved of the decision at first, ultimately it was my own choice to use that time for something that I believed would benefit me. I went into piano thinking I could become a professional musician, and left it with memories both fond and not quite so fond.
And so, in 8th grade, I stopped taking piano lessons.
To me, it was not a matter of being successful or not successful. I wanted to enjoy what I was doing. I wanted to feel satisfied with what I could do, and strive to do the best I could. I do the same with life. It didn’t matter to me if I could make a lot of money as long as I could find something I could do for the rest of my life. Even now, the goals that I’ve set for myself are just safety nets in case I am not able to find what I want to do in life. Goals are to be reached, but some are to be thrown away, recycled for new replacements. Certain challenges are meant to be difficult, but others should help you rather than hurt you. It felt like piano was a curse, when in reality it was a blessing. It taught me about myself, and what I wanted in life. Maybe in the near future I can learn to appreciate the hours of frustration I went through in a better light. Hopefully by then, I’ll have found a similar feeling like the first time my fingers grazed against the smooth, ivory keys. For now however, I’ll take whatever comes at me at walking pace.
Committing to any activity for a long period of time is hard to give up because it seems like you are giving up a part of yourself. So people fail to realize that sometimes you don't feel the same joys as compared to when you initially started. I am glad to hear that piano opened new opportunities for other musical instruments. I loved this blog because you provided vivid imagery and connected it all towards the end.
As life goes on, we shouldn't hold back on what makes us happy even if it may seem wrong to others. I like how you ended your blog, and as I read it, I can clearly picture everything as if it were a scene from a movie. Great job!
I really enjoyed reading your post this week! The long line of beats in the beginning caught my attention. I liked your concluding message: "Goals are to be reached, but some are to be thrown away, recycled for new replacements." I couldn't agree more!
How you started the blog entry with Andante really caught my eyes. I'm glad you realized you weren't suited for piano and I hope you can find a greater passion in the near future. I recognized this was the same way I felt when I quit piano too. I really like the way you expressed the experience in words.
How you started the blog entry with Andante really caught my eyes. I'm glad you realized you weren't suited for piano and I hope you can find a greater passion in the near future. I recognized this was the same way I felt when I quit piano too. I really like the way you expressed the experience in words.
Your blog this week really stuck to me in that I had similar feelings about piano before. First off, nice beginning! The "Andante" is quite hooking. I too used to dislike piano, but instead I stuck with it. And actually, I started to like it after a while so I wonder, if you continued with it just a bit longer, would you start to like it? I mean you did put years of effort into it. For me, I'm glad I didn't quit because piano has brought quite a lot to me. But I do agree that you should do what you are satisfied with, so perhaps you did make the right choice! So have you found what you want to stick to yet?
I do still play piano when I have a bit more free time, and it's really nostalgic. If a hear a nice piece of music from either a movie, TV show, or game I usually try to play some of it, and it does bring back memories. As for something I've come to enjoy, I've found love in playing tennis (I'll save that for another time). However, I think both piano and tennis will stick with me throughout my life!
I started piano in 8th grade. There was an innate drive that made me learn piano. It was a blessing did I wanted to piano late at this age. Having been playing for four years, I am able to play advance pieces that would require 10 years or more of piano experience. Sure, it's a curse that one day I would suddenly stop caring about piano, but that day won't even exist for me(Hopefully it doesn't). It is a blessing if you become successful and passionate about something, but a curse if you condemn it afterward. I enjoy reading your blog and hope to read more in the future! thanks for sharing!
Great job on your post this week, Mintra! I liked how you wrote about how you first started to play the piano and how you later lost interest and gave up on it. Reading your post was like reading a story; I liked all the vivid details you included as you recounted your experiences with the piano. Again, great job on your post — I really enjoyed reading it!
Hey Mintra! I really enjoyed your blog post once again! I think your post this week was really creative and well written. I look forward to your future posts!
Your blog was great and really interesting to read. I myself took piano lessons for about 8 years before quitting when I was about 13. I completely agree with you, it really was a blessing, even though I hated having to spend time on something that was so frustrating. Glad I'm not the only one Nice job!
Hey Mintra! I really love the way you write and your tone in your post. I like your mindset so much because it is so important to actually enjoy the things you do in life rather than just forcing yourself to do something simply because you think it will make you successful. Also, I love your comment about Old McDonald!
“I often wonder if I’ll ever finish all that I have started, and the answer I have found is no.”
Growing up, we want to be ten million different things. Doctors, lawyers, teachers, the president, garbage truck drivers, you name it. As we get older, this list shrinks down to a few things, and if you’re lucky, only one.
I envy anyone who knows exactly what they want to do. You have it so easy.
Through my high school years, I narrowed down what I wanted to be to two options. I have always wanted to be a musician, but as I got older, that dream started to become, well, just a dream. I began to accept the fact that I will have to go to college and get a degree that I’m really not interested in. Just when I had fully taken to the idea of college, I found some great guys to play music with. We’ve been playing together for around 3 months and have about an EP’s worth of original songs. As glad as I am that I finally found the quality of musicians that I had been looking for, it could not have come at a more dramatic time.
I have started the path of beginning a normal life and going to college. I have also started along the path of musicianship. One path must remain incomplete. I cannot finish all that I have started.
“My brain was spent I worried as I fell in knee deep where consequences and circumstances suffocated and I could barely breath.”
The only step to take now is to weigh the consequences that come with each path. Going to college while pursuing music does not seem extraordinarily hard if, and the keyword here is if, I wanted to stay here for school. As of now, my number one choice would most likely be out in the Midwest. Obviously, I could not move across the country and take my band with me. Moving would mean starting from scratch. There is no guarantee that while there, I would ever find anyone else compatible to play music with. That thought terrifies me.
However, by staying here, I would be placing my faith in a band, and this is potentially the most foolish thing I could do. There is no guarantee that we would make it “big” (as in more than 10 people come to our shows) or let alone even stay together. Could I really sacrifice my schooling for the tiny chance of making something out of music?
“Everything, you will see, comes together in its own ironic kind of way.”
They say that everything happens for a reason, but I can honestly say that I don’t know if I believe in this. Either everything comes together, or I make everything come together. I tend to believe in the latter. I am quite good at making the best out of my current situation. I’ve had my fair share of setbacks, but I am where I am today because I have made the best of it. I’d like to think that no matter which path I choose, I will make it come together.
There is not necessarily a right decision.
“Take a look back, is that what you wanted?”
And I hope everyday that when I look back on this, I am where I wanted to be.
The quotes this week are from Work In Progress by Set Your Goals. I found it quite enjoyable to read the blog questions then search through my music library for a relevant song. It makes writing the response much more entertaining. For me at least.
"Work in Progress" kicked off the "Meaning of Life" lecture in the first semester's philosophy unit. Nice call.
I understand that you envy people that know exactly what they want to do. I consider you leaving your band to go to college is very brave because it is hard to is hard to break ties with people that you feel comfortable with. Pursuing a career in the entertainment industry is very difficult to do and it takes a lot of courage to stop schooling for something that is not guaranteed. I wish you the best of luck in what ever you choose.
Congrats on getting a comment by Mr. Feraco. Lol. I really liked your blog, especially since you talked about your new band. I feel like everything happens for a reason, so whatever happens in the next couple of months will be the best for you. Don't worry because no matter what you choose to do, you will be great. Also I want to meet your new band members
I find it really interesting that you search for songs to gain inspiration to write. Also, I agree that accepting trade-offs for a more secure lifestyle is hard to do, but also very necessary. Hopefully as we all get older, what now seem to be secondary options turn into passions.
In your response you say that you can't go around the country because you'd have to start from scratch. In reality you definetly can. As an adult it is your responsibility to do what you want. As you go through life family and others will pressure you to become something great. I think that if you want to, you should go your own path.
You want to ditch some day. At the moment when you step out the classroom, you see the words printed above the door: Stop! Think about your future. It’s an admonishment that warns you have a hopeless future if you start to ditch. In other words, you will not be successful if you ignore those words.
You cheat in an exam. Your teacher gives you an zero on your gradebook, trying to use a zero to exchange your reflection. If you refused to admit your faults, your future would be messed up because of cheating and subsequent distrust.
What your teachers talk to you in both cases are outside pressure or burden. You are constantly warned with unfavorable results. People always say if you failed to something, you would not be successful, but what if you hear your parents, teachers, friends, and even counselors keep saying you, or just say I, is highly likely to succeed, and we just need to keep working hard? They just want us to succeed. However, this kind of emotion is not that type of expectation parents usually have on their kids. Parents realize that the expectation is unrealistic. They just want to dream about a favorable prospect of their children. After seemingly achieving on the moon, they will rapidly come back to the earth.
Another type of expectation works more like pressure and burden though the intent of burden-causer is not malignant. It seems to be an instinct and a tendency for this society to overuse or boldly saying, immoderately consume a prodigy or just a talented one once he or she catches attention of the public. Plenty of expectations and unreal titles might be added pretty quickly. Such predictions usually are regarded as blessing, and praisers may even hope to create a good omen. After all, accolades can make one delightful.
Nevertheless, blessing excessively can also create a doomed omen and even the unsuccessful result. Myron Rolle, the guy mentioned in the prompt, is a young man who stands in front of the colorful but confusing future. There are innumerable entrances for him to choose, but people around him seem to be professional enough to become his career counselors. They incessantly show their expectations on Rolle without considering Rolle’s feeling. More precisely, those advisers put their faint flames of dreams on shoulders of Rolle, who is able to offer a strong and stable source of heat. They want Rolle to reach where they failed to reach previously. It’s a pretty similar situation.
Pushing others to go ahead in order to fulfill one’s own dream is a great generalization of what Rolle suffers every day. The similar example can be found in an outstanding novel The Joy Luck Club written by Amy Tan, who is an American born Chinese. In the book, Amy Tan depicts a Chinese girl with the same background as her, Jing Mei. Jing Mei’s mother envies Auntie Lindo’s daughter Waverly who is good at playing chess and already earns many tournaments. The mother therefore buys into that her kid is also a prodigy but hidden temporarily. She forces her daughter to do weird and pointless things to search for Jing Mei’s potential from memorizing the capital cities of all nations throughout the world to playing the piano skillfully in front of audience. Jing Mei however resist violently since she grows up under American culture which insists respecting children’s independence and decisions. Jing Mei’s final fighting with her mother expose what the mother’s real intent is: she wants Jing Mei to be an obedient daughter, a daughter who finishes her carefully designed path of life under strict inspection.
Basicly, Jing Mei’s mother behaves differently as those praisers around Rolle, yet she has the same intent as they do. We should not blame what they do on Jing Mei and Rolle, but we are not supposed to neglect the harm their words cause. Rolle cannot be quiet and meditate alone about his future. Also, too much plans make too many choices, and too many choices must make Rolle confusing. He will have an illusion of coping any obstacle one time and getting achievements in all possible fields. Excessive accolades on the one hand obscure his vision, and on the other hand plenty of choices make him confused. As for Jing Mei, the influence is obvious. Although her mother comprises eventually, the gap between two generations and the scar torn by that fight will exist for ever. At this point, these predictions and accolades work more like curses. The only difference may be the original intent.
In a word, what Jing Mei’s mother, people around Rolle, and even we do or intend to do is kidnapping those talented ones in conscious. We wish they would complete what we failed to finish or reach before. It’s kind of selfish, but as I stated before, it’s a instinct. All we can do right now is avoiding babbling too many curses and bestow those burden ones more space to stay alone.
I think the main question brought up in this week's blog and your post is, what are the roles of parents or guardians and how much they get involved in their child's life. In Rolle's case he is capable of so much that there are voices from all sides telling him how to live his life. No matter what future you believe your child is destined for you should not push something on to them or restrict them to a singular hobby. If a child has certain talents or gifts they will find what works for them and only minimal influence from a parent is needed. I liked your reference to the Amy Tan book and giving an example of how parents can display jealousy in another's child and try to get their child to that level. Every person is different and special in their own way. At a certain point, parents do not have the right to pick and choose the future of their children.
Thank you David for reading my work. I quiet agree with you. In a word, we cannot treat those talented ones as slaves who are destined to fulfill our own dreams. That's pretty selfish.
Life is as inconstant as the sand in an hourglass; as each grain flows down the funnel and settle alongside the others, the failure to realize that immortality is but a myth soars as we try to tighten our grasp on the sand that briskly slips away. Although it seems as if we have an eternity to live, invincible to the obstacles that block the pathway to a more desirable fate—especially when dealing with a teenager—we are blinded by the fact that this perception is the complete opposite.
As the sand falls
As the clock ticks
As the sun falls below the horizon
They say that time is of the essence and because of this ideology, society has started to move at a swifter pace. Whether it be rush hour, fast food, or drive thrus, it has become harder for individuals to “stop and smell the flowers.” If one continues to fall into a daily routine of the Big Four—sleeping, eating, working, and repeating—it will be harder to step out of this systematically mundane schedule and eventually his or her labor will never seek the real satisfaction it deserves. Once one starts the routine of the Big Four, it is as if his or her life has transformed into an industrial assembly line; everything must start from point A and end at point B and if any conflict arises during the process, the product—or in this case, life— would seem as if it is rendered useless. To be put into this situation where one never knows the joys of finally finding peace and not having pressure put on his or her shoulders is a curse that I would not be able to shoulder.
There is an “enough”, it just depends whether one chooses to see it or not. Life can be seen as “half glass empty” or “half glass full” and I personally choose to view it as the latter. I live the life of an average teenager: go to school, get decent grades, and try not to mess up. Sometimes I feel the pressure—although at a lesser extent—that Rolle feels. I want to please everyone that crosses paths with me that I start to lose sight of what actually makes me, me. When this happens, I back up, reevaluate my actions, and pick the route that satisfies me, and only me. I would rather be content while seemingly less “successful” than have the pressure of everyone’s expectations rested on my shoulders.
As all the sand falls to the bottom of the hourglass, I want to be able to look back on my life and be jubilant with the path that I have chosen to take. Although I will never be able to please everyone I encounter, the one person I would be able to please would be me, and that is all the matters when I look back at the pathway that I, unconsciously and consciously, paved for myself.
Hi Kelly! I really enjoyed reading your post this week (as usual) because the one thing that really stood out to me was that you said you would rather be content than be what is deemed as successful. I completely agree with this because I feel that being happy is one of the most important things in life and if we are unhappy life is never pleasant no matter how successful we are. Good writing as usual!
Hi Kelly! I really enjoy your use of examples and how you relate it to common teenage life! And I hope that you are able to look back and be happy with everything.
Hi Kelly, I can relate to your blog because I also rather see my glass half full. Success is not everything and I rather be content with my life than try to reach some untouchable goal and miss out on my life.
Just by reading the first sentence I knew this blog would be great. I really agree with everything you said, especially your point about being content rather than successful. Also your writing flows amazingly, good job.
I agree with you Kelly! Our happiness is pretty much based off of our decisions and what path we decide to take. Ultimately, the things that we end up doing in life should be done because it is what we love and makes us happy.
I loved your response, I could feel your need to become who you were meant to be. That is to be... you. However, why do you have to be you? You shouldn't have to try, it will come naturally. So I just have say to you is Do You.
In the words of Rolle’s lecturer, “What if you're successful in ways you didn't intend to be successful?” Would your new successes matter as much as the dreams you never realized or the goals you never met? How important do you think it is to meet your goals?
I would like to do the new successes even they are not my interested about my dreams or goals. The life is unstable, and I do not even know what will happen in my future. What if I never met my goals, or the dreams I never realized, so I think I should stay in my new successes at least. I would assert my new successes as much as my dreams and goals, even more important than them. If people are successful in ways they did not intend to be successful, that is lucky, and we should proud of ourselves. At least, we are successful, and we are better than the people who never meet the goals.
Also, I believe people can be change by the time. Time will change everything because the time will change the young people to get older, so naive become mature. Sometimes, people have to make a quick decision about their future. I do not want to be Rolle because he can not to do the right choice. He wasted time when he had three choices. In the end, he just let the opportunities slip away from his life. Rolle chose to be a football player but he enrolled in medical school at Florida State University after one year. Sometimes, people have to seize the opportunity, and we can not just follow our goals or dreams. May be I will never meet my goals in the future but I can be successful in ways I do not intend to be successful. I would like to hold the opportunity, and I will work hard as my goals. People can be change to love something, but it is only a matter of time. After a period of time, I will love this job which I was successful.
In the book “1984”, Winston is honest person in this darkness world, and the party does not want to hear the truth. He hated the party, big brother, and he wants to do whatever can weaken the party. In some ways, they catch Winston, and torment him. At begin, he knows he will die, and he still be honest. Day by day, Winston can not stand for O’Brien’s harassment, and he has been changed. When O’Brien put him into the Room 101, there has the rats, and Winston is scared of them. He shouts “Do not do it to me, do it to Julia”, and he sells Julia at this time. He begins to believe whatever they told him even two plus two makes up five. When he heard the war is victory, he was very excited, and he loved the big brother. I would assert everything can be changed, and it is only a matter of time. So people have to learn content, and we have to seize the opportunity when we were successful.
“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.”
------ Max lerner
You and I definitely have opposite opinion about the topic, but the part where you said that people can be changed as time goes by totally inspired me and somewhat convinced me. I agree that humans are imperfect that they can be easily changed and it is not always a bad thing to happen.
I agreed with your opinion that at least we are successful, and we are better than the people who never meet the goals. We got something better than nothing.
You and I definitely have opposite opinion also, but I like your description of what you may do in Rolle's position , which is good. Hope you can find your lighthouse in this blind world.
If I were raising Myron I would allow him to bounce around until he finds his passion rather than make him focus on one area. The reason why I would raise him like this is because I believe in doing whatever your heart wants. Throughout our life we change from the time we were a kid, to a teen, to an adult, even to and senior. If we focus on one area we will never be exposed to new things that may interests us even more. We never know what our life is going to lead us too. The only thing we can control is taking advantage of the opportunities that come up. If we bounce around until we find a passion, we will know that the passion we find in the end is what we really wanted. We wouldn't know that if we focus on one area, there could be something in the world that is calling us and we don't know it.
If you are thinking to yourself, well life doesn't always treat you right and if you go bouncing around you have the risk of losing everything and if you focus on one area you have the risk of missing out on a more fulfilling life then you are right. There is always a risk. Life is a risk. It's like gambling, if you take a chance you can go home rich as ever or broke as a joke. Now going back to if I was raising Myron. Should I save him from himself? No, I wouldn't because then he would not learn. You have to be able to learn from your mistakes and learn from your success. If you are always being protective over someone you leading them to failure without them even doing anything.
The reason why I have these thoughts and ways of going about life, is because that is how I would like to be raised. I come from a good family that raises me right. They let me learn from my mistakes and let me learn from my success. They also let me go for something I have a passion for and if that passion changes they will be okay with it. At the end of the day they will always be there supporting me. They will never be overprotective of me, but they will always be there for me. They will also guide me and help me. This is the way of raising someone that I prefer and would raise Myron if I had to.
I completely agree with you! I would like to find my path which ever way it may be. You won't ever be truly happy if you give yourself the chance to venture off and find what you are passionate about.
Hey Chris. I enjoyed reading your entry this week. I can really relate to how you are raised because my dad raises me almost the same way. Learning from our mistakes can teach us how to deal with situations and grow as we enter the adult world. That is how I would wish to raise my children someday.
Although I may never be able to relate to Mr. Rolle on an athletic level (unless eating too much for my own good is considered a sport), I certainly can understand someone's harmful tendency to strive for the beyond-- "to infinity and beyond," that is. Like Rolle's love for football, my own love for the act of consuming edible goodies involves an endless cycle without permanent satisfaction. "There is no enough," says my stomach, brain, throat, and virtually every other organ that resides in my always growling body. It is the curse of hunger, and the curse of wanting the infinite.
Disclaimer: This in no way is intended to offend those individuals, especially in developing countries, who are truly malnourished and hungry. Also, any mention of a Chinese proverb is completely fabricated.
As I type this at 1 a.m. right now, I can't help but notice that my stomach just growled a few short moments ago. Why though? I just came back from a restaurant overstuffed and "stomachly" satisfied maybe four hours ago. That is the constant question I ask myself. I literally just felt complacent after eating tons of crap and more, and yet I don't feel all that satisfied again.
In Mr. Rolle's case, it seems that his drive for success on top of even more success may be as endless as a human digestion cycle. Some of the good is relished, we feel happy, and then we realize that more will make us happier. Has he realized though, that constantly working for more prevents him from reaping the benefits of those previous achievements? In this mindset, it seems that there may be no point in anything then. It’s a classic case of that one individual who chooses to overwork his or herself to save a large sum for retirement, and dies before ever really enjoying that beach house in the good ole’ sunshine state.
Sue me for using this highly “overused” statement, but “YOLO”. Although some people may believe otherwise, the general consensus is that "we only live once", so why let the good things in life waste away while you chase even more? It’s like that old Chinese proverb that involves a pail of water and a scorching hot sun. As the farmer already had one bucket of water, he decided to be greedy and went to get another pail for himself, but just so happened to leave his first pail in the scorching hot sun. When he came back to it, the sun had already evaporated the contents of the pail. The farmer realized that in his quest for more than he needed at the time, he lost the chance to relish in his first possession and instead wasted his time fetching for more. And thus, he was left with one bucket of water yet again.
Just remember, life gives you lemons, so make lemonade --don’t go on a mission to make orange juice when lemonade can quench your thirst just as well.
I really like ur last sentence" Just remember, life gives you lemons, so make lemonade." Its likes the rule to live in this world.
It is important for one to follow their dreams. Although you may be successful in whatever occupation you may currently be in, if it is not what you want you will never truly be happy. Goals are extremely important to have, they help us find our true happiness (which I believe is our sole purpose in life), help us grow in character, and makes us aspire to become better individuals where we are able to contribute to the greater good of society. Despite the fact that our time on Earth will mean nothing once we are gone, you might as well find some purpose in your existence for the time being because we only get the chance to live once. Personally, I would like to do something worth wild in life in hopes that my legacy may exceed my mortality.
In addition, success can be a blessing AND a curse. Looking at the bright side you are finally able to achieve your aspirations in life yet at the same time, along with the fame and recognition comes the pressure to uphold your status. But all in all it shouldn’t be about what people think because its about what you want to make of your life. If you are able to remain humble, smart, and be surrounded by people who love and care about you, success really could be pleasant once you finally make it to the top.
Personally I would let people choose whatever path they feel is best for them, because when you force someone to be something they do not want to do the best effort is not put forward. Plus when you ar doing something that you enjoy its never considered work thus making your work all the more meaningful and having a greater impact on society because it is something that you love and are passionate about.
I agree with you. Being successful and having recognition can be a blessing and a curse. Being a role model as a very successful person is a blessing, but maintaining that status quo and expectations from others is a curse. Once you lose and give in, it's a curse that scars the rest of your life.
Imagining myself as a parent, I do have many ideas of how to raise a child and what to give him or her based on my experience of being a child. Most children are confused and lost during their progress to adulthood. As a teenager the road ahead of me is very hazy because I can’t see it very clearly and I don’t have a clue of what I will become ten years from now. Maybe I will be a psychologists or even a teacher but I don’t know what I really want to do unless I have tried them. The reality is usually very different from what we imagine. But whatever we choose to do, we should always have passion and live our lives to the fullest. There is nothing more frustrating than having regrets for our choices because things that looks serious and matter to us now, may not even be remembered ten years later.
If I am raising Myron, I would encourage him to try different things and enjoy the world. If I force him to focus on one area, he would be very narrow minded. He should use his eyes more broadly and go through a more variety of things. Some people regret their decisions because they are stuck with a boring job and can’t get away from it. So why not take the time and find a job that one truly enjoys and work hard on it? In the future, I would use my time to try new things and be in fields that I once never thought I will be. I will invest my time in careers and find the job I love the most.
Even if Myron may lose everything that he has by bouncing around until he finds his passion, I would always be there for him and my children will always have my support. I don’t want them to regret later in life. I treat him this way because I prefer to be raised this way, and my parents do encourage me to be independent and try different things. Because I am raised this way, I want my children to also have the same chance to do many different things. It is always important to let your children make choices so they can grow.
I am pretty sure that you will be an excellent mother since you offer your kids space of choosing and stumbling. You said that you would rather let your kids freely make choice and give them protection and assurance after failing than restrict their explorations at all kinds of fields in case they might not succeed in any field. However, not every mother in the society can do as you will do. Rolle do have free room to choose and experience different careers and fields, but he is confusing and frustrating. Such negative emotion can be avoid if he is instructed and advised well before. He should be expected to focus on his favorite field. After all, if every kid goes to attempt whatever he or she wants, our society will suffer a lack of specialty.
I really like your post. I think we can all relate about the whole career choice you made in your post. We are all still very young and have long futures ahead of us. Like you said, the future is very hazy.
I see mature on you as you are expressing your point of view about how to be a parent and raise a child. I agree with you that people find themselves enjoying life while trying new stuff. Good post!
+ If you’re a general manager of a football team – with your continued employment largely contingent on the performance of the team you assembled – do you draft Myron Rolle?
I love football, follow my favorite teams, and enjoy it both casually and as an interest. My favorite team is the Baltimore Ravens, so I will assume the position of General Manager Garrisson Pena anticipating this NFL Draft. The best prospect, this year for me, is a player named Myron Rolle. I sit there looking at tapes and scouting reports from the combine at this guy. Then I have a moment of silent reflection, thinking about whether Myron Rolle, will truly become one of the best players that he so lovingly wants to become. I enjoy watching my team play and I wonder just how good I have performed up to the expectations of the fans as a general manager. Lately, I got some inspiration came from a movie called, Draft Day, with Kevin Costner that motivated me to craft my team without anybody stopping me or telling me, I am out of my mind. Draft Day is a fictionalized movie, but it is not far off from discussing the NFL Draft. So, I have an epiphany. Now, I think it is time I voice my opinions from my heart since this one kid, Myron Rolle, is challenging me every step of the way to believe whether or not, he is worth it. So, here is my respectful feeling as I will preface everything is testing my intuition and what I observe to make a decision about drafting Myron Rolle.
"No one can stop a ticking clock, but the great ones always find a way to slow it down" - Kevin Costner, Draft Day
Let's slow down and review who Myron Rolle really is..
I like Myron Rolle as his background is very, very impressive. His resume speaks volumes because I see not only a want-to-be pro football player, but a wise and logical kid who is also thinking about his future. Neurosurgery is quite impressive, being able to play saxophone as well as sing, and maintaining a high GPA blows me away as most football players dedicate themselves for the love of the game than college or academics. His persona reminds me of Tom Brady; Brady is 37 years old, and at that age, his form will start deteriorating. I recently read an article where Brady said, "I think I will make a great actor". For some reason, I couldn't disagree as it is nice to see that Brady is thinking about his retirement. I look at Myron Rolle and I can say that when I wanted to go professional and be a general manager, it wasn't what I thought it was. That is not to say I hate my job, but the level of competitiveness and stress is many notches higher than what I assumed it was. I feel the same way about Myron. Him skipping his senior year at Oxford to focus on football is good dedication to the game, but I feel in my gut that he did that because he didn't want to look bad amongst his players. He saw people's myopia, and felt that studying neurosurgery made him look more like a geek than a football player. I am not sure if Myron is ready to deal with that kind of pressure in this organization as I do not want him to be judged in my organization. Otherwise, that taints my reputation to monitor my players' conduct.
I would love to see him on my team as I think he could transform my defense even as a rookie. Drafting a first round safety might not be a huge splash for the Ravens Fans, but it allows us to gain better positional awareness. Sometimes, in my head, I visualize putting together a team on the fly that ultimately can win us a Super Bowl. I just want the team that I want. All I want is to have my Ravens win a Super Bowl under my reign as general manager. I have made some mistakes in drafting some players who were easily prone to injury, as I do not think drafting him would be the costliest ever. But what I cannot get my head around is someone who wants to pursue neurosurgery, ultimately cannot juggle the occupation in saving lives versus the demands of the NFL. Two separate paths where I feel Rolle has to decide on.
I have been general manager of the Ravens for about 2 years and have seen some incidents where some players have gotten seriously injured. It is a miracle they recovered, but it is scary to think that such a violent sport can kill someone on the spot. The start of the draft is approaching and more tension is building up inside of me because I now have to make a choice. I am listening between my heart and my head, like an angel and a devil on both shoulders. So I ask myself one more time, do I take Rolle? He is a winner at least, that is what I feel the word is. Now I realize that there is no such thing as a sure thing. I am the one who picks and it all comes down to me in the long run. As much as I am impressed by Myron Rolle's resume and his excellence in his numbers, I think he would look good and perform well as a Raven. Ray Lewis was one of those defensive players who I felt very close to. Now retired, I wish that I was on this job longer having to have seen a team that I put together can do. But in my heart, some voice is telling me to do it and draft Myron Rolle. He keeps his nose clean, he actively works out, he stays healthy, gives impressive stats, and most importantly, he keeps his mind sharp.
That to me is the deciding factor in what makes me see a lot of value in him.
I phone in and walk into the war room awaiting the commissioner. I finally savor the moment when I made the right decision. Commissioner Goodell says,
"With the 5th Pick of the 2010 NFL Draft, the Baltimore Ravens select Myron Rolle. Safety, Florida State University"
I, Garrisson Pena, draft Myron Rolle to the Ravens. I want to see MY team that I create go out there and go guns-blazing this season.
If one utterly despises me for what I am doing, then I will see to it that I prove them wrong and pull a rabbit out of the hat that no one expects coming. I will write my legacy in the history books, as those who disagree can endure that feeling because I intend on winning. That starts now.......
I go to my VIP Draft Party and shout, “We had a great day”. The fans chant, “SUPER BOWL!! SUPER BOWL!!”
Let the jerseys and season commence
Wow! I really liked your blog this week! You turned this assignment into a great fictional narrative with yourself as the main character, the general manager of a football team. I found that you looked at Rolle's situation at a completely different angle than the one I chose, and I found it believable as well. Even though Rolle will definitely have a very hard time trying to juggle excellence in both academics and in sports, you pointed out that, in this way, he could be laying out a better future for himself than most other professional athletes. I guess it really makes a difference looking at Rolle's story when you actually follow football. (I still won't, though. Sorry!)
Loved watching that movie. Great approach to the response by really stepping into the role of the general manager. I think despite the multitude of stats and data available to recruiters for draft picks, a large reason why they choose certain players is their attitude and personality. Some of the longest playing athletes aren't necessarily just the superstars, but the "reliable" people. Rolle is a liability, but good enough to spend money on as a late pick.
Renaissance Man (n)- a person with many talents or areas of knowledge
Leonardo da Vinci is the recurring example of the renaissance man as he was an expert on engineering, science, painting, designing, and physiology. Individuals with multiple traits have often been described as the jack of all trades, but the master of none. Being an expert at whichever field that you may approach will lead to deeper thought, but giving up a certain hobby or interest for career might lead to dissatisfaction.
Myron Rolle is the modern renaissance man that high school athletes look up to since he is more than proficient in school, football, music, and singing. He is an All-American safety from Florida State University who is an aspiring surgeon.
Being in the school orchestra, varsity football team, and varsity volleyball team, I have unintentionally contributed less time in school and learning. My efforts to balance school and extracurricular activities have been the toughest things about high school. School is not particularly hard for me, it’s just time consuming. However, it has truly taught me about time management.
Football season is one of the most competitive and intense sports that a high school athlete can encounter with the training that comes with it. The two-a-day practices in the summer, hell week training, zero period weight room in the winter, and regular season have been time consuming and puts a toll on the body. Not to diminish any other sport, but football is a sport not for everyone.
I have been blessed with a mother who has supported my dedication towards extracurricular activities throughout high school. She has emphasized the importance of school; however, still the significance of doing what I truly love. She has allowed me to go to all my practices and to put my heart and soul into what I enjoy doing. High school sports has been what has kept me sane throughout high school because of all the relationships and brotherhood I have formed within my teammates.
The camaraderie on my volleyball is no better demonstrated than what we chant before every volleyball game. Gathered around in a circle with hands behind each other’s backs, we sway left and right. I repeatedly yell “who’s got my back?” and everyone on the team chants “I got your back!”
However, throughout high school I have butted heads with my dad about high school sports. He does not understand the experiences and the relationships I have formed with my friends because he did not choose to go through this when he went through schooling. He convinces me to not go to practice and instead stay home to read and sleep. His reason behind his advice is that he knows that I will never make the NFL or play college volleyball, so why should I play in high school? My mother on the other hand says that I should go to practice. This dichotomy within my family has truly shaped how I balance all my activities. I want to satisfy my father’s expectations of going onto being successful because I am repeatedly told by him that I am wasting my potential doing something else I will never achieve -- professional athlete.
Whatever we are passionate for whether it’s for arts, music, clubs, sports, even culinary, we should strive to be great at whatever we do.
My mom often says to me to “shoot for the stars, if you miss, you at least make it to the moon”.
My own child will join as many extra curricular activities as he wishes. Having a little brother that is eight years apart from me makes me feel like a secondary father figure. Recently my brother has grown an interest towards football. Seeing his interest, I have taken it in my own hands to push him to play Pop Warner football for the Arcadia Indians. Every night I throw the football with him to work on his hand eye coordination so he will be more prepared to play. I do not necessarily expect him to be an NFL superstar, but I want him to be exposed to the game that I love most, football. Through this, I can bond with him more and have a common ground that he and I can both share.
I think it's really sweet of your mom to keep pushing you to do what you want to do, despite your dad's disapproval. Doing all the extracurricular activities that you wrote about sounds difficult. I wish you luck in keeping up with all your work.
I can only imagine how your parents' differing viewpoints on school and extracurricular activities must make for an interesting dynamic! I'm glad to hear that your mother truly supports you with what you love to do. It must be difficult trying to explain the intangible benefits of your extracurricular activities to your father who was raised without such experiences. However, it's good to see that you haven't let him deter you away from making your own memories.
Somehow, in some weird way, the universe has it all planned out for you, and yet you can carve out your own path.
It’s a paradox in and of itself, but it’s true.
For as long as I can remember, I was never really forced to make a choice about the things I wanted to pursue.
I used to ice skate.
I used to roller-blade.
I (admittedly, still) play with Legos.
I played violin.
I did martial arts and became an instructor.
I pursued (and still pursue) the arts and crafts.
I write music.
I like photography.
I write poetry and short stories.
I’m a percussionist.
So too did my older brother and sister. I wanted to do all of these things, and I made these choices by my own accord. My parents allowed me… still allow me, to pursue whatever it is that may satisfy me most. They just want me to live it, and do it well. This becomes even more apparent, as I’m about to enter college. They’re always telling me that they don’t care what I do, so long as I’m happy with it, and I can do it for a lifetime.
I like this freedom.
It’s better than having my world predetermined and set in stone before I even vocalize yourself. This rings especially true now, as I’m about to enter college.
We’re all going to (hopefully) find what career that we’ll wholeheartedly devote ourselves to. That’s inspiring… and invigorating. To add to this, the majority of us have some sort of idea of what they would like to do for a living.
Me, however… I’m moving around a lot. From the sciences, the technological, to the philosophical, I don’t know what I want more.
I’ve been handed so many great opportunities, both from an educational standpoint, and just simple opportunities to represent myself, speaking on behalf anything that is linked to me.
Like I said, I like this freedom. I like these opportunities. I enjoy how they’re limitless and they’re reflexive of just how much potential I’m unaware of. But, like Rolle, the greatness comes at the cost of a loss of identity, caught in the contorted mess of who you’re meant to be in the perspective of the external, and who you really are. It comes at the cost of sacrificing the potentials out of all the worlds you cannot pick. It comes at the cost of being everything to everyone, and that’s a fine line defined by your choices and your consequences.
I want to be everything to everyone.
I want the life I want, but I know I won’t get it. It’s another paradox that stares into my eyes.
It seems as though that having the choice to make your own future, and create what you want is unfortunately a facade at certain impasses. But because of that, I think that I would… not necessarily encourage, but not denounce jumping around from passion to passion. It’s that big idea of choice, put into a microscopic level of infinite importance. You can’t have it all, but you can make something out of what you have and what you choose.
“What you decide now, in this moment, will change the future. Forever.”
Do what makes you happiest, to the best of your abilities. Don’t be afraid of that impasse. Don’t let the external take hold of your identity,your potential. When you command it, it will come to pass.
“You are more than the sum total of the things you know and how you react to them.”
-Both quotes are from The Day You Read This by Iain S. Thomas
Hey Kenn, I enjoyed reading the finished version of your blog. I do hope you find a career where you are able to harness your technological and philosophical capabilities because I believe that you have it in you to reach for something greater. Though I have to ask, what’s the benefit in being everything to everyone? In my own personal opinion, being everything would only be pressure placed upon oneself, a kind of pressure that is self-inflicted. I don’t know if I could handle the expectations that come with it.
In my own perspective, there is no benefit for trying to be everything for everyone. I want to excel in what I set out to do and surpass ones perception of me. I want to understand and know. I don't seek anything in return. I receive only the gains of the process.
What you say about it, being a self-induced and convoluted endeavor, is true. There's no possible way I can be a Renaissance Man to everyone. Additionally, holding ones self accountable or obligated to the standards, aspirations, and dreams of others is outlandish.
No doubt it's impossible. No doubt it's somewhat self-defeating. All for the need for fulfillment, passion, and identity: some of the few things we can command.
My parents are the same, they don’t mind what I chose to do, as long as it fulfills me. It’s true that freedom to pursue holds the reality that we can’t be everything for everyone. Even with that truth, it’s important to do what satisfies you. I think focusing on our own happiness and having a purpose can make us enough for everyone.
Like I said in my blog entry, that freedom is more than satisfying (but also very depriving).
I'm inclined to disagree with this however: personal happiness does not always mean we suddenly become everything to everyone. Personal happiness, while under one umbrella of this "happiness," could be attained and mean so many different things to every individual. As an example, I find personal happiness in percussion, poetry, or simply just listening or helping people. It's very subjective and biased, as it is for most.
I really relate to your sense of unknowing. I too did not know what to pursue until fairly recently. Great post and hope you find what you're looking for!
Hey Kenneth, I agree with you on the part about not denouncing jumping from passion yet not encourage to so. I have faced the similar choice of choosing one from two of my passion to pursue in college. Since they are very different I can't keep both. However I don't really like the way "the universe has planned out anything for us" sounds like. I think we control out own fate, and we choose differently to make us special.
Imagine that you have two young nieces of the same age. One of them --Susie-- has grown up in the comfort and luxury of a wealthy household. She has never experienced a holiday without presents or a night without dinner. Susie is accustomed to a lifestyle of plenty. The other, Katie, has only experienced a life of barely getting by. She doesn't ask for what she knows she can't have. She has learned to appreciate the single bedroom that she shares with her two brothers and to accept all of the days spent in the absence of her working mother.
For Christmas, you buy them each the same doll, with a blue dress and button eyes. Susie is happy to get another toy to add to her collection. Her eyes light up as she admires the doll’s pretty blue dress and soft hair. For a day, she is infatuated with the doll, absent-mindedly carrying it everywhere she goes. However, Susie instantly gets bored. She throws the doll onto her clustered pile of used toys, inevitably to be forgotten. Katie, on the other hand, is at complete awe when receiving the doll. She is cautious when holding it, and carefully protects it as if it were alive. Katie has never before owned anything so pretty. She cherishes the doll until it’s blue dress turns grey and it’s right eye comes loose. As Susie waits on a bigger and better toy, Katie grows to love the doll. She adores it as her most prized possession.
Besides the obvious differences of these two girls, it is notable that Susie seems to take the doll for granted, while Katie treats it as an unfamiliar treasure. This is generally similar to the comparison of Rolle’s and Winston’s lives. When pleasure becomes a commonality, it becomes less special. It becomes routine. Significance is lost if it is always present.
I don’t believe that Rolle will ever find the same happiness that Winston found. His entire life, Rolle has experienced effortless abundance --like Susie. He expects plentiful satisfaction because that is all he has ever known. Rolle’s vastly extravagant, seemingly gifted lifestyle has implied high expectation. However, with so much success, the meaningfulness of it all has been watered down into mediocre complacency. While experiencing boundless happiness all at once, its magic is counterbalanced, conveying it into what seems like nothing at all.
As Rolle’s life is a plethora of benefits, Winston has never experienced a life of comfortable security. When we are first introduced to Winston, he possesses degraded potential and expectation. Given the evidence that he has never had anything to look forward to, he does not expect much from the world or from himself. However, in Part 2 we see drastic changes in Winston. He seems to have collected hope. His actions reflect this, and bring abrupt joy into his life. Since Winston initially lived a simple, colorless life, his terse moments of pleasure were pure and extraordinary. He cherished every fleeting moment of euphoria as if they were his last, knowing very well that they could be. This happiness that Winston experienced for the first time was deeply appreciated, as it had been previously longed for --much like Katie’s doll.
Rolle has, perhaps, taken all of his advantages for granted in an incidental way. All of the happiness in his life has been provided for him. His convenient life is fueled by the quantity of happiness in which it contains, whereas Winston’s thrived on the quality of limited happiness that he briefly encountered. And in this case, Winston’s quality overshadows Rolle’s quantity.
Profound in so many ways. Alluding to both the book and an outside scenario. You showed how both were truly different and why that was so. I thought to myself at first that Rolle wasn't so different from Winston, since they both suffer from their own world's in their own ways. However, I now understand how, even though he was the one living in hell, Winston enjoys and cherishes his freedom and gift while Rolle is so stressed and dissatisfied. A true writer with great focus and explanations, bravo miss.
“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who’s going to stop me.” -Ayn Rand
One of my nephews, Deven, can solve a rubik’s cube in 8.2 seconds. He holds North American and World records. Deven isn’t wasting his talents, he take full advantage of them. Believe it or not, there are actually rubik’s cube competitions that have cash prizes.
He never really tried hard in school and barely passed his senior year. Now he is a 4.0 college student and he’s studying to become a Neuroscientist. Neuroscience and rubik's cubes have nothing in common ─ they don’t have to. People are free to enjoy things that are polar opposites if they so choose. Who’s to say that you’re not allowed to? Who’s going to stop you?
It’s too often said that people can’t change. People can change. People can change their minds, their ways, their hair, their bodies, even their faces; people are constantly changing. When someone says that people can’t change, they’re just refusing to face facts ─ people can change, some just won’t.
Myron Rolle was a man of many talents; it would have been such a waste if he didn’t try to put each and everyone of those talents to good use. He wanted to change, not because he didn’t like who he was, but because he had plans for himself. When his NFL career didn’t pan out for him he didn’t try to fight a battle he knew he would lose, instead, he decided to save his hands and his head and head to medical school where he could make more out of his talents than in the NFL. There comes a point where you have to decide if one dream is worth letting go if it might cost you another. Rolle was smart enough to realize that some dream just aren’t meant to be.
Myron Rolle did not fail. Myron Rolle did not quit. He chose and he changed.
Deven’s brother, Noah, is the polar opposite of Deven. Deven wears glasses, Noah contacts. Deven solves rubik’s cubes, Noah is a football star. Deven sees his future in Neuroscience, Noah in the NFL. They’ve barely spoken to each other from the time we were really young; they have nothing in common, according to them.
It’s funny that medical science and football can live together in one body peacefully, but then cause such a great distance between two.
Deven and Noah are more alike than they care to admit.
Loving Brother to two younger sisters.
I know them, and I know that they aren’t going to let anyone stop them from being whatever they want to be.
You have to work for what you want in life, no one is going to hand you your dreams. You’ll bounce through a hundred different passions before you find one that’s yours, and that’s okay; as long as you find one you love in the end.
So work hard.
And don’t let anyone stop you.
I found your post very thought-invoking. You discussed both change and choice, using Myron Rolle's story and your own personal experience knowing your two nephews. It's kind of funny how Deven and Noah seem to represent Rolle's two very opposite dreams separated. Just as Rolle wishes to study neuroscience, Deven hopes to fulfill that same wish for himself. And, just as Rolle wants to be a football player all the same, Noah works for that very ambition of becoming an NFL player. It's as if the two brothers have what Rolle, who might have wished he could have become two people so that he could handle both dreams, could not.
take risky action in the hope of a desired result.
28. 24. :26. :05. 1.
These are all of the numbers that were on the scoreboard at the University of Phoenix in Glendale, Arizona. The score was 28 to 24 in favor of the New England Patriots over the Seattle Seahawks. There were 26 seconds left on the game clock and 5 seconds left on the play clock. The Seattle Seahawks were 1 yard away from repeating as Super Bowl Champions. The Seahawks line up in a shotgun formation with two receivers lining up to the right and only one lining up to the left. Russell Wilson lined up five yards back of the snap with the nearly unstoppable beast of a running back named Marshawn Lynch to his left. The Patriots lined up and loaded the box to try to stop the Marshawn Lynch express. Time was at a stand still. Millions of viewers were tuned in and holding their breaths…………………………………….
The center snaps the ball and it glides back to Russell Wilson. Marshawn Lynch breaks to his left. Wait. What is he doing? Russell Wilson takes one step backwards, then another. He plants his feet and turns his hips. OH MY GOD!!! His arm flies backwards. NO! NO! NO! He starts to twist his body as his arm starts to come forward. He releases. Where did Marshawn go? The balls thrusts through the air towards Ricardo Lockette. Malcolm Butler sees the ball and where it’s going. He breaks for the ball. There’s a collision and for just a moment the camera starts panning into the endzone. It now jerks the other way like a car avoiding an animal in the road. What just happened. Millions sit in bewilderment as what they have just witnessed is too crazy to comprehend.
Russell Wilson walks off the field in frustration. Tom Brady Jumps for joy. Richard Sherman looks on mortified.
The Seattle Seahawks just threw and interception to Malcolm Butler at the New England Patriots 1 yard line.
Why would they pass when they had a phenominal running back who would’ve probably just blasted through the Patriots defense to score the winning touchdown?
This is a question people are still asking.
“You win some, you lose some. But you live, you live to fight another day.” -Mr. Jones Friday
Looking at Myron Rolle and analyzing all of his talent, any GM would be a complete idiot not to draft him. Some will say that there are a considerable amount of risks as to his performance and his willingness to play the game at the level it needs to be played. That is an understandable concern and it is also the most common. Every single player has some sort of question marks surrounding him. Jameis Winston, widely considered to be one of the top two draft choices, is coming off of a shoulder injury. After an okay performance at the NFL combine, there are still many questions about his ability to play and compete at an elite level. To draft him would be a gamble.
Every player ever selected in the history of all drafts, are a gamble. There have been many of players in all sports whose careers didn’t go exactly as they hoped for. The Los Angeles Angels have had the misfortune of players lives being cut short. Nick Adenhart lost his life to a drunk driver a few years back. Angels draft choice Ryan Bolden was murdered in December of this past year. This is an unfortunate example of the Angels gambling on players and them losing for all the wrong reasons. Billy Beane is another famous example of a top pick going bust after bouncing around the league in just 4 seasons.
The point is that everyone has risks that someone, in some way, takes a chance on.
Now, the question is when to draft him. Is he a first rounder? Second? Third?! Given his risks and weaknesses, Myron Rolle would probably be drafted in the 4th, 5th, or even 6th round of the draft. Although he is a solid player who is able to put himself in the position to make plays, his mind isn't completely focused on football.
The questions and answers of parenting are very sought after and are not always clear. Wondering what to do when it comes to children can be very tiring, confusing, and hard. Every parent is faced with the difficult decision of what to do when it comes to their child. The majority of these difficult decisions have to do with their child’s well being as well as what is best for them in their life. On a one end of an extreme scale are the parents who are involved in every aspect of their child’s life while making every single decision for them causing them to grow up quite clueless to the real world. On the other end, there are the parents that could not care less about what their child does with their life leaving them to grow up for the most part, with a chip on their shoulder. When it comes to Myron Rolle, people can ask whether it would have been better for his parents to have set a strict plan for their son that should involve absolutely no deviation from that very plan. Others may say that they did the right thing in letting Myron do what he does and test the waters of life for himself. This leads to the questions of “Should we, in essence, save him from himself?”. There is no right answer, but there is, an answer. The answer is if Myron were to be raised again, he should be raised the same way as he has been. Everybody makes mistakes in life and everyone is able to learn from them. It is okay for a parent to be supportive and help their child through some things in life, but there is also a time where those same parents must also let go of their child’s hand and let them experience the world. At times it may be hard and the parents may want to rush in and help, but it would only be doing the child more damage in the long run. Some say that that is the hardest part of parenting...letting go and watching their child grow up.
Vincent, your blog this week was an outstanding and excellent read! I liked how you paralleled this blog to the previous events of the super bowl. The imagery helped portray the message vividly and helped me understand the message you were trying to send. I look forward to reading more and seeing what you can do next.
Thanks Antonio. I felt like this blog really challenged me as I was trying to not write this blog in the first person, much like the guilty pleasure essay. I'm glad you liked it and Go Packers!!!!!!! (Patriots are my second team)
People like Myron Rolle stick out like a sore thumb in the news industry. His achievements, his dreams, and his connections attract media to him like a magnet. People like these are often looked up to, or hated, because they are so perfect in the eyes of society. With people like Myron Rolle, who are conflicted upon two dreams that are on completely opposite sides of a spectrum, we should encourage them to take time off from both, and retreat to a peaceful place. Allow him to experience that his life was enough at that time.
Peace. A place, mental or physical, that relieves you of the stress of daily life. Peace comes in many forms. It comes in a quiet place. It comes in a walk around the neighborhood in the middle of a cool summer night. It comes in a trip to the beach with friends and family. To me, it comes in a youth retreat. Retreating into God’s embrace takes my mind off my daily struggles, and allows me to focus all my attention upon Him. This feeling, usually called a ¨spiritual high¨, comes and goes as quickly as the retreat begins and ends, but those few days with my brothers and sisters in Christ allow for a complete renewal in motivation for my daily life. On my retreats, just renewing my faith in God also brings peace to my mind that lasts well beyond the end of my retreats. Relearning and knowing that God is always watching over me, and guiding me to a life with Him after I die. I find my internal peace through this, and allows me to relax and destress myself every day while being bombarded with the workload of school and relationships.
For Myron Rolle, his peace lies in his future. Knowing that he has two very successful options brings him peace. He finds peace in choosing his field in the medical field, deciding his safer future. He risked his future by attempting to play in the NFL, which he thought was the best choice for his life. However, this risk turned him to the path that he is currently pursuing, and has brought him to a peace of mind knowing that he didn’t have to choose anymore. Winston’s peace lies in his love for Big Brother. His love ends his physical torture in the Ministry of Love, and his love ends the internal turmoil he had. He took the risk of disturbing the universe for what he thought was the greater good. The search for peace burns in everyone, fictional or real life. The risks for the dreams that we pursue are worth taking, because it brings us closer to the peace and happiness we desire so much.
Hello Derek, it hit right in side of me right after you said, "The risks for the dreams that we pursue are worth taking, because it brings us closer to the peace and happiness we desire so much." I would like to read what do you think on this situation, what will you do. I hope my desire is bigger than society. Thanks.
To not be able to enjoy a success and having constant challenges ahead of you is a curse. You may have a goal that you want to achieve but if make good progress and achieves one of your goals but your second goal is still far away you will have to focus on reaching that goal and won’t celebrate your success. As long as your goals are far away you will chase after them and ignore time to enjoy the successes that you made so far. If you are focused on only achieving your goals your social life will come crashing down. You will not be able to make any friends or lose them if you already have some, but in the end all your friends may have left you or forgot about you since you’re focused on what you want not what you have. You should always have time to have some fun with your friends as they may not always be there with you.
Being too focused on a goal may allow you to achieve it but will most likely cost you everything in trying to achieve it. If your goal is costly then during the process of getting where you want to be, you may end up with nothing. Family, friends, money, home, you may end up with nothing in an instance. You'd think that instantly losing all your friends, and family, would only happen in books or movies but losing it all can happen in a flash if you’re too focused on their work and don’t spend enough time. George Orwell lost all his friends to all his friends do to being focused on his work and let his social life fall apart. Orwell came close to losing it all, starting with his friends, even though he only lost his friends this shows that it is possible to lose everything.
Focusing solely on your goal may not be a bad thing. If at the end of your goal leads to something to something worth wild then go for it. Orwell wrote a book that cost him his friends but to him what he was writing was worth losing all his friends over as his book was his prediction of what our government would become in the future. This book, 1984, is now a widely read and has made him famous. If the your work is paid well then you will be able to make a profit. In the end only focusing on your goal and doing the work to get there is more of a curse than a blessing. People don’t realize how fast time goes by, if they achieve their goal they may already have wasted half their life not enjoying the people around them or the things going around them.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
What does this mean exactly?
It means that people see things differently. Some may see Rolle’s reality as a living hell due to the constant suffering he is forced to deal with; however, I see it as a blessing.
First, take a deep breath, and think about the following question: Why are you in the position you are at today? Chances are, it is because something or someone inspires you to keep on moving forward. This inspiration of yours blesses you with the opportunity to utilize your potential to the fullest by giving you the gift of motivation.
Motivation… what would we do without it? Absolutely nothing. Motivation is defined as, “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.” It is what carries people through the challenges and hardships that life has to offer. Without motivation, Rolle’s incentives would be nonexistent and he would not achieve the same amount of success he originally had in the first place.
Keep in mind that success is not something everyone accomplishes. There is no set path for one to obtain it naturally because it can vary. For certain people, it may be easily achieved, and for others, it may be the most challenging task they have ever received. Instead of defining Rolle’s life as something negative because of the qualities it lacks, it should be seen as something positive because of the fact he was able to accomplish his goals.
In the last line, it says, “I hope Myron Rolle figures out what he wants before he loses everything.” The issue at hand is that Rolle does not realize what he has already accomplished. He is stuck between pleasing others and pleasing himself. Once Rolle himself realizes the success he has accomplished thus far, he will then figure out what he wants before he loses everything.
Success is not a curse, it is a blessing that should be more appreciated.
That being said, Myron Rolle should be in control of his own destiny. He should be the one to decide his own fate because it is his life, not anyone else's. His family, friends, and coworkers should be encouraging him to do what he loves instead of telling him to pick a fate and to stick with it. After all, it is Rolle's mindset and perseverance that got him to where he is in his life. He too, should realize that he should not risk a life changing decision that could cost him his future. If he loves football, then he should pursue a career in football. If he can happily imagine himself in the future as a doctor, he should take the first step to becoming one. Rolle should not try to be something he is not. I think this concept applies to everybody. You should never let someone else's judgement get in the way of doing what you love. People often overlook the consequences of trying to please others. Sure, you may gain their approval, but how does that benefit yourself? You should be in charge of who you want to be.
I completely agree and found that the line that best summarized your essay was the one that said "success is not a curse", because success should be more appreciated in today's society but it never is. Great post!
If I were to find success unintentionally, then the fallout of that success would be surprising, overwhelming, and not fulfilling. During the end of last year, a picture on social media vent viral. It was a picture of a boy bagging items at the retail store, Target. The mysterious boy quickly became known as “Alex from Target.”
There seems to be no point of how this picture became a trend in the nation. This picture appeared on various social media outlets, news shows, and talk shows. This boy even got an interview with Ellen DeGeneres. In that video, Alex seemed to be very bewilder, shocked, and somewhat uncomfortable by the fact a picture taken without his permission vent viral. DeGeneres proceeds to ask if he has talents, in which he responds “I can dance. It’s not good.” DeGeneres advises him to “pick up” a talent soon, so he can use most of his fame to become known for something more other than bagging groceries.
When I heard the commotion of this picture, I thought it would be because he did something generous for another and people wanted to recognize him because of his good deed. Then I learned why he actually good famous. Thanks to a few teen fan girls, “Alex from Target” has been a trending topic on twitter and he has gained 500,000 new twitter followers based off of his looks.
This incident didn’t surprise because I see people gain fame because of their looks and pretty much that’s all. But I question why we even bother to give news air time to this topic when there are more noteworthy stories out there. Then I thought, “What if Alex’s dream is to work as a salesman at Best Buy.” His new found fame would work against him because he is known as “Alex from Target” and not “Alex from Best Buy.” His fame would hinder his chances to work at a new establishment. Employers want a salesperson and not a sales label. His fame in that situation would work against him because people want to associate him to Target, thus whatever he does, he is still known to the most of us as “Alex from Target” and not as Alex Lee.
If I were Alex and my dream is to become a salesman for Best Buy, then I would keep working, getting the experience of working at a retail chain, and then apply. I would not let my new fame stand in the way of what I really want to do. It might be harder to do because of the attention, but it is very much possible.
There are many distractions such as fame, so it is even more important to stick to the set goals. Because once the fifteen minutes of fame is over, I just have myself and the new label. In order to be successful in a line of profession, I would have to distance myself from what I have been labeled as only if it does not make reaching my goals easier.
When I am lying on my death bed, I would rather remember the goals that I set out and successfully accomplished than remember my fifteen minutes of fame.
I like how you used the "Alex from Target" story as a response to the first prompt! It parallels well with your opinion on unintended success.
I like how you used the Alex from Target story in your blog. It makes a really good connection to the how the world today sees things since it is so recent. I also agree with your points - it's better to be remembered for the things you accomplished Great job on your post!
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
In life we rarely have enough time to just sit back and enjoy our accomplishments. Think about our school lives.
As soon as the giant wave of tests, projects, and all other types of assignments passes it is not long before there is another wave that seems even bigger than the last. In my math class I always feel relieved after finishing a test thinking that I’ll be able to have a moment for reconciliation. My bubble always bursts when the teacher announces that there is another test coming up soon. I never feel that enough time has passed for me to just relax; it’s always one hit after another. This happens in other aspects of my life as well.
Right when I finish doing all the chores in my house and think that my mother’s nagging will cease to exist, a few days later it’s all I hear again. Just the other day I had finished cleaning the bathroom and living room spotless. The next day I came home and to hear my mother complaining about how I need to clean the guest room. It always annoys me but then I realize that if it were not for all her badgering and if she just allowed me to take a break in completing my chores, our house would be a pigsty.
Our lives are not meant to have breaks.
I feel that although Rolle may hate that “there is no enough” and that he is faced with constant challenge in his life; it is a blessing in disguise. He has accomplished so much because of the fact that his life is filled with challenges. If he didn’t have to face so many obstacles to overcome, who knows if he would be the same man he turned out to be? The fact that he was able to overcome everything that got in his way and that he achieved so much proves that this life of constant challenge is the life for him.
All of these tests in his life have pushed him to become the strong, talented, and successful person he is today. With all of the goals he has set for himself, he must be able to continue with his everyday life while also acknowledging and being proud of all of his triumphs.
Too many people imagine their future as the typical Disney “happy ever after.” Although that may sound nice, that is not how life works. The real world is a constant struggle and though there may be a few breaks if you save up your vacation days, it is continuous. Life would not even be gratifying if there weren’t any hardships to it. We cannot live stagnant lives that have long periods of relaxation, we must fight through and “just keep swimming.” The real test is seeing how well we can push through our struggles while also enjoying life.
Hikmet, I agree with your blog and its many messages of hard working in this modern day world. The quote adds to the experience of reading your post and puts you in the proper mindset. I agree that hard work is required to thrive in a society such as today's. Great entry and good luck in advancing in the journey we as people must continue through each and every day.
I think you make an interesting point: life is not meant to have breaks. At first, I wasn't too sure what you meant, but with your points and examples, it began to make sense. I think life is about struggles and hardships as you said along with balancing the joys in life. nice blog!
I agree with you, life does not have breaks because if we stop focusing in other things, we can end losing the other thing, or putting less effort.
Hi Hikmet! I think that you made some great points here. I enjoyed reading your work. This is the first time. I completely agree with what you said about life and that it might not work the way we assume it would. You made many good points and I look forward to more of your posts.
Having a kid like Myron Rolle is quite rare and maybe in a lot of people’s perspectives fortunate. You know, brag in front of other parents who are struggling to get their kid away from drugs, and put their mind on academic subjects, I can just sit there and watch my kid to be the nationally ranked football player and having incredible GPA. I am pretty sure my mom, would love a kid like that. However, maybe because I am yet too young or I don’t really get the consequences of being a parent, but I think having a kid like that might really be an unfortunate thing.
A kid who has everything that people envy about lives quite a hard life. The same as his parents, they don’t have the experience, which I can teach them how to deal with the situation when you are both excellent at sports and having a dream to open a clinic. I have never in my life dealt with situation like this. Normally I can see the occupation, which I am more passionate about, and how to separate the career and hobbies. However, this kid has everything. He is the real definition of well rounded. Therefore the only obstacle he had was, he couldn’t decide which occupation to put his whole life on.
If the kid were I, my mom will most definitely tell me to choose medical field and then explains the stability, safety, so and so. Yet, that bothered me, because she left out the most crucial element—my will. I need to choose for myself in order to be satisfied. No matter success or failure, if I were the one who made the decision, there is no regret.
As my principle was stated, if Rolle were my kid, I will let him makes his own decision.
When he is struggling, I will comfort him, but not making anything suggestion. The only thing I will tell him in so many different forms is “choose the occupation which defines you the most. ”. I wont interfere with his decision, nor making any comments about his decision. Kid like Rolle has the intellectual ability to make his own decision, and he will be able to make up his mistake even though he is wrong.
I think my treatment to my imaginary kid, Rolle, has reflected to something my mom has raised me for 18 years. Maybe my mom didn’t trust my ability enough, or give me enough freedom to choose with my own will. She was trying to make sure I don’t make mistake like she did years ago. Yet, mistakes are demanded to be made. Therefore, I kind of have to go against my mom on my major or later occupation. Not to show her anything or earn her trust, but just to know how to take control of my life.
Most importantly, find out the thing that defines me the most.
There have definitely been many moments throughout my life where I wanted to switch around dream careers. For an instant I would want to be a painter, the next month I’d want to be a dancer. I’ve always felt like I were a free spirit. It’s a good and a bad thing. For one thing, it means I’m uncommitted. For another, it means I am open.
I started off with wanting to be a dancer. I took ballet classes regularly when I was in elementary school. Then when I got my first puppy, I declared to the entire world I wanted to be a dog breeder...and the list goes on. As I look back at these memories, I don’t consider myself back then as a free spirit. I consider it as just a part of growing and exploring my options. However, there are a few lucky ones who are born into the world with a definite goal the moment they cry right after crawling out of their mother’s womb. J.S. Bach is one of the greatest examples. He became a master-genius composer by the age of 6 and went on to leave an entire legacy as the father of music. Yet, there are others who never intended to become successful in some certain way but end up doing so. Meghan Trainor (the singer for the ever popular song ‘All About That Bass”) never intended on becoming the pop-singer sensation that she now is.
I remember my junior year when I was extremely frustrated about what and who I wanted to become. I was battling between the choices of pursuing something academic like how arcadia constantly pressures me to do, or do music. There was a time when I would always look back and think to myself about how much time I wasted all the years practicing instruments when it was going to be something that I would not be pursuing. I fell into a ditch of depression - studying things I didn’t have a passion for and trying to fit in in a society where I didn’t belong. But as the frustration and depression took on, it made me realize just how much I hated what I was doing to myself. I suddenly woke up from my haze and slapped myself for ever considering to throw away a passion that I had loved since the beginning.
However, there are some people who are like me but never got the same opportunities as me. I have a friend who really wants to go to an Art School. Despite her immense passion and talents for the visual arts, her parents never supported her in the way my parents supported me. I feel like it isn’t fair that she is unable to defy her parent’s wishes and become successful at where her passion lies. But then again, I think about how maybe along the way, she will discover something else that will lead her to an even greater success.
Despite whether or not people enjoy what they do, it seems as if financial success is the key to happiness for most first world citizens today. I do not believe that the majority of people who are successful actually enjoy what they are doing in order to earn money. They enjoy the after-result of working, but do not enjoy the process of working itself. But for them, this is happiness.
Happiness for me is doing what I love. Success for me is doing what I love. I may be young but I don’t believe that I will be happier living a rich and successful life as an accountant or pharmacist than I would be as living as film composer under constant stress. Many people may disagree with my thinking way and say that I will change my mind later. I don’t care. I am me. I can only do what I love to do.
We are all on the same boat, I'm pretty sure that everyone has changed what we wanted to do in the future. We all have to take into consideration that we will be doing that all of our lives and it should be something we are content with. Our jobs should satisfy us and make us happy. It's a scary thing growing up and starting our careers and I agree with you, all that matters is if the job makes you happy, money doesn't matter as much.
Myron Rolle is a man taken on a chance and has an attitude for success. Rolle since a kid has worked towards all his goals and has succeeded in most of them. I however don't believe he’s known peace. Myron Rolle has strived for greatness since he was a child, therefore I don’t think he’s taken the time to stop and admire what he’s done. In order to know peace you have to reevaluate the actions taken in life. Admiration for previous actions is one of the biggest portions of your success. In order to feel like you’ve completed an extraneous task, one must reflect on their own personal accomplishments. I feel that when I do something generous or good in the eyes of society, I like to reflect and enjoy. Myron Rolle not admiring his accomplishments may lead to his unassurance of peace and self confidence.
As a general manager I absolutely would take the chance on drafting someone such as Myron Rolle. Not only was he a proficient football player, but he also brings much more. Rolle would bring an essence of thriving for the best to the team. Bringing all these contributions to the team, it’d be silly to pass him up. Rolle not only brings skill, but also brings a fan base to increase the team's popularity and bring more fans. Not to mention he’s played years in college which show his skill and allowance in the league. At first it’d be difficult getting him back to his former glory, however it is possible. You as the manager have to wonder if the risk is worth the consequences, when the consequences are all payoffs.
Rolle’s decisions are well out of his hands and cannot be controlled. Then again how much of our futures can be controlled by ourselves other than our decisions. Myron Rolle may not of have played a successful NFL career, however he has so much more than just football. If anything he’s better off studying in medical school through the choices of others. His salary would increase almost instantly and he will be utilized more efficiently than him playing football. My pre-evaluation of Rolle was him entering the NFL and lasting a medium sized career, however I think this future is better for him. Rolle is benefiting from the NFL’s denying of his career. In a way he’s contributing more and doing more for the people of leading a life the youth can look up to. Rolle made the proper decision of enrolling in medical school, and now has the chance to stop and admire the scenery.
Great job on this weeks blog DJ Smash. It was very fun to read and I enjoyed it greatly. I look forward to reading more of your work.
I completely agree with you with reevaluating actions taken in life to know peace. Most importantly, I think forgiveness plays a part in it too. Rolle would be more valuable as a neurosurgeon than being in a dying career as a NFL player. After the age of 50, then what? Completely agree!
Isn’t Myron Rolle the epitome of what we - Arcadia High School students - aspire to become? Don’t we want to be praised for our extraordinary extracurriculars and passions? Yeah. We do want that. We want the colleges and universities to notice us because we want to be accepted. We work hard and dedicate ourselves to this world like Myron has. We join our school’s marching band so we can say we’ve committed all four years of high school to a program that takes up a little too much of our time. We take as many AP’s as we possibly can to prove to the schools that we’re more serious about our majors than that guy in corner who’s also applied for biochemistry but is actually undeclared because he hasn’t really found his calling yet. We try and maintain that 4.0 GPA because nerdiness is cool here (You got a C? … Consider dropping the class).
When I was in middle school, I, along with the rest of the seventh grade class, attended Career Day. We signed up for different mini-seminars that interested us; some signed up to see special effects designers, makeup artists, DUB Magazine or SWAT. But how was I supposed to know that those were the speakers who gave out free gifts and painted a cool gash on your face that looked so real?! I guess I took Career Day too seriously; I signed up for architecture and astronomy, photography and art … And I got the same message from all four speakers: It’s going to be hard to find a job in this field. You have to be talented, patient, devoted.
I didn’t decide on major until this year, my senior year. I still found myself hopping around different subjects, trying to find something that made sense to me. There were so many things I’ve wanted to be: a teacher, mom, writer, artist, chef, CIA agent, photographer, veterinarian, zookeeper, doctor … But it was easy to think of a future back when I was just a little eight-year-old.
Fast forward to this moment right now. I’m done with college applications. I’m ready for my acceptances (or rejections). I’m hoping to major in environmental science or ecology or zoology or marine biology. Like I said, I’m still bouncing around.
My point is: what’s the point of being that one guy in the corner, too afraid to admit that he’s undeclared? What’s the point of settling down on one major when you’re actually interested in three or four or nine? Bouncing around and being undecided is definitely nerve-racking, but isn’t that what it’s all about? Finding something you’ve overlooked or maybe never even thought about and realizing, “Yes, this is it. Nothing could make me happier.”
Hi Iris! I totaly agree with you in saying that it's better to bounce around in possibilities rather than stick with something that may not be the best fit. I think as AHS students though, we tend to ignore our passion and go in the route that seems better on paper.
Hey Iris, I liked how you made your post very relatable. I think it's too early for most people to really know what they want to do, and there's no shame in it. When you have multiple passions like Rolle, there's so many paths you can take, but I don't think you can't do it all. Hopefully time will help us figure it out.
In the future when I have children I would raise my children to be exposed to other opportunities and to discover and try different things in the world. Not having them be focused on one thing and having them miss out on other opportunities in the world that they may not know about. I feel they might end up later on having hatred towards me as a mom for not letting them explore other things in the world, and that is a fear that I have is my children end up hating me for something I didn't let them do when they were growing up. I believe they should follow their heart and do what they love and do it. I wouldn’t want my kids to regret their decision about what job they have and what they do in life. They should take their time and find out what they actually really love the most and what job/career they would want.
If I was raising Myron, I would raise him how I would with my own children, like how I talked about earlier. I would want him to try new opportunities, take risks, and not be so focused on one area. I would not want him to regret the decision he will make because he was so focused on one area. I want him to take his time and explore what he really loves and what he want to do when he grows up.
I prefer to be raised this way, My parents and family do raise me this way they want me to explore and try new things and figure out what I love to do. They would always support me no matter what. Sometimes My mom is always very overprotective over me but I think that is because she just wants what is best for me and what I end up doing in life. Would I save Myron from himself? I say no because If i did that nothing would change and he would not figure out his own mistakes I don't want to be protective over him I like my mom is over me.
Expectations are a curse; and the withdrawal, a pain. Unfortunately, it’s a norm in life. We all develop standards and as much as one may deny it, we judge everything and everyone without fully understanding. We form ideas that often go beyond reality. We expect too much.
And then people crack - our expectations fall short because we cannot handle the pressure.
Expectations are a curse because people expect what one cannot give. They fail to realize that there is only so much one can do. We are after all, human, and humans are utterly flawed. You can only stretch a rubber band so far until it snaps. You can only play with fire so many times until you alight. Expectations weigh you down, but hope raises you up.
Hope is a funny concept. I theorize that the world revolves around hope and fear. Without hope, there is no life. Without fear, there is no control. Expectations on the other hand, are useless as hope makes up for this desire.
If anything, expect the worst and nothing will disappoint you...and disappointment bleeds.
Rolle should ignore the expectations. Based upon all his accomplishments - his grades, athleticism, leadership, need I state more? - he has already played his role in society. He has already achieved what many of us strive towards, and set an example to his fellow countrymen. Rolle works hard, and that should be enough. It doesn't matter if he doesn't “achieve his goals” because in the first place, he didn't even have a defined goal to go by. He had a vague idea of his goals, but this was wavering. He already achieved his goal of attending college. He had already became a distinguished African-American against all odds.
In all honesty, I don’t think Rolle possesses any more potential than the rest of us. We all have potential, the only aspect that defines our accomplishments differently sets basis upon the fact that we outlet this potential differently.
Perhaps what makes Rolle special is his drive. He was not born as “the chosen one,” he made himself “the chosen one.”
Hey Shannon! Your first statement is powerful and true. In our lives, there are so many things going on. We want this, we buy that, we desire this grade. All these things have to do with expectations. We have expectations to eat food, get this grade, leave at this time. Many of these expectations do not pull through and we become disappointed.
I guess we can expect the worst so we are never disappointed...but that could fill one's world with negativity.
Hoping for nothing is most certainly the best way not to be let down. However, I see it differently. I may agree with you only partially because I believe that hope helps drive us to be better. Without hope, we have nothing to live for, nothing worth doing. There are many things we do in life, but we must ask how many of them are actually worth doing? We should spend more time one things that will help us, not on activities that aren't worth it.
Hi Shannon, your words struck my heart as I was reading them. I recently got a rejection letter from the college I wanted to attend and the moment I opened the email I felt a huge amount of..well.. disappointment.
"If anything, expect the worst and nothing will disappoint you...and disappointment bleeds."
-The awesome Shannon Chan (*hears a round of applause in the distance*)
Your honesty never fails to rend me speechless, but I do have something to say to you. Even though suffering is bred from desire, l'd like to think that it's okay to desire. We need to jump and if we fall, just get back up. Even though that college was my dream one, I have found another dream to run towards and that's probably all we can keep doing. Keep going through hell, keep searching for a dream, keep having expectations, and keep hoping.
Referencing you telling me of the shop in your reply to my blog, I wanted to recommend a movie called Whiplash (bonus: stars the awesome Miles Teller). I haven't watched it myself, but the trailer was pretty intense and maybe we can see it together!
Potential is Rolle’s worst enemy. High expectations and the possibility to achieve them makes for a powerful, yet stressful combination. A life that insights much to be done is also a life which insights harsh disappointments when things can’t or won’t be done.
This may sound conceited to some, but those who know me will understand. I personally can relate to Myron Rolle as I’m sure many of you others can too. You don’t have be talented to the extent that he is in order to relate. All of you are talented in some way and life is about finding that niche. When you find a passion that you are good at, chase it.
That’s what Rolle does, except for the fact that he chases multiple. But the danger in choosing two is that you limit your potential in both areas because you can’t devote fully to it. Even if you choose one, you won’t be as focused as the person who is specialized because your mind will be wandering on the “what ifs”. What if I did both? What if I chose incorrectly? The list goes on.
So the only way you can answer these questions would be the ability to see in the future. And if I were Rolle in this situation, I would want to see the future. Shocking, I know. I have three options that would seemingly make me happy:
1) Choose both
2) Choose Neuroscience
3) Choose NFL
Seeing into the future would allow me to choose the best of these outcomes and I would know the answers to my “what ifs” so I could focus. I see no negative besides the fact that I know what is going to happen. The outcome won’t be a surprise but if I were Rolle, I would think that it’s worth it since so many people are looking to me for their problems. The only way you can help someone else is to keep yourself helped.
Ever since I was kid most things came easy to me. I was what you consider a natural and I think I still have this blessing. I’m able to cruise by with minimal effort in most things I do. But, for the longest time growing up, the few things that I couldn’t do well on the first try frustrated me to the point of giving up. I slowly grew out of this bad habit because I realized everything isn’t easy. And that realization, along with my “natural” talent, has made me believe that I can do anything I put my mind to. I truly believe that I can do anything in this world if I want it enough and am willing to do so.
“My mother said to me, 'If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.' Instead, I was a painter, and became Picasso.”- Pablo Picasso.
So, would I want to see the future? No. The one thing that excites me about growing up is the unknown possibilities. Because right now, I don’t see an end. I don’t see a limit. Knowing the future would cement me on a path when all I want is to make my own.
I 100% agree with you and just finished writing with the same argument. People don't see who they really are but if they are doing well outwardly. What makes you is yourself.
I agree with you. I wouldn't see my future and I rather grow with unknown possibilities. Great post!
What a great post! I loved the quote by Picasso and how even his mother believed in him and knew that no matter what he did he would become successful. When someone has emotional backing by one or both of their parents it gives one an edge to be successful at what they want to do.
What a great post! I loved the quote by Picasso and how even his mother believed in him and knew that no matter what he did he would become successful. When someone has emotional backing by one or both of their parents it gives one an edge to be successful at what they want to do.
In life, we always have to make the decision of either trusting our intution or trusting what others say. I believe that we should just do what we believe is right rather than listening to the opinions of others.
Having followed American Football my whole life the story of Myron Rolle is not a new one. The NFL Draft is filled with steals, busts and sleepers, (underrated players). Unlike the baseball draft their are only seven rounds and every pick or missed pick could be the difference between a serious playoff run or finding your team and yourself out in the cold. In following Football, my favorite team is the Oakland Raiders. Although most have you may not be familiar with the team, the name may alert some ideas, gangsters, bad football,etc. While not all Raider fans are gangsters, the team has been in disarray for the better part of 13 years, since they were last in the Super Bowl, where they were for lack of a better word, smacked by the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. The main reason for the team's horrendous decline can be seen in the ineptitude of the franchise's front office, most glaringly, the Draft.
This is where the Raiders' rant/tangent connects with Myron Rolle. A winning NFL franchise is mainly built on the consistent strength of a team's draft class. The Raiders have built a reputation of being naive on draft day and judging too much on a player's cover, rather than digging deeper into possible problems that may arise. Case in point, Oakland finished the 2006 season at an awful 2-14. The coaching staff was fired and the young Lane Kiffin was brought in to try and steady the ship. However, owner Al Davis used his leverage to draft LSU QB Jamarcus Russell, considered by most the biggest draft bust to ever be. On the outside all signs looked good, big arm, winning record and the Raiders needed a quarterback. However, his weight problem and lack of accuracy or work ethic ended up costing the franchise many wins and over $60 million.
My point is I would not draft Myron Rolle. While less is on the line if he was available in the Sixth Round, look at the red flags that creep up everywhere. He hadn't played in a year, while a cerebral player he lacked the big play ability, and his conflicting interests lead me as a GM to question is commitment to building a winning organization. While Tom Brady is the headline name, plenty of other sixth rounders have come win without the excess baggage of being a Rhode Scholar and contributed to Super Bowl winning teams. Richard Sherman, a Stanford grad was taken in the fifth round and has become the vocal and emotional leader of on the best defenses of the decade on a team that has made it to the last two Super Bowls. Yes the intellectual side is appealing, but there were far too many other issues that Myron Rolle poses that as a GM I would not be willing to use a draft pick on.
David, I really liked the way you brought hard facts and statistics to the table in order to strenghten your opinion. I agree with you in that Rolle's heart was not committed to football, and as a GM, commitment is something that I would require if you were to succeed in my program/franchise.
Growing up, I saw a lot of parents attempting to set their own children's goals in their own ways. Completely ignoring what their children really wanted to do, the parents forced their children to study they weren't interested in, saying it was for them. They rebuked and whipped their children in order to make them “successful”. Well, they somehow got what they wanted out of their kids' life because today, I actually see most of them, or some of them, have fulfilled their parents' dreams and done what their parents believe as “success.” By their parents' will, they have gotten into an “okay school”, gotten an “decent job”, and are living a “not-bad life”. But I really wonder if they are thankful for what their parents had done to them.
I personally believe that ultimate success is not a physical success. I even see some of those who had won the lottery have committed suicide. I also see many of those who are in high positions with authority in their work places with full of stress and anger inside of them. Physical thing, no matter what it is, cannot be an ultimate success, indeed. But the real success is, or the real successful person is who has true happiness and peace in his/her heart.
Just like how Myron Rolle rejected all the opportunities that looked like the best choices in his life and that would never come back again, I'm certain that I would defnitely make the same decision if were in the same situation. Although the goals and dreams I had set aren't the “best”, they are what I made. What I want to do, what I desire, and what I would really love and enjoy are all in one box, and I named the box my dreams. I know that I wouldn't regret at least even if I later find out that the path that I chose wasn't the “best of all.” I would rather attempt to live a life that I wouldn't regret than to live a life that has no risks nor dreams. To me, being successful doesn't matter as much as my dreams do. At the end of this road that I have chosen to walk, I don't know if I will find what people call “success”, but I'm sure that I will find a true happiness and satisfaction. And the last word, “Worth it.”
Parents always want their to be better, so sometimes they do not realized how children feel. Also, we all want to be successful, and find a good job in the future which we really enjoy. I can see you have your goals, and I believe you will be successful in the future.
I totaly agree with you in saying that success is not a material thing, but rather a sense of fulfillment that one feels after accomplishing whatever it is they enjoy. Your posts are always on point and cant wait to read more!
Sam, we have different points of view, but I like that no matter what you will keep pursuing your dreams, to feel fulfilled at the end.
Happiness. This is the one true goal of human life. Without it, our lives are miserable and everything seems like a drag. Happiness has the power to make something that seems like work into something that is enjoyable and fulfilling. Happiness has priority above all else: money, power, fame, attractiveness, and intelligence. Without happiness, everything else is worthless. But what is happiness? It is the state in which a person is content with her life and could not wish for anything better. Her life would be well-lived if she died right there in her state of happiness. Because of all this, happiness should be number one on the priority list for all peoples’ lives.
A high school student struggles in trying to find an extracurricular activity. In choosing his extracurricular activities, he wants something that he enjoys very much and will stick to for a long time. However, it is not an easy task to find a promising activity. The student must look for and try out multiple activities until he finds something that he actually likes doing a lot. Most extracurricular activities that high school students have is not something they truly love. They become blinded by what looks good on college applications or what sounds good when others ask them what they extracurricular activity is. They are inundated by all these superficial factors contributing to their ultimate decision that they forget the most important thing about an extracurricular activity: to enjoy it. An extracurricular activity that a student hates and forcing to do it for his entire high school career is quite possibly the most miserable thing for a high-schooler. Time spent figuring out oneself is well worth it, considering attaining the brightest light as well as avoiding the darkest trenches.
The price paid for searching for one’s career is the time spent. However, he learned knew things and would not have discovered more about himself if he did not bounce between medical school and being a football star. If he had just stuck to becoming a neurosurgeon, how would he ever know what it is like to be a football star? If he had just stuck to becoming a pro football player, how would he ever know what it is like to become a physician? Although Rolle’s outcome was not the best, it was time well spent. By pursuing both careers at once, he has a more fulfilled and content life because he was able to experience both outcomes of his life, which is something that is not shared among many people. He has also gained greater insight about himself. If he had not tried to pursue both careers and gave in to what others told him, he would be living a more miserable and less meaningful life. Rolle has attained a higher level of happiness by having this unique experience. If I were making Rolle’s decision, I would let him float between the two careers instead of forcing him to focus only on one, because he would live a happier life, which takes precedence over all else.
Hey Chris. I totally agree with you when it comes to happiness being really important in the lives of people. The pursuit of happiness is important! As long as the happiness your trying to achieve is not murdering people or something like that. Good job!
If I were raising Myron, I would allow him to make his own decisions with his life. This is how I was brought up. My mom and dad told me to follow my heart and do what I believe is best with my talents. Luckily for me, I have found out what I want to do and be. If I were his father I’d tell him the same. To do what he believes is best for him, and that no matter what, I would always be proud of him and his choice. If Myron ever needed help making a decision, I will gladly help him figure out which is best for him, but I would never pick for him. For each decision he does not pursue, I will help him by reassuring him of his choices. I do not want him to regret any of his choices
It is hard for a parent to watch their child waste their potential trying to figure out his goal in life. Even so, I would never confine Myron to certain aspects of possibilities of life. Of course I would give him my opinion if he ever wanted to hear it, but I would have taught him to not conform what I told him simply because I am his father. Some people feel pressured to follow in the words of their parental figures. Others feel regret when they do not. It would be bad for Myron if he had these feelings. For his sake, I would hope that I had taught him well enough to be sure of his choices, to not fear the lost possibilities and to pursue each choice to the end. Confining Myron to focus on one area is like keeping an exotic bird in a cage forever.
I’m glad I was raised this way. Having the type of support from my parents that did not pressure me or try to suggest choices to me is what guided me to what I want to become. I believe it so the best type of support for everyone to experience, but that is just my opinion. Although having this support does not guarantee anything. It takes a person who is has the drive, patience, and ability to travel the treacherous road of discovering the right option for yourself. Without a doubt I would raise Myron the exact same way as I was. He would not have ended up in the same predicament as he did. Even if he did, he would know to choose what is best for him, and not let others confuse him. Whether or not if he chooses to be the next president of the Bahamas, he would have done so because he thought it was for him. If he chose to pursue the life of a professional NFL player and not a neurosurgeon, it would be because he believed that that option would be the most suitable for his abilities. He is a peacock, he needs to spread his wings and fly.
Imagine one day I bought a lottery ticket, this was the winning ticket that won me 3.7 million dollars. This money I won was money that I had never thought of winning, all of a sudden I wouldn't need to go to college, get a good job or work for a house. I wouldn't need to accomplish any of the goals I have, yet I would want to. I believe the best things in life are the ones you work for, not having them handed to you. I would enjoy working hard to accomplish every goal I have in life. I think having goals in life is very important, without goals we have no motivation. Accomplishing our goals is what we set out to do our entire lives.
As children we all had dreams and goals, some were unrealistic but having goals motivated us to strive for a better life. Every child dreams of being wealthy and having a great job, like being a doctor or an entertainer. I have a niece that changes her future occupation every week, one week she wants to be a ninja, the next a singer. Dreams are great as a child but as you age goals are what you want to strive for, goals can be achieved while dreams are sometimes unrealistic. Goals motivate me throughout life, seeing my siblings and how their goals were ruined by being teenage parents, I strive to be opposite of them. I want to pursue my goals and make my dreams come true, I want to be the first person in my family to graduate from college, I want to have my own house and family. I think meeting my goals is very important because if I don't achieve anything, it was never a goal it was just an unrealistic dream.
I don't believe dreaming is as beneficial as setting goals because dreams are often unrealistic and unattainable. I can dream that I want to move to Hawaii but setting it up as a goal is more motivating. When making a list of goals one would probably explain the steps on how to reach that goal, while a dream is just a vision. Goals and dreams are motivating and they help us understand what we want in life. Without goals our lives and society would be aimless. Dreams might be unrealistic, but they make us hopeful. Whatever your goal is, reach for it, the sky's the limit and never give up on your dreams.
I think it is a curse because Rolle never has time to stop and smell the proverbial flowers of his success. He is constantly driven to new heights in an attempt to fill the bottomless pit of expectation. As soon as he can hit a goal, someone has already presented him with a new challenge. So far in his life, he has managed to accomplish most of the goals that he has set. However, there will be a time when he will fail, and when he does, the fail will be all the more great. Even if he doesn’t fail, he will exhaust himself in the process of trying.
After all, even though he has completely smashed through so many barriers, he is still only human. In addition, because he hasn’t had time to truly enjoy his successes such as making the NFL, graduating FSU in as little time as he did, and becoming a Rhodes Scholar, there is no satisfactory end to his constant uphill battle to achieve everything he wants to be. When he loses his motivation, his plentiful victories will be soured by his first defeat.
Hi Su Yun, I agree with you that people will eventually fail. And the farther they move up, the harder the fall of the fail will be. Good job on your post!
+ In the words of Rolle’s lecturer, “What if you're successful in ways you didn't intend to be successful?” Would your new successes matter as much as the dreams you never realized or the goals you never met? How important do you think it is to meet your goals?
What if I’m successful in ways I didn't intend to be successful? I think I would stay with it even though this is not my dream or goal. It’s not easy to be successful on something because it doesn’t only required your skills or the effort you had made. It also required the opportunity and luck. If today I gave up on this opportunity and decided to keep chasing my dream that I don’t even know whether I will succeed or not. Why would I gave up on something I had already succeed and change to something unknown. As long as this can keep my life comfortable, and I don’t hate it. Why not? Cherish to what I have. Don’t get greedy. For example, this is just like first-semester when Mr. Feraco asked us to flip the coin. We got fifty-fifty chance to either become very rich and successful, or become very poor and unsuccessful in our lives. It’s like a wager, if you win you will get everything, but if you lose you will lost everything. In my opinion, I don’t really like to do risky things because I think it’s better to do something that is a hundred percent for sure.
Maybe my new successes don’t matter as much as the dreams I never realized or the goals I never met, but I would still do it as hard as possible. Because this is the thing I have right now, I don’t want to do it bad. I want to do my best. I believed that time can change a person. So I think I would get used to it, and maybe one day I would give up on my dreams or goals. Maybe I would think that dreams aren’t that much important anymore. It’s not worth anymore. Then I stop chasing my dreams. I know it is sad, but we all have to face the truth one day.
Time is a money, time is a strength, time is a life, and time doesn’t wait for you.
We make quick decisions everyday, decisions are the key to the future. I don’t want to be like Rolle, having hesitation and couldn’t figure out what he wants before he loses everything.
Everything is important, I feel like there is no value between them.
I like how you mention about decision making. People are making decisions everyday. sometimes, the right way will lead you to a better future.
Hi Brendon, I agree with you, sometimes life doesn't work as we plan, but we still have to do our best with what we have, and at some point, adapt to the situation.
You had a very unique take on decisions and sticking with your current path in life. You're right in that time can drastically change our goals and dreams, but in that moment, that second, it seems important for us to stay with what we have.
You can choose to catch the ball, become famous, and make millions; or you can choose to accidentally drop the ball and lose everything in your career. This is a risky path that can either lead to a very happy life or a very depressing life. Luckily, however, this isn’t the only choice there is. You can continue to study in school, earn a degree in college, and find a stable career. It all boils down to what you choose to do and what you want to continue doing. There aren’t many times in life when a person can choose between two life changing options. Sure, one idea may sound much more attractive than the other, but it yields a higher risk factor. The second choice may bring fewer benefits, but it certainly is the safer route with an almost guaranteed success rate. Your choice, your career; not another’s choice, another’s career. So why not make it count?
Rolle faced many challenges and obstacles in his teenage years. Being talented in both athletics and academics, he had trouble deciding what would be best for himself. Choosing athletics would mean a short career and a chance at gaining fame and money. Choosing education wouldn’t necessarily promise fame and money, but it guaranteed a career that would be much more stable than that of athletics. Both choices seem to be too similar, but academics would be the better choice of the two. Having played recreational sports, I know how hard it is to be the top player in the organization, let alone the best player on the team. Making it into professional sports and doing well would be even harder, as the top players in the state may not even have a shot at their dreams. There are simply too many odds against Rolle for him to find success in playing football for the big leagues.
One of the most frequent problems that teenagers have to deal with is identity. Identity isn’t something that we can just go to the grocery store and pick up off the shelves. You can’t just pay for it and leave knowing that you were able to buy a part of yourself. If that were possible, life would not only be great, but it would be really easy. Unfortunately, that is not how humans work; we all have to search for our own part. We may need to search for the kindness and warmth inside our hearts, or we may need to look for the anger locked up inside the deepest, darkest parts of our emotions. Nothing comes easy, it requires experience of all kinds in order to search for our identity. If I were to raise Myron Rolle, I would raise him so that he would have the freedom to bounce around until he finds his true interest. True passions cannot be forced upon people, passions are discovered through the combination of varied experiences.
Rolle was lucky; he was able to find two activities that he excelled at. Most people have a hard time finding their identity because they are limited by exterior forces. Whether it is our parents who don’t allow us to partake in certain activities or the limitations of school, all prevent us from discovering who we really are. I was raised in a free environment; I wasn’t limited to activity A or activity B. I could do activities all the activities I wished, and if I wanted to drop one activity to invest more time in another, I would be able to do so. Likewise, Rolle should be raised in a similar type of environment because it will only help him find who he truly is. If he’s going to do something, why not make it count - don’t let limits inhibit growth.
Great blog about how hard the choice is for Rolle. Fame and money or stability? I agree with that but for the medical profession he would also be raking in money by the millions. I completely agree with your parenting style when it would come to raising Rolle. He should be able to decide which of his talents he wants to pursue, and the only thing we can give is support and guidance. Great job Kenny!
That is what I would look for in a player. Is this player willing to give everything he/she has to my program? Is he/she someone that I can rely on to be at every practice and game? Of course, talent is important. Talent is definitely worth consideration, and is something that catches every coach’s eye, but I would prefer to take a player that gives their all over someone more talented that half-asses everything because they can.
I want the one that strives to become better than they were yesterday. I want the one that knows there is always room for improvement.
Myron Rolle was not that player.
He could not figure out what he wanted to pursue. A possible future as an NFL player to the left, and a future in the medical field to the right. He could not make up his mind. If Rolle wanted to succeed in the NFL, if it’s what he truly wanted, he would have done everything in his power to put himself in the best position possible. He would have lowered his head. I’m sure Myron is a decent man in person, but if your heart isn’t in what you do for a living, you’re letting your life waste away. Life is meant to be enjoyed. And in order to enjoy something, you need to be fond of it, right?
Fickle people don’t make it in this world. You need to know what you want, when you want it, otherwise, someone else that does have everything in order will take something that you might want right from under you. Not being able to make a decision and sticking with it is something that I personally struggle with, and it is tough. You have second thoughts about the choice you’ve made, and start simulating all of the things that could go wrong, and the only way to fix it is to make a different choice. Seeing something through is a great skill to have, even if it isn’t the most popular decision. It’s ironic actually, that I can’t stand when someone can’t make up their mind, or decides to change something at the last minute, when I myself am guilty of making those same exact mistakes. I can’t blame Rolle for being fickle. He has two choices, two paths that could both lead to either bright, successful futures. It makes perfect sense why he can’t decide which direction he wants to commit to. However, he needs to realize that he must make a decision eventually, because if he doesn’t, both careers that lay before him will be lost indefinitely.
I don’t know what became of Myron Rolle, but for his sake, I sure hope that he was able to come to a decision before it was too late. Nothing is more tragic than talent going to waste. I see it all the time. Players that can’t make it to colleges of their caliber because they struggle to meet that university’s academic requirements. Sometimes, staying academically eligible becomes a challenge. Rolle obviously never had a problem with academics, and excelled in the athletic field as well. He has reached the very top, the NFL. He has also set himself up to become a promising medical student. All that is left is for him to make a decision, and I do hope that he made the decision that he wanted to make, so that his heart would be there with him as well.
I had skated on a thin line between reality and fantasy.
I was in denial for some time.
But, it was blissful to have the opportunity to try something I desperately wanted to do.
It always crept up on me. The multiple layers I wore were never enough to protect me from the numbing cold. Still, that didn't matter as soon as I waddled onto the ice rink, tripping over my own skates each step. Though, it took some time for me to enter the rink, simply because I’d often close my eyes in order to envision myself walking into the wardrobe that led to Narnia in the winter. There was always something about that ice rink—something mystical.
As I glided across the ice before my lesson started, I felt unstoppable. The blades cut through the glistening surface with ease and with speed. The cold wind brushed across my face, and it was mysteriously refreshing. I remember there was no pressure, no burden, nothing. I spun, lunged, and jumped whenever, and however I wanted to. I felt graceful as I did a spiral. I even thought I had a shot in competition. At the corner of my eye, I’d catch a glimpse of my mother watching me, smiling at me. I felt secure, moreover, proud.
From here, I was able to transfer myself to a peaceful wonderland. It was blissful.
The coach was always trying to bend me, and put me in positions unthinkable. I completely destroyed the image of a graceful figure skater.
“Lift your leg higher! Jump higher!”
The next thing I know, I’m lying on the cold hard ground. My leg could never touch my head. I didn’t get much height in any jumps. I could only spin around twice. The reality is, I should’ve just stuck to swimming. Frozen water was not my forte.
My mother knew it too. But, she didn’t stop me from continuing, as she saw how much I enjoyed it.
After two years, I still didn’t make any progress. Then, I finally accepted the cold harsh truth. To emphasize this even more, to rub more salt into my wound, a parent watching from the stands told me I need to quit.
Despite all this, there is one thing that I know for sure of: I am passionate about skating, even though I was not great. It brought peace to my mind…
Rights. They are supposed to be inherent.
It was not a curse practicing for two years at something I wasn’t great at.
I was successful in finding what I truly enjoyed at that time, though that wasn’t my initial intention.
Still, it was a blessing.
We should have the right to try whatever we want, and to do the things we like.
My mother did not force me to do anything I disliked. She supported my every decision, and I’m grateful for that. No one knows for sure what the outcome of your choices will be. Nothing is permanent in life. But you have the right to experiment.
Hey Maddie! Really liked your blog this week as it is a parallel situation to mine. It really is a good idea to experiment and dabble in different hobbies such as a sport, art, musical instrument, etc. You can only learn if you like something if you try it hands-on. Nice blog this week!
I really liked how you separated your feelings and understood your realities. It was very interesting. Good job!
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. - Eleanor Roosevelt
Myron Rolle has a passion to play football in the NFL and also become a neurosurgeon. The two career paths Rolle wants can not be achieved simultaneously. So Rolle has a dilemma, either play football and have the possibility of getting hurt or becoming a neurosurgeon. Rolle seems like a dedicated man on the field and off it but the hard part for him is to decide his fate. Once he chooses one path he can never go back on it. I believe Rolle will decide the right choice because he is a very intelligent, outgoing individual. My hope is that Rolle with pursue a career as a neurosurgeon.
Why should Rolle be a neurosurgeon? Well, first off Rolle is more of a student than an athlete. Rolle has this passion for education and learning that no one can take away from him. Even his college coaches said that he spent too much time on school instead of putting all of his effort on the field. He also didn’t play senior year because he went to Oxford. He shadows doctors hoping one day that he can be like them. What more can you ask of a driven man like Myron Rolle. If Rolle were to pursue a career in the NFL and become and first round pick he would need to have a hefty resume. There are thirty two chances for him to be in the first round but what influence has he had on his team during that time, may be one or two great stops. Also what if he gets hurt and possibly has brain damage or breaks his hands. The chances of becoming a neurosurgeon after that are slim to none. What’s even more amazing about him is that he could care less about how much money he makes. He wants to leave an impression on the world that others will look to years down the line. In my eyes I see Myron Rolle becoming a neurosurgeon.
I have too, like Rolle come to the same dilemma. Playing college softball has been a dream of mine for years but I’ve also had a dream to become a nurse. When I would get colleges interested in me they would always ask me what career path I would like to pursue. Of course I would answer nursing and all of a sudden they would get quite and tell me that trying to play softball and nursing wouldn’t be possible by your third and fourth year. When you hear this news your heart sinks because you realize you can’t have both of your dreams come true. After hearing this I thought what am I going to give up, softball or nursing. I choose softball because I worked too hard to give up my dream and after my four years in college my softball career would be over. Luckily for me I found a happy medium. I found a college that can provide me softball and a degree that can lead me to nursing, biomedical degree. Then after my four years I can go get my nursing degree in two years.
If I wouldn’t of found my college I probably would of gone to a school just for nursing because in the long run softball isn’t going to be the job paying my bills, nursing will. All Rolle has to do is believe in himself and he will decide the right choice. Although both dreams can’t come true for Rolle, someday Rolle will think to himself how lucky he was to become a neurosurgeon when he has to do surgery on a NFL football player who can’t even depend on himself.
Hi Katelyn! I think it's really awesome that you have the opportunity to meet both of your passions at college! I'm sure you'll have a great time playing softball while also preparing for your future as a nurse. Keep up the good work!
Exceeding “Possible” Potential
“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” -Confucius
Snap…crackle… POP. Why is the sky so blue… wait a second… how did I end up on the ground? Sweat was dripping and the birds were chirping. Or so I thought… turns out those “birds” were my parents yelling at me to stand up. I suffered my first concussion at the ripe age of 5 years old. Thus began my journey as an athlete.
I was never very fond of tennis. Hitting a ball over a net in a respected area was never my forte. Sure I was “decent”. But tennis was a not where my heart belonged. I mean what’s up with a tennis ball? Is it green or yellow? Don’t you dare tell me its “yellowish-green” or its some neon color make-believe crap. The color’s supposed to make it easier to track. Especially when you start playing at the higher level. The fastest recorded serve was by Samuel Groth at a wicked 163.7 miles per hour!
So… why in the world did my family have to be so freaking good at a sport I didn't even enjoy?
The pathway to success is narrow. In fact it’s extremely narrow. People expected me to carry my family’s legacy as a tennis champion. With all my uncles and aunties having played at the collegiate level and some at the professional level, my family was pretty big on the whole “hit a ball over a net in a respected area” concept. Hell… they were named the tennis family of the year by the United States Tennis Association in 1985.
Here’s an old article from the LA Times: http://articles.latimes.com/1989-05-28/sports/sp-1537_1_darren-yates-ncaa-tennis-championships-stanford-s-alex-o-brien
The only reason my family began to play tennis was because of my grandfather.
Excerpt from article above (Jung referring to my Uncle Steve):
“My dad taught us all," said Jung, who graduated two weeks ago with a degree in finance. "He wanted a sport that would bind us together. He didn't think it would come to this."
I should have been a tennis player. Unfortunately my grandfather pasted away from prostate cancer. I was 15 months old.
Sometimes life places unexpected burdens on your shoulders. There are special circumstances (such as Myron Rolle) that never allow you to take a break from the weight. It’s as if you were the Greek god Atlas… forced to carry the burden of the world forever.
My destiny changed. If my grandfather was still alive I know for a fact that I would be playing tennis. I would never be a varsity baseball player, but rather a current member of the tennis team. The memories I have from playing a variety of sports would vanish and would be replaced by memories strictly related to tennis. The path to success… no… the path to greatness is paved by discipline. My dad always reminds me of this true, yet evading fact. We are always seeking shortcuts. It’s good to work smarter rather than harder, but nowadays discipline and diligence are lost in the translation of interpretation.
I am not an athletic specimen. Standing at a towering 5 foot 11 inches and weighing in at an outstanding 155 pounds, I am not what you might call a “5-star recruit”. Yet I hold no bitterness and am rather thankful for the body God has given me. I was predicted to be 5 foot 6 inches at best. Lacking power and height in almost all sports leagues, I had to rely on the one thing that made me special. Speed. As a kid, I ran faster than most. In fact I ran fast enough to one-day land at a state track meet. Don’t even get me started on how boring track meets can be.
So why the hell did I choose baseball?
To put it simple… I wanted to win. Yet I wanted to win alongside people that I could consider my brothers. Coming into high school I wanted to be apart of a winning legacy. So as a freshman I joined the Arcadia drum line (who had won 1st place at nationals the year prior) and the Arcadia baseball team (who had recently won back to back undefeated league championships in division 2).
The world sets limitations on individuals. Whether it’d be knowingly or unknowingly, people tend to set their own “potentials”. Don’t allow society to tell you what you can or cannot do. The choice is entirely up to you. So work hard and get after your dreams. At the end of your journey you will have the opportunity to look back at how far you’ve travelled.
Don’t let your footsteps be burdened by regret.
Hi Matt! Your blog was really interesting to read. Portraying it as a story kept me interested, and I found myself wanting to read more. I totally agree that while some of us may feel pressure to do a certain activity, the ultimate decision ends up being our own.
On a side note, my family too forced me to play tennis. Something about playing a sport in a dress just didn't sit well with me...
Quite the interesting post if I do say so myself. I loved your passion to win right from the start of high school. You knew what you wanted to do and you committed yourself to it. In addition, I enjoyed reading your post because I was able to visualize everything as if I was experiencing it for myself.
I believe that there’s a discrepancy between potential and actuality. We are presented with Rolle: the paradigm of American culture. Whether it be smarts, strength, or leadership, Rolle will be able to fill the Rolle. If Rolle wanted to be in the NFL, he could. If Rolle wanted to be a neuroscientist, he could. If Rolle wanted to become the flagship ambassador of the black community, he could. Rolle has the power to be whatever he wants, with each characteristic of his enough to guarantee at least some success in any field he takes. So it makes sense that Rolle desires to achieve as much as he wants as he has the means to do so and to not would be a waste of talent. Yet Rolle isn’t any better of a person than you and I aside from his lucrative disposition, he is limited by the natural constraints of this world just as every other human being. He is limited by time and mortality. Thus when Rolle is guaranteed such things in life, job security, first choice careers, the ability to not have to settle, and etc., it’s an inaccurate representation of his potential as it does not include the limiting factors. So despite Rolle’s wide scape of potential ventures, the actuality of his potential success is far slimmer than predicted just as every other person. And just as the Proles have the potential to overthrow the Party, they are limited by their own limited view of their potential, a strange, situation polar of that of Myron Rolle that they invariably find solidarity in.
Making a comparison between Winston and Rolle’s happiness is a difficult prospect- it’s frankly an unfair comparison. To compare, Winston lives in the realms of fiction, written prose that is concrete. His happiness has been written and is indisputable whereas Rolle’s happiness is up to inference. The happiness of Winston’s is an undeniable truth whereas Rolle’s is based off a track-record.
For Winston, happiness came in the form of a surge of endorphins that was almost as much self-indulgent as hedonistic. And although it was a happiness that was grounded in his self-indulgence, in its entirety it wasn’t solely an emotional high either. For Winston, happiness came in the form of Julia, a person whom he could trust in, someone who he found solidarity and someone he could confide in. As Winston progresses through the novel, it is noticeable that his happiness with Julia is all that he needed to be happy. Whereas he lived a bleak, almost absurdist life that was in a state of constant anxiety, Winston later adopts a fondness for self-preservation, no longer needing to desiring to live in the blind spot of his telescreen, but instead living in the sublime, a carefree euphoria intermittent with periods of reality. He lives in a happiness that is almost allegorical to that of reality, that sometimes the best things in life are mixed in with what we hate. We find that happiness for Winston was a palpable future.
Jack of all trades, master of none
My grandmother used to playfully taunt me with this phrase whenever I wanted to take lessons on a new recreational activity. During my childhood summers, I would attempt to master as many skills as possible -- playing the guitar, playing the piano, playing the violin, swimming lessons, drawing lessons, ballet -- the list is endless. My rationale, back then, for taking on this nearly impossible feat was to impress my friends and family. I enjoyed the attention from my classmates, how everyone would be in awe at the fact that I could play three instruments. My family members would always ask me to play a song for them, or perform my ballet recital in the middle of the living room.
Being praised felt good, yet I wasn’t completely content. I wasn’t necessarily the best guitarist nor the most articulate ballet dancer. Because I attempted to do so many things, everyone kept high expectations of me, and it was my fault that I had to set the bar for myself higher every time. I liked playing all these instruments and practicing a variety of sports, but not at the utmost caliber. It would be hard to have a whole day to myself when I had to constantly practice everything, in order to maintain my skill level. Being number one at everything was something I was simply not meant to be.
I realized that focusing on one thing I actually enjoyed most, and investing my time wisely was the smarter choice. Being bombarded with expectations I was unable to fill made my life ten times more stressful than it should’ve been.
I wouldn’t call Rolle’s life of constant challenge a curse, however it seems as if he’s pursuing way more than he can handle. Football requires a full time commitment and complete dedication, something that can’t be acquired with being in medical school on the side. Rolle should just stick with the path towards becoming a neurosurgeon, since it was what he aspired to be from the very beginning. If science wasn’t his passion, he wouldn’t have kept going to medical school while playing football. He’s putting on the full weight of this burden on himself as he continues to reach for greater heights. Myron Rolle has already surpassed what many people hope to achieve and has accomplished what some believe to be the unthinkable.
Despite all of this, I don’t think his decision to tackle football was wrong to make. He did what made him happy and ultimately no one can stop him from going through life the way he wants to.
Hey Mina! I agree with your blog that people are putting a lot of their plate when they some of the activities don't even make them happy. I like how you included an anecdote to your blog and telling your readers about the various activities that you had participated in when you were younger. I, too, use to be involved in a bunch of random activities that were forced onto me, but none made me happy. Thanks for sharing Mina!
Happiness is so important to find. We all seek to find what truly makes us happy. By no means is being multitalented a curse, rather its another skill we have in our figurative "tool belt". Your many skills reminds me the time I made a new years resolution list in 2011. I told myself that I would make so many sports team in Arcadia High School because I was truly passionate for that department. I wanted to be the one kid on campus with three sports on his letterman jacket. But it wasn't until I truly realized I can't do everything when I told myself I wanted to be on the tennis team, volleyball team, basketball team, and football team. Ultimately, I was happy to settle as a two sport athlete at the end of my freshman year.
I would pick him. From what Feraco wrote, it looks like he's not going to be a superstar athlete, but he will be an invaluable member in other ways. He is a good leader. He is hardworking and his appetite for success will inspire others. Actually, instead of drafting him, I would prefer to hire him as a coach for my team. If I could not give him an official title as coach, I would use him in that way.
Myron Rolle is a talented athlete, maybe not a star, but you cannot overlook his talent. Not only is he talented on the field, he is eloquent, self-driven and motivated. His track record is proof. He started anti-obesity programs that the government adopted. It’s hard enough to get the government to do something when you want them too, even our president has a hard time with this, and Rolle did it without trying. In everything that he does he strives to be the best. This kind of mindset becomes infectious.
I want people with his kind of driven attitude on my team. I want athletes who are people, not people who are athletes. If I can maximize his talents, I can create a team. Individuals who work as a unit, where each player is able to step outside themselves and become something else. They become a Bruin, a Trojan, a --fill in the blank--. They stop being an individual and become one team. (Just like the saying goes; there is no "I" in team.)
It sounds weird to put it this way, again back to the whole conformity issue; but as I said before, molds aren't bad. Molds teach you things you’d never learn on your own. They create new experiences you cannot have anywhere else. So many people write about how their experience on a team/dance group/band/percussion/you-name-it has changed their life. So why not go join a mold! After all, isn't that what college is about?
Yes I realize that he turned out to be a not so hot player, but the team that took him did not use his strengths. If they had, they would have kept him. I don’t think evaluating if he is a good player or not just on that experience is short-sighted. I would still pick him.
Nice blog! I think one of the best quotes you said was "I want athletes who are people, not people who are athletes. " Many people don't think that way anymore...It's now all about skill and being the best at what you do, instead of emphasizing how a player is off the court /field/track etc. I never thought of the idea of putting him as a coach, that's brilliant :p He definitely would have an attitude that will instill players to want to work harder and become better.
And yeah I agree! Let college be a medium to find what mold you want to fit! I hope you find yours
Hey Laura, you wrote a great blog! At first I wouldn't of picked Rolle on my team but the way you described him as an asset changed my perspective. Rolle is a well driven man that any team will be lucky to have. Although he wouldn't be the star of the team, some people aren't meant to be the stars, there are other roles one can have in a team. I think he would be a great coach someday because he would tell his players not to give up on their dreams.
You're absolutely right, and I completely agree. I've always thought that the best results come from someone who is able to feel, not feelings that are able to stand in for someone. You can invoke that experience by telling someone to do it, but if that person does not have a passion for it, is there any point? I don't want a robot, I need someone I can trust to inspire others and help lead them to a better future. You can see that way too huh?
Hey Laura. Your post is fantastic. Man, everything you said brought me back to the good old days. I 100% agree with everything you stated. Amazing job!
Right on!!! Your point about malleable people is an opinion I really agree. People that can conform into a team is a valuable asset.
Wow, I didn’t even think to have him coach instead of being a player. He would be perfect to inspire and lead other men because of his physical abilities and morals! Also I agree with the team not using his strengths; excellent blog!
One more thing...I was thinking about it. Do you think that we are more likely to adapt to a certain mold (naturally) or is it a choice that we make? DO we ultimately get to choose what mold we want to fit or do we just naturally adapt to what we are around?
One more thing...I was thinking about it. Do you think that we are more likely to adapt to a certain mold (naturally) or is it a choice that we make? DO we ultimately get to choose what mold we want to fit or do we just naturally adapt to what we are around?
Hey Laura! I love how you always think outside of the box! Its so smart to make him a coach because he would be able to teach others to live their lives with as much dedication as he does. I also like that the fact that he doesn't end up being that great of a player doesn't change your mind in picking him because he's still a great addition to the team.
A man like Myron Rolle comes once every few years. Sure, a person as gifted as him might be present somewhere in the world, but unlike that person Myron is known. As a scholar or as a football protégé, Myron has already left an impact as so.
Through his placement in time, Myron’s been able to use his genetics to the fullest, flying through the world with flying colors with the only real problem in his life being other people. Without other people in the world to bombard him with expectations, the debate of whether his abilities came in the form of a blessing or a curse wouldn’t even be asked, pursuing his dreams to the fullest with sights only to the future.
Compared to Myron, we regular humans would dance with the devil just to be as gifted as him; as one of the demigods.
Look at the guy: 6’2, hella smart, athletic, good-mannered, polite, healthy, how the hell do you not want to be like him? Everyone wants to be able to chill and do things easily and flawlessly- like Myron. It’s also because everyone wants to be as gifted as Myron that others project their future into him, because they know they won’t be able to make an impact as hard as he could. However, it’s not a curse. It’s simply their form of showing their envy and support for Myron, almost telling him that he’s special, headed for greatness.
Hell, how is that even considered a curse? What part of it is a curse? That other people keep telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? That’s the curse? Those inputs made by other people aren’t hindrances but are also blessings. They’re showing more openings into the future, more doors for Myron to choose and walk through. Regular people don’t have that many chances. They discover paths to the future on their own, but very rarely do other people interject and inform them about the vast spaces their abilities can reach, just as Myron encountered.
Wondering if having intelligence and athleticism is a curse or a blessing is a lot like wondering if being rich sucks or not. And we all know what the answer is.
“Hell yeah, sign me up for some of that monies” – everyone
Even though Myron is very gifted and has so many good traits, I still believe it is a curse because being so great may cause people to have really high expectations for you. But I agree with you that it is a blessing because he has so many possibilities for him. Besides not completely agreeing with you I still understand your viewpoint and believe your blog is well written.
Being incredibly talented and intelligent is great but those gifts should used to find personal happiness instead of using it to please others. Rolle's talent is a curse for him because he is trying to make others happy instead of focusing on taking pleasure in his own success.
“Rolle must place his fate in the hands of other men.”
If his faith were up to my hands, I wouldn’t think twice about recruiting him. I would have the honor to call him a member of my team. Someone so respected, eloquent with his language, and honorable. Also, in all honestly, I would keep this man on my team just to have him apart of my life. I’d like to be able to talk to this man and hear what he has to say.
Though how many times in our lives to we have to rely on other people to get where we want to be? It starts out with our parents raising us to the employer reviewing our applications. Rolle has built his life based on his morals and eventually leading him to an outstanding resume. How would someone not give this man a shot?
“And I hope Myron Rolle figures out what he wants before he loses everything.”
Except, Myron didn’t loose everything. The NFL teams did. He chose to study aboard at Oxford University. In 2014, Oxford was ranked the number 5 school in The World Reputation Rankings. But this is after graduating from Florida State University in less than 3 years with a 3.75 GPA. Often times young men must make the decision to follow his dream to the NFL hoping every string will be pulled in his favor, be so confident of his abilities, and trust the system. But how long can the system bend for those young men before it flings them away as it stands straight again. Rolle chose to back himself up with a quality education; he had a fall back plan. The ability for him to separate a dream and reality is crucial. He took the opportunity the NFL gave him with training and bared hope. What would have happened if he had run the risk of going into the NFL without a quality education and the same rush of events had happened? He would have lost everything, but he didn’t. He took the side of reality and set himself up for a fall back plan.
“None of whom can probably match up with him on an intellectual or athletic basis.”
As a coach, not only would I want an educated man on my team, but I would want a man with character. We are speaking of a man who “says please and thank you”; he is respectful. He starts multiple programs for different reasons to help other people, not himself. Many people want him to do many other great things like lead a country, but he himself wants to go to medical school and play football. If I were a coach, I would leap at the possibility of having such a limitless man play for my team because not only would the team gain from having him on the team, but it is Rolles dream too. The man has the ability to dedicate himself, he is a man who inspires, and he is a leader. A man who would have won the William V. Campbell Trophy.
I like how you started off your arguments with a quote. I completely agree with your perspective, as Rolle is an amazing person.
I enjoyed reading your blog this week!
Three years ago sportswriters picked up a story where Alberto Salazar, a world class runner best known for his record of 13:11.93 for the 5000m, had picked up his latest protege, Mary Cain. Today, Mary Cain has become the focal point, graduating to features in the New York Times and exclusive interviews. Watching a video of her run the 3000m in 8:58.48 at the World Junior Championships in Oregon, she breaks off from the pack at the last lap, increasing the gap between her competitors and placing 1st. Even as a person wholly oblivious to the world of track and running, I could see something different.
Cain stood at the starting line, staying right behind the lead in the first few laps. The power she exhibited as she sprung herself by her back leg and pounded the ground made her stand out from the pack. The runners in the last few meters of the race were swift and spritely, swinging their legs with their thin ankles like pendulums. Cain looked powerful. As the group made their way around the last curve of the track, Cain broke off and never looked back. Any efforts by the runners behind her were futile, Cain was out of their grasps.
Race pundits and articles call her a running prodigy, and whenever she’s on the roster to run, competitors and spectators know she’s gunning to give a good race. It’s news whenever another manages to best her like when Ajee Wilson, a fellow prodigy bested her in the 1500m, Cain’s trademark event. Her coach is confident, “she can run 3:55. Maybe somewhere in the 3:52 range” for the 1500m, but what about the rest of us?
We are simultaneously marveled by the success and the destruction of “great people.” Cain’s goal is simple, well simple in wording, she wants to “break records,” but we rest upon her shoulders a new generation of female running. A potential world record holder. As Cain runs past her growing pains and makes her way into the world of professional running, she’s set off into a state of limbo. She no longer holds her title of “child prodigy,” but is not quite the running phenom we envision her to be yet. She has “potential,” or at least we say she does.
Two years ago, they said Cain found her true calling with the help of Salazar. Now as Cain begins the curve, everyone leans in and wonders if her finishing kick will come.
Expectations. Parents have them for their children, fans have them for their sports teams, and we have them for ourselves. They can hoist us by our arms, or trip us up at the last second. Like a double-edged sword, it’s sometimes puzzling to know who is dangerous, and who is endangered. One may say that what sets Rolle and Cain apart is the dogged focus Cain possesses towards her running career; however, it feels unfair to say that at the expense of discounting the achievements Rolle has made.
Whenever I see the next wunderkind being hailed as, “the next (insert superstar here),” the qualities I always see being repeated over and over again is a strong sense of emotional intelligence. Sure there are the ones that may have an overinflated sense of ego, but usually after hailing a person’s achievements we’re quick to also point out that they are humble and level-headed. A lot of our personality is inherited from our parent’s DNA, but there may be a portion of it left untouched, left to help us adapt to our surroundings. Since they were adolescents, Cain and Rolle stood out from their peers helping them garner attention and with that attention came visions of potential. Just like how we may act differently in front of a camera or an authority figure, Cain and Rolle may have learned to act differently in reaction to their environment. Maybe they learned that in order to live up to their potential and have people vying for them, they needed to be humble. This is all speculation, of course.
But is there something to this?
In her book, “The Drama of the Gifted Child,” Alice Miller elaborates on the personality traits that can manifest in response to childhood trauma. Miller noticed a trend within her patients whom had been praised as children for their talents and potential. At the focus was an emotionally insecure parent who projected their aspirations onto their children. As a result, the children subconsciously learned to suppress their own emotions in exchange for “love” and “approval.” Growing up, these emotionally intelligent children would go on to play the roles unintentionally assigned to them: confidant, advisor, supporter. It’s worthy to note that “gifted child” in her book isn’t specific to those kids who win spelling bees or little league MVP trophies. Emotional intelligence is it’s own scale.
Having an expectation for a child isn’t necessarily bad. Good expectations to perform well have actually prompted children to perform better on tests, just like how the opposite can compel children to perform worst. A group of undergraduate students were reminded of their race (Caucasian, African American, Asian, etc.) before an academic task, and researchers found that African Americans did worse than their peers.
Our constructs of expectation, our vision of what people with great potential can become has always enabled our need to foresee the future. And when things don’t go as expected, we can’t help but ask ourselves: What went wrong?
This is the last leg of the race. When we’re left to observe what happened as the dust settles across the finish line.
The boat skipped across the waves, whipping wind and sea salt into our eyes and hair. Moonlight was our beacon and the stars, our guides. Clutching a styrofoam cup of hot cocoa and a damp towel, I was still reeling from being down under. Forty feet under my feet was another world, which I had been a grateful visitor to just moments before. Witnessing over 25 manta rays, each of whom was around 22 feet wide, backflipping into colonies of plankton as flashlights illuminated the underwater spectacle was when I thought to myself:
How did I get here?
Though I’m 18 and have yet to outgrow the pimples on my face, sometimes, I just have to ask myself that question. From places of great heights to the lowest of lows, there are moments when I’m stopped in my tracks and pause to look at the steps I’ve taken, the havoc I’ve wrecked, and, hopefully, the joy I’ve brought. It’s a bit narcissistic of me to portray it from that point of view, though, as I’m sure the curves and hoops I’ve ambulated and hopped my way through have been aided by a number of other players. Yet, the question remains the same:
...where did it all begin?
We’ve all had that moment, perhaps not literally, of lying down in a psychiatrist’s office, searching for answers about the current from our pasts. One has Sigmund Freud to thank for relating every sort of personality defect we have to a traumatized childhood. But the question extends further beyond us to the beginning of civilization, the beginning of life, the beginning of beginning. And when we see what becomes of the people we imbue with potential we always ask ourselves when to help us understand why.
More often than not, we don’t get an answer. We can focus on the “should’ve” and the “could’ve,” but we should never let that stop us from appreciating the haves.
Hello Stacy, I really enjoy reading your blog posts and you always come up with intriguing additional examples that connects gracefully into your themes. I agree with the notion that we tend to reflect on past events and ask ourselves what we could have done better. However, these reflections serve as a mechanism to help us evaluate our skills and traits. We typically don’t fully appreciate what we have because we look upon others’ achievements and skills. Instead of recognizing all of our positive assets, we are trained to become a better individual by thinking that life is a competition.
Your blog was, as always, incredible. In addition to new ideas and original viewpoints, your references and allusions are all sensible and support your theses extremely well. Also, your prose seems flawless. Sentences flow smoothly and draw you deep into the paragraph. I can't wait to draft you (assuming you aren't taken in the first two picks).
I fully agree with your topic about expectations and how our parents will always compare us to others. Also your references really help support your paragraphs, and it is always amazing to read your essays.
“Point your toes.”
“Use more plie.”
“You need to catch that.”
“You can get more range.”
“You need to put in more effort.”
That has been my life for the past three years. Endless conversations about what I do wrong and need to fix. These are just a few of the expectations that have been set for me, and all of that from one person. My instructors would not say anything like that if they knew I was not capable of doing so. As a three year member, these are details I have worked to perfect over time. We always say “nobody is perfect”, but that does not mean we do not try to be. Being perfect is never the expectation, but being somewhere close to that is expected. Catching a toss is always expected, but the next step to being better is consistently catching tape. There is always something to improve on right after the other.
The same thing goes for dance. Spinning is one thing, but footwork underneath it adds a whole level of difficulty for any choreography. There are expectations for returning members, since we already have had at least a year of experience. Pointing your toes and straightening your knees is just the beginning. Now the expectation changes to developing more range and performing through the work. At first, it does not seem so challenging. Then comes the time when you have to go full out during a performance. The lights are shining down on you and everyone watches as you perform right in front of them. A majority of your audience does the same exact thing you do, so they know when you do something wrong. The same thing goes for the judges, one little bent knee or flexed foot can lower your score. The expectation is that you know what you are doing and will not make simple mistakes like these as a world class colorguard. Our instructors always say, “those are A Guard mistakes”, and since we are the the highest class in our division, being compared to the lowest class does not really feel all that great.
Hi Claire! I really enjoyed reading your post about your experience in dance because I can totally relate to always having to live up to certain expectations because when I was in dance I remember always having to do things like point your toes more and straightening your knees. I also understand what its like to be compared to other people and how it does not feel that great but I always remind myself to strive to be the best version of me. I look forward to reading your next posts!
Hey Claire! Colorguard, I would assume, is an activity based on expectations. It is not easy. One needs extreme coordination, discipline, responsibility, and determination. Each member has an expectation for themselves and the instructors/coaches have expectations for each member.
But I can tell that Colorguard's expectations and discipline is working; you guys are great!
I loved your positive outlook on expectations, and how you knew your instructors were only pushing you because they knew you were capable of doing it. Perfection is a great motivator and definitely not something to beat yourself up for. And I agree about how different the dynamics are after the first year. I clearly remember how different the expectations were for returning members compared to new members, especially when it comes to messing up. But Mindy, Geoff and the new instructors (who I don’t know of) trained you guys well! Keep up the great work.
Ps you are pro at sabre
Hi Claire, I totally agree that "Nobody is perfect," however, we try to be the best in what we can and be even better. I like how you connected to Colorguard(dance) because even though I may not be in it, I have heard about the difficulty level in Colorguard. By the way I love how you started with what is said to you. Good blog.
As a dancer, I can completely understand how bad it feels to be compared to a lower level. Not because "we're above them," but because you expect more from yourself. But, we're all human and we all get to have our "A gaurd" moments.
We always say that we hope to reach our goals by a certain age and that we hope to have achieved a certain level of success, but what happens when we don’t reach that exact goal? In today’s society, we are taught to be extremely goal oriented and are programmed to believe that if we do not reach our goals, then we have failed ourselves. I believe that even if we haven’t reached our personal goals, it does not mean that we have failed. When I was younger, I told myself that when I got to high school I would only get straight A’s and that I would make my parents proud by getting into an Ivy League school. When I actually got to high school I realized that getting these grades wouldn’t be as easy as I had thought, and I didn’t actually end up getting the most amazing grades. Initially, I was upset but I knew that I only had myself to blame for these things happening, so instead I decided that instead of getting mad at myself for the things I had wrong, I chose to seek the good and see what I had already accomplished without my knowing.
When I stopped worrying so much about every little thing, new opportunities started popping up like how I got the opportunity to start volunteering at the Los Angeles Zoo, or how I was able to get into colleges that I could truly see a future at. When I realized the things I had accomplished, I wasn’t sad about the goals that I didn’t meet. If we always let the fact that we do not reach our goals sometimes, bother us, we will never progress and grow stronger. I believe that if we create new successes and reach different goals, we will be just as satisfied because if you work hard, you will achieve what is meant for you. Winston Churchill once said “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” which is completely true because once we reach what we deem to be “success”, where do we go from there? Success is never an end point because people that are seen as successful never stop working for what they want. But at the same time, we have to remember that failure is not final and just because we don’t reach a certain goal, does not mean that our journey is over.
It is always important to have goals and to work hard to achieve them, but we should never beat ourselves up for not achieving something that we worked hard for. Recently, I got rejected from my top choice college and at first I was devastated because I had my life plan worked out in my head, but then I realized that life does not always go according to plan and new opportunities will always show up when other ones close. If we work our hardest, we may not always reach what we see as our personal goals but we will always reach what we are meant for.
Hi Julia! Your post made me realize something really important in high school. With the entire college application situation, how many of us in this entire thread would volunteer just to PURELY help someone? We get zero recognition and the experiences cannot be put on a college apps nor a volunteer certification sheet. Would we really be volunteering and doing so much hard work? I sure would not volunteer to be perfectly honest. I believe that I can be using my time differently than to be for example setting up chairs and tables for the school's CAHSEE exams in the north gym after school. The goal orientated society has transitioned us to being more materialistic and robotic.
I love what you had to say and I can totally relate to those ideas. More often than not our ideas and ambitions get ignored and pushed aside. Our accomplishments only look so good on a piece of paper and getting into a good college doesn't necessarily mean success.
Oh my gosh Julia I also thought I was going to get straight As in high school and go to UCB, but then high school actually happened and I gave up on that real quick. If anything though, I do believe it's made me stronger because I know myself well enough to know that I'd be a better fit at other schools. I also understand what you mean about the new opportunities. When you let yourself live each day for the present rather than an already planned future, you open yourself up to new things. Nice blog!
When I’m lying on my death bed (hopefully far in the future) and I’m looking back at how my life has played out, will I be proud of the way that I have spent my time or will I be regretting all the times where I have wasted it?
I, like many others, am afraid of wasting time. I’m afraid that I won’t be able to do all the things that I want to do. I’m afraid that I’ll be doing something that I’m not passionate about. I’m afraid that one day I will wake up and feel like my whole life has been wasted.
Ever since I could remember, I’ve wanted to be a pediatrician. My parents never pressured me to go into the medical field - in fact, when I told them that I wanted to be a pediatrician, they tried to talk me out of it. Although I’ve been lucky enough to find something that I’m passionate about at a young age, I’m afraid that I don’t have what it takes to become a doctor.
Four years of college + Four years of medical school + Three years of residency = A minimum of eleven years before I can open my own office.
I've recently been spending more time thinking about:
How I'll still be in school while all my peers are gaining work experience.
How I'll be studying for my MCAT while my friends are starting their own families.
And all the hard work that's ahead of me - all the all-nighters and studying.
Am I wasting my time?
No, I'm not. I've realized that I'm not afraid to put in the time to make my dreams come true. Time is going to pass by no matter what , so might as well spend it on something you're passionate rather than wasting it doing something you don't even like. Every second of your life should be cherished and spent doing something that makes you happy and you should allow yourself that opportunity.
To realize the value of one hour , ask a surgeon about patients in the ICU.
To realize the value of one minute , ask a person who just missed a deadline on turnitin.
To realize the value of one second , ask someone who just avoided a car accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond , ask the guy who lost to Michael Phelps at the Beijing Olympics.
Time slows down for no one, so realize its value before your time runs out.
I thoroughly enjoyed your blog this week! I think that everyone is afraid of how their future is going to pan out, including me. But I envy you because you know exactly what you want to do and you're willing to go the distance to achieve your dream.
I really liked the little "To realize the value of ..." section. It's so clever!
Nice blog this week! Although I don't want to be a pediatrician, I do want to enter the medical field as well so I know exactly how it feels to think that you're wasting your time with the studying and residency. I completely agree with you though that time passes by no matter what, so it's better to spend it doing something you love. Great job and really solid point.
Hi Roman. I completely agree with you when you say how time should not be wasted doing something you don't love. Time should be valued and spent well doing the things you enjoy.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
This habit is a trait that many would kill for. It would serve as the ultimate answer to all of our questions that limit us from achieving our greatest potentials. It would provide us with the drive and motivation needed for us to capture everything that we desired. Constant achievement is rarely seen as a negative thing. In fact, society upholds a tradition in which only winners are acknowledged – whether through awards, ceremonies, etc. Who wouldn’t want to be recognized and honored? Who wouldn’t want to taste success?
However, a life that revolves around improvement is not a blessing – it is much rather a curse in disguise.
As was the case with Myron Rolle, with excellence comes responsibility – or, in other words, pressure. One who achieves in so many different ways and at so many different levels is burdened by outside opinions. He or she is immediately tagged with the label “role model” whether he or she likes it or not. It is a hard duty to fulfill at any level. The new pathways that were uncovered through success are immediately shut by the fear of not being able to please others in a newfound position. Suddenly, those who insist they know better try to dictate every move. This resulting flurry of “advice” is often mistaken for endless support.
It’s all so grand until word gets out.
The taste of excellence appeals to our inner instincts of greed. This greedy nature shades the boundaries between our desires and necessities. There is only one cure to this hunger – another taste. The compounding effects of greed are extremely powerful (as seen through relationships, money, power, etc.). The greatest entrepreneurs, most notorious leaders, and legendary athletes never stopped venturing on their endless journeys. There is simply not enough excellence that can be achieved in this world to shatter the human instinct of greed.
This is a grand set up for a massive failure. With so much support, enthusiasm, and motivation centered around potential success, how could one fail? Perhaps more importantly, how does one cope with this failure? When failure to reach the anticipated mark of excellence occurs, the letdown is felt not only by the individual, but also by others who were invested in the cause.
Sometimes the happiest people are those that do not know any better.
The quote we used seems a lot like one of the topics we often covered last semester. The "Actions or personality" argument to which makes a person who they really are? And I am fascinated by the "Excellence is a habit" approach of your blog. Also, I don't necessarily agree with the curse point of view but I definitely understand the point of view. The pressure is intense and at a school like Arcadia High, we are exposed to so much of it that we tend to have a negative view on it, when in fact, it could benefit us later on in life.
I lied. And I hate lying.
If you’ve noticed, in my previous blog, in my Artium Magister, in my last post for first semester, and many other pieces, I discussed the importance of honesty. I would rather hear the brutal truth than a sugar-coated lie. So why would I then do something I absolutely disapprove of. I can’t tell you why because even I’m not sure.
It’s funny how we do things that we deem as harmful or unacceptable. We can give inspiring and helpful advice to a friend, but we can’t listen to our own advice. Are we then just a bunch of hypocrites?
What do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be……
I’m lucky.My parents haven’t EVER once forced an identity onto me. I dream of being a successful oncologist and this dream has been mine and only mine. When it comes to choosing a profession, my parents don’t care as long as it’s something that I love doing. Of course, even though they never required that I at least consider this profession, my choice has made them happy nevertheless. I mean whose parents wouldn’t be? Sometimes I wonder, what if I told them that I wanted to be an artist or a musician. Would they stay true to their word and support me? Or would they begin to encourage me to start seeking a more “appropriate” profession.
I’m sure a few of you still have absolutely no clue what you want to do in the future. If you have parents who tell you what they want you to be, at least you have know professions to consider. But if not, when will you figure out what path you want to take? We’re entering college soon and the deadline to choose is soon approaching. Is it then a curse to have nothing to love or to consider doing for the rest of your life?
This thread discusses Rolle and his success. Being such a successful man, Rolle has never known peace. People have constantly thrusted dreams of their own onto him for him to fulfill. But there can never be enough and he only continue moving on to the next goal before even enjoying the first. In a sense, without even being able to enjoy what you’ve achieved, it too is a curse. Has Rolle already lost a sense of himself? He hasn’t even had the chance to see what is worth pursuing. Sure, he’s blessed with talent. He’s successful. But he wants to many things and others want too much of him, what one thing does he want to cling on to? What does he want to hold on to for the rest of his life? Football or being a neurosurgeon.
Does he have a single dream among all the others that stands out?
“I can't tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”― Ed Sheeran
I’ve always had a habit of trying to please everyone, but NEVER myself. I guess you can say I’m self-depriving. Now that I think back, I only developed this flaw just a few years ago. It all started with the first disappointment. I used to ignore what others said about me. A compliment? Great. An insult? Whatever, nothing I can do about it. It didn’t matter what they said; what mattered was what I thought of myself and how my closest friends and family saw me. So if I didn’t please everyone, that was fine. But I was so wrong..or was I? After failing to meet up to the expectations of a friend of mine, I sought to do better. I couldn’t accept the fact that a good friend was disappointed in me. And from then on, I started aiming to please everyone. And I mean EVERYONE, strangers, teachers, friends, family, and coaches.
It’s impossible though. You can’t please everyone. There’s bound to be someone who just disapproves of everything you do. But don’t we all seek acceptance from those around us? Don’t we all want people to like us for who we are? In a perfect society, hate wouldn’t exist. There wouldn’t be criticism and demeaning comments. In fact, we would all approve of the government and the president’s decisions. Yet, it is hate and criticism that pushes us to look for something better. Without them, there would be nothing to tell us that there’s something to improve on, that there’s something worth fixing. So if pleasing everyone will only keep us at a consistency, without any improvements, what’s so great about it.
Of course, although I aim to please everyone around me just so that I get the pleasure of knowing that people like me, I still get criticism. Mainly from home, it is this criticism that encourages me to improve. I do care what others say about me, but now I turn the negatives into positives - new goals to meet. Though I’m perhaps meeting the expectations set for me by others, I am still meeting my own expectations. While we seek to reach dreams, we do encounter new ones that we somehow fulfill without knowing. These extra dreams are merely steps to aid you along your path to meet YOUR dream. And who knows, perhaps these extras may lead you to a better path. Still, even if it means doing things you dislike, it’s important to follow your dream and if it changes along the way, go with it. We can’t force ourselves to seek an old dream that we may no longer care about. Our aspirations change as we age, and we must change along with it because if we don’t, we’re never going to achieve anything.
Perhaps we are just a bunch of hypocrites. But there’s meaning behind everything we do.
I’m not perfect. No one is. As I was writing this post, I realized that trying to please everyone is only holding me back from doing things that I want to do. I’m still going to try to please those around me just for the satisfaction of approval, but I think I’ll relax just a bit. I’ll take the path I want to take while meeting as many goals as possible, even those of others. I can’t be perfect, I can’t please everyone, and I know I’ll have to do things I refrain from doing, but at least I know, if I can please myself and make it through, I’m not failing.
I too have a problem trying to be a people pleaser. I hate when people judge me, so I always try to change myself. I then realize that it doesn't even matter what people think of me. I loved this post. It was so relatable, and I totally agree with all of the things that you wrote about!
Hey Kristie. I can see that you’ve really opened up to people throughout the years. I like how you can turn all the criticism around and make everything positive in your eyes. I really like this post! Keep it up!
First off, I would extremely proud to be the parent of such a successful person like Myron. However, I would try to convince him to focus onto one area. Emphasis on “try.” It is great to experience variety of things, and to experience so many things can bring upon new knowledge and ways to do things. Of course, I would love to have him chase after his dreams and let life lead him on. However, I would greatly regret if he loses everything and that mistake would be hard to solve. Furthermore, I would feel the blame would go onto me because I did not lead him to become successful.
People’s passions can change, and they grow to love something else. However, some passions are created rather than discovered. To further describe this, some things just grow onto people. For example, I despised playing the piano when I was a child, but as time went on, I gradually started to appreciate the music and beauty of it. Going back to Myron, I would try to help him find something he enjoys and support him in that one thing, or make him do something, and hope he grows onto it. I do not want his life to become a risk, and I desire that he would be as successful as possible while being happy. Rather than him making a mistake, and regretting it, he hopefully acknowledge my decision making and understand what could have gone wrong.
However, I do not want to be too restrictive, and block out all his choices. I do want him to enjoy life, because life is a gift. Furthermore, if he really wants to do somethings, or change his passions, I really don’t think I can stop him. Thus, the emphasis on “try.” I do not want to become overprotective, but people can be very impulsive. I would explain to him the risks of bouncing around, and if he accepts the risks, no one can stop him from doing what he desires. In the end, I would just want the best out of him, while having him go on the safe path.
+ In the words of Rolle’s lecturer, “What if you're successful in ways you didn't intend to be successful?” Would your new successes matter as much as the dreams you never realized or the goals you never met? How important do you think it is to meet your goals?
Rolle seems pretty intelligent and talented guy, someone who many people want to be. I think his successful life didn’t came from ways that he didn’t intend to, he worked hard to get where he is. He has no limits, his dreams are endless.
I believe that we must do what we love, but if Rolle wants to get in NFL he must leave behind some other dreams because to be a football player you need to practice a lot and be focus all the time. With extra work he won’t make it. Also with all efforts that he has for each dream, he can’t satisfied his ambitions.
For me “when you are successful in ways you didn’t intend to be” is totally luck. Like a entrepreneur (a guy who starts a business), they give everything they got and luckily they get rich. Is not this way that life works, you need dreams, you need goals, or you won’t be able to live a successful life.
I’m a normal guy who lived my whole life in Brazil. I had dreams of being a soccer player one day, but I changed my mind. Throughout my life, I wanted to be so many things such as, doctor, veterinary, boss, etc. But we only get to choose one, which we struggle to find the right one. I never thought about moving to another country, especially USA. I came here before travelling with my parents, but never had the dream of living here. I am really thankful for this opportunity that God gave me, because is not everyone who can come and study here. Indeed is a successful way to start my life as an adult but I didn’t intend to, it also wasn’t luck.
When I started studying in Arcadia High School, was hard because of english and the culture is totally different from Brazil. I achieved some goals as a student that I never had before and my success matters as much as my dreams that I never realized. I do think that is important to accomplish your goals. Not because you show to yourself that you are capable to do what you want, but to reach fulfillment as well.
Hoping for success is easy, but achieving success isn’t.
Since I was little I always knew where I wanted to work, I wanted to be an animator for Disney. Art was my thing and I loved Disney movies like any other kid. At my grandparents an animation cel for Snow White hung in their bedroom hallway. They got it from my great grandfather who I barely remember worked, but he for Disney.
So I always thought “Hey I can do that!”
part one: aspiring artist
All my life I’ve been an illustrator, plenty of my friends and family support my pursuits in art, and I love art in general. There’s been countless times I’ve blown off plans just to draw. It’s the only thing I find purpose in doing, but it’s also tedious and frustrating. A feeling best described by tearing a paper holding a masterpiece with an eraser, or even smearing a drawing in pencil. Bettering artistic technique is never easy. It wasn’t until I took a class they offered at Art Center for high school students, the struggles briefly seemed like nothing. Yeah, I had deadlines and felt humbled amongst people spewing endless talent, but I still felt inspired being there and hoping for a future in art.
part two: hopes vs. reality
Being at Art Center made me hope to be as perfect as the other artists. Hoping for success and being optimistic made me feel better. In general I was never really an optimistic person. It made me think everything would be alright in the end, that I’d have a perfect life, and I’d be successful forever. I realized I couldn't assume that life would work out the way I wanted. Animation is a highly competitive field, and no matter how much my friends and family supported me, it’s my ability and luck that would determine my future. Who knows I could lose interest in art as a whole and go for a more sustainable career. Or I could work at Disney and be like my great grandfather. The point is in those moments at Art Center working on my art, I felt happy and excited for an art career; but until I doubted those hopes, my happiness didn't feel as real.
Hoping for success was the case for Winston, in the end he hoped to bring down the party. Thus being able to keep his hope for a happy life with Julia. In those moments it’s possible that he felt more happiness than Myron Rolle, definitely, but only before he bitterly failed and lost his humanity. As for Rolle he had to accept the regret and the chances he let slip away. Which is disappointing and hard to accept, we all experience missed opportunities, but not everyone faces it the way Rolle did.
*but he worked for Disney (I'm human I make mistakes opps!)
Three requirements for becoming successful (stolen from Bakuman episode 4):
This is not just simply towards becoming successful because it is necessary in what we do everyday as well. If we lack one of the three there would be a cycle of failure ahead. We should not take life for granted and live with a passionate goal in mind.
Myron Rolle was just one person in a great big world. What sets him apart? The truth is nothing. He may have put in the effort and believed he was truly great but as a man he had no luck. It is necessary for one to consider all to achieve the end result. There are two types of people in the world. There is the type that lives with the flow and bends to the will of society and also the type that has a dream and chases after it while incidentally causing ripples in the might of society. Many people in the world have dreams they would prefer to come true. There are people that make dreams reality while there is others that fail trying. Although not many can achieve the happiness that guides them towards tomorrow, when indeed one person does, he or she are capable of changing the world as well.
Takamasa Ishihara was born to a Japanese mother and a Korean father in Osaka on September 31, 1981. He was a great student and played soccer in hopes of pursuing a professional career. In eight grades, he received a sports injury that forced him to quit. Reality hit and his dreams were instantaneously crushed. During this time, Takamasa went through a period of depression. Soon he discovered a passion for music specifically ‘visual kei’. Takamasa learned how to play guitar at the age of fifteen as he watched bands like L.A. Guns, Metallica, X Japan, Lunar Sea and etc. In his last year of junior high school, Takamasa joined the band ‘Loop’. Yet in1999, he quit high school at the age of 17.
Alone with his guitar, Takamasa left for Tokyo. Due' le quarts accepted him as the newest and youngest addition to their band. Talented as he was, Takamasa with his new stage name ‘Miyabi’ composed and wrote all the lyrics to the band’s songs. In 2002, the band disbanded and Takamasa changed his name to ‘Miyavi’ and started a solo debut concert at Shibuya Koukaidou the next day. Following his first solo performance on stage, Miyavi starred in a movie, Oresama, centered on himself. His last indies album placed number one on the Oricon charts (Japanese Billboards). With a series of successes happening before his eyes, he went to Los Angeles to study abroad.
After tons of street performances focused on sharpening his English pronunciation and speaking skills, Miyavi performed live at MGM Grand in Las Vegas. Mivayi then joins the super band S.K.I.N (currently inactive) in 2007. In 2008, Mivayi had his first world tour with 36 shows in a total of four countries. On September 14th, he started his second war tour, currently the largest any Japanese artist has had with 40 shows in 20 different countries. He continues to release albums and singles while starring in the recent movie Unbroken directed by Angelina Jolie.
Although Miyavi, currently known as the samurai guitarist, gave up his pursuit in the profession of soccer, he was able to revolutionize the world with his music. Meanwhile, there exists Myron Rolle who would discover a joy in being a doctor and going through medical school following a separate dream. Advancing towards one’s goal is important. A human being’s passion and ambition separates one from another. Thus, fulfilling an empty life forced upon by others is not worth living for. In having a goal in sight and achieving it happily amidst failure is what is known as the ultimate pleasure that everyone seeks to attain in life. Not everyone appreciates Miyavi’s music or will be happy when Rolle eagerly becomes a doctor, but it doesn’t mean anything to us. One’s own bliss and delight is only for one to decide. People have to live with excitement, hold what is true to their own spirit and inclination, and also believe in hubris, their own effort, and mostly luck!
I like how you used Takamasa Ishihara to support your argument. It was an interesting example.
You said that if we lack one the three things needed to be successful, it would be a cycle of failure. We can control hubris, and effort. But, can we control luck? What if someone simply does not have luck, is he or she destined to failure?
There are a lot of things we choose to live for, they keep us grounded and give us hope for the future. I think we find the things we choose to live for through trial and error. I would have to let Myron explore everything until he finds what he truly loves. I wouldn’t want to go through life wondering what it would have been like if I had done this or that. I want to die knowing I accomplished everything I wanted to and have done the things I love. So many people go through life not having checked anything off their bucket list, why should Myron be the same?
Some things we just have to learn through making mistakes. If I stop Myron from my fear of him losing everything, I don’t allow him to grow as a person. My mom would tell me about things she did wrong when she was younger in an effort to stop me from making the same mistakes. I don’t think I could ever truly learn from them if I didn’t live it myself. If I stop Myron from making the same mistakes as I did, I would be living vicariously through him. I don’t want him to miss out on a whole other life he could have had.
Growing up, my mother always let me try new things. I participated in soccer, basketball, golf, ballet, tennis, basketball, art, and softball. She never held me back from exploring because she thought finding what I truly liked would give me something to look forward to. Life means a lot less when you have nothing you love so I think it is worth the risk of losing everything. I don’t think there is a point of doing something you don’t want to wakeup and do everyday.
Hey I like the points you made because trying something new is the only way you can live a fun and productive life. You can't hide from something forever because you wouldn't be living at all. Sooner or later you have to step out of your comfort zone and give something you like a chance.
Rolle’s life was meant to help others and be a leader for African American in the United States and where he was born. He is a very intelligent man who can also play football, but does not know what do to in the future, he can either play football or he can become someone very important in the medical field where he can help people because that is what he also wants to do in the future. Many people want him to be apart of the government or be the leader because he has the potential to do so, but really wouldn’t be interested because that is not something he would enjoy doing even though he is good at it.
If I were successful at something that I didn’t like I wouldn’t do it because if you do it then life would be pointless and long. Its good that you are making money but its better to do something you like as long as you can survive in the world. Rolle had a choice between two really good carriers. In football he has really missed out because he was always busy with his educational life and his other carrier that he would also like to do.
If I were to choose Rolle in my team I would, but I would pick him in one of the last rounds because he is a good player but we are not sure if he is truly ready about it because he has missed a lot of football time in his football carrier. He has also moved to different schools and not really a really good player, just a bit above average. He would be really lucky if he did get picked in an early round of the draft.
No one is perfect. Its as simple as that. Even the people who pretend to be are only lying to themselves in the end. Everyone has flaws or things that we wish we could change or memories or past things or people that we want to get back but can’t simply because thats the way of life. People are made to not be perfect but rather to have flaws and imperfections so that everyone is different from one another. Of course its nice to seem perfect and have everything planned out and steps that we try to follow so that we can one day reach our goals but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. Being different and not succeeding is how you will truly find yourself and be the person you want to be. People are so scared of their mistakes and flaws that they would rather hide it all and be someone else then to just be them and who they are. We see this in both 1984 and in real life.
In 1984 we see how the party tries to make everyone similar and not different or not able to show their mistakes and strengths. The party hides these things because these are what makes everyone unique. Different. Special. The party deprives the people of 1984 from expressing themselves and hiding the past because these are the few things that define us. The individuality of these people are taken away from them by force because the party knows that if the people were able to think and be themselves, mistakes and all, would cause trouble for the party and eventually lead to the party’s fall.
I, myself, have fallen victim in trying to hide my past or my flaw. My biggest “flaw” that i had tried to hide when i was younger was the fact that i am blind in my left eye and that i was born with a rare condition that doesn’t allow me to use it. When i was younger i was ashamed of it because i was different and i couldn’t do a lot of things that other kids could do like play sports because my ability to judge distance was not there or to simply put it, i couldn’t see with both eyes. After 6th grade something changes though. I got more friends that i could trust and i was more comfortable with myself. i slowly learned to accept it and now i'm proud of it. My flaw doesn’t hinder me but i see it as a way to make me work harder because i only have one eye. My flaw has made me grow stronger and has helped me get through a lot. The mindset that i had from 6th grade till now has been so positive that people ask me how i do it. They ask how i stay so positive or how i am able to speak about it so calmly and i simply reply with its who i am and i have nothing to be scared of or ashamed of. And if people judge then i let them judge because in the end it doesn’t affect me because i know who i am and what i can do and thats what really matters. Don’t let others define you, define yourself.
“Different. Special.” And with words that touch the soul.
I’m glad I stumbled across your blog, because the message was great.
Be who you are, because if those around you can’t accept you for being you, then they aren’t worth it.
As for perfection, it’s overrated. But you can certainly be YOUR KIND OF PERFECT.
I am weird, absurd, perplexing, but I am still my kind of perfect.
And you should be too.
An imperfection is a quirk, and quirks are lovable. (Yes feel the love.)
And if I may, is the condition amblyopia? Because if it is, I have a mild (emphasis on mild) case of it.
I really like the examples you gave and also how everything tied together. Also how you were very clear about everything.
Rolle lives a life that many can only dream of living; he has an incredible amount of career options and will most likely succeed in any one of them that he chooses to pursue. Everybody looks up to him and sees him as a greater being who will have a large impact on the world someday. What they don’t take into account is how Rolle feels about having all of that potential. When a person is expected to become a huge success and surpass everyone else, he has to work extra hard in order to please even just a few people. It’s a curse that will rob him of his enjoyment of life. Realistically, Rolle can not excel in either field if he choses to become both a neurosurgeon and a professional football player in the NFL. He would be trying to balance both lives, giving him no time to enjoy all the little things that life has to offer. He has to potential to make something amazing out of his life; maybe he’ll have his name remembered for many years after his death because of all his significant achievements. But is it all worth it if his mind is constantly stressed? To some people, the answer is a definite yes, but for me, I don’t think that it would be worth it.
The amount of work required to become a neurosurgeon is immense, even for a person that has all the capabilities of Rolle. If he ever decides to have children, he can say goodbye to the prospect of always being there for them. There will be no time for him to grab a drink at the bar with his friends every Sunday night, if he even manages to make any real friends. He would never have time to relax or find a hobby to take a break from his work. For me, all of those are the things that make life meaningful. I want to be able to take the time to appreciate my surroundings, not just work all the time, even if it would benefit others if I did so. There has to be a balance between work and a personal life, and Rolle would not have that balance if he decided to become both a football player and a neurosurgeon.
I think that no matter what path Rolle chooses, he will achieve a pretty high degree of success. He has the determination to work towards his passions, something that I wish I had more of.
If I were in Rolle’s position, seeing the future would be the last wish on my mind. I want every day to be a mystery because it keeps life exciting. Not knowing what life will bring to me the next day makes it much more thrilling.
Great job on this one Calvin. I have enjoyed reading all of your work throughout the year as it has all been pretty solid. Keep up the good work. I will continue to enjoy reading your work as the year goes on.
I never really saw being talented as being a burden. I guess it really is a burden especially because he is trying to impress the world. However, he doesn't have to aim to impress the world. All he has to do is choose to do something that he enjoys doing. After all, it boils down to what's truly worth it and what's not. It's his life, not the life of the world.
There is no enough.
Perhaps we have never been explicitly told these specific words, but we have heard of variations of this phrase with the same meaning. Something like, “Why can’t you be a better person?” or “You took all these basic classes? Where are all the AP classes?” Sometimes you are in a situation where you have to choose between two paths, but both paths lead to certain groups of people who are unsatisfied with the decision.
One situation that we, as aspiring college students, have probably had to deal with involves our parents where we wanted to choose a specific path as our major or future career, but our parents disagreed because they had something in mind for us. This leads to discussions or arguments about the topic, leading to an eventual decision where one side will be content while the other will not. This is a similar situation to the one Myron Rolle had to face, does he choose what he wants (although not guaranteed it will be the more successful decision) or what the others want? Having to deal with this situation is quite stressful and it is definitely more a than it is a blessing.
Having the skills to do various activities in different situations is beneficial, especially when being compared to others, but it raises the expectations others have for you. All these expectations force individuals to make their own moves, with many different paths to choose from, but …
No one is perfect.
The skilled-individual, like Rolle, has the capability to perform the activities, but he is unable to do all of them. He either opts to enter the NFL draft to live his dream or become a doctor. Both pay well, don’t get me wrong, but each path is completely different from the other in terms of daily activities, longevity, stress levels, mentality, etc. These are things Rolle, and we, need to think about when considering our decisions and these should not be made because we “like” this path better than another. But at the same time, you should not make a decision because someone tells you it is the right one.
Having a sense of individuality makes you a unique person in a crowd of people. Everyone has a right to try out what THEY want instead of listening to others. What the others want is something they, their own individuals bodies and choices, would want for themselves if presented with the same circumstances. With Rolle eventually choosing to opt for the NFL draft, he was drafted in the sixth round, way past his expectations of being drafted in the first round. Will he be told that “I was right”, trying to downplay Rolle’s decision?
Situations where tough decisions have to be made occur everyday. For Rolle, his decision relatively failed, but his future still ended up being successful as he enrolled in medical school. Sure his decision was not successful, but it is difficult to predict the future to initially say his decision would lead to failure. It was his decision and he has to pay the consequences (which ended up not being terrible), but he can learn from it.
We are not perfect contraptions, but we make mistakes throughout life and learn from them to better our lives in the future.
Hi Anthony, it is very true that you said learning more is always beneficial. No one can be perfect and even though we tend to please people by meeting up to their expectations, we know that it is impossible. People are never satisfied and we can't please everyone.
Anthony I agree with how humans are not perfect. Somebody can do all sort of things and they might seem perfect in our eyes. But out there someone will see there is a flaw in them. However with these flaws humans change and become a better version of themselves.
+ What should we do with a person like Myron Rolle? Do they have the right to try whatever they want? Should we encourage them to pick a fate and ignore the rest? + If you’re Winston, is the universe worth disturbing? If you’re Rolle, is the NFL worth the risk?
Myron Rolle is being smart, yes he might not perform like someone who is entirely dedicated to destroying their bodies and brains for this sport, for the enjoyment of millions of people, full grown men decide to kill themselves, slowly yes but nonetheless they are committing suicide. Is it wrong for Myron Rolle to think about the future, experiencing life, traveling the world, furthering an education, or thinking about the future.
People like Rolle are good people, there isn’t anything wrong with planning in the future, if it was for anything besides sports, it would be normal, 401ks and investments, that’s what Rolle is doing, he’s applying it to something he loves doing. He loves playing NFL, but he doesn’t want to give his life away for something like football, he doesn’t want to have to explain to his children and wife, he’ll have Alzheimers when he’s 50, brain damage at 40.
On the opposite end of the spectrum. Winston decided it was worth it, his love for Julia, his hatred of the party, and I agree. Is it really worth it to live for another 10-20 years serving the party, just another cog in the machine that is the party, just to be vaporized or accused of thought crime. In the end everyone is taken by the party, so yea rebel against the party, live life on your own terms, love the person you want to love. Rolle and Winston they might have similar situations but different conditions affect your decision. If I was Rolle, I wouldn’t risk it, I wouldn’t conform to the party, I’d work to destroy it, I’d advocate for better care and safety post NFL and during NFL.
+ Winston, of course, lives on the other end of the spectrum. Whereas Rolle seems to disturb the universe simply by passing through it, Winston merely hopes to make some sort of a tiny life for himself, and spends all of Part Two pursuing that quest. Do you think Rolle will ever be as happy as Winston is in those sublimely quiet moments of joy?
The eternal moment is that I can see you although the world is around with mist. Rolle have tons of quest to conquer, on the other side, the job of Winston have to conquer is living. Since they are different like the sky compares to the land, they still lived under the universe. Does earth can control emotion? Moisture in the atmosphere condensed into drew during the night, then raining composed a great song between the criss crossed street. It all comes up by nature.
Emotions come up with nature, but the point is, the skill of control emotion does not. Some heroes bear the insult patiently in order to reach the greatest height. Some monarchs kept the smile on their face in order to launch the last shot. They know what they were pursuing. Rolle must have had those happy moments, but he may not as happy as Winston is. Rolle knew that those moments of joys were not the final things he intend to access. Those joys are the scenes he admires by passing through the universe. He controls the emotion, because, his born is to disturb the universe.
Because of the difference of destinations, Winston and Rolle went through the different worlds. However, there is no right or wrong question involved. Every step they took would make the consequences They took responsibility of the consequences, and the final result became their life. They still can laugh, can cry, but one of them keep stepping, the other does not. The attitude determines the altitude and the altitude also determines the attitude.
“Every great leap forward in your life comes after you have made a clear decision of some kind.”
I envy Rolle and I don't envy him at the same time. I envy that he is extremely talented. Being academically successful and a professional football athlete was a blessing Rolle had. The constant challenges he face everyday is a blessing that makes him grow, to adapt to these kind of situation for the better. The reason Rolle hasn't "had" the time to appreciate and be complacent with his success is because he is SUCCESS. Rolle doesn't need to be satisfied with what he has done, rather he should keep on doing what he think is right because "there is no enough". Many years from now, the decisions he has chosen, the path he has taken, the mistakes he has learned are what he can complacent about. He can't hate himself for not doing "well" or not enough, what he did is probably enough. Whatever that decision may be, one path isn't better than the other, neither is one path worse than the other. Instead, it is how you perceive that path. Had Rolle chosen to give up his intellectually life and to pursue his football career is not a bad choice. He is athletic and well condition to do well. Had he chosen to give up his football career completely and pursue his neurosurgeon also would not have been bad. Those two paths that are in front of him are free, but he has to choose either one of them. It is as though you are shown two gifts, but only one of them can be picked. You know that choosing one than the other won't harm you because they all have ups and downs. You might not like the gift you chose, but it might be something useful you can give to someone else. You might love the gift you chose, but you somehow got it damaged. The ups and downs of having something generally will balance itself. As for Rolle, he can't foresee what those ups and downs are. Everything can't be all good, there are bound to be some bad things too. It is a blessing that Rolle can't fail; he knows he cant fail. All he has to do is to take action, to make that "clear decision before making that great leap forward".
I think that Rolle is so lucky to have the option of becoming a surgeon or an athlete. At the same time, it can be a huge curse. You are constantly trying to decide which path to take, and when you do, you are questioning whether it was the right one. If I were Rolle, I would always wonder what life would be like if I had picked the other option.
I also agree with what you said. If I had pick the other option or had done things differently, I too would have wonder how my life could have been different. thanks for sharing your thought!
+ One of the most challenging aspects of Rolle’s reality is listed at the beginning of this post: There is not enough. He’s lived a life of constant challenge. He’s never known peace. He’s never known real satisfaction because he’s never had time to enjoy it, to get complacent with success. Is this a blessing, or a curse?
If you have something you really love to do, you will not give up. You have the desire to reach your final destination. You will always fight and challenge as well. Myron Rolle is a type of player who is willing to dedicate and sacrifice his time. Being a professional athlete is not an easy job. There are a lot of tasks in the journey, which a lot of people feel very tired and exhausted. Sometimes, the professional sports can be cruel, if you are not at the level the coaches expect, you might leave the field forever.
Celebration is always one of the most enjoyable times in any person’s life.. People spend time together and talk as loud as they can. I still remember when I was in Baseball team back in eighth grade, our team celebrated for almost 8 hours after winning the champion of the league. We were very crazy and could not even control ourselves. I really had a fun times with my teammates. Although I was not the best player, I still felt satisfied of the jobs that I have done. To me, celebration really makes me very excited and happy. However, Myron Rolle does not feel the same way as other people feel. He is not satisfied for his games, which means that he does not have the time to celebrate. He seems pretty lonely and frustrated. He simply feels not enough. The only thing that he does is to perform on the field and feel unhappy after the game.
I think that the most important thing for being athlete is to have a positive attitude. Playing sports is really a fun and enjoyable thing. I think it is a curse for Rolle, because he just could not get enough. If an athlete can both accept the failure and keep moving on, he or she has a big chance to succeed.
I agreed with you, I'm sure that no one would like to miss the celebration. Because those times are priceless.
The effort we spent on the game, the time we spend on the teammates, all of these would become a great memories in the lifetime. Even we use crutch for walking, we still can flip the yellow album to talk about these adventures.
With continuously advancing technologies help improving mankind lifestyle, people have more free time to spend on other subjects beside their work. However most of people did not use those extra time for something efficient or beneficial to themselves; instead, they use those time to see what other people are doing, such as texting, using Facebook, and even reading newspaper. Since almost everyone has some smart devices in touch; any information can be easily find within few taps. People are easily distracted by other people’s behaviors online.
I have to admit that I spend almost one hour to finish the first blog, "Things I Can’t Change". It was not that I read slowly, but I spend extra time I have on searching the Rhode Scholarship and something else relates to the Rhode Scholarship. This is what I was talking about in previous paragraph. I had enough time for myself to not speed-read and work on the post, so my attention was quickly deviated from Myron Rolle’s achievement to the Rhode Scholarship and its winners that would hardly relate to me at that certain time.
After reading the blog for nearly one hour, I know who Myron Rolle is. In more specific wording, I basically understand what he has had accomplished in the past and how those experiences deeply influence him on his future decision-making. Plus the extra time searching about the Rhode scholarship online, I learned how prestigious such scholarship is, and again how excellent Myron Rolle is. Yet, during that one hour, all I had done was reading something that could hardly relate to me, in present, and possibly in future.
The question I initially planned to write about was “What should we do with a person like Myron Rolle?”
However, why should I care about that person like Myron Rolle, who I have a nearly zero probability of being that person. I may sound selfish for saying “why should I care,” but what’s the point for me to care if I am not related to person. Selfish has always been used with a bad connotation, which describe someone who is self-centered, but why is self-centered bad? If one doesn’t have the ability to care him or herself first, how can he or he care other people?
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST: GET SELFISH. - Vanessa Collette
I don’t want to care about other people right now, so I change my topic from caring people like Myron Rolle to caring myself. Earlier, above the dividing line, I mention that people have more time to focus on other people’s behavior, and sadly I am apart of those people sometimes.
As I said, I have NEARLY zero chance of becoming someone like Myron Rolle, not zero. Yes, I still believe that I have a chance although it may be tiny, but I am still young to dream and able to chase my dream. I want to focus on myself, being selfish, to improve myself in order to become the person like Myron Rolle, or other Rhode winners. Yet, I have already wasted tons of my time liking other people’s picture on Instagram, following photography’s blogs, and more things that was not done by me.
Myron Rolle’s success was predictable. He has always been a great student and athlete. He has constantly challenging himself to achieve better. Through all the things I read about him and other Rhode Scholarship winners, those people are essentially selfish. They know how to be better than other people to be chosen as the scholarship winner by taking care of them, or in other word, being selfish. They will only care about themselves, and those who can make influences to their success.
With technologies advancing -- yes I am blaming technologies -- I am addicted to stalk on other people’s interesting lifestyle. I am less selfish, or care of myself. I know I should have not blaming my not so successful experience to the blooming social medias, and I know what I should have not do if I want to be successful. Now knowing the key point toward success, all I need to change is my attitude. I need to know how to take care of myself, and being selfish. Anything else can be pushed aside until I become who I want to be. So questions like, “what should we do what a person like so and so,” can be all pushed aside, because I do not want to be the person answering the question; indeed, I want to be the person like so and so.
I am still young to dream, and still energetic to chase my dream.
And, it can all start with caring myself - get selfish.
First of all I can totally relate about deviating from the main topic to focus on something supplemental. It, too, took me a long time (maybe not an hour) just to get through the first part of the blog because I was so focused on the information mentioned in the news articles (such as Gladwell’s dog fighting theory), and I thought that it would have helped me understand Myron Rolle’s situation a little more. This also greatly backs up how with our advancements in technology, information is literally seconds away. A simple google search and I was able to find more information about him.
And I really liked your take on the idea of “selfishness.” It’s true that in the real world we must care for ourselves before caring for others. Yet I do have to say that it isn’t bad to look at blogs, pictures, etc. for inspiration (such as photography blogs). So in a way, maybe we can be selfish by stalking other people in order to improve ourselves.
I am glad to hear that you, first, finished reading my post; secondly you actually agree and can relate to my idea. After I write it, I was really insecure about the content that whether people would agree or relate to it.
If I’m the general manager of a football team, I would not choose to draft Myron Rolle. Not because he’s a bad football player, rather than how he’s conflicted with the two paths laid out in front of him. Life has endless possibilities, “you can be whatever you want to be”, as they told us in kindergarten. It’s true, up to some degrees. They never said anything about how many things you want to be. Unfortunately for Rolle, being an NFL player and a neurosurgeon are probably the least compatible combination out there. As mentioned in the story, football players tend to damage their head, and, well, it is sort of difficult for one to reach the level of the intelligence of a doctor when one’s brain is not particularly intact.
Unlike Hannah Montana, Rolle can’t have the best of the both worlds. Maybe he can, but there’s just a mere possibility of success. Rolle should just choose one path and stick with it. For obvious reasons, he enjoys football, but one does not have to join the NFL and get pay millions of dollars for literally run with a ball to enjoy playing football. There are plenty of games out there made up of amateur players. Sure if Rolle is good enough to make NFL, those amateurs might not even be close as his competitions. Yet this seems to be the only possible way for him to retain both careers, which by the way, had not taken off yet. If he chooses to be a neurosurgeon.
Rolle had skipped the last year to study for his career as a neurosurgeon, that does not speak much of a commitment. Additionally, there are a lot more football players who considered joining the NFL as their dream when they could barely write. And those people, practice, day and night. While Rolle does not have much practice time due to his studies. There are no talents after all, right? People get what they want because they worked their butt off for them. Or when their daddy is a lawyer and they are rich. Rolle had dedicated years of study upon medicine, it’s impractical for him to play football as mentioned in the second article, if he gets injured, both of his dreams would become a puff of smoke. In the end, it’s practical for a surgeon to participate in amateur leagues but there are no amateur surgeons for professional football players to participate in. If I was a general manager for a football team, I would not draft Myron Rolle. Rolle would be better off having a huge success in one of his careers rather than having two average careers.
I agree, what's the point in being the jack of all trades and master of none. He should just stick to what he feels would benefit him in the long run. There is only so much a person could do in the time we have.
+ If you’re a general manager of a football team – with your continued employment largely contingent on the performance of the team you assembled – do you draft Myron Rolle?
I would definitely draft Myron Rolle solely because great things can blossom out of poor seeds if you spend the time to nurture it. Everyone has the potential to be great at what they strive for if they put in the necessary time as well as effort. Myron Rolle shows that he's capable both on the field as well as off showing that his mentality is light years ahead of his peers. Time doesn't necessarily translate to success because it's how you used that time aka effort that really matters. Rolle is talented academically as well as athletically which shows recruiters that he has more than the eye has to offer. If this man can perform his A game on and off the football stadium then his mental prowness is off the charts. Being an athlete requires wits too. Split second decisions and tactical placement is needed in a contact sport such as football.
Take for example Lewis Hamilton world renound Formula 1 driver for Mercedes-AMG Petronas. Before his successful career in racing circuits Hamilton was an aspiring scholar in the slums of London. His ambitions only grew as his mind opened up to the world. He noticed that he was especially gifted in reaction timed games and used this to his advantage. He participated in numerous rally events to get his name out there. He qualified for many races and eventually was handpicked by a Formula 3 team. The rest is history. Myron Rolle shows that he has room to improve and that he is quite capable of competing at a heightened level. Coaches look for dedication, work ethic, and spreadsheet data. Rarely do they skim over the story or struggle their players had to endure. Yet if I was in charge and had the authority and position to select draft picks, Rolle would be on the top of my radar. Speaking from a financial position, Rolle will generate revenue much like how an Asian basketball player can cause insane hype.
People will not only watch Rolle because of who he is and what he stands for but also look up to him because of the story he tells. These can all be transitioned into money making schemes such as books or merchandise. After doing some research with mostly YouTube and some editorials I found on Google, Rolle is a perfect all around player capable of playing multiple positions. Adversity and agility is needed in contact sports and Rolle demonstrates that he is up for any task that is thrown at him. Although he wishes to pursue a career in neurosurgery and his mind may not always be on the field, his background cannot be ignored. My job highlight is to pick people that best represents the teams image as well as success. Rolle is just the type of man to be able to carry the team both on the field as well as up and about. Think about the program the NBA started labeled NBA Cares. Everybody is very fond of the commercials the NBA airs that involve famous players making a difference in communities. Rolle can be used as a role model for low-income areas and would make a great figure for commercials. Everything Rolle represents is picture perfect for movies, books, and commercials.
What is the meaning of life?
The meaning of life is the existence of past and the memory of the past. Your old toys, your doodles on the wall, the gallery that is carefully organized by your parents, and the scar left on your back from lying to your teacher. That’s all what you had experienced, the mark and evidence of your existence.
What is the meaning of life?
The meaning of life is that I did what I wanted to do today, that I had a wonderful conversation with my best friend, and that I watched my favorite movie.
What is the meaning of life?
The meaning of life is your pursuit of future. I want to be the best music composer in the world, I want to be part of the research group in Tibet, I want to be a professor of the top engineering school… These are not realistic? Yes, sometimes dreams are not realistic. However, dream does not have to be accomplished, just like Shi Tiesheng, a great Chinese novelist, had said, “ Dream is always in front of you.”
Close your eyes and think about your pursuit of life. You will realize that you still want to prove your value. Good. Then you can start running confidently to the future. But where is my dream? Oh, it is the light that guides me to the future of my life.
To your family, your friends, your memory, you are irreplaceable. Everyone is a distinguish individual. Everyday you have a different life with yesterday’s. Maybe when you become old, when your family is around you, you will finally understand the meaning and the purpose of life is yourself ------ working so hard during the entire lifetime for yourself, and trying to make special memories of you and your family.
I think the truth of life is happiness. We should live happily no matter what. But how do we live happily. The answer is to do what we like to do, and what we are good at. Money, honor, position are just temporary. They will all disappear one day. I believe that people who own the most wealth is absolutely not the happiest person in the world. To live is to enjoy the progress of life, not the final result. Everyday is a new start, and it will only and always be a start, because we have so many things unknown to do. If we want to achieve some accomplishment, we should build upon things we life. Therefore even if we fail, we will not regret.
Remember, dream is always in front if you.
I enjoy reading your post! The style you have wrote with asking the same question "What is the meaning of life" three times and have different points of answers makes your post interesting. I agree with your points on dream always provides people with hope.
Myron Rolle may be a great football player when he plays, but just like the article said, he took time off for one year. From personal experience, I have not run a mile in a very long time. I think it has been at least one year. I can tell you right now, that if you told me to run one mile and to get at least and seven minute mile, I would tell you I could not do it. I would be too exhausted and my legs would just not have the correct feel as if they are just finally working for the first time. Football is not just running too, its a mix of other athletic skills that are needed to play. When you don’t train them, its a lot harder to keep up. With this said, I could not expect Myron Rolle to be the athlete he once was until he gets back to training and can prove he still has what it takes to be on the football team.
My employment is also on the line of whether or not Myron Rolle can play as well as he can. If he were to be drafted by me, the company would spend millions of dollars. If Rolle cannot perform to the best of his abilities, this company would lose money. If it were my decision to draft him or not, I would not risk it. I could lose my job over one person performance. If he were to not be able to become an athlete to the NFL standards, he would under perform. I would have to think about my well being and my career as the general manager of the football team.
Like I said before, I would only draft him if he lived up to the NFL standards. I would want someone to get results for the benefit of the team. It was never noted if he was a team player or not. To be able to form a winning team, the team needs to be a team. He cannot be the one to call risky shots for the team without approval. In the end, I would not draft him for how little I know about him and the future possibilities of not being able to perform as well as others. Being able to work and play as a team is just as important as individual skill. There is never a single player in a game of football. You could not win as a one man team.
Michael, I agree with your blog and that it would be really hard for myron to play football because of his break. Furthermore, he could be split deciding to become a doctor. it is probably true that companies would not want to risk choosing him. Great entry and was a good read.
I believe you're spot on in the first paragraph you wrote. Rolle hasn't been conditioned for football, so how does he expect himself to get drafted and play? If Rolle was playing on a daily basis, that would be a completely different story because his body would be ready to endure the physicality.
Challenges: Meant To Be Conquered
“To be successful you must accept all challenges that come your way. You can’t just accept the ones you like” (Mike Gafka). Life is challenging and that is not surprising. During pain, one does not simply enjoy life. However, if one just holds on through it, they will be singing “it was worth it all” at the end. During a storm, there is no peace, just pain. After the storm, there is a rainbow and there is peace. “So many more good things are coming down the road. Just keep walking”(Unknown). It wasn’t meant to be easy. You were meant to conquer whatever comes your way.
In a race, in order for one to reach the prize, they must run, no matter the pressure of the crowd or the pain. Life is challenging. Rolle is on the urge to pursue what he wants to be.The challenges which Rolle faces are not meant to bring him down, but rather build him and put him on a path to find his identity. Theses challenges which he faces are meant to be conquered and therefore will make him stronger in his present life.
How can such challenges build Rolle up? The first challenge he encounters is the fact that everyone expects so much from him and have set high standards for him to reach. Though an unpleasant circumstance, this kind of challenge will allow Rolle to find his identity. This happens when Rolle presses against the standards the world has set for him, as he searches deep within his heart for what truly matters. Pretend someone wants to build muscle. In order for this person to build muscle, they must carry heavy weights, just to get past the stage that they are already in and go to the next level. Though at the moment it is painful, it will be worth it at the end because it will build them up and make them stronger.
“There is no enough.” The heart is constantly searching for satisfaction. And even when it finds what it is looking for, it is going to groan for more. Reading about Rolle’s life has me wondering. He is so talented and he achieves at anything that he embraces. Why is he not satisfied?
The truth is, all that Rolle has accomplished and succeeded in are possessions that can perish in a blink of an eye. He achieved many great things, even the approval of people. However, I feel that his heart will never truly be satisfied. The reason for this is because the heart longs for something that is everlasting . No matter the possessions, the dreams, the standards we reach, we will never be completely satisfied, because all this can perish in a blink of an eye.
Hi Karol! I totally agree on you opinion that we all should bravely face the barriers in our life since we cannot prevent them anyways. I like your comparison of barrier and storms. True, when we finally suffer the storms we can see the rainbow when the sun comes out.
Hello Karol, I agree with your belief that we cherish and expect more out of life because our aspirations can brought down within a short period of time. Moments such as receiving a phone call from a stranger who is telling you that your loved one had passed away can alternate what comes to be of what kind of goals that we are willing to set forth for ourselves. Although time seems to be an indefinite entity that revolves around our lives, time is restricts us from the pleasure of taking a long moment to decide what we would like to do for our future careers and goals. Some people like Myron Rolle may choose to allow others influence them greatly and build their future based on what others want them to do. This type of influence can produce an effective boost for our career. But as we move deeper into the future based on what other people want from us, we slowly begin to question ourselves whether we are doing the right thing or not. However, these question may conflict with our personal beliefs, morality, and goals.
Karol nice post, I can relate to many of your points considering I was bombarded with challenges throughout my lifetime. Although at first they appeared to only have a negative effect on me, but I realized it formed my identity.
The possibility that life could change in a blink of an eye is inevitable. The most precious part of it, is to know that life could be go in different directions, depending on the decisions you make throughout it, will set the steps you will have to take in the future.
We all have dreams as childs, so are big and we may think it’ll be impossible to accomplish, others might be small and reachable with hard work, but as we grow older the knowledge we gain, and the experiences we lived make us change how we evaluate things, starting to see life from a different perspective, therefore some dreams may change, some will drown and sink at the bottom of your heart as time pass by.
Let’s say that life doesn’t play fair, not all we want is going to become true, because it simply doesn’t work that way. We are all here on earth to accomplish a purpose, perhaps the dream that you always had, it’s not the real reason why you are here on earth. It sounds frustrating, but it may be true. Though there are dreams that become real, and it’s great because what other thing is better than living your dreams, it’s sort of a fifty-fifty chance, that you have to discover, or life will make you see as time passes. But it’s nothing to be disappointed about, no matter who you are, we all have talents we can develop. I’m not saying that if things don’t work out right away as we’ve planned we should give up, but perhaps that dream wasn’t the right for us (not pretty good at it).
How people see success may be different. People can reach success, but being unhappy with their lives, because they could not accomplish the goals they once set for the “future”. Other people may think that the things they have gotten throughout the years are the most important and live happily. Others reach success doing the things they dreamt of. Life doesn’t close a door without opening a window, and perhaps at some point we have to look at the things we have accomplished, evaluate our lives and be thankful with what we have, even though they are not be the ones we dreamt of.
I think the most important thing is to be happy, no matter how life turns. If you get to live the dream of your life be happy with it, enjoy it every single day, don’t wait to the last moment when perhaps you can’t do it anymore to appreciate what you had. If not, and you get successful doing other stuff, enjoy it too!, because life is too short to live it with regrets, and unhappiness. You are the only one who decide in what ways you want to be successful, not just in the material part but in the other parts the compose life.
Move forward never get stuck with the things that have already gone!.
Yes, the life does not play fair. Some people do not even worry about the rest of their life when they were born. But other one will work hard in their life. But I would assert that we will be harry, and that is successful.
Aviation. Flying. Pilot. Airplanes.
Some of you already know who this is. (I do hope my interest in aviation does not bore you.) I have a passion for aviation and I love talking about it. Unfortunately, I do not encounter many people who have similar interests. So, in a way, this is my outlet.
We are often faced with the question, “What are your goals?” For the week? For the month? For the year? For life? Many of us have life goals, and some of us are still figuring that out. Becoming a pilot is one of my life goals, and always has been. I just love picturing myself flying for a living; I cannot wait! Goals are meant to be attained; we have them to have something to look forward to and to aim toward. But sometimes, things change. Circumstances change. People change. Goals change. Therefore, it is important to have goals, but not necessarily to achieve those specific goals. As we get older, we are exposed to different ideas, personalities, environments, and circumstances that may shift or cause us to rethink our goals. Currently, I am crazy about becoming a pilot. But the future may hold a different path for me. Things may change.
For example, I may develop an interest in football. (By the way, very unlikely. I do not understand the game of football and would be the last person to be a football fanatic.) My interest in football could lead me to a career as a manager of a team. In this position of pressure, I would have to make tough decisions, like choosing who to draft. In cases like Myron Rolle’s, it is hard to gauge whether or not he will be a good addition to the team. It IS a gamble; he does not have much solid background in the sport, plus he does not seem 100% about football because he has other interests as well. On a personal level, he would be great for the team. Rolle would bring fresh ideas, talents, and well-roundedness. But the bottom line is that sports teams want to win. Since when have sports been about talents other than that sport? Therefore, on a realistic level, Rolle is not such a great pick.
You will never know, unless you try. We often hear this saying. Trying new things is good; it opens one’s mind to different ideas, cultures, or customs. Myron Rolle and people like him are free to try whatever they wish. In doing so, they find what they truly want in life. One path did not pull through, but the other DID.
Hey Gerard! I already knew of your interest in aviation, but I am glad you are writing about it! It is definitely an interesting dream you have considering I do not hear about it often, but it shows your individuality. I agree that we all should have goals and that they could change at any point, even if a specific subject for a goal seems to be an insignificant part of your life at the moment. These goals should be our own and not from other people because we should be able to be our own individuals and control our decisions to live the life how we choose to live it. I hope you achieve your goal soon!
Ｈｉ Ｇｅｒａｒｄ． Ｉ ｔｈｉｎｋ ｔｈａｔ ｙｏｕｒ ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔ ｉｎ ａｖｉａｔｉｏｎ ｉｓ ｐｒｅｔｔｙ ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔｉｎｇ ａｎｄ I could see how you could like such a thing. I agree with you when you say that realistically, Rolle would not be the best pick. I like your point that we never know what will happen until we try. Good luck with your aviation dreams!
Hey Gerard! Ever since I saw you in Link Crew, I knew you were a cool guy. You're even more cool in my heart now that I know you're into planes. When you're successful, don't forget to give me a ride!
I am also very interested in aviation. I find it completely fascinating. I really enjoyed reading your blog!
A fish cannot fly like a bird and a bird cannot swim like a fish. No one is born to be perfect because the nature created us fair and square. You may be professional in one particular field but one in a million chances to be proficient in two fields. Once you choose your own path, you have to walk straight to the horizon without having double minded. So you need to make up your mind and all you need is your own dream and hope to walk the path you chose.
Myron Rolle is proficient in two fields, NFL player and neurosurgeon. His life looks pretty tough after I read the article about him. He is smart as well as athletic at the same time. Being the President of his native country is not what he desires but his parents do. He has to give up one that is a football player or a surgeon because his life needs one career to keep up in the future and people want someone who is proficient in one particular field not in many several fields.
As I expected, he was rejected to be an NFL player in the future and returned back to his original goal, becoming the neurosurgeon. I would choose to achieve my dream first and think about the sports that I do as secondary goal. The future is unpredictable…
We all go to bed without knowing if we would wake up in the morning, but the alarm clock always rings to wake us up. (Hope)
No one knows what would happen in the future. Even though our world is full of mysteries, we all dream of becoming something and prepare ourselves to live through think and thin. (Confidence)
No one knows what’s going to happen next. Hence, we all must make our dreams come true and determine our path that we are going to walk ourselves. This is how our lives are created and our dreams are meant for.
A little short but lots of interesting stuff and ideas. I like your simple but sophisticated style of language which conveys useful and practical admonishments. Rolle is a warning to everyone in the society. We cannot be too strict or strain ourselves too much otherwise there will be another Rolle living in Arcadia.
“Pick a star on the dark horizon and follow the Light” -Regina Spektor
I never expected to be a three-time nominee and when it finally hit me, the thought that prevailed in my mind was, “I feel loved.” THANKS GUYS. More or less, I have learned that I can’t just write epically about what is on my mind. The key to keeping an audience is understanding who you’re writing to and forcing them to stop and appreciate the grass—because roses was too narcissistic—which is your words. Even though grass seems quite ordinary amongst a sea of its species, you’ll find that each blade has a mark of distinction. Why do we even plant grass? Well, I’ll let you in on a secret. It’s not because they look pretty. Sure, big and complex words can make one look intelligent, but the proper use of them is to promote life. Grass itself is a symbol of life preservation, because each survived to become the green, itchy texture you just want to roll around in. Written words preserves the story of your life by representing your ideals, experiences, and history. Like water to a seed, my blog posts begin with a first draft that I continuously edit and revise over time.
Believe it or not, writing is a continuous battle for me. Ideas do not spontaneously pop into my mind if I will it to. Complications that I personally face include: selecting a tone, adding humour, being original, and being organized to name a few. When composing a sentence you have to pick stars from the sky and connect them to form a constellation. Just like the amount of stars in the sky, there is an abundance of words to select from, but I have to choose the right ones to please my readers.
I need to satisfy my fellow peers’ thirst for captivating writing and force them to look at my grass.
I need to write something profoundly enough for Mr. Feraco to consider awarding me an A.
I need to be original and articulate .
I need to live up to everyone’s expectations .
Being successful in nominations was an unintentional success for a mere blogger such as myself. They don’t mean that I wrote exceptionally well, yet they also show I was remarkable at getting people to like me. I appreciate each one, but nominations was not my intended goal. As I previously wrote in my first Great Expectations assignment, which none of you shall see, I had several objectives in mind as I took on this course. My original goals were to obtain “confidence”, to continuously feel “a sense of pride in my writing”, “to freely speak my mind”, and to learn “the skillful art of weaving words”. Although the nominations were unforeseen, they are still important to me because they show that I was able to touch the lives of others. My grass—words—were able to affect someone else and that itself gives me the “confidence” to continue writing, makes me feel “a sense of pride”, and is still essentially part of my “mind”. New successes matter just as much as the goals you never met. With my case as an example, my new success at nominations became a step towards my initial goals. Writing may not be my true calling, but for the sake of life, I intend to do so.
I will satisfy my fellow peers’ thirst for captivating writing and make them look at my grass.
I will write something profoundly enough for Mr. Feraco to consider awarding me an A.
I will be original and articulate .
I will live up to MY expectations and try to live up to other’s simultaneously.
...somewhere in a southern california home...
A girl raised herself from her crossed-leg position, massaged her legs to regain blood flow, and moved to open a window. The darkness of the night seemed pale in comparison to the light of the few stars shining vigorously through the fog of pollution. Retreating to the comfort zone of her computer chair, she stared at the concluding words of her writing and clicked “Submit Comment”. A cool breeze kissed her face with the soothing touch of a balm, thus the final draft.
Okay, so there’s this local shop I just recently discovered (I know, it took me awhile) and what they sell there is amazing. I frequent the shop unintentionally, but somehow I always subconsciously drift towards there. I would definitely recommend it to you, but all in consideration, you’ve probably already been there.
And what does this lovely store sell? Grass. And no, not THAT kind of grass. Not the kind found along with its little buddy, the briefcase - the leafy kind. The lawn type of grass.
It’s called Angie’s. Or at least I think it’s called that. Anyway you won’t miss it because grass is quite valuable nowadays - with the draught and all.
I certainly need to buy me some grass. If I look outside the window, my lawn’s dead. It’s rotting, withering, decaying.
I need to buy me some grass.
Your grass is in excellent condition, though. Aces.
Grass, just....grass. I really want to roll around in some grass now. But if anything, I want to roll around in a field of grass, where I know every blade "looks" the same, but is different in each of their shapes, sizes and strength. I must roll!
People goals summarize what kind of person they are. This is a dark example but let’s take guy #1. Guy #1 life goal is to kill this one very person. When we hear that we can kind of imagine guy #1 probably has a dark past and live a harsh life or guy #1 is just absolutely insane. That aside meeting your goals in your life is important because it defines who you are. If you did not meet your life goals what does that say about yourself. Does it mean that you did not have the drive to go for what you dreamed? The answer can go both ways because life sometimes takes a different route for you. So does this new route, new success matter in the end?
You might have not gained what you wanted but that is just life. Nothing ever goes perfectly the way we want it to. That being said not everything that you dreamt of can go the way you want it to be. You might have gained something different from what you originally planned but what matters is you gained something. It is better to leave with something rather than empty handed. Now does this new success’s importance come close to what you were originally dreamt of? That is something for you to decide. Are you more happy with the new route that you got compare to the originally path you wanted to walk on. This new success’s importance is defined by you, and your decision alone. To summarize are you happy with what you have right now?
If you are make the thing you have right now matter more than anything. If not it is time for you to change something about it and find what matters to you. To meet your goals is important only when you are truly happy with what you have. So do something that makes you happy, not because you are told it is a good way of life by someone else. If someone else told you what you need to do, you are define by someone else not your own thoughts. So be the only person that defines who you are, and fight for goals that will bring you happiness. If you do not what is left for you?
Rolle stated that he is successful, when people gave him so much demands based on his success, he felt that he wasn’t what he thought he was. This means that Rolle defines himself as someone who does what he loves to do. People are telling him what to do, yet Rolle really does not want to do those requests.
Similar to Rolle, I am defined as someone who likes to fulfill my goals. I enjoy the challenge of being in the top orchestra. I love working my butt off weeks before a concert/orchestra festival to perform the best. Without being in orchestra 3 for all 3 years possible, I feel that there is something missing in me. Which is why I decided not to take AP Chinese, and chose to take other courses that may interest me and prepare me for a STEM major (I will not major in music; however, I actually do enjoy STEM related things).
Not achieving a goal definitely bites. I know one of my goals was to perform in the music camp skit night by singing; however, I never actually did. If I can time travel back to summer of 2014, I would have definitely done so, auditioned for skit night, and performed for some of my fans and other musicians.
I would say goals absolutely matter. Yes being successful is a good thing, but goals totally define your true characters. A lot of things can make people think you are very successful. As a result, people can give you a load of requests. You may succeed in these requests, but what about your goals? You may not achieve these goals, and it can be very crushing. Happiness is imperative. Therefore, it can really be a curse if people see a certain person as really gifted, because the gifted person can be forced to lose his identity.
Well, now after I read the epilogue, I realize that we will not always achieve some of our goals. Take Rolle. He didn’t do much when he was on the football teams. Instead, he attended medical school at FSU. The positive he can take from that is that he does not have to worry about brain damage, which will hinder his dream from becoming a neurosurgeon. What I do take from this is that even if I do not achieve a goal, I can look to a positive side of it, and realize I can still have a bright future .
+ In the words of Rolle’s lecturer, “What if you're successful in ways you didn't intend to be successful?” Would your new successes matter as much as the dreams you never realized or the goals you never met? How important do you think it is to meet your goals?
Life always has surprised prepare for us.
If I got succeed out of expectation, I would be depressed about the failure.
If I got succeed out of expectation, I would be glad to accept the current.
If I got succeed out of expectation, I would be hoping toward to be successful again in ways I intend to be.
In daily life people are constantly making decisions in order to work on their goals, but sometimes things would go off the path in your plan. I believe that a successful achievement represents to the effort individual has put on it, and it is what individual supposedly receive. Therefore, if you were successful, that was a good sign. Because you can always keep working on your original way aiming for another result you would like to see, the success you have already reached would become power that is helpful for another consideration. Achievement you have achieved became experiences that encourage you toward the next climax.
Although the new successes do not matter as much as the goals you never met, it is considered as an acknowledgement of yourself. Everything that you experience is important. If you did not meet your goal, don’t give up, and never lost hope, keep working, and you will be successful again.
Hello! I agree with you that we should never give up in life even though we are facing difficulties. All the consequences result from our efforts and we should totally take credits from our hard works. Never give up should be the principle of everyone.
I don't see why there would be so much commotion with an individual such as Myron Rolle. He has been given the opportunity to take multiple paths in his life while most of us struggle to find one. With his combined athletic and academic superiority over others his chance of success is so much greater than others. Sure, there may be individuals that may sway him in another direction, but like everyone else in the world, he has the ability to pursue his passions. Whether it be football or solely academics he can choose between a variety of paths. If he wants to pursue his passion in football, he does not necessarily have to play professionally, but unfortunately this does not work both ways. Taking the path of a neuroscientist or any field of science takes numerous years of schooling and tremendous amounts of dedication. I personally envy Myron because of his countless passions and talents
As I am about to venture out to a new stage of life, I am overwhelmed with pressure and anxiety from the constant threat of failure. Many of us have extreme difficulty making simple decisions we face everyday such as choosing the most appealing outfit or what to have for lunch. In this highly judgemental society we live in, we can rarely make decisions that would only benefit you, but we have to take in consideration of what others want from us. Many of us can relate to this considering that many of us are applying for colleges. Our parents can often have this restricting behavior and enforce a certain criteria on you, while our interests are ignored. Myron on the other hand should be calm and collective having the knowledge that any path he takes would result in success.
Seeing that Myron is such a well rounded individual there is no doubt that he will succeed in any career path he chooses. Myron is an outstanding individual with many skills ranging from academics to athletics. For an individual like Myron I think he will attempt to balance being an athlete while simultaneously studying to become a neuroscientist. Although this may seem foolish and nonsensical by many, it can be inferred that Myron is an individual that takes every opportunity in sight. If i was given the opportunity to get a glimpse of the future I would reject it without a doubt. If i were to take this opportunity I would become extremely narrow minded and solely focus on the occupation I end up with in the future. This negates all your other passions and interests, sacrificing all the potential positive experiences you might have.
While I agree that Rolle is lucky to have multiple options in terms of the paths he can take, I believe it is more of a curse rather than a blessing. He has high expectations from other people and he has the pressure to live up to them. No matter what decision he chooses, there will be unhappy people who wanted him to take another path. Also, there is no guarantee that a specific path will lead to success and happiness. Making one decision may turn out to be unsuccessful and give the man feelings of regret for making the wrong decision. He chose a decision that eventually did not work out, but he was lucky to be able to fix his burden.
Why look back and realize you could have done what you wanted?
Why did you spend hours and hours learning biology in order to be a doctor, when there’s a cookbook with your name on it?
I guess I can say I am a firm believer in “pursuing your dreams,” but if I did, I would contradict myself, as I have once fell victim of giving into people’s expectations. I still wish to emphasize this point though in order to prevent others from doing the same.
Here is a scenario:
As a child you have always been musically blessed. You’re gifted with the talent of playing piano and you go to lessons every day in order to improve your already adept musical skills. However, you don’t find solace in piano playing, but rather in singing. You love it and, despite how bad you are at it, spend every minute that isn't on the piano by singing in front a mirror. You even think about it while playing piano. Every time you press down on a white key, you can’t help but imagine yourself as the person singing on a stage rather than the person playing piano on the side. You want to sing, but everyone (parents, cousins, cousins of cousins) expects you to graduate from a distinguished music school and go on to be the best composer in the world. So you have no hope but to commit all your time to piano, with no time devoted to improving your average singing skills.
Sure you are practically the world’s best piano player, and all your friends and family expect you to be the next Beethoven, but that doesn't change the fact that you aspire to be a famous singer. Because you have spent so much time meeting everybody’s expectations, you've never had the time to build your own goals, thus failing to pursue them. Expectations, in a way, can be a curse because it holds us back from achieving our actual goals. It’s undoubtedly satisfying to know that you've secured a job for yourself based on your talent in a certain ability, but if it doesn't provide the same happiness as what you truly love, then it is not worth devoting the time and energy. You’re letting yourself become a marionette, controlled from head to toe.
In Rolle’s case, he failed to be a valuable team player at the end because he failed to completely devote his time to football. He was so caught up by people’s expectations of him that he didn't manage his time well. It has already been established that he is successful student, and he had two amazing potential career choices going for him. So why the struggle? We can all relate to Rolle here. Our parents want us to be doctors or engineers, lawyers or chemists, but we aspire to be something completely different. Yet we still take the AP classes necessary for these jobs we aren't interested in, and end up getting lost in that class because we’re too busy day dreaming about our dream job. Is it too late? Not necessarily, but all those years studying irrelevant topics wouldn't have been a waste unless we have followed our dreams in the first place.
Carve your own path. Choose your own destiny.
“Control your own destiny or someone else will”- Jack Welch
Hello Adrienne! That was a great narrative you got there. If I were in that position I would think that my talent that is piano would be more of a curse than a blessing because it stops me from doing what I want. It reminds me of, when I was little, doing a poor job on sweeping the floor in hopes that my parents wouldn't ask me to do it again I would then be able to do what I want. But, when it comes to this, you have to make a fatal decision. Kill your true talent, or your happiness. Great post!
This year is the first year that I actually started to care about football. I’m going to be following the New York Giants, Odell Beckham Jr. will be my favorite player, and I will be buying a new football in the near future. Regardless of my current knowledge of the NFL, I have always enjoyed watching the highlight videos from the top high school players on YouTube. I would watch a video of nationally recognized player, look up his rankings, and then check whether if he had been able to play college, or even professional football. As I read through all the recruiting information of some of the players that have been chosen to play for my dream schools, I actually envy them a lot. I probably can’t even make the JV football team, but instead, but I play soccer and I am pretty good at it. And that is why I had decided to try to play college soccer; I wanted to be able to keep pursuing my dream in soccer, as well as being an outstanding student at one of my dream schools. The problem was that I made that decision too late. Being a good player and being able to play college soccer is somewhat different. I never had the background or the support from anyone to fit me in the recruiting process of the American college sports. I only ended up receiving two offers from two division 3 schools. I didn’t want to end up in a division 3 school. I thought I was capable of more, and I wanted more. I turned down those offers to face the biggest decision making of my life. I can either try to play professional soccer in another country instead of going to college, or give up soccer and work on getting my degrees in college. I have specific plans for both, but one of them is extremely risky. I know how hard it is to become successful as a professional athlete. For me, it’s even harder. Myron Rolle had so much less chance of messing his life up than I possibly could, but I am technically going through what he had to go through. By choosing soccer over academics, not only I will be doing what I love to do for an uncertain amount of time, but also giving up another life which could have been more successful and stable. I think for both Rolle and myself, we have a better chance of living a “successful” life by giving up the sport, except he was so much smarter than me. I’ll have to say that Rolle’s decision was easier to make compared to the one that I will be making. He had a bright future as a neurologist, which surpassed his ability as a football player. Even though he had to give up what he love to do, everyone knew that he wasn’t going to be as successful in the NFL. In the other hand, there is me, only having plans to work in the advertising field of the sports industry, and plans to be playing professional soccer.
I wish I had more than just plans.
"So, what do you want to be when you grow up?
Oh God, please no. I absolutely despise this question. Nearly every teacher, every year, every family meeting, every family friend asks me this exact same question. Even the senior project is based on this question. Honestly, I do not know what I want to be when I grow up. I really don't. But, after dealing with this question soooooo many times, I just picked a job that sounded fun and semi-interesting, Architecture. I like buildings and how they work and drawing/planning things, so why not? Because of this, ever since I became a Junior, architect has been my go-to response to this stressful question.
"So, Eric, why is this question so freaking stressful to you? Come on, this question is so simple! Do you not have a hobby ?!"
The answer is actually quite simple. I like to try things before committing to them. I want to try a wide range of jobs, narrow it down, and choose from a couple. This way, I can make sure I like this job and I want to keep doing this job and get better at it. It is not that I am too shy or too scared to answer this question, but it is simply because I really do not know. I do have hobbies, but I am not even sure if I would like to spend the rest of my life working for my hobby. I like to make sure where I am heading towards before making a decision.
To me, Rolle is just clueless. He isn't sure what he wants to become because he did not yet try all his options and people are already pressuring him. I understand this feeling as well, because people ask me what I want to major in college. I, however, plan to have multiple majors and even drop majors until I find one I really love.
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I too want to try many different things on my own before I commit to it. I also don't really know what job or what major I want to pursue for the rest of my life. In college I plan on taking a variety of courses to see which one fits me best.
The majority of people experience failure in their lives at one point or another so nobody really expects perfection. When mistakes are common, people do not have a high expectation for absolute success. The average person gets to fail without people treating it like the end of the world. However, people who are always perfect such as Myron Rolle do not get such a luxury. They are always expected to be great and to accomplish great things without fail. This is an unrealistic expectation because humans will always make mistakes. Rolles’s intelligence and talent seems to me like more of a curse where everyone demands success all of the time and failure is unacceptable.
People’s expectations are usually based on past experiences and preconceptions. Ferrari is a top tier supercar manufacturer and this is known to most people. Honda, on the other hand, is mostly known for making cheap, reliable cars. Recently, Honda’s Civic Type-R lapped a 7:50 time on the Nürburgring which is faster than the Ferrari F430 which lapped 7:55. This is a great achievement in the eyes of many because nobody expects Hondas to be fast while the name Ferrarri is carries the expectation of prestige and speed. If a Ferrari were to be faster than a Honda, nobody would bat an eye because there is a high expectation for Ferrari in the first place. This is same in the case of Myron Rolle. He is expected to be great and any failure is treated with shock and criticism while a lesser person can make the exact same mistake without exteme disappointment.
If success was always guaranteed, then nothing is special or particularly excellent. No one would think anything is great if greatness is the norm. Anything even slightly less than absolute perfection would be considered a failure. Such a life is not enjoyable when everybody expects everything of you. Life is something for one to enjoy; it should not be spent living up to other’s expectations. All of the talent and intellect that Rolle possesses should be used to fulfill what he truly wants to do instead of trying to do everything that other people want him to do. Having too high expectations can cause the fear of failure to overshadow the joys of success.
I loved reading your post and particularly liked how you used an analogy of Rolle's story with something that you love: cars. I agree with your point that people should not base their success on what other people think, but on what they think themselves. Great job, dude.
In all honesty, it is impossible to scold ourselves into better people. And even with this thought in our head, we constantly still think negatively about ourselves. So satisfaction is all we need right? No!
Sometimes we do not meet our expectations and we just have to work harder to redeem ourselves for the disappointment. Slowly, but surely we will these redemption will allow us to grow as an individual. The everyday “I’m too lazy to do anything” is not expanding our mind to do anything and is pretty much a waste of human life. Instead an active mind or the “I must practice in order to get better” mentality is much more exciting, and more challenging. Despite the contrary belief that all challenge has to be boring and impossible, there are small challenges that we can overcome which will result in happiness. So I would call this a blessing, not a curse.
Routines are very effective, and many bodybuilders live on the same routine everyday; however, they do not live on the same workout. Many bodybuilders follow a rule of “muscle confusion” which changes their workouts everyday to reduce the muscle from reaching a plateau. It is easy to do the same thing everyday. It makes us feel right at home(I mean you can ask your muscles). When everything is comfy and correct, satisfaction is reached. But these routine can slowly deteriorate our minds due to these mundane lifestyles. So why not challenge ourselves, and try new things. Challenging and achieving the accomplishment is beneficial to not only our mental health, but to ourselves. Being satisfied with everything and without this motivation how can we do anything in life? As I have learned that life does not simply give out its lemons especially not its lemonade because it has artificial flavoring which would cost extra.
We often find ourselves between a rock and a hard place, or somewhere even worse when we confront different circumstances. By allowing ourselves to be give up on any task handed to us it shows that we lack the confidence to do anything. This most likely will not bring satisfaction later on in our lives, and it definitely will not help us achieve anything important. Slowly we will lose faith in everything we do and everything becomes impossible. If we continue to ignore life’s hardships, and overlook solutions to problems and we will never find satisfaction in our effort. It is important to be able to understand that satisfaction will come, as long as we work hard for it.
We do not have time to enjoy our satisfaction because life is short, and every second counts. When we have aged, we will have time to enjoy and look back at everything that we have done. But for now, we need challenges and knowing that “There is no enough”. The day that we reach the plateau is the day that we stop redeeming accomplishments for satisfaction.
Hi Jonathan. I agree with you that redemptionb does indeed make us into better individuals. Overcoming the challenges that we set upon ourselves and surpassing them does make people feel amazin almost as if nothing can stop them. I like how you say that satisfaction will come to you even if we were to fail. I agree with you on that this one because if you have truly tried, the satisfaction will be there.
Life isn’t a race, it’s a walk down the meadow. It’s when you look around yourself, enjoying the birds singing, the squirrels running up and down across the trees, the swans making hearts, and the clouds being infinite possibilities. There is more to life than just taxes, salaries, and pensions; there has to be.
When I was six, all I ever wanted to do was to grow up. I wanted to be an adult so I started making my own lunch (which consisted of two slices of bread, a single slice of cheese, and chocolate because what’s wrong with that picture?), I started walking to school, I started to watch the news and read TIME magazine rather than watch good ol’ SpongeBob. I stripped away everything that meant being a kid. The novelty didn’t last too long, though. I started missing lunches being made for me in the morning left on the counter with those lame post-it notes in my lunchbox. I started missing the comfort of air-conditioning in the morning even though school was just a couple blocks away. I started missing SpongeBob and all his antics with Patrick and Squidward. Point is, when there is no enough in life and all you’re trying to do is do it all, you tend to forget all the little things in life. You forget to enjoy the lunches being made for you, the car rides so you don’t have to walk, and the 7 A.M. cartoons.
To be able to drive yourself to do everything in life; be it learn three languages or travel across the world, it’s a curse. You can go backpacking in the West Indies, climb Mt. Everest, go skydiving, or anything ‘wild’ for the matter, but where is there time to settle down? To never know what satisfaction feels because you’ve been wired to keep pushing the limits, I don’t know what I’d do… That’s not living, that’s killing yourself.
“At the end of the day, the king and the pawn go back into the same box.” — Italian Proverb
Sean I agree with your point. We do all these crazy things so fast and quickly life has become like a mile run. With that we just don't enjoy or see the little things that is going around us. Nice point of view on how life's greatest times can also be a curse
I agree with you that people try to live their live too quickly. Most of us, if we're lucky, get a good amount of time to live; we need to learn to not waste it. We need to take time to walk in the meadow. Good job!
Success can be measured in many different ways. Success, is often shrouded by luck. Most people see successful people as rich people, or people who succeed on their first try. Maybe successful people are people with loving families and significant others while to others, successful people are just people who barely scrape by. Success can be interpreted in many different ways. However, one thing that will never change is, success is the cousin of confidence. The 2 come hand in hand, basically a package deal. When you are successful, you build confidence. When you build confidence, you work harder and more passionately which leads to more success. It’s a never ending cycle of success and confidence. Accidentally achieving something, while striving for something else can be a welcomed mistake.
Success, as mentioned earlier, leads to confidence. If you are confident because you have achieved something, you can turn that confidence into hard work and passion towards your ultimate goal. A perfect example would be to use the NAVY SEAL training pipeline as an example. BUD/S or Basic Underwater Demolition Seal training is 7 weeks. BUD/S tests a man’s commitment to becoming a SEAL and truly tests a man’s physical and metal capabilities. The fourth week of training is called Hell Week. Each candidate sleeps for a max, 4 hours total, but they run over 200 miles. All of this takes place over the course of 5 days. If you make it past Hell Week, it shows that you have the will and dedication to become a SEAL. Using this confidence found in Hell Week, it shows recruits that pain and frustration is just a mental barrier and once they figure out that they can overcome it, the possibilities are endless.
Confidence can just be a small spark in igniting a larger flame in someone. Most people, if asked to stay up for 5 days with 4 hours of sleep, all while constantly running and doing physical exercise would say hell no. But what they don’t realize is, it’s just a mental hurdle that you need to clear in order to really unlock your potential. This is what separates normal people from extraordinary people. The will to keep going even when no one else is. The drive to try an impossible task, knowing it’s impossible, but trying anyways. Until you realize that your biggest enemy is yourself, you will never be who you can really be. Success is driven by confidence. Confidence is driven by many things. To me, it is driven by fear. I have confidence because I fear that one day, when I am long gone and dead, the man I was, will meet the man I could have been.
Thought your example was very interesting and would never think it applicable to the prompt. I do agree with your statements regarding confidence; however I think Winston would have something to say to that haha
People will strive for *greatness*. And they wont ever stop.
“Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” –William Shakespeare
In Rolle’s case, all three forms of greatness applied to him. He was born great, he achieved it, and eventually he had it thrust upon him. And people strive for greatness. But greatness does not equal normal.
Greatness is the opposite of being *normal*.
In the fifth grade, my brother wrote as his yearbook resolution, “I want to live in a normal house, with a normal family, and a normal job.” While searching for greatness, he will disappoint his ten-year-old self.
Greatness is the opposite of being *normal*.
Rolle is not normal.
Living a life of constant challenge is a *choice*. Rolle can choose to give up everything and lift the burden from his shoulders. Happiness is a *choice*. He is allowed to pick the career that would make him the happiest. Success is a *choice*. And Rolle has many options. Paradise is in the eye of the beholder. Because paradise varies.
“If you want to view paradise, simply look around and view it.”
When normal people look around, they view paradise as the life of a guy like Myron Rolle. When Myron Rolle looks around he sees being normal as paradise.
Opportunities are everything. Rolle has them, and he realizes he has too many of them.
“Come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination.”
Being famous is a goal of many people. It is one of my goals. But no one will ever have only one goal. Reaching for the moon without any stars out will leave you floating in outer space forever. Life is spent to pursue success. Some people need a successful job, marriage, or family. Others may not need any of those things. And how can people be content with themselves if they don’t reach these goals?
The opportunities that Rolle faces are a blessing. Very few people will be able to discover more than one opportunity if any at all. He is able to choose the course of his life. He is able to achieve greatness.
He is able to create his world of pure imagination.
JULES I really like the Shakespeare quote you chose! You also did a great job of making your blog relatable and fun to read. I totally agree that greatness is not normal in any degree. Overall, your blog was terrible. Haha jk jk.
Hi Julia! I really enjoyed reading your blog post this week! I totally agree with your message about how Rolle's life is a blessing. I thought your Shakespeare quote was spot on and that you did a good job structuring your thoughts. Great job!
Hi Julia! I like the Shakespeare's quote that you started with that connected to Rolle's life. I do want greatness that can push me away from being normal. The three things that you had a choice on living a life of constant challenge, happiness, and success. All this depends on me to decide. This made me look back at the world again. Good Blog.
Defining GREATNESS as something similar to the pursuit of success was interesting. I can relate with what you discussed and how choices reflect how we succeed in life. The quotes you used really demonstrated the ideas you believe in.
With the various academic and athletic achievements that Myron Rolle has, I figured that Myron Rolle may have successful future. However, success can be interpreted differently based on a person’s perspective. To people who wish to become a engineer, success can be defined by completing a building that they have put their own creativity and ideas into for a long period of time. In order to achieve success, success requires a series of goals that challenge people to understand another side of themselves better. Whether it is long or short term, each goal represents a footstep towards the final destination.
As one of my weekly routines, I jog about three miles around my street during the weekend. Although three miles isn’t much compared to how much cross country runners run, I would consider three miles to be a small stepping stone to a marathon. Replacing the usual running track in Arcadia, gray concrete sidewalks and grass dominate the area my feet land as I take each step. By not restraining myself inside the curved lines of the tracks, I can choose to direct my path differently and dodge around obstacles that block my main path. Unlike Myron Rolle, I have the freedom to create an alternative path to reach my destination. In Myron Rolle’s perspective his passion for neurology and football conflict with each other as he grows older. Instead of running in a direct path, Myron Rolle comes across an intersection that leads to destinations. If he chooses to become a neurologist, he can go into Oxford to obtain his degree and help patients live more healthy lifestyles. If he chooses to become a NFL football player, he can play with some of the most famous football players. Although both of these careers seem promising, Myron Rolle can not pursue them both at the same time because they conflict with his time schedule.
Myron Rolle has built a stable foundation that allows him to be more versatile and well-rounded. However, he fails to determine what his ultimate career will be for the rest of his life. When I started on my senior project, I tried to look back at what I have accomplished and how my interests define what I will do in the future. Although I may not be in the top of my class, I can relate to how Myron Rolle is conflicted with what kind of profession he wishes to permanently go into. Should I become a professional sketch artist? Or should I become an environmental architect? Although architecture is part of the category of art, art is a general subject that can be applied into other departments such as literature. Poetry is a form of art through the variety of arrangements and context given in a neutral space. As I researched through my ideal profession as an environmental architect, I tried to create various scenarios if I were to decide to pursue a different career. With each minute that passes, time is a sensitive entity that I usually take granted of. Whether its watching a movie marathon or playing video games, there can be other productive activities that I can do that will help me achieve my goals. However, time is limited and varies between each person. Its hard to tell how long I will live throughout my lifetime and I can easily pass away in a split second from an accident or an event. Although Myron Rolle is fairly young, he still needs to consider other factors that will affect his future. What if he had brain trauma during a game? What if he wanted to start a family? After considering these factors, the amount of time begins to shorten and the amount of sacrifices of doing one activities over the other increases. With this realization, its hard to choose what seems to be the right thing to do, but a decision must be made one way or the other. As far as foreseeing the future, I would like to just embrace my environment to experience moments that help guide me through different stages of my life. By looking into the future, I’m disabling myself from experiencing the various moments that have taken me to my final destination. Obstacles will evidently block me from my final destination, but they don’t prevent me from taking a moment to look what is around me that will help me overcome them.
Myron Rolle will never be as good as others want him to be. He’s an incredible man, don't get me wrong, but he is in the middle of a tug of war match. Digging his feet into the ground with both arms stretched out to either side. Being tugged from both sides, he must choose. He can always give up and let the winner of the match choose his fate, or he can use every bit of his strength and let go of the ropes. Leaving him with neither side winning except for himself. What will become of him? Let us first imagine a few scenarios that could become of him with his various choices.
The article used a scenario where Rolle would get into a football accident and hurt his head or hands. I am very familiar with how easy it is to be harmed in football, I was injured many times during my couple years of playing. If Rolle lost his ability to think clearly or if he lost dexterity or use of his hands he would have almost no chance of becoming the neurosurgeon he wants to be. He will lose everything, all of his plans for the future, and he will fade away. People won’t remember him as time rolls along. What if he quit football?
Due to his excellence in science it would be easy for him to become an amazing surgeon. His passion would drive him to become great. However, most doctors are not recognized outside of the medical community. The fame he might have wanted might not be achieved. However, he seems to be a humble man and will do what he loves, even without the recognition.
The question is, would I want to know the future if I were in his place. The obvious answer is no. Of course I would not want to know. Knowing what would happen doesn't necessarily ensure that the future won’t change. In addition, that takes away from the experience of success. The journey is the most important part of reaching for one’s goals. If I were him I would play football. Having previously played football, I know the regret of quitting. It doesn’t hit immediately but later, when you are settled with your other choice. You think of how it could have been and that is worse than having failed.
Meeting our goals is really important. It means that we are challenging ourselves to do something. It also demonstrates how we have something in mind or how we are doing something with a purpose. For me, it is better to achieve something after fighting for it, because it shows who we are and is fighting for our beliefs. Obviously sometimes we will fail, but how would we feel if we do not even try? I think that if we do not try to achieve something we really want, we would not feel complete or "happy".
Happiness most of the times depends on the things that we like. For example, if we like to practice a sport, if we do it we will probably feel comfortable or happy. Happiness is a way of feeling full. However, it is not only to do the things that you like, but also feel comfortable with yourself and with the people that is around you. For instance fulfilling our goals also is a balance on what you want and also the best for the people close to you. You can like things but if it affects those people, you have to value if it is worthy. For me, one of the most important goals in my life is to be happy not only with myself, but also with my family and the people I love.
Achieving your goals is also a way of being successful. When you are young and you dream to do something, you should do everything that you can to accomplish it and feel happy about it. Then you should try to do something about it everyday, and even if you fail you will feel good with yourself because you are fighting for what you like. I believe that these cases shows that you are a positive person, and at the end you will finish doing what you like because you are fighting for it everyday.
Besides accomplishing goals is not just thinking in the long term, but mostly in the short term. You have to take one step day by day and think what is good to do today. You have also to focus on what you think would be good for tomorrow. Give yourself a goal everyday, but mostly concrete goals in the short term towards the direction you would like to take at the end.
Finally, it is reasonable that your goals change in your life, but it is not reasonable to stop fighting for what you believe.
Hey Alfa! I really enjoy your examples and how you incorporated your own personal beliefs into this! Great job!
“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself.”
Now I’m obviously not a parent, but I imagine watching your child make mistakes you know you could’ve prevented would be wearisome. As much as you would like to regulate every action and decision your child makes, he/she has the right to make their own choices and live their own lives.
The first thing I thought of while reading the article about Myron Rolle was an anime character (of course) named Kise Ryouta, from Kuroko no Baskue or Kuroko’s Basketball in English. In middle school, Kise was good at everything he tried. Any sport he suddenly decided to join on a whim would end up with him as the ace a few weeks later. Aside from being an astounding athlete, he was also a model and had fangirls to spare. He was popular, good-looking, and talented. Talk about a triple threat. Kise reminded me of Rolle because they both succeeded at everything they tried.
If I were raising Myron Rolle as my own child, I would allow him to make his own choices, and in turn, his own mistakes. No child would want to be controlled like a puppet by his/her parents. He/she would want to be heard and listened to. I would allow him to search for his passion because I wouldn’t want him to choose one over the other and end up regretting it later. There is no worse question than ‘what if?’
Your children have the right to make their own choices. You have the choice to either support them or oppose them.
Your right parents should not try control their kids life.
Society is never fair, in any aspect.
The same people, with the same experience, and the same motivation, may end up on extremely opposite sides of the road. Sometimes, it just comes down to connections. Someone with connections in the same field he wants to go into will almost always do better than the other who don't have a connection. Sometimes, it just comes down to the timing. Someone who just so happened to be at the same state, same city, same area, same coffee shop and strikes up a conversation with an important official will have a better chance of getting the job. Sometimes, it just comes down to luck. If the other candidates catch the flu the night before the interview and therefore do poorly during the interview, then the person who isn't sick will have a far greater chance at being hired.
I believe that people are not equal in society. There is always someone better than you and there is always someone worse than you at every single task or aspect. The only thing you can do is to take the chance and try to increase your chances of achieving your goal.
When you apply for a job, you hand in your resume, you go to multiple interviews, and then you wait for the news of whether or not you are the chosen candidate. The only thing that a person could do besides having connections, having excellent timing, or getting really lucky, is to make your resume look as great as you can. This means going to a good school, having lots of experience, and doing well during the interview.
There are millions of people that are in situations very similar to Rolle's. They did everything right but they just weren't chosen in the end to make it through the cut. However, I believe that what Rolle did was extremely smart and well planned out. He decided to attend college and leave a route open. There are many others just like Rolle who failed in joining the NFL or their dream career. However, he left medical school open so he can pick up on that if his carer in NFL didn't succeed. While others are panicking and don't know what to do with their lives, Rolle knows exactly where he needs to be and where to dedicate all of his efforts to now.
I like how you said 'Rolle knows exactly where he needs to be,' because it instills confidence. It's great knowing where you need to be to do what needs to be done, because if you don't, you might as well just be walking in circles. Great job on emphasizing persistence and confidence!
I believe that Rolle will either be a very successful man, or he will crash and burn. When faced with multiple possibilities in which you are all good at, the playing field expands and there is a lot more margin for error. It’s almost like the saying “the higher you are, the harder you fall.” Rolle is at that point where he has his life handed to him on a silver platter. He has made it this far in life with minimal mistakes. Now he has the choice to either keep building that tower and hope for the best, or stop at a decent point and reinforce the tower. His football career would be him stacking the tower higher and higher. There are many possibilities with unknown and unexpected elements. Being a neurosurgeon would be the safety checkpoint to the tower hence you can be sure you will have a decent career.
Multiple skills put to good use can be a curse or a blessing. Two very unique sets of skills for two completely different fields of work. You do have a wide variety of choices, but you can only choose one. In life, there are going to be people you have to let down. You will never be successful if you try to please everybody instead of just living for yourself. The path that you eventually choose is the main concern that you should have. For Rolle, one job has security while the other pays better only at the cost of less security. The curse is that if you chose incorrectly, you can never go back.
If I was in the position of Rolle, I would definitely want to see my future first. The only concern here is that if Rolle loses the gamble for a chance to earn more money, it’s likely he will lose both career chances. If he had a chance to see into the future, isn’t it obvious that he will take it? For that is what I believe. This way he would know that at least he will succeed in one career path and not ruin the rest of his life. I believe that life will test you and if you are not ready when the time comes, life will eat you up and leave you with nothing. “When life gives you lemons, you paint that [----] gold.”
Goals are made so that one can accomplish them, so I try to meet my goals in life. One of my goals in life is to attend college and become the best in my occupation. However, if I ran into a different success that I never went through, I will be able to find a new aspect about myself. I don’t see that new success can hurt me at all because they are just helping me find out a different side of me that will give me a new view. I would be glad to find out that I could be useful in another skill that I could take as a path.
I don’t think that I would be able to totally change and I put my new success first because I have already taken steps into my goal that I poured my life on. All the stress and hard work that I put through as a student would go down the drain. I have heard about Korean singers who were studying to become an engineer or a literature major who have decided to live as a singer. Sometimes decisions may be hard to face because the new success might be shown good, but your original goal can still attract you. Thus, as people realize new goals, those goals may be the one that can change a person’s life. However, some new goals can be pushed back since the goal that I may be taking would benefit me more.
I would never know that I would stick to becoming a dentist or find out another path. Life is full of surprises that help you experience new things; however, I don’t know if I can make the new success matter more than the older goal. One thing that I know is that, whatever the new success may be I can say that I won’t be able to change goals without taking time to ponder. Goals are things that have to be taken seriously because by changing goals means that one has to let go of one goal that they may have been working on for a long time. It is hard to hold on to two goals in life because usually they are totally different ways.
Life is meant to be lived with success; however, people can be successful in different things, but without being happy, it means nothing. I could be the best, smartest doctor who can make a lot of money, but if your life is miserable, is it really success? Thus, I want to be able to experience different successes, but at the end, I want to settle down with one success that can give me the satisfaction that I have accomplished my goal in life.
I hope to find different paths in life, but be able to narrow it down to one goal that will give me happiness.
I agree that people should set goals that can be reached. This is important because say that we set goals well beyond our standards, and not reaching them at the end. People are going to feel discouraged and will be hard for them to move forward down their path. If one were to set easily obtainable goals, they would feel encouraged and want to keep on moving forward in life.
+ One of the most challenging aspects of Rolle’s reality is listed at the beginning of this post: There is no enough. He’s lived a life of constant challenge. He’s never known peace. He’s never known real satisfaction because he’s never had time to enjoy it, to get complacent with success. Is this a blessing, or a curse?
What is success?
Technically speaking, success is the accomplishment of an aim or a purpose but, what is the true meaning of success?
S - Seeing that failing is okay
U - Unbelievable lessons
C - Creating new experiences
C - Creating new lessons
E - Experiencing Failure
S - Swallowing these lessons
S - Subsuming your new self
“Satisfaction lies in effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.”
- Mahatma Ghandi
To me success is not when I win, but, when the outcome of the forces me to learn a new lesson.
I compete in yearly competitions called DTASC where we must present a scene that is either 5 or 8 minutes long, consisting of a whole play condensed down into that small amount of time with no costumes, props, or set except 4 chairs and something one would wear to school. Last year, my group and I reached the final round. In this round, only 10 groups out of the 70+ that compete are picked and perform for a panel of judges. Due to the large amount of groups within the room and the length of the scene -- I was in Large Group Comedy(Twelfth Night) and had an 8 minute scene -- it was better to go towards the end. Unfortunately, we were chosen to go 4th.
We approached the performing area and my stomach was in knots. After the what seemed prolonged 8 minutes, we hit our final pose and were drowned out by a sea of claps. It was the most profound feeling of happiness that I have ever felt.
Now, I know that most of you expect that we won first place, but we didn’t. In fact, we came in second to another group that went directly after us. The fact is, it was that feeling that was my success; being in front of that crowd and hearing them cheering for something that I had been working on for months, it was unbelievably satisfying.
Finding that place of mind is the most important thing to do. The fact that Rolle cannot find this blessing is a curse upon him. If he cannot learn to accept his failures and learn from this sets him back evolutionarily many years. As humans, we always want to win, but being modest is the morally right thing to do and allows you to continue to grow as a person.
“Enjoying success requires the ability to adapt. Only being open to change will you have a true opportunity to get the most from your talent”.
F-ind what you want to do and doing it
R-eading anything because you can
E-xisting outside of your parents standards
E-liminating the limits that imprisons the human mind
D-oing whatever you want
O-beying social standards is a thing of the past
M-aking sure you are doing what you want not what anyone else wants
It may seem like a dream come true to be famous. The wealth, power, and fame all seem so good but no one has ever thought about the downside to being famous. When people become more and more famous, the benefits they receive from being famous cause others to covet what they want. In turn, those who become famous, become targets. For example, the one person that everyone knows must be protected at all times. The President.
Over the course of history, there had been many causes of assault on presidents. Examples of this include Abraham Lincoln and John F. Kennedy. These people were killed because other people did not agree with their thoughts. Because there is always a risk of this happening, the President and his family must always be sheltered away from and possible danger. Our current President, Barack Obama, always has people who work with the secret service escort him and his family everywhere. Obama’s children has to attend a private school where all the important family of these people go to school. For these people, they can’t do something as simple as going over to a friend’s house to play. They do not have the freedom to. They are always within the vicinity of people from the secret service and confined to the white house most of the time. If they did want to go over to their friends house, the secret service men would first go inspect the place and then they can go where they will be accompanied by secret service men for the entire time watching everything they do. They are not able to do anything they want. They are a prisoner of security. Because they are always being watched, they can never enjoy themselves in the way we can. They can never be as free as the rest of us are. Whether they know that or not, is up to question. They may believe that the life they are living is defined as freedom, but they will never know until the day they are not being watched.
They are cursed with too much security. Because of this curse, they do not know what freedom truly is. The freedom to do something bad for the first time, the freedom to sneak out of the house, the freedom to do think, and the freedom to be yourself. We are blessed to be free and able to enjoy freedom. We do not have someone always watching over our shoulders preventing us from doing things and not let us expand our mind. We are truly blessed.
Hello Kevin, I liked how you express and explain what is the true FREEDOM. Even I think that fame is not dream come true, what you really want to do, and make sure work hard to achieve new goals in life sound more exciting and not going to regret it, because we believe ourselves, yet know that we will fail in some point. It was great to read your blog #4. Thanks.
I really like how you defined the meaning of freedom in your own terms. And I like how you use specific examples from our past presidents to support your paragraphs.
“What if I succeed in ways that I have never intend to?” Interestingly, this is a question I asked myself several times when I was making decisions on whether I want to commit more on my club activities or afterschool works back in sophomore year. I dreamt to be an officer just like the president, treasurer, or even the secretary of a club. And yet at the same time, I was offered more tutor opportunities at the after-school tutoring center. It occurs to me that they are both something that I could potentially accomplished and ,of course, enjoy working on. During that period, I ended up choosing to work at the tutoring center and learned many new things along the way. I was able to meet many new friends, who also work as the tutor there. I was able to have free lessons with the professors who teaches class at the after-school center. I was also able to realize that if I have chosen to allocate more time on club activities, I may not have the opportunities to do all the aforementioned things. As I look back at it now, it probably did matter as much as my dream to be an officer for a club.
Thinking about this with an older perspectives (yes, older, even though it is only two years older), I figured that it doesn't matter how I wanted to accomplished my goals, but as long as I knew where I’m heading at, it’s good enough. Let’s put it this way, what I had succeed at the tutoring center not only provided me experiences but also a stepping stone for me to become an officer. It’s even better, to think that, despite that I’m a slow walker, but I knew I’ll get to where I want someday. Getting to the destination is important, but the process, is much valuable.
I like that you have a lot of dedication towards something that you want. I agree with you on how you have to know where you are heading to at least do something. I like to take long trips in my car and sometimes the trip there was better then the destination itself.
hi, Oreo, I agree with your idea about the importance of process, not the result. As long as you enjoy the experience, the result wouldn't matter that much.
Surprisingly, this weeks’ entry is all about legendary medical school recruit. When I look at his stories, I think his high school life just like a Disney movie. As an intelligent student who can participate in so many area and make people remember him. He is remarkably smart, after all.
However, I think he asked for too much. It is true that people should ask for as much as possible in their life. We all just get one life, why don’t we make it shine? However, he asked too much even for a genius. If he dedicated himself into medical or athletics, he can be great as others expect. However, he chose on a way with contradiction. For this reason, his ability of making decision is not as great as his intelligence in other area.
Furthermore, he also reminded me a great master in renaissance period: Leonard Da Vinci. Da Vinci is the greatest polymath, and there is no “one of.” His worked in so many area that it is hard to memorize all his title. He is a “scientist, mathematician, engineer, inventor, anatomist, painter, sculptor, architect, botanist, musician and writer.” He is most famous as an artist. Beside than that, his scientific research is also advanced. Even Einstein’s assessment is if Da Vinci showed his manuscript in public. The history of science can pushed forward for 30~50 years. In this way, I imagine what if Da Vinci just focus one of his subject. Like Michelangelo, one of his great achievement is he painted the whole interior of Sistine Chapel. If he put all his intelligence in one area, what possibilities can Da Vinci make? According to his manuscript, he was already had the thought of robot.
So, I had a pity when he make his decision. At least, he is not Da Vinci. It did not affect my pre evaluation on that question. A man can be all talented, but he cannot be all achieved.
Throughout life, we each have come across unexpected roads. Although it very good to plan ahead, it is universally agreed on that luck plays a significant role in our lives. It can be one small decision that changes everything. It is truly intriguing to think about what would happen if I was not at the library and did not run into this one person because she eventually became one of my best friends. If I had simply decided not to go to the library, I probably would not run into this person and we would not become friends. This is the role that luck plays in our lives. Although it often seems small, details such as being at a certain place at a certain time actually affects our lives quite significantly just like it affected my friendship.
As much as we aim for the future and set goals, we will come across new situations by chance and it might affect our decisions. In my freshman year, I joined Marching Band instead of Cross Country because my mom insisted on not missing my opportunity to be part of the Rose Parade which would only happen once throughout my high school years. However, the activity grew on me and I ended up loving it because of how amazing it was to perform a show with over 300 other people. I joined Cross Country off season 2nd semester and enjoyed it like I expected to. Although I enjoyed both activities equally, I had to choose one for the next year. I ended up choosing Band because it was simply an easier lifestyle and I felt I could not adjust to the rigors of Cross Country at the time. If I had not joined band first semester, I’m sure I would not have even thought about the decision and just stuck to Cross Country.
I became friends with someone because of a small decision to show up to a library, and I decided 3 years of my life because of a semester of an activity. One may not define this factor as luck, but rather fate. I firmly believe that it is luck because if the circumstances had been different I might have made the opposite decision and faced a different outcome. Just as these events happened unexpectedly, there are many things in life that do not just come knocking on the door. I may set goals for myself now, but end up accomplishing completely different goals similar to how I set a goal for my personal record in a mile and ended up practicing my clarinet instead. This is why my successes matter to me regardless of whether they are the same ones I had imagined years ago. I think it is important to meet my goals, but that it is also important to be flexible to circumstances and either modify or set new goals if necessary. Life is like nature, it can be studied and analyzed, but will still remain unpredictable.
Hey Akhil! I really liked your post this week. I’m glad that you decided to stick with band, because I got to meet you! And now aren’t you glad, since we got that GRAND CHAMPION?!?!! I think the way you set goals is great, and that your view on life is spot on. Keep rocking these posts!
My parents have never pushed me towards a certain career path. They’ve certainly suggested becoming a doctor or lawyer and have strongly argued for the merits those careers provide, but there’s never been any real pressure to pursue such careers. Having never familiarized themselves with the American education system, my parents didn’t hound me over things like AP classes, the SAT, or college applications because they didn’t really know what they were. Thus, the choices made regarding my future have been largely left to me.
I’ve been the one to choose the classes, colleges, extracurriculars, and majors I want, and my decisions are always supported by my parents. I’m really grateful for the way they’ve allowed me to be independent and push myself, and I have yet to regret my choices (especially glad I decided to take SAT classes even though I complained). My mom laments about how she should have pushed me harder and how she wishes she knew how to guide me through high school so I could go to Harvard, but I think her way of parenting is just right, even though it may have been unintentional.
As a parent of Myron Rolle, I would try and do what my parents did. I would allow him to make his own decisions and support him while giving him my own advice. Since he is actually passionate about both neurosurgery and football, I would definitely support neurosurgery over the latter, and warn him about the uncertainty of a football career because of injuries and how short most football careers are. While I’d want Rolle to play in college for the enjoyment and experience, I would advise him to choose one over the other after college future, as they are both very difficult and different lifestyles that require countless time and effort.
As much as I’d prefer neurosurgery, ultimately I would support either because Rolle had a promising future in both. Just as I have made decisions that I’m happy with, I’d trust him to do the same. Even though there is the risk that Rolle would injure himself through football and destroy the chance of either career, I believe that he is capable enough to choose something else and succeed. He could coach or scout for football, or enter other science related fields. Actually, Rolle is probably smart and respected enough to enter any field he wants.
Rolle doesn’t need any saving – he can take care of himself.
Miranda, I really enjoyed your blog post. Everyone will come to a point in their life that they will decide their fate and depend on themselves. You have gone through that since you are the first one to go through the American public school system. Rolle will make the right decision because he can keep himself accountable at all times with either job. I would prefer the neurosurgeon career rather than being a football player because being a football player in the NFL doesn't last long.
I really like how you gave an example of yourself before you said what you would do if you had to raise Rolle. It also made me feel good knowing that you thought the same thoughts as me when I wrote the same prompt as you.
I like your thoughts about parenting. I believe that parents should be there to warn their children of the possible consequences, however, they should never get in the way of their dreams. Telling your children the preferred choice or the better alternative and letting them choose on their own is also my opinion on the way to be the best parent.
Hi Miranda! I enjoyed reading you post. It was awesome. I also agree with all the points you made about supporting Rolle's decision. I also liked how you made a connection. Overall I enjoyed this post and I look forward to read more of your work.
Both Myron Rolle and Winston ended up doing something different from what they had originally planned for themselves. Winston ends up believing that he is happy with Big Brother, after enduring the torture in the Ministry of Love and essentially being forced to believe that the life he had was great. The difference between the two is that Myron Rolle had options, and he was given these different choices from what almost seemed to be like the beginning. Whether Rolle is happy or not in the end depends on how much he wanted to be the person he is now. Had he succeeded and ended up an NFL player, he might have been happier than he is at the moment. When life does not go as planned for us, it is up to ourselves to make sure that we find the happiness we are seeking. There’s a possibility that Rolle had wanted to become a medical professional more than he wanted to do football...his options saved him from losing what would have otherwise been everything.
At school, there are students who are known for “having everything.” Their lives seem to be completely balanced on the outside - they get good grades, are on sports teams, and somehow manage to have a social life with all that going on. Reading about Myron Rolle reminded me of that group of kids that everybody else “hates” because they seem to have perfect lives. In my opinion, being talented at multiple things is a blessing - it will only give you more opportunities later in life. People like Myron Rolle have a right to pursue what they wish. However, had I been in Rolle’s position, I would have wanted to see how the future worked out as far as football went. If I were Winston, I wouldn’t think that the universe was worth disturbing unless I were joined by a large group to support me and rebel with me. The fact that Winston rebelled nearly alone is what killed his soul in the end - since he was by himself, Big Brother took advantage of him and tried to rid of his “incorrect” thoughts forever. If I were somebody like Rolle, I would have taken a chance on the NFL if it was what I preferred over taking a path to become a medical student. However, I would not have waited for a very long time for things to start happening in the NFL - if it looked like it wasn’t going to go far, I would have diverged from that path early on.
After reading what Rolle ended up deciding, I was not surprised that he chose to enroll as a medical student at Florida State University. I think that he made the right decision - had he kept waiting for the NFL to make him a football success, he could have waited for much longer and not gotten anything out of it. Now that he is at medical school, he has a higher chance of becoming successful in the medical field, and he also takes around the experience he gained in the NFL with him. If I were raising somebody like Myron, I would allow them to try different things until they found what they truly wanted to do. However, at a certain point in time, I would want them to begin focusing on one specific thing - it seems that Rolle was never forced to choose and picked too late, suffering a few setbacks. People like Rolle who are talented at multiple things do not need to be saved from themselves. They are all too good for a society that really only gives you the space to succeed in one thing, always forcing you to pick.
Hi Zenith, I agree with your points on talents and focus. Each of us are born differently and some have more talents than others. However, the end goal is for us to pursue a path focused on one of these talents. Just as Rolle committed to being a medical student, all of us will end up choosing to focus on one main objective.
I too am glad he chose the medical career but mostly because it seems more sensible than the NFL. All you do in the NFL is smash each other helmets occasionally donating money for publicity. Being a neurosurgeon, well you're saving lives everyday! Great points and argument!
Time is money. Time is precious. Don’t waste time. Plan your day. Be punctual. Time is of the essence. Everything must be on time. Time. Time. Time.
Tick tock, tick tock,
Time for work, get out of bed,
Tick tock, tick tock,
Our time is up and now we’re… dead.
Because that’s where we invariably end up, isn’t it? Dead? No matter how rich or organized we are, how well we manage our life, how efficiently we played the game, the outcome is always the same. So the question becomes, why? Why are we, as a society, so focused on time? As if by saving enough and being productive enough, we can somehow avoid the end.
Rolle doesn’t owe us anything, much less HIS time. He tried to have it both ways, and maybe he didn’t get the outcome he was hoping for, but that’s fine. It’s his life, and his time, and his choice what to do with it. He didn’t “lose” a few years, he just spent them doing something different. Had he listened to everyone around him and chosen only one path, he’d spend the rest of his life thinking, “what if?”
Is Myron Rolle, Richard Corey? Yes and no. They have the obvious similarities, but while Corey was the personification of an ideal for whole town, Myron was being pulled in two different directions by two very different groups, while simultaneously sinking under the weight of his own ambitions. He spent his entire life being the best, and by virtue of being the best, he could never be good enough. Whatever he did, Myron couldn’t satisfy everyone. If he chose Football, he’d let down those who considered his intelligence and drive a more important example for young people. If he chose medicine, he’d be shunned by the football community and go down as the guy who could’ve been. If he tried to do both, he couldn’t fully succeed in either. But that’s what we wanted, isn’t it? What we expected out of this story? “In a feat of superhuman ability, Myron Rolle became a Hall of Fame NFL Star and Nobel Prize winning neuroscientist.” This was the headline we wanted to see. Anything else was destined to be a disappointment. Nobody is good enough in the eyes of the public.
Hi Harry, you bring up some really good points in your post. It is very true that it is impossible to please everyone because there will always be those that do not like your actions. In Rolle's case, as you stated if he chose Football or being a student, he would have supporters and those that were not happy. From all this, I realize that we should do things for ourselves in the end as pleasing others is like fighting a brick wall.
Myth to Sci-Fi
12 March 2015
Myron Rolle is nearly the perfect man. He is capable of accomplishing or pursuing the dreams of many Americans with his natural ability in the football, his knowledge and gift in the field of medicine, and the offer he received from Harvard Business School. Also, him being African American has allowed him to exceed to goals even further out of reach of most and has given him great recognition from people all over the country. So, why not give one of the most young adult in the United States a chance in the NFL? In life, when you try to manage multiple tasks at once, you begin to lack or put more effort into one than the other. This is the reason why people struggle when it comes to texting and driving or the reason Bo Jackson got injured and ended his career. The human brain and body simply isn’t able to manage many things at once. Therefore, Myron had to choose one, maybe two professions to pursue and he must eliminate the most dangerous or the one that one’s ability is lacking. For Myron Rolle, this weakest link was the NFL.
The NFL is one of the hardest sports to get into and even harder to stay healthy in. One can have the talent, but not the incredible amount of good health that playing football requires. One may have the great health, but not be good enough to get a starting position on the team. Also, recent studies have proven that playing in the NFL for long periods of time does lead to brain and memory deterioration. The loved and respected Junior Seau recently committed suicide because he could not handle the effects and changes taking place inside of his mental state. The reason he was beginning to change for the worse was because his long and dangerous career in the NFL where he played as a linebacker on the San Diego Chargers. Junior Seau is remembered as a fun loving, always positive man who was heavily mourned after his passing in his home town of San Diego. The NFL is coming under great scrutiny for this reason and now the NFL must place heavy health standards that should have been in place years ago. Scientists and doctors are usually the researchers of effects on the brain of players in the NFL, therefore they know of the effects and are often the ones warning players. Now, why would a person who wants to be a neuroscientist still want to play in the National Football League when they know the dangers that come along with the sport? The answer is the love of the sport, Myron Rolle was a dedicated individual who put was willing to work hard to achieve or receive what he wanted. Without this attitude that Myron Rolle had he would not have been successful in high school, nor at Florida State University, and nor at his football career. His dedication was unmatched by any other player, yet it was never seen or noted by the NFL coaches that he could be any good. They were so wrong.
Myron Rolle had one interception in his career at Florida State University, yet he was still considered by most analysts to be drafted in the first, second round. This was not the case sadly, Myron Rolle was drafted in the sixth round by the Tennessee Titans which can be seen as a foreshadowing for his career in the NFL. During practices with the Tennessee Titans Myron found that the coaches never would discuss anything to do with football to him. Myron was a player that the coaches would want to have an intellectual conversation with during the long and grueling practices. When Myron was tested physically, Myron made it seem as if his talent was lacking. He ran a 4.7 forty yard dash and never truly had any significant features that made him different from other leading safeties. The safety position is not a hard position to find a back-up for or find someone who is simply better than the rest. There is always someone out there who is better than you and is willing to take your spot, but are you going to let them? Myron was relentless when it came to his heart and how he taught himself to become better, yet without the coaches giving him a chance how could he have shown it?
Coaches are always searching for the next Sean Taylor, the hard hitting Washington Redskins safety who passed in 2007 or a Ryan Clark who is a now retired hard hitting and fast safety. However, there is something else that coaches are looking for that Myron didn’t possess or never showed. The hunger to play the sport of football. Myron came from a privileged high school and immediately went through great change when he went to Florida State University. The players at Florida State are known for being ruthless football players who were not afraid of the dangers of their sport and only worried about the money that the sport brought along. Most players had to send their college scholarship money back to their homes in order to feed their families, leaving them foodless. Myron had to adjust to this radical change and to start the change Myron had to prove himself as a contender on the football team. He managed to do this through boxing at the team’s practices, even though Myron had never boxed before in his life. Instead, Myron went to his dorm and studied the tactics of fighters such as Muhammad Ali and then used those tactics in practices against one’s who would call him out, and he was always the victor. At Florida State, he didn’t need to show his hunger for money and his dependence on the sport to get on the team because the team was searching for those with heart. The NFL is different. NFL coaches want to see that a player needs the sport of the NFL to live a good life and for Myron this simply wasn't the case. He could survive if he didn’t have football because he was so gifted academically. Therefore the coaches of the NFL weeded him out and after failing to play for the Pittsburgh Steelers, he would never play football again. To Myron, this is still one of the biggest disappointments of his life and something he will never get over.
For most people in this world, academic ability is all one needs. For Myron Rolle is was different, very different because whatever Myron wanted, he felt he was destined to receive. When Myron went out for the NFL he worked endlessly on his skills while at the same time focusing on his studies. He managed to do both very successful by taking a leadership role on the Florida State football team and graduating in three years at Florida State University. However, even with his knowledge, heart, and determination he still couldn’t make it to start in an NFL game. For Myron, this isn’t as big as a deal as some of the young men who struggle to make it to the NFL for the sake of making money. Myron has always had his degrees in medicine and his popularity to fall back on and he was never truly focused on money in the first place. Getting rejected from the NFL for Myron Rolle is like not getting accepted to Harvard, but you still got into Stanford.
I enjoyed reading from the perspective of a fellow sports fain, particularly your final line about Myron Rolle's mindset after missing out on the NFL being like getting rejected from Harvard and attending Stanford, not bad. I agree that there were too many conflicting interests in and around Rolle's mind that hindered his NFL career. But I don't think the GMs or coaches who passed up on him were unfair. They are paid to make decisions that benefit the team as a whole, not increase the number of minutes their team is discussed on the local sports radio outlet. Yes Rolle had the potential from a football perspective to be a middle to high round draft pick, but more than just skill goes into the decision of a GM on draft day. When it was all said and done, 31 teams decided that this kid wonder was not as good on the football field as he was in the classroom and did not select him. Placed in similar circumstances I would side with those 31 GMs.
I've enjoyed reading your post as you've taken your essay and used a voice that commands authority on this subject- a voice that is a bit more difficult in my opinion as it leans further away from bias. Good job!
Happily ever after sounds like a dream. Getting everything I want, with everyone's' honor, and with joys and happiness all the time. Sounds like a dream. Can this dream be come true?
Dream is always next to us, our hope is always front of us, yet reality is always on top of us
What I want to do, and what I have been doing can be different. Honestly I know I will face it soon when I go to college, but why do we still dream it even if we know our reality, what we are doing is more beneficial and comfortable?
Because we know that we are not walking right now. We are inside of this big giant boats called society, and we are always in the middle of ocean called expectation.
Expectation is not just what we think, but what others think. Rules and regulations are inside of it, too.
Some people sink down inside of the expectation, basically lose this challenge, or some others swim across to the new boat, which is new society. Some say they will soon land it on a land that will give them a eternal happiness. Someday they will never sink inside of expectation, but there is no prove that they will not. when the harsh wind blows, it will sink.
I personally things he should do whatever he wants to do it, because either way, what you decide is what you've decided so you shouldn't even regret it. I don’t regret any of choices I made, except when I did hurt others’ feeling.
because our Dream is always next to us, our hope is always front of us, yet reality is always on top of us, but nature will make us go through this journey by make us grow.
I don’t envy Myron Rolle.
Sure, he’s accomplished. He’s an excellent student, one of the 32 chosen to be a Rhodes scholar. He’s a good (massive understatement…) football player, a potential first-round pick in the NFL Draft. Achievement seems to come comfortably for him… “life hangs comfortably from his shoulders like a fine suit.”
Still, I wouldn’t want to be in his position.
Rolle is a man of many interests. He enjoys and is good at acting, music, studying, researching, and volunteering. He’s not just a football player; he’s very much like any of us — not focused on just one path, but open to many.
So what’s the problem with Rolle in particular?
I guess you can’t really call it a problem, but Rolle is just too good at everything he does. He succeeds at everything he puts effort into. He’s not accustomed to failure. And it’s because of all that, because he’s so talented, that he’s become the subject of other people’s dreams. He’s never had the time to feel satisfied with his successes. The expectations put on him are even greater than those he puts upon himself… and in trying to meet those expectations, he’s begun to lose sight of the goals he first wanted to meet.
But then again, when you think about it — is that really so bad?
I’m nowhere near Rolle’s level.
That doesn’t mean that people don’t have expectations for me. My parents, for one, have always expected me to be able to do several things, including doing well in school, playing a sport, and learning an instrument.
There are things I tried for a while and didn’t really enjoy. My mom has always wanted me to swim a lot (she says that it’s good for my asthma). I entertained her wishes when I was younger, but once I reached a more rebellious age, I stopped. It’s not that I absolutely hated swimming; I just didn’t truly enjoy it. It felt like I was doing it just to live up to my mother’s wishes, and it didn’t truly feel meaningful.
But there are also things I tried and found a passion for. When my parents told me to pick an instrument to learn in fifth grade, I chose the violin thinking I would quit in a few months. I didn’t, though, and I still play the violin today. It’s one of the few things I’ve done for a long time and truly enjoyed.
As I reflect, I can see that the expectations placed on us don’t always have negative influences. While the pressures of those expectations can sometime crush us, they can also push us to greater heights. While some may lead to nothing, some can help us find our passions.
Does it matter if the things we end up accomplishing aren’t our initial goals? Does it matter if we get sidetracked and never manage to realize our dreams?
Definitely. Still, those new successes are not meaningless. Dreams are ultimately something that we strive to achieve; we shouldn’t beat ourselves up over not being able to achieve them. They are a way of focusing our lives into a certain direction, not a way of limiting the ways in which we are able to succeed. How can the things we achieve along the way not be important?
To me, happiness doesn’t come from achieving our goals, but from finding happiness in the successes we do have. Meeting our goals isn’t the most important thing in life — if that is what makes you happy, go for it. But it’s not our ultimate purpose; if we are all going to die, we might as well enjoy life when we still have it.
It’s much more complicated for Rolle, though; he runs the risk of not being able to achieve either of his goals by trying to achieve both of them. Is it worth the risk to become a NFL player when an injury could cause brain damage that would risk his dream of becoming a neurosurgeon?
I can’t decide for him. It really depends on what Rolle values more. Is the NFL something that would truly make Rolle happy, or is it just something he’s doing because he’s good at football? Does it matter more than his dream career? (You have to take into account that he’s not guaranteed to succeed as a neurosurgeon, either…)
He’s the one who has to figure that out. People like Rolle have the right to try whatever they want; it’s not our responsibility to say what they should or should not do. If they end up failing, they end up failing. They were aware of the possible consequences and made their choices, and they have to accept those consequences. That’s what living is.
The outcome of Rolle’s choice doesn’t matter. Rolle’s quest is his own; even if it was messy, chaotic, and inefficient, it was his. Let him do as he wishes. Sure, his journey may have been emotionally taxing… but it wasn’t fruitless. And if it were me, even if the journey itself were to cause me a lot of pain and frustration, I would be happier with the freedom to choose for myself than letting someone else pick for me.
The World State’s approach? Not my cup of tea.
One of the World State’s worst issues is that it treats people like parts in a big machine. They’re expected to move and work in predestined patterns,
discourages the pursuit of anything meaningful outside of what they’re assigned. The Alphas may only do Alpha things, while the Epsilons can only be Epsilons.
Meaning is lost in people’s lives, and they just become replaceable parts in a huge machine. Through their logic, they would likely be disappointed with Rolle. He breaks the mold, and enters medical school, retiring from the NFL to do so. With a late start on medical school, he’s almost certain to be behind where he could have been if he had never joined the NFL. His greatest weakness was his need to do so much. Yet, at the same time, he had an experience. He got to play in the NFL and go to medical school. Not many people can say that.
Maybe Rolle would have been a better med student without football. Maybe he would have been drafted if he put everything towards the game. His choices put him behind, but what’s important is that he made those choices, and nobody else made them for him. The needs of the many may outweigh the needs of the one, but the wants of the self far outweigh the wants of others. In other words, it’s his life and his choice. Nobody really has the right to make him stop, even if they think he’s making a mistake.
Where would we be without our goals? Where would we be without setting our goals? Some people say success can be an accident and some say it is something that you have to work for. I feel that sometimes we wait for everything to come to us, while the truth is that we are actually not aware of what we actually want. The mainstream idea is that goals are directly related to success. People focus too much on one thing that they want to achieve that they forget to look around. Meeting our goals is looked upon as something that we can’t be successful without. Our interpretation towards our lives is based on achieving goals. It is not wise to live life in that circle. Yes, goals are important for us to set. They motivate and guide us, but that does not mean that they are the most important things in life. That might sound like a biased statement, but it’s the truth. It is just something to think about. I do not believe that goals are the most important factors towards a successful life. We set goals and then we forget about most of them. When was the last time you saw someone who has lived up to his or her word? When was the last time you saw someone who has followed his or her new year’s resolution every single year. Goals are not set intentionally or purposely. They have to be automatic. If one really desires to become a doctor, he/she needs to be a doctor rather than wants to be. So, it is not important to meet goals because they are not real.
We go to different levels to achieve things that sometimes we don’t want. I have set many goals in life. I have set them and I have mostly come up short. I am definitely more productive without any goals in life because I am the type of person who doesn’t think of success and goals as the same thing. Desire is the key to motivation, not goals. Desire is the key to success, not goals. Desire is what makes life worth living, not goals. If you set a goal to achieve something that you don’t desire, you will most likely fail miserably. Now people from around the world will say that I am wrong. I have no problem with that. No problem at all. I am not telling you what is right or what is wrong. I am simply pointing out the facts. Just take 1984 as an example. Winston never desired to be free. He never wanted to be free because he was afraid to face the world. He was afraid from his inner conscious that was buried years ago. He is afraid of his mind finally tasting freedom. He is hiding behind the society that the party created. He set goals to be free and feel what it is to be alive. Unfortunately it did not work out at the end now did it? His insecurity got the best of him. While we try to find the fault in our actions through setting goals, others live life with desire. “If we desire to avoid insult, we must be able to repel it; if we desire to secure peace, one of the most powerful instruments of our rising prosperity, it must be known, that we are at all times ready for War (Washington).” To succeed in life we have to know what we desire. We have to look deep inside of our hearts because setting and meeting goals does not complete the puzzle of the bigger picture.
The powers that control our lives are memory, intellect, desire and covetousness. There is no denying that. We want things and we take things. It is that simple. Night and day we work hard to meet a certain set of standards. We set up these rules out of nowhere that guide what we will become in life. To desire something means overlooking those rules. As long as one doesn’t cause any trouble for another individual, he/she can have a desire for anything. Political tags - such as royalist, communist, democrat, populist, fascist, liberal, conservative, and so forth - are never basic criteria. The human race divides politically into those who want people to be controlled and those who have no such desire (Heinlein).” Desire controls everything in our lives. Goals are just misunderstood conceptions. At the end of it all, goals are just a set of standards and expectations set up by others and not by you.
People will always want to get a thing that another people was using and this is call vanity. So we will always set a goal to satisfy the vanity.
Goals are necessary in order to have a purpose in life. Goals help us evolve into better people rather than staying stagnant and purposeless throughout our journey in life.
Choosing Both: Choosing None
Warning: The following statement comes from someone who couldn’t care less about football.
Rolle is good at what he does, and that’s a good thing. He has the talent to play football against the pros and he’s smart enough to do well in med school. The problem is that he’s good enough to warrant the full expectations of both fields. It’s an understatement to say that both the NFL and college conflict. In playing in the NFL, Rolle is under the constant threat of injuring himself or, worse, suffering brain damage, a risk that no surgeon can afford. Just as well, Rolle’s trainers see college as a distraction from Rolle’s optimal game.
The way Rolle is going, he will have to make a painful choice. He will inevitably have to give up on one or the other, the NFL or neurosurgery. He will have to choose one to devote his full effort to because each side demands it. As a student in surgery, he can’t play join the NFL without risking brain damage. As an NFL star, there’s no guarantee that he can make it to the big games if he’s stuck studying or going abroad for research. Because of this, instead of getting to be great at both, he gets shafted. He ends up in a jock college where I can only assume that the education is subpar. Even in the NFL, he plays as part of the Titans’ training team, where he just reenacts the plays of the opposing team for the main team to learn. I could say he can still study neurosurgery on the side, or that he can play football as a hobby, but that clearly isn’t what he wants. He wants to be great at both, and he can’t have that. The world expects a lot from him, and he will likely have to sacrifice a lot to gain a lot.
Rolle has the right to try what he wants. If he wants to play football, then he should get to try. If he wants to study surgery, he should be given as much of a chance as anyone else. The problem remains that, if he wants to be great, he will be expected to give up on his other pursuits. In wanting too much, he’s too much of a free variable. It’s unknown how much he will improve when he pursues two near-incompatible goals. Eventually, he will have to choose between the two, and I don’t know if he can give up either for the sake of one.
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