Saturday, January 10. 2009
Many of you have wondered why The Odyssey starts with Telemachus's experiences instead of Odysseus's travels. We already talked about how doing so allows us to see Telemachus grow as a man and hero without being overshadowed by his father. However, it also helps us understand what Odysseus's absence really means. It's one thing to say that someone is missed when they're far from home, and quite another to feel it; Odysseus's wife and child suffer without him, as he does without them.
Homer's decision to start his tale in the middle of Odysseus's invaded home helps us feel the main characters' pain - and to put ourselves in their shoes. How would we react if we were banished from our homes, punished every time we tried to return, and ultimately left friendless and alone on an open expanse of flat, unbroken water? How would we react if we couldn't experience a moment of peace for twenty years in our own homes, if the smells and sounds of our enemies haunted our every waking moment?
The Odyssey is a tale about fantastical journeys and impossible creatures, about the clash of wills between a lonely man and an angered god, and about that most ancient of human hungers - to love someone in a home of our own. That's why it's endured throughout the ages as one of our greatest stories.
In order to satisfy that hunger by making a home of our own, we must risk something. We must leave the comfort of our childhood homes and go out on our own "heroic journeys" so we can shape our lives and futures. We must do voluntarily what Odysseus does involuntarily: leave our families behind.
Does the thought of leaving your family in the future make you nervous? How do you think you would feel if you were separated from your family for a long period of time? Are you worried about what will happen when you graduate in a few years and begin a life of your own? How do you think you'll greet the opportunity to set off on your journey - with fear, or with open arms - and why?
Your response must be at least two four-sentence paragraphs long, although I can easily see some of you writing much more. Please write honestly and well, and submit your responses by 11:59pm on Sunday, January 11th.
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The thought of leaving my family in the future definitely makes me nervous. I constantly worry about if I’m going to be able to take care of myself or if my parents would be all right without me. I have had experiences with being away from my family at band camp and our most recent Florida trip, also for band. Both being a week long, I had to survive on my own and I felt really lonely even though I was with people I knew. I also felt homesick and realized I couldn’t be away from my family and home for very long.
I am very worried about my life after high school and college. I worry what I’ll major in, how my life will be like, what college I go to, and other things like that. I feel that I will set off on my “journey” very fearfully at first. Yet I also feel like I will get used to life on my own, adapt, and take life on with open arms. Hopefully, all our experiences in high school will prepare us for the lives after and beyond what we know.
The thought of leaving my family after I graduate usually makes me feel nervous. Even though I have forcibly spent time thinking over most of the hardships I should find myself enduring, I am still afraid of being expected to do things which I know nothing about. I have never truly experienced being separated from my family for long periods of time, but I usually find myself alone, even at home, because of my inability to successfully explain certain thoughts which cross my mind. I am afraid to be seperated from my family since my parents are the ones who take care of the things unknown to me and because my sisters are the ones who support me.
The most annoying problem I face is choosing a college. I apparently have less fear of solitary life than choosing a college. Though high school should prepare me well enough for this, I've seen my sister fair worse than normal students due to lack of information. So, I predict that I will begin the first momments of my journey with fear but soon after, I will gain knowledge and continue forward.
My biggest fear in life growing up, and still is, was the idea of ever leaving my family. Throughout my life, my family has always been here to support me finacially, and physically. My family has always been my shoulder to cry on. They have the best advice, and with them gone, i would have no one to go to. Friends have always been there for me too, but theres no one better to talk to then your family. There the one part of your life, that never go away no matter how far you go.
Not only are they easy talking to, their a huge finacial help. There always there to pay for me when I need something. When I graduate high school, im going to have to learn how to live on my own. All the expenses ive ever had, are going to be my responsibilities. When I leave to go to college I am going to miss my family so much, life without them is going to be so different. I know that later in my life im going to regret the times I didn’t spend with them but, I know no matter how far away I am they’re always going to be here.
everything that I know it there, so it’s going to be scary. Especially leaving my mom for a long period time, it’s not only The thought of leaving home really makes me nervous because all of my comforts are at home and the fact that I am going to miss her but it’s just me all by myself doing things on my own. When I graduate I think it will be really hard because I will be living on my own and I will be paying for everything, not my mom.
Living with my mom I don’t have to pay for anything and I think that I don’t realized how easy I have it but when I move out I know it’s going to be hard.In way it will be very beneficial because I will have to learn how to do everything and I am sure that I will make mistakes but that is the only way one can learn. When I do start my journey I will have my arms wide open and take everything as it comes. I am sure that I will think back and say that high school was much easier than the real world but I don’t know that yet, so for now high school is the hardest.
The thought of me having to leave my family in only a few years definitely makes me nervous. I'm worried about making mistakes i wouldn't have made if i was still living at home with the direction of my parents. Of course my parents and i fight but honestly without them by my side I don't know what i would do. I always have the support from my parents and my brothers and sister which pushes me to succeed in life. I've only been away from my family for about a week, and that seemed like a long time. So depending on where i go to college i could see them every couple of weeks or every couple of months.
I'm excited to see what it is like to start a life of my own after graduating high school. Having a life of my own away from my family, however, taking care of my self and having my own responsibilities is going to be weird. My parents and siblings do a lot for me, so without them there is going to be a struggle. Part of growing up is taking responsibility and being in charge of yourself and I'm sure i can take on that role. Certainly i"m going to greet the opportunity to set off on my own journey with open arms. Making mistakes is a part of life so I'm not going to hold myself from doing anything.
If I am to be separated from my family for a long period of time, i would be very lonely. I would need to learn all the stuff I need to do in order to live. But, the thought of leaving my family in the near future is a scary idea. In college I wouldn't know what to major in, and what to do with my life. I don't how to shop like asian, which is sad fact since I am asian. I would probably fail, but I know all of us need some time to adapt to our enviornment. Mankind has always adapted to their surrondings, so I can do it too.
The opportunity to live life without any parents around is an exciting life. I would hang out with my friends all day long and not worry about a thing. If that opportunity were to present itself in the future I would take it with both hands wide open and an order of a happy meal. It is because I enjoy living alone but I would be homesick for them. It is because I have not yet learned how to be a smart buyer or an excellent real estate shopper. I wouldn't be that worried when I graduate from high school because I plan to live at home, not like a parasite, but just as a place to sleep unless I go to college out of California. I think any of us "teenagers" would grasp onto that opportunity of leaving home, but would long for home after a couple months.
The idea of leaving my family does scare me at times, but I know that even if I left they would support me. My family and I have always been close, but since I'm an only child I've learned to be by myself. My parents aren't big business people that leave for long trips, but growing up I didn't always have someone to "play" with and I loved any chance I got to go out with friends. Being an only child means constantly being watched by parents, who can be protective at times. I love my parents, but sometimes it just gets to be a lot, so when I recently had the chance to go on the D.C. trip, I was happy to go! I enjoyed the whole week, but I was strangely sad to see it end. Upon arriving home though, I realized how much I had really missed my family.
When I graduate high school, I will be scared to leave but excited to embark on my own. After high school, it seems like I'll be going to a different universe. I want to be able to learn how to live on my own ;I think that it an important thing to learn. I'll constantly visit my parents back home, but I would like to be able to gain some knowledge of the outside world on my own. I will miss my parents a lot, but I think that leaving home is a part of growing up.
The Idea of leaving my family well Is not a scary one. My parents have raised me to stand on my own. Id be sad but Im not really sure how to answer some times id love to leave for long periods of time and other time Im grateful i have them. Its just some times i cant bare to stand them. So really on the family thing Im just fifty fifty about that i would be sad but then again I do sometimes need a break.
Graduating high school scares the living heck out of me like I feel like Im going to be lost Im lost in high school. After high school that when life begins and i have no clue what I want to be or ware I want to be. I hate thinking about graduating its seems like every one pressuring you to be perfect so you can graduate and go to college and I know that we should but we have no time to be kids.So I feel like when I graduate thats it like I'm not going to have much time to fool around or have fun i have to get serious about my future. I guess in a way I don't want to graduate and I'm scared what lies ahead in my path. But another part of me is excited leaving arcadia like for good. Not having to deal with high school but with college actually living life not just waiting for the next day to come. Meeting make new friends. Having freedom. So i guess again Im fifty fifty I want to leave and then I guess in time ill figure out the answer. This was a hard blog.
The very thought of me leaving my family for a long time is just frightening. Since I am the youngest child in my family, I grew up with the support, protecting, and comfort of my older sibling and parents. If all of a sudden that just suddenly dissapear, I don't know what I would do. Though, slowly and sufficiently they're helping me to grow up so that one day I can stand on my own two feet, but for now I just want to stand in there presence of protection just awhile longer.
When I do leave from Arcadia High, I know I will miss my parents deeply, but by that time I'll probably except the world with open arms just because I think it's time for "the bird to leave the nest." Life is all about growing up and experiences right? Well if I keep hanging on to my parents all the time, there wouldn't be any room for growing up and new experiences now would there?
There will be times that I will come home again and visit back in the house that I grew up in. Adult on the outside, but still a kid on the inside.
In the future, if the decisions I make are my own, then I will not be nervous about leaving home. Hard decisions sometimes require absolute certainty on what you’re deciding, and that eliminates questions on whether or not you’re doing the right thing. If I was separated from my family for a long period of time, I would obviously miss them, but the rest depends on the situation. If my family knew where I was, and had means of contacting me, etc, it would probably be ok. But if I was lost at sea such as Odysseus, I would try every means necessary to get back home.
It’ll be pretty hard to get a job after I graduate so I’m probably going to need to fight for a decent job or go to college and then get a job. But before I can graduate, I have three and a half more years of high school to pass. When I leave, I’m sure my mom will be crying, lots of good-byes, etc. After all that, I will be fearful of the unknown future, but will have open arms to the freedom.
I made a saying quite a while ago: Death is inevitable. Welcome it as a friend, and it cannot be your enemy. The idea is to accept the inevitable, and stop avoiding it, or even the idea of it. The same can e said for leaving home. Obviously my parents won't live forever, and it is inevitable that i will one day have to leave them, 18 years old or not. I have no fear in leaving them.
Having grown up under the protection and care of my parents, I think it is time to learn how to live by myself, to sustain my own life, and not have to always be dependant upon someone else. I think thats what life is all about, knowing how to live. Although I might not be ready now, I still welcome the idea of one day going out on my own, to actually experience life.
The whole idea of leaving has a story behind itself and when it’s my turn, ill fell like I won’t be ready. I was raised to do what’s right and that end of deal has always been held up by my parents, and I’m finally starting to hold up my end. The thing is, if I “move out” I won’t get second chances. And if I need help with something, it’s not a walk down the hall way, it’s either a phone call or a drive away. The same thing as Paul was saying, it’s good to still live with them, but I’d like a break.
It will mostly be a journey, but also it’s the fact of trust. If my parents can trust me enough to live on my own without their help, the can pretty much trust me with anything. I’ll probably try as many things as possible because my dad wont be there to say “that’s not a good idea” or “dad, can I do this?” and always get a “No.” their always there to tell me right from wrong, but when I turn 18, it will be ling whenever I’m on my dirt bike, I’m free and there’s nothing anyone can do about it.
The thought of leaving my family in the future makes me nervous. I have been living with them for my whole life, except for a few times where I went on school trips. Even though I went on some of those trips for a week, I still missed them and wanted to see them again. I realize that I need my family, and if I had to go out on my own right now, I wouldn’t last too long without them. I am worried about what would happen after college, what my life would be like on my own, but I know that my family is always there backing me up.
I am very worried about what will happen when I go to college and my family is far away. In college I might have to share a room with somebody I don’t like. Also, I don’t have my parents less than a minute away when I need help or advice. My family has always been very supportive of me and has always been there for me in hard times. I can’t imagine what I would be like to live without them, but I hope that when the time comes, I’ll be ready. With all their teachings and life lessons with me, my journey to the real world will be a lot easier. Whenever I am away, I will always miss my family, the people who I love in this world the most.
No matter what the situation is we will always be nervous about leaving home. But, I believe that my parents have raised me well enough to handle it on my own. I have a sister in college right now and one that is leaving next year so it might be easier for me to leave when I have people close to me that already went through the process. I also have gone to camp for a week at a time for about five years. A week seems short but I am used to being away from home and leaving for college won’t be as nerve-racking since I have been away from home before.
If I was separated from my family for a long time and wasn’t able to come back I would feel sad and empty but if I was able to come back I would feel better but still miss them from time to time. I am not that worried about starting a life of my own because, like I said before, my parents have and still are raising me so I can handle it. I will greet the opportunity with open arms because everything before college is preparation for it, even if you don’t know it is. So if you have been preparing to leave your whole life, why not go into it with open arms?
The thought of leaving my family is my biggest fear because I have always been with my parents, and I love them with all my heart. I enjoy a lot of things we do together and if I have some problems with things I would go to them for advice. If I was separated from my family for a long period of time I would feel homesick, and I would miss my mom's cooking. I would not be able to take care of myself especially after a week or two. My life would probably be miserable and in need of going back home.
When I graduate in a few years and go off to college I would be greet my journey with open arms because it will be an opportunity for me to learn how to take care of myself. I can use the internet and use a web-cam to see and talk to my parents everyday if I would like to. I would not be worried because I trust my parents and they are suportive. Overall, I love my parents and I would always enjoy and remember the times we spent together doing fun things!
The thought and idea of leaving my family one day makes me very nervous and worried. My family has done so much for me and I have done a lot for my family, we work together everyday to help and rejoice with one another. If I were to be separated from my family for a long period of time I would turn into a very depressed and emotional person. I think that over time though, I would get used to it and just cope with it, because it’s better to know I have a family that needs me.
I am not worried for myself as much as for my family when I leave my home and begin a life of my own. My sister and I are close and I help her with a lot of things in her life. As much as I love to be with my family almost 24/7, I think this opportunity would be greeted with open arms. What keeps life going is people’s will to move forward, and my attitude is to go with life’s flow and keep up.
I personally feel two ways about leaving home, nervous and exited! It is hard to even think about moving away from all 5 of my brothers and sisters… what would I do all day?!?! For 14 years I have never had a boring day in my life with 6 kids there is always something to do, build a fort, or get in a fight, or just go on a walk. I don’t know what I would do with myself if I was all alone also I would miss all the friends that I would be leaving behind. After living in arcadia for ten years the friendships that I have made with some people are unbreakable to imagine not seeing them on a day to day bases exceeds my imagination.
On the other hand I am exited to leave home its like setting off on an adventure! Think off all the people I’ll meet and the new friendships that I will develop… and just maybe I will meet that special girl that I want to marry. Also I will be attending college where I will learn and prepare for the job that I will hopefully have in the near future. One other benefit I will gain is freedom! Finally no more rules (except for the law) I can spread my wings and do whatever I want. Although leaving home is scary every one must do it at one point or another.
Thanks for specifying which "Joshua C." this is, Josh!
It makes me nervous that I will have to leave my family because my family is like my backbone. They help me and guide me through the hard times. If I was separated from my family for a long time, I think I would miss my mother’s cooking, father’s advice, and most of all, my sister’s support. I think I also would realize how much they do for me on a daily basis.
I’m kind of worried about what happens after I graduate because they might not support what I want to do or my decisions. They also might not approve of the people I see and the things I do in school. I’m thinking that I will greet the opportunity to set off on my journey with open arms because I really want to feel how freedom really feel. I know I won't go crazy, but I want to do things without always asking for their consent.
My family has always been there to support me with every decision that i make. They also have done their best to lead me down the right path. Although it would be exiting to move out and live on my own, I would miss my family very much. I would regret not thanking them enough for everything that they have done for me.
I believe there are two ways to look at life. You can sit around and watch it fly by, or you can make the most of it. After graduating high school, of course it will be difficult, but by not doing anything, it doesn't make it any easier. Your life after you graduate, determines your whole future. It is nerve-racking to even think about but it will help you grow up.
I would be nervous leaving my family. Most high schoolers these days can't wait to leave their families and live life on their own. But most teenagers don't think about the other things like paying the bills instead of their parents covering it. They must learn to take personal responsibility for their lives now. I would not be ready to leave my parents because I still have more maturing to do before I head off and start a life of my own. I would be sad if I was forced to leave them now.
It is pretty hard for people after they graduate high school because they have to deal with the stress of college and finding a job. Economic times are tough, and no one is guaranteed a job after graduating from college. The thought of graduating from high school and heading off to college is exciting and scary. Even if I choose to go to a school that is far from home, I know I have my parents' support, and they are only phone call away. At that time, I will be making my own decisions, but I will always value my parents' advice.
The thought of leaving my family in the future makes me sad because, I am so used to this same environment and routine. Being a part of the same routine everyday can seem boring, but in actuality it's comforting. It's safe, warm, and full of love. I enjoy the people in my life right now, but in reality people must move on.
During the process of me moving on from high school, I may be nervous to go to college and meet new people, but in general I will have an optimistic view on my life. I'll greet my mew school, new friends, and new environment with a smile. It's always good to have a scene change in your life. But, right now all I can do is plan my future, and when the time comes to live it through, I'll be ready to face whatever comes my way.
The thought of leaving my family devastates me because I know in the future, for the most part, I’ll be alone. If I was separated from my family for a long period of time that would be completely different. For example when I leave for college I know I’ll be able to call up my parents or send a message to my siblings on facebook. To be separated from my family and not be able to speak to them would be quite different then just going to college. In today’s society, in places like America, people are able to communicate others in countless ways such as cell phones, phones, email, letters, etc. In Odysseus’s time, there weren’t any phones or computers for Odysseus to tell his family he was alive.
Still, after high school life will be a big step forward in life. More then anything I’ll probably be going to college and that will delay myself from going on ahead “by myself” yet at the same time it will prepare me for my own life. When I start living outside of my house I will have fear yet at the same time I will have open arms. I know that I’ll need the love and support of my family to help me get through high school, college, and whatever else I do In the future. Going off by myself will present challenges, some more difficult then others, but as long as I have my family I’ll be fine.
My family, my life; The difference is not far apart. My family is definitely a big part of my life. While some people would love to run away and become free of the chains they call parents, I could never imagine wanting that. Being independent means more responsibility that I'm not sure I can handle; No parents to fix your mistake or fall back on.
In four years, I will fly away from the nest I call home. It's scary to think about the future when I have no idea what's in store for me or what college I will go to. Not all birds fall when they leave their nest, so I think I'll be okay. All I can do right now is do good in school and the rest will be okay.
Joo Young Lee
11 January 2009
All people, including eighty years old man and two years infant fear to be alone without their own parents. In a few years I’d be out in the world by only myself. Living without my parents makes me anxious every time I imagine it. My beloved parents have been my best friends, financial supporters, useful advisers, and everything that takes big part in my life. Just living without them is stopping heartbeat.
I never felt loneliness when I had been away from my parents because it was only short period of time and I thought I’d see them tomorrow or a day after. However, after three years I will graduate from high school and begin my own life for real. From then on, all responsibility that my parents took care of instead of me would be mine to take. Buying things with money I earn, eating meals that I make, decisions I choose, and just the fact that my parents won’t be there with me, deeply concern me.
Every breathing creature eventually dies. We just don’t know when. Someday when my parents are gone forever, there aren’t any alternatives I can choose but to live alone. There are two different outcomes when I become independent, though: cry and do nothing or greet new journey. Since I know that no one lives my life for me, I will have to be ready with two open arms. When I become a grown-up, I’ll somehow learn to manage my life without my parents-just not yet. But in the future, yes-I will be ready accepting it.
As of now, the thought of leaving my family shivers down my spine like a cold breeze. I could never think of what I would do if my parents weren’t there to help or support me in life. If I were separated, which will be occur in the future, I would feel devastated and useless. I was away from my family for about 1 week on a science field trip, and always thought about my family. I couldn’t imagine how I would be over a time of years.
I know jumping from everyday life in Arcadia, to the big world is a nerve wrecking task but everybody has to do it if they want to be successful. It also won’t be just a big change for me, but for my parents to let me go without worrying and trusting me on my life journey. As much as possible you have to fell aquatinted with the life journey, because the more pressure on yourself of being scared, the higher chances of messing up.
I think the thought of leaving my family in the future is very scary, because the meaning of family is people that care about you, and love you. No matter whom you are, or what you’ve done wrong, they will always forgive you for your mistakes, and make you a better person than you already are. If I were to be separated from my family for a long period of time, I probably would be really frightened because I always looked at my family as someone I could count on, through think and thin. In another words, I don’t think I would be able to survive without my family for a long period of time, but in the future, maybe.
When I graduate, I probably will be very worried about what lies ahead of me. Once we’re out of high school, there won’t be anyone there, telling you what to do, or where to go in life. The decisions we make will be very important, since our parents won’t be there to help us along the way, were on our own now. Sometimes, I feel like I would embrace the fact that we are going to be off on our own in a couple of years, since I myself believe that I can survive pretty well on my own. But sometimes, I would think about how I won’t have my parents anymore, to tell me what to do, or guide me through everything in life.
The though of leaving my family does give me a fight at times, but I know that they’ll always be there for me whenever I mess up. But then again, everyone has to leave their house sometime. I think that leaving home just makes a person stronger and feel more independent. There have been times recently where I have been away from my parents, but not months at a time.
I have been separated from my parents before when I was younger, age makes a difference in a lot. Then again I was probably 2 and didn’t know where I was. Since I wanted my parents and really depended on them at that age, I was very scared. But now that I’m older things have changed. I’m constantly asking to LEAVE.
I am very worried about leaving for college and start living ON MY OWN. Then again I’m anxious to finnaly be ON MY OWN. Also that’s the thing about parents, they will always be the voice behind you, reassuring and encouraging you to “keep it up” and “follow your dreams.”
The thought of leaving my family behind doesn't make me nervous.
This may be from the fact that I've become mature enough in my
perspective that I can handle being alone, or that I already know
I can simply speak with my family members over the phone or by letters.
If I were to leave them for a long period of time, I would probably
be more focused on whatever had made me leave in the first place.
This may involve business (in the future), vacation time, or even school.
I would probably be too busy for family.
When I graduate I'm already planning to either join Law Enforcement
or the Army. Joining the military would be a clear example of the Odyssey,
and this blog. An exception would be the part that I'd be volunteering to
join instead of trying to avoid it. I would go after my chosen path with
In joining the military I would actually be nervous unlike other jobs.
Concerning my family, I would be nervous about my mom and siblings being
sad or worried. In all that, although, I would be proud and I'm sure my
family would be too. I would be able to show my strength in the army and
be able to show my little siblings how they can be proud of having a big
sister who fights for them. Even if some time is spent away, I would also
be able to write letters, or even talk through the phone.
I look back at my memories in the unlocked cage and shiver as I feel the cold wind slicing through my life. It’s time to fly, isn’t it? It was my turn to let freedom carry me to my dreams and future. This was what I have lived for, all the past years, but why can’t I go? The lock on the cage was broken, and now, I was in control. It’s finally, truly my life, but why do I hesitate?
I trudged through the road set out for me. What a pity, it was the day I waited for so long. The day I promised myself that even the locks on my cage cannot intrude and here I was, lagging and hesitant. The icy loneliness stabbed a confused me as I didn’t understand myself at all. Frustration overcame and I couldn’t focus. There before my eyes the scene of my young life in the cage I was kept in, kept replaying. On my way to freedom, I was blind and lost. Would it be long before I realize what that cage had meant to me? The lock that kept me from the world outside had actually protected me from the world’s dangers. It had kept me safe as much as it can, keeping me uneducated of the horrors playing outside. Figuring out my position, the world suddenly looked like a cauldron of poison. I was now a beginner, vulnerable and frightened—wonderful combination, the best to start your life of freedom, isn’t it?
Gulping down a mouthful of air, I faced the road ahead. It was a long and dangerous journey—I could see the traps hidden beneath the surface. Still nervous, yes, but what choice did I have? Will I be a survivor until I reach the end? Or will I lose in this game of life? My life was a collection of precious memories of the time the cage did everything it could to keep me safe. Will I throw it away? No—I won’t give up easily. I cautiously unfolded my wings as I felt for the first time, a lonely freedom.
-Yoon Ji Chung
Yes, the thought of leaving my family in the future makes me very nervous. I can't imagine being separated from my family, but these days it would be kind of nice since there always on my case. I still know that I need them though because I would be nothing without them. No money, no transportation, no love. I would start to feel really lonely and sad because even though there always getting on my nerves I wouldn’t feel loved or wanted.
I'm terrified about graduating and having to do things on my own. I'm going to have a job and a life of my own. I’m sure when the time comes ill be ready but right now I have no eagerness to grow up and move out somewhere away from my family. I know im probably going to be going home all the time and visiting but im scared I wont and i'll get all wrapped up in my new life that i will just forget about everything else. When I get older im going to be open to new things, I am going to try new activities I wouldn’t normally do, eat weird things that I know I wouldn’t like. I’m going to have fun and be responsible with my freedom.
The thought of leaving my family behind is kind of scary because then I would be on my own instead of having them there to take care of me. At the same time it sounds nice because then I can start over and not always having them nag me. Probably after a while I would really start to miss them because then I would realize how quiet it really is without them around. I no that my family would miss me right away because I am a big part in there life and keep them on track. When I'm gone they will notice that they will not have someone to remind them what to eat, and when to exercise and that's a big part I am worried about and they should be too.
I am very worried about what will happen when I graduate from high school and I have been for a couple years now. I've always thought about what I want to do so I keep my options open. I think that I will be kind of excited too since there are no more rules I have to follow around the house and I can explore the real world. But I also am nervous since anything could happen and things could turn out differently than I planned. I want to be successful but also have fun when I get to that point. I'm sure when I get there I will know what to do.
When the time comes to leave my family and go out on my own it seems exciting but also a thought of fear. Not in the way that i am scared to move on just in a way that when you look back at the times you have had in your home with your family, freinds, relatives it seems as if it is pointless to go. What would you gain out of it? Nothing? But when I graduate the career and life i am planning on taking can't be acheived while still relying on my parents to take care of me. You have to move on, start something new, on your own, not with the help of family but alone without any help. Not that you go through your whole life by your self without the help of others.
The thought of leaving home does not bother me as much as people would think. In fact, it doesnt bother me at all the career and life that I want I would sacrifice anything for. So the thought about leaving home leaves me with one conclusion, that it is a step everybody has to take.
The thought of leaving my family in the future does not make me nervous. If I were separated from my family for a long period of time I wouldn’t feel nervous or scarred. I’d feel weird. My sister and I are always making jokes and making fun of people. So if I were to tell someone, “REMEMBER THAT TIME…” and in my mind I would being saying oh wait, they weren’t there. I’m not worried about what will happen when I graduate in a few to begin my own life. In fact I’m excited.
I feel that venturing off into the world alone is the perfect thing to do when you become an adult. If you always have someone there holding your hand why even leave home? It’s perfectly fine to miss your family, but if can’t “live without them” I don’t think you’re ready to be an adult. When I set off into this journey of being on my own I’ll greet it with open arms. In life you can’t always rely on other people. You just may have to be alone. That’s how we came into this world, and that’s how we’re leaving alone.
I am not afraid to leave what I know behind; I am uncertain, but undaunted. Right now, the only thing I can perceive is what’s in front of me. I know but one star in the whole universe. My vision has been obscured and distorted over the years by rules and monotony, invisible ropes that tie me down. I don’t view the world as a whole; I catch occasional glimpses of color, shape, and hear abstract sounds. What I want most is to run far away and finally be able to open my eyes and soak up the sun, to be able to absorb life as it really is, to break free from the small box I’ve been caged in. I want to breathe, to make mistakes, to pick up my own pieces. I need to be able to spread my rusty wings and fly.
I know that my heart will long for home, not for the solid structure that is my house, but for the people, the family that has sheltered and protected me for so long. But I know, too, that if I stay here with them, I’ll never get away; I’ll rot. For so long, I have wanted to discover myself, to give myself real depth and emotion; I refuse to be a boneless, shallow product of wills other than my own. I am my own master. I am not my parents. I am simply myself, and one day, I will be allowed to be exactly that.
Stranded for twenty years, a stretch of time longer than I have lived, is far too long to be separated from friends, family, and an ordinary life. The fate that befalls Odysseus is one that I cannot even imagine. Being far away from the people who know me best, want the best for me, and love me most for that length of time would be crushing initially. My family members are the first people I seek out when I have a problem or need comforting. Although the thought of “freedom” from my ever-watchful parents seems ideal, it would take time to adjust from their absence. But this is just one of many daunting life decisions that await me upon graduation: where to go to college, what to major in, who to associate with, and a thousand more.
After graduation, much like Odysseus, I will set out upon my own adventure independent from my friends and. family Although it is a tough concept to adapt to, I feel confident in my abilities to make the transition from life with my family to a life apart. Throughout my life my parents have taught me change will always come so get used to it and learn to adapt to the new. Over the years I’ve learned to follow this creed because in my past experiences, it has always resulted in success. Still, while I’m certain of my abilities to succeed, there exist cons to leaving behind my one and only home. Amidst the process of making it on my own, it’s imminent that there will be times where I will regret the choice of leaving my family, and the benefits they provided me. As I contemplate leaving home, I know I will be overwhelmed with feelings of both excitement and anxiousness. For that reason, I guess you could say I will embrace leaving my parents and home with at least one open arm.
The thought of leaving my family in the future would make me nervous, but also excited. It'd make me nervous because I've depended on them my entire life. I would be excited because it's a chance for me to become independent and start a "new" different life. When I graduate and begin a life of my own, I wouldn't be so worried. Seeing how my sister is doing in college, I know what not to do because I'm learning from her mistakes that I see everyday.
Since the day I was born, my mom has taught me great life skills that I noticed helps a lot. If I did have trouble and failed at whatever I was doing, I know my family would be there to support me. I wouldn't have to worry about my mom judging my friends, I'd just be more cautious. I wouldn't have a curfew so I would be able to control my timing instead of her nagging me about what to do and not to do. It'd scare me at first when I leave, but I know that I won't always have them, so I'd greet opportunities with open arms.
The thought of leaving my family does not make me nervous. I do not think of it as leaving my family as much as I see it as just another step in life. Everyone has to go through school and sooner or later everyone will leave their families. I admit that I would miss my family after a long period of time, but I think later on in life I would be so busy with friends, school, and work that I would be occupied and distracted by it all, I wouldn’t have time to think about it. I would visit and talk to them from time to time but I think I’ll be able to accept life on my own without the constant thought of missing my family.
I am not concerned about what will happen when I go off to college, whether here in California or in some other state. Both my mom and dad have raised me and educated me well. Well enough that I do not fear nor worry about the thought of when the occasion finally comes when I have to depart and live my own life. They have pushed me and encouraged me so that I have now planned out all my steps in front of me and now all I have to do is follow them. When the time comes, I will not meet it with dread nor panic but with open, accepting arms. I will know how to go live my life and be able to distinguish right steps from wrong.
The thought of leaving my family in the future will be a bittersweet time of my life because I have been dependant on them for so long. The thought of being independent gives me mixed emotions because on one hand I won't have the perks that I did as a child like having breakfast made for me in the morning or being able to spend time with my family everyday. On the other hand I will be able to make my own decisions on my own terms. Sometimes I get scared when I think of being on my own because I rely on my parents for guidance and it is hard to think of taking care of myself without my parents input. I will not spend alot of time worrying about being on my own when I graduate because I know that the lessons that my parents have taught me will carry me through into my own life of being an independent person. I will look at my independence as an opportunity to create my own destiny.
I will also look at it as a way to make my parents and family proud.
The thought of leaving my family in the future makes me wonder if I will survive on my own, but the only thoughts I have that moment are the negative ones like buying a house or renting an apartment or even getting a job. It causes me to feel nervous because my entire life I have lived with them and it will awkward without them there beside me. I had always felt comfortable and protective. I had no worries. Now in a few years when I graduate and I begin my own life, I will have more responsibilities and the opening of becoming independent. If I ever had the opportunity to go to New York or etc. to start my new life, I’ll be afraid and excited at the same time. The reason why is because I’ll be far from my family and friends, but ill be excited to go and live in a new environment.
Although I would make myself believe that I'll be perfectly fine and live freely without my parents after i graduate and go to college; in reality- I don't think I could really leave my family for a long period of time without feeling a little lonely. I usually don't even notice that I'm constantly with my family; like going to church, watching movies at night, eating dinner, driving to places, and things that are just seem natural to me. Almost everything I do and everywhere I go, someone from my family is right there with me. Whether it's my sister, brother, my mom, or my dad; they're always right there with me and I don't know what I would do without them.
But when I think about myself going off to college in 3 years, and maybe going to a far college, or to live at school in the dorms, I feel like being separated from my family will be a good experience for myself and most likely a bit challenging. Despite the hardships that might come my way, I'll have to have the courage and ability to keep myself on task and studying hard. With my priorities set straight and good friends by my side, I'll try not to stray from what I know best. I don't want to go too far from home though, because I know I'll get homesick. And I would like to be able to maybe come home every weekend like my brother does from UCLA. Being able to come home to see my parents almost every weekend and to go to church are the main advantages I want from going to a not so far college. And despite the fact that I'll be living my own life and starting anew when I head off to college, I think I'll be really open-minded and greet it with open arms for whats to come because I know no matter what, that I'll be okay and my family will always love me, near or far. If I finally actually have the chance to control my own life, make my own decisions, and learn from my mistakes; then I can control my life freely, make my decisions wisely, and be thankful for all that's happened. And I truly do want that freedom someday- I'm just not totally ready for that quite yet. Hopefully, in 3 years- I will be. But for now, I'm just enjoying the presence of my mom, dad, brother and sister by my side.
-Cathy Lee Period 1
The thought of leaving my family makes me a little nervous. I would like to go explore the world but I think that every now and then I need my family’s assurance before I do something. I’m pretty sure that I would feel kind of empty inside me if I was separated from my family for a long period of time. Most kids would feel a big longing to see their parents if they didn’t see them for a long time because they were raised and loved by their parents.
I’m not really worried about graduating in a few years and beginning a life of my own because I will always go back and visit my parents even if I love far away from them. My biggest worry would be leaving my parents all alone because I wouldn’t want them to be lonely so I would most likely live near them so if they need anything I can be there to either help them or give it to them. I think that I will greet the opportunity set off on my journey with both open arms and fear because yes, I can have fun and make my own choices without having to depend on my parents. And no, because I wouldn’t want to make a mistake or do something that I regret that my parents said wasn’t a good thing. I’m still scared of being on my own when I get to college but knowing that I can live by myself and take care of myself, I know that I can succeed in living by myself.
11 January 2009
Moving out on my own doesn’t seem as nervous as it does exciting. I love my family and I’m not saying I want to get far away from them but being able to control your own life and make decisions for yourself sounds great. For example my parents always tell me to make my bed in the morning, but what I don’t understand is why should I make it if I’m just going to mess it up later? And I’m sure that with freedom comes responsibility but I think it’ll still be worth it. The nervous part isn’t living without my parents its where am I going to live and when am I going to move out. I don’t want to move out too early when I’m not ready but I don’t want to be the 30-year-old man that still lives with his parents. I’m sure when the time is right I’ll know.
If I was away from my family for a long time like Odysseus was I would be miserable because I wouldn’t be able to live without them being there if I needed something. I’m not afraid to go out of my comfort zone to set off on my journey but I think I’ll be skeptic about when it’s my time to go. I always wonder about how my life will be when I’m older. I’ve decided that for the first year or two that I’m out of high school that I’ll stay close to home but once I graduate or get married I want to move somewhere further away, possibly out of the country. There are allot of things that can change my thoughts about what I want to do when I get old enough to leave so for now I think I’ll concentrate on what I have going on in front of me. “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34
As I have already thought about this over so many times, it saddens me that I will have to eventually leave my family. Although it does, I know that I will have to anyway whether or not I like it. They helped me with practically EVERYTHING. If it weren’t for them, I don’t know where I’d be. Then again, I know that they, even my brother, have raised me well enough to know how to survive on my own and not have to depend on others to help me get through life. What makes me upset the most is that I’ll have to leave everything behind, including my family.
Graduating high school doesn’t really worry me because I have already thought about going to a college or university nearby. That way, I can conveniently visit anytime. After I graduate from college though, that is when I will probably worry the most. Actually even though I’d be worried, the chance to go off on my own makes me excited but knowing what I’m leaving behind just makes me right where I started again, worried and sad. The taste of freedom excites me because I have never really been on my own without any guidance, but without it, I’m not sure what to do.
For now though until then though, I’m probably going to learn to live on my own.
If my parents were to banish me from ever entering their house starting today, I don’t know what I would do. I wouldn’t be able to find anywhere to stay or call any place my home. I also fear the day of moving out of the house. Not having the love and security of caring parents and a cozy home brings up concerns in my mind. Without a home, I would be lost and would not be able to do things that normal could like play games, use the computer, sit down to do work on a table, etc. All in all, not having a home would drive me crazy.
The thought of leaving my family, while I go off somewhere without me, worries me. Not having the advice and assurance of my parents and siblings would take getting used to. Even going a week without them keeps me thinking of what could happen and if anything has changed. When I graduate and begin my own life, I know that I would have to leave and start out on my own. I would feel separated and disconnected from my family. I would be independent and free to make all choices alone, but at the same time lonely and without support. Having freedom is great, but i know that when i leave my house, I would hesitate to leave and be uneasy at the thought of life without my family.
The very thought of leaving my family for a day scares me, twenty years would just be a fate worse than death. Most people my age have left their family for at least for a week during Outdoor Science School in 6th grade of middle school, but apparently I haven’t. I’m only a freshman, but I’m already concerned about leaving my family after senior year. Not only does college scare me, the whole thought of life alone freak me out. “How will I survive? What will I do? What is going to happen to me?” Those questions make me worry and worry endlessly about my life, but I have learned to just live with it and I will deal with those questions when its time.
Concerning the journey to the wide, unwelcoming world… I’m pretty sure I would be hesitant and approach the journey with uncertainty and fear. Truthfully, I have many different personalities, so it depends much on how I’m feeling that day when the journey hits. I’m a pretty shy person, believe it or not… I personally believe the standard Asian thinking that I will grow up near my parents and forever stay with them, so this question is a bit unthinkable to me.
Twenty years is a long time; I don't know how anybody can manage to live that long away from home, or how anybody can live in a house trashed by unwanted guests every day for twenty years. If I were to be away from home for 20 years, or have my house overrun by invaders for 20 years, I would have to resort to self-hypnosis to convince myself to be more optimistic. Even when I leave home in a few years, it wouldn't be bad. When I become an adult, at least I can visit my old home, keep the unwanted out of my house, and I certainly hope that I never have to leave home for 20 years.
At least I hopefully won't have to leave home because of a military draft. I'll be leaving due to my own free will, moving toward my future life. Soon, when I leave home, there will be many things to cause worry, but I will stay calm; worrying helps little. Though I might miss my old life, I will embrace a new life with the freedoms of adulthood.
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