Monday, December 7. 2009
Be careful what you wish for; you may receive it.
- Anonymous, from W.W. Jacobs’s “The Monkey’s Paw”
Simba: I'm gonna be king of Pride Rock.
Scar: Oh, goody.
Simba: My dad just showed me the whole kingdom. And I'm gonna rule it all!
Scar: Yes, well, forgive me for not leaping for joy...bad back, you know.
- “The Lion King”
The secret life of Bernard Madoff unraveled as he stood in his upper East Side apartment in pale blue bathrobe and slippers, facing two FBI agents.
"We're here to find out if there's an innocent explanation," Special Agent Theodore Cacioppi told him at the Thursday morning encounter.
"There is no innocent explanation," Madoff replied.
- New York Daily News
I dare do all that may become a man; / Who dares do more, is none.
- Macbeth, Act I.vii
How far are you willing to go to get what you want…and are you prepared for the cost?
I once asked you where the “tipping point” for human beings was – to identify the invisible line separating good people from bad ones, and to establish whether human beings are better than bad, or worse than good (as well as why). Some of you claimed this was an unfair question, but I would argue that it really isn’t; if we’re free-thinking beings, equally capable of making a virtuous choice or an unnecessarily harmful one, it stands to reason that some people will make the former type of choice more often than the latter, while the opposite would be true for others.
Yet if you accept that my previous statement is factual – that some of us will make the right decisions more often than not, and others won’t – the easiest way to answer the “tipping point” question is (as usual) to ask yourself why people make bad choices. Many of you chose to write about whether evil was the absence of goodness or its own dark presence, but many of you failed to examine the “roots” of evil – the causes of that absence or presence. Why do some people make the right choices more often than not? Why do some people make the wrong choices?
There’s really no shortage of answers to that question, because your answer depends on your perspective about human beings themselves. Perhaps you feel that evil is the product of laziness, of a person’s unwillingness to exercise self-discipline often enough to control his or her more destructive impulses. Perhaps you feel it’s more a matter of upbringing, or environment, or culture. Perhaps you think that there’s no such thing as evil people, only evil actions – although this probably requires you to believe that people aren’t defined by what they do, but by who they are (whatever you feel that may mean after the past three months).
In fact, that question fascinates me because there’s no shortage of answers. I love literary villains (particularly when I can begin to understand where they’re coming from), and I think it’s because I love seeing whether my concept of what constitutes human decency can hold up under pressure.
There’s a Shakespearian play called Macbeth (it’s OK to say the name for educational purposes, just not in a theater) that examines the question at the start of this blog in fascinating ways. To boil an incredibly complex play down into a short summary, the story concerns itself with Macbeth, the noble Thane of Glamis who proves his loyalty to his king, Duncan, by defending Denmark from a number of invading forces, including those led by the treacherous Thane of Cawdor. Upon returning from battle, Macbeth and his friend, Banquo, encounter three witches who prophesize that Macbeth will eventually become king, and that Banquo will not – but that Banquo’s sons will rule one day.
Macbeth is captivated by this vision of personal power, but one obstacle stands in his way: power passes from kings to princes, and he is neither. For that matter, Duncan has two sons, Malcolm and Donalbain, who are ready to ascend to the throne. Macbeth is almost ready to ignore the future promised him, but his wife, Lady Macbeth, intervenes. She’s power-hungry but cunningly so, with an amazing talent for manipulation. She plays on Macbeth’s insecurities and weaknesses until she convinces him to kill his king. Macbeth reluctantly agrees, and almost backs out of doing so when Duncan comes to stay at his house, arguing that he’s sworn to protect his guests and master (to invoke Dante Alighieri’s parlance). But when the time comes, Macbeth sneaks into Duncan’s room and stabs him to death.
After Malcolm and Donalbain accidentally implicate themselves by fleeing the danger they believe their father’s killer poses, Macbeth ascends to the throne. But he can’t be happy; guilt consumes him when he tries to sleep, and he sees imagined threats to his own reign around every corner during his waking hours. He eventually turns on Banquo, hiring killers to murder him and his son, but Banquo’s son escapes; the witches’ prophecy remains intact. This sends Macbeth into a panic, and he grows increasingly ruthless in his desperation to hold on to what he’s sold his soul to win. After much bloodshed, Macbeth has lost everything – his wife, his kingdom, his honor – and he’s finally taken out by one of his victims, a man whose entire family was slaughtered by killers hired by Macbeth.
You wouldn’t think such a man could possibly seem sympathetic, and you’d be right, at least at first. But the reason Macbeth has proven so unsettling throughout the ages is that, horrifying though it may seem, we can see ourselves making the same ugly choices in his shoes.
You may remember playing the “coin-flip” game with me a couple of months ago, where I basically asked you if you would rather accept a mediocre existence or risk losing everything in a desperate pursuit of glory. That really is the choice that’s posed to Macbeth. He has no children to carry on his family name, and he’s old enough that, with his promotion to Thane of Cawdor, he’s basically advanced as far as a man of his station can. He has some land, he has a wife, and absolutely nothing left to hope for in the future. What’s left for him but to decline and die?
To stay within the analogy of the coin-flip game, Macbeth’s basically a 7, maybe an 8 on a good day, but rapidly approaching 6 – and once he gets to 6, he’s never rising again. When the witches make their prophecy, two new outcomes open themselves up: one a 10, the other a 0. Macbeth sees the 0, knows what it represents, acts reluctantly until the moment of truth…and then plunges his dagger into his king’s sleeping heart, because that 10 is still burning within his reach. We’re all zeroes someday; does Macbeth owe it to himself to seize an opportunity virtually none of use will ever know, no matter the cost?
Now, we condemn Macbeth because we find murder reprehensible – and we especially condemn him because he knows that he’s betraying Duncan. His conscience cries out against his crimes before he’s even finished committing them. It’s not passion that’s driving Macbeth – but what is? What is so important to Macbeth that drives him to kill his king? Is it his love for his wife? Is his decision made in the service of his own ambitions? And afterwards, why does he keep killing – first innocents, then friends, then families?
I think the offensiveness of Macbeth’s betrayal is amplified by his reluctance. If you’re going to make the wrong decision, you might as well believe in what you’re doing, right? We feel disdain for him, or are horrified by him.
But I wonder if we should feel some degree of compassion for Macbeth. Should we see him as a man caught between forces greater than himself – his wife’s passion, the hands of fate (it doesn’t seem like anyone’s capable of breaking the prophecy), the need to preserve his family’s future, and the opportunity Duncan presents him with by indulging his ambition? Should we note Macbeth’s inability to sleep or think clearly after his crimes, or feel sorrow as we watch the consequences of his choice unravel the entire tapestry of his life?
I think that the glimpses Shakespeare offers us into Macbeth’s mind provide us with some fascinating questions about the nature of betrayal and regret. There’s no doubt that Macbeth feels guilty, or that Macbeth hates himself for what he’s done and what he’s become; his misery and self-loathing is the source of the “Are we who we are or what we do?” question I asked you at the beginning of the semester.
We, like Macbeth, constantly make choices, consciously or not, that affect us and those around us. We adjust our stars on a daily basis, prioritizing some concerns while shunting others aside. (You can imagine how damaged Macbeth’s looks as we move from act to act.)
Most of the time, we try to make choices that benefit ourselves. We also try to make choices that don’t cause unnecessary harm, although this can be counteracted somewhat by a person’s laziness. But at times, we can behave in completely self-destructive ways; we make shortsighted decisions, or we compromise the moral standards that usually govern our behavior.
Yet there are aspects of ourselves that we value above all else, parts of our personality that we try to strengthen or display through our choices; these parts vary from person to person, but their importance is paramount. Perhaps your compassion is your most treasured trait; perhaps others among you value your honesty most highly, or your consistency, or your faithfulness. But even when we slip up, when we accidentally or intentionally compromise our morals, we hold these aspects as most inviolable.
Macbeth has paid for his crime by getting away with it. By killing Duncan, Macbeth has permanently destroyed everything that he claimed “made him a man” in the quote that starts this blog. In essence, Macbeth has murdered himself – mutilated his spirit until he became the Scar to Duncan’s Mufasa, writhing in agony with every wound he inflicts upon his inner self before hurting himself again.
His success brings him greater pain than failure ever could, and when the witches tell him early in Act IV that he can’t be killed by anyone “of woman born,” it’s as much a curse as a blessing. Now he’s indestructible; now he’s forced to live on endlessly with his guilt and shame, forced to confront a face in the mirror that no longer matches the twisted, ruined man behind it.
I read a lot about Bernard Madoff last year (if you haven’t, you should), and I can’t help but wonder if he, too, was ruined by his own initially successful crimes. There’s an old adage: “in for a penny, in for a pound,” and I think that, at some point, Madoff adopted that philosophy because the consequences of stopping became worse than the consequences of continuing. After all, once you’ve lost, say, two billion dollars, how can you stop? It’s horrifying to realize that Madoff’s greed destroyed so many lives, but I can understand it, in a weird way; he was so good at ripping people off that his success imprisoned him. Ironically enough, his sons’ “betrayal” – they informed the authorities about his scheme – freed him from the web he wove himself. Yes, he’s going down in history as a notorious criminal...but in an odd way, he’ll probably be freer in prison than he’s been in years.
I think that Macbeth’s actions constitute a moral Ponzi scheme – a bargain he struck with dark forces he could never escape. Like a man unable to pay what he’s promised, Macbeth is stretched too thin between too many contradictory commitments – to himself, his family, and the crown – until he’s torn apart on the rack of his own ambitions. Perhaps the sadness of it all is that Macbeth earns what he sought, but points out that "to be thus is nothing, / But to be safely thus"; he's earned a position, but is too afraid of the threats that now face him to enjoy it. He can never enjoy the throne - but if you can't enjoy being king, what's the point of holding office?
In order to hold onto the kingship, whether for himself or for his son, Macbeth feels he has to kill his enemies, either real or imagined - Duncan, Banquo, and Banquo’s son. But at some point, Macbeth starts killing because he has no other choice, just as Madoff couldn't have stopped his Ponzi scheme once it grew too big to control. For Macbeth, there’s no going back to the life he once led because the man who led it no longer exists. In Act III, Scene IV, he claims he is "in blood / Stepp'd in so far, that, should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er." In plain English, Macbeth says that he's soaked in the blood of his murders so thoroughly that he can't stop, that stopping dooms him; it's just as hard to go back, if not harder, than to keep killing and moving forward.
Macbeth wants to stop, but can’t – and with every murder, every fresh violation of his soul, he hurts and hates just a bit more, punishing himself more than any act of vengeance or justice ever could.
Macbeth, at least, can die. When he’s finally killed at play’s end, we don’t see him anymore. We don’t know whether Shakespeare imagined him burning eternally in Hell, or whether the Bard simply pictured Macbeth’s blackened soul fading away into nothingness.
The souls in Dante’s Inferno aren’t nearly so lucky. They’ve died, of course, but they’re doomed to chew their pain for an eternity. Some still behave defiantly – Capaneus, Vanni Fucci, etc. Many others, however, have come to accept that they earned their punishments through their actions: Ciacco’s gluttony, Vigne’s suicide, Nicholas’s simony, the Jovial Friars’ hypocrisy, even Montefeltro’s evil counsel.
I think it’s safe to say that none of them really thought the consequences of their actions would be so dire, just as Macbeth couldn’t possibly fathom how much destruction could result from the web spun in the wake of a single murder. (Neither could the band of angry Amideis that stabbed Buondelmonte, starting a war that lasted generations.) The fact that Dante’s Hell seems pretty well-populated indicates this; I’m not sure it would be nearly so well-stocked if more people had seen what Dante “sees” over the course of the journey. For that matter, I’m not sure it’s possible for mortals to understand what eternity implies. Nothing could possibly be worth eternal suffering.
What strikes me as particularly cruel, however, is that Dante’s Hell represents the long-term consequences of a bunch of short-term bets. Dante’s obviously saying that the bettors – the sinners – have betrayed God. But their betrayal cuts far deeper than that: they betrayed themselves.
All of the souls committed Violence Against Themselves, because they forsook a world, a life, a purpose that was theirs for the taking simply because they weren’t satisfied. They wanted more. They believed they needed more than an 8 or a 4 or a 5. And, at one point or another, all of them believed – even if said belief was delusional – that they could take a shot at a higher numeral…that they could flip the flipped coin over.
They, like Macbeth, like Scar, like Madoff, thought they could get away with something as long as they offered their honor, their dignity, their souls as collateral. When the bills came due, all were found wanting.
That fate terrifies me, honestly.
I don’t expect anyone to live like a saint. That includes saints themselves, to a certain extent. And it certainly pertains to me.
But I’ve spent my entire life – even when I was very young – trying to live my life as well as I can, and trying to figure out how to live my life well as my circumstances shift.
As I've grown older, I've tried to hone in on the things I think are necessary in order to live a good life without making my concept of "good living" as narrow as Dante's, and I've tried to abide by my conclusions.
I have tried to be curious.
I have tried to be honorable.
I have tried to be consistent.
I have tried to be enthusiastic.
I have tried to remember to love.
I have tried to be compassionate.
I have tried to learn from my mistakes.
I have tried to live without hurting others.
I have tried to be a good son, a good brother, a good friend, and a good teacher.
I have tried to be myself.
Sometimes, I have failed.
But I keep trying, every single day of my life, because I don’t want to have an empty wallet when my bill arrives.
Macbeth. Madoff. Simba. Scar. The sinners we loathe and the sinners we weep for in the nine Circles of Dante’s terrifying inferno.
All remind us of a single, simple lesson.
Be careful what you wish for; it may cost more than you think.
+ Can bad people still feel guilty for what they have done – or is regret, the sound of a conscience crying out, a privilege for the good and good alone? Does the remorse the souls seem to feel in Dante’s Inferno count for anything?
+ Really, what is betrayal – what possibly drives a human being to commit it? Is it laziness, heartlessness, or something more? How are human beings capable of such actions – of violating themselves by violating others?
+ Moreover, what are guilt and remorse? If we’re able to betray each other, how are human beings able to experience such sickening, crippling feelings afterwards, or even after making innocent mistakes?
+ Have you ever gotten what you wanted, only to regret it afterward?
+ Should we "wish" more carefully - pursue smaller ambitions for fear of overreaching - or should we risk becoming Macbeth as we reach for the stars?
+ Will the cost of pursuing your dream ultimately prove too great for you?
+ What determines how far you are willing to go in your pursuit of what you want?
+ Do guilt and remorse really matter to you? Can you accept an apology?
+ Can you sympathize with the Macbeths of the world? With the Madoffs?
+ Do we have a responsibility to try to live our lives well, or are our lives ours and ours alone, to do with as we see fit?
+ Could you do what Madoff's sons did - turn on their father in the name of the greater good?
+ Are you so loyal to some that you're willing to ignore the damage they do?
+ Do you worry about your bill?
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Guilt is ones ability to feel sorrow for an action they have done. Guilt at its finnest is when you begin to feel your conscience poke at you like that of an annoying younger sibling. You begin to feel like if you do not release your feelings you may just explode. Not only does guilt make you worried, but it causes friction with others because you cannot interact sincerly with others. The feelings that accompany guilt can cause people to become completely different in terms of behavior and personality. People become increasingly edgier and tend to snap more often because they always feel like they are being pressured by the situations they are in.
Betrayal is a whole nother animal. When one person causes harm to another not physically but with actions such as a girlfriend who cheats on their boyfriend people tend to feel the most hurt because they cannot fathom the idea of someone they love hurting them so badly. The truly difficult part is understanding how and why people do those things. At the time it must be due to selfisih inhibitiants to try and get something better but to understand it is the challenge. The person who commits the action must be in a state of mind where they just feel that they can do nothing wrong, they feel as though their actions can cause no damage and they are free of guilt. Those feelings last for a short while but eventually will tear at you like the demons in the eight circle of Dante's Inferno.
In life sometimes people believe that what they desire to obtain is truly what is best for them when that is far from the truth. Many times I know personally I have had challenges with my parents where I have expressed myself and told them to not talk to me or just leave me alone. Really I never wanted them to leave me alone I just was so upset that I just did not want to hear it but when I think about it I do not know where I would be if I did not have my parents in my life. I think that without them to support me or to tell me when my behavior is unacceptable is something that although at times can be a hassel and a nusance, in all actuality, its the best thing for me. So to anyone who decides to read this you should consider that although at times we may think that if our parents were not around or would just leave us alone our lives would be much easier, think again. Truly think of how much they do for you and understand that even though we may feel that we could do without them at times just know that our parents have our best interest in all the decisions they make and that they can be our most valued supporters if we let them.
I believe that guilt and remorse are strictly human qualities. Lions don’t feel guilty after killing antelopes. Yet, humans feel guilt at killing other humans. I believe this is because humans have grown lax with their laidback lifestyle. While animals hunt for their very survival, humans do so mostly for the pleasure of it. We no longer have to hunt for our dinner, we just have to go and buy it from the market. As a result of this lifestyle, we have gained this crippling guilt towards killing other beings.
Of course, I – as probably everyone else – have felt regret at some of the things that I have done, although on many of these occasions, I have gotten what I wanted. Multiple times, I have seen something I really wanted. Similarly, I have thought multiple times that I would die if I did not get it. So I would slip hints at my parents. Eventually, if I succeeded at getting what I desired, I realized that I did not really want it. This is when I feel remorse for what I have done. For wasting money on something I did not really need.
What is betrayal, and what drives it? Looking back at all the sins we’ve covered, I kept tracing them back to a common cause: human selfishness. This flaw can be connected in some way to virtually every sin in Hell, usually because people are always chasing their own selfish interests. Sometimes, they’re so intent on getting them that they’re willing to hurt others or even themselves as they go about their chase. This is why they end up in Hell (or the Vestibule). For example, the opportunists only ever sought whatever was best for them, so they are forever punished. The gluttons’ insatiable appetites show human beings’ instinct to always want more, more, more. Even further in Hell in the eighth circle, you see sinners who corrupted and devastated religion, politics, and human relationships, almost certainly to benefit themselves. Thus, betrayal is surely a result of human selfishness; it is probably the worst form of it. When people are willing to do anything to get what they want, including hurting the people that trust and care about them, they’re placed in the ninth and final circle of Hell because they’ve reached the lowest of the low.
I know that as one miniscule human forced to live among all the other beings in the world, I definitely have a responsibility to try and live my life well. The things I do in my life will inevitably affect others. No matter how much we try to seclude ourselves from the outside world and from contact with others, we can never completely do so. So if we always live solely for ourselves, chances are we’re ignoring the people around us and how we influence them. This is when you end up hurting others, therefore sinning. Once again, sins are a result of human selfishness. We all have an obligation to live responsibly and with others in mind, because we’re definitely not alone on this planet.
There is an invisible line separating good people from bad ones, but the same line can never be drawn the by two people, for three reasons. The first reason is that we all have different morals/beliefs. For example, Dante believes that not believing in god is worse than being wrathful. I believe that being wrathful is worse than not believing in god, but neither of us are wrong. The other reasons why we can never physically draw the line is because there are too many ways to do an action, and there are to many possible outcomes from that action. For example, if someone where to offer me candy I could handle this in many different ways: I could accept the offer, I could say no, I could run, I could kick, I could do anything else recommended by counselors. The outcomes of each action can vary so much that any of them could be a good or bad choice.
The way I decided whether kicking (or anything else done) is justifiable is to look at what made me do it. I kicked the guy because I was threatened, so I consider it justifiable, even if that guy was just being kind. If someone robbed a liquor store to get money for food, I would consider it wrong but still justifiable as long as he feels guilty. If he feels guilty, I would even feel sympathy. If he doesn't, that means he thinks robbing a liquor store is ok. If it were me hungry and moneyless how far I would be willing to go for food ends at harming others. I'd probably just beg. For me it's not the ends justifies the means, it's the means justifies the ends.
6th period Henry
I can definitely accept an apology and sympathize with the Madoffs of the world. But that’s also a very, very stupid thing to do. In today’s world, true remorse is something of a fairy tale. Recently, Maurice Clemmons, a repeat offender/criminal, killed four officers in Washington State before being found and shot by police. Mike Huckabee granted clemency to Clemmons years earlier, and he took all the blame for the incident. Was that fair? I probably would’ve done the same thing if I were in Huckabee’s shoes, but why is it that sympathizing with people like Clemmons such a bad idea? Though the Madoffs and the Clemmons of the world may show (or in the latter’s case, pretend to show) remorse, people who really believe in these sinners end up nothing more than fools. All governors and the President grant clemency to many, many criminals each year, so is it really wrong to believe in the power of guilt and remorse?
It’s not wrong. It’s undoubtedly right. But society has made it wrong. Lies, fraud, and just about everything from the Eighth Circle ends up on the news everyday (not to mention other sins!), and we are swayed into being paranoid. Trusting people is something we are taught not to do. After all, if we live in a society where every Thanksgiving weekend, we see a news story about a man slaughtering his family, how can trust anybody? Every other sensationalized news story is about a Jon and Kate Gosselin or a Tiger Woods, so not only has it become hard to find trust, it has also become easy to betray trust.
Madoff’s sons turned their father in despite the trust he put in them. Could I do the same? Yes. Would I do the same? The guilt and remorse I would feel if I kept silent about it would probably push me to do what Madoff’s sons did. Although this guilt may be sincere (unlike Clemmons’s), it’s still wrong to hand over a father’s life. Heck, they’re probably eligible for Circle 9, Round 1.
Sometimes good people do bad things because they are misled by unjust motivation. At that time, that motivation might seem like a good idea since it is only seen through one person’s perspective. For example, a poor father needs money to feed his family. During his time of need, the quickest way to prevent his family from starving to death is to steal money. A couple of hundred probably would not do any harm to the man he is stealing from; anyways, he needs the money more than the man probably does. So, the father steals a few hundreds to feed his family and provide a temporary shelter. However, after his gain, he realized that the man he stole from has a family of five, where he only has a family of three. He also learned that the money was the man’s life savings, in which he was saving up for his child’s upcoming surgery.
It is natural for the father to feel some guilt and regret because he honestly did not need that much money. He could have only taken twenty dollars, which is enough to feed his family. He also could have stolen from someone else, or he could have tried getting a job. If only we could know what our regrets would be earlier, we could have thought of alternative ways to get what we needed without harming others. But since we are caught in a tight situation, we only think of ways to lessen our own pain as quickly as possible. These people are not bad people, just people who made a bad choice. People lose themselves when facing a crisis. If the father was not greedy and took more than he needed, he could have lessened his guilt.
Almost no one will intentionally cause any unnecessary harm on a total stranger. People do evils because they will benefit from them in some way. There are always exceptions to the rule, psychopaths and such, but people are nice to themselves first, friends second, and strangers third. Different people place more or less significance on themselves, but I personally don’t consider someone bad until their own benefits are equal to or less than their victim’s loss. For example if I killed Joe to take his lunch I would be a bad person but if a person acts like Aladdin “gotta eat to live, gotta steal to eat, otherwise we’d get along” then the vendor only loses a single piece of bread while Aladdin is getting another day of life, Aladdin isn’t being evil he’s just taking care of himself. One reason that people do evil things is because they don’t fully understand what the cost is. If a rich man took Aladdin’s stolen bread for example he probably didn’t realize that Aladdin is going to starve without his bread.
Betrayal is something that doesn’t occur without motive very often. To betray someone the betrayer needs to have some massive motivator, usually revenge, power, a fortune, or love (I’d categorize anyone with a lesser motive insane, and very few trust the insane). To take a persons life for anything less than your own is still evil. You can’t place a material price on a man’s life. The people that betray others are giving up their souls, and unless truly have no feelings, they will feel the guilt and pain from the betrayal for the rest of their lives (poetic justice would be nice here to have every traitor be betrayed).
I have always gotten something I wanted but realized that I really did not have to spend so much for it. It is not exactly regret, but I guess that is how people would describe it as. Getting something which we wanted, but never get a chance to use is not what regret is to me. I do regret at times, but I do not think people should waste their time regretting something, because it has already been done. There is nothing more you can do about it, so why waste time regretting? Every time I get things I want but then does not benefit me in the long run, I would just remember how I felt when I first got what I wanted and there would never be a regret feeling.
I think that everyone can live life the way they see is the best for them. We have no right to say how other people should do in their lives. As long as it does not obstruct justice or get in ways of other people, everyone should be able to live a life they want to live. Just because someone who is an environmental activist that helps to sustain the environment does not mean everyone in the world should have to be too. People have different standards for themselves and they should be able to live up only to their set standards.
I don't know if it is loyalty that makes someone ignore the damage they caused or is it love. But I guess loyalty is also part of love...Anyway I think people chose to ignore the damage others have done because they rather believe and see the good side of a person than to know that he or she is not prefect. Personally I am willing to ignore the damages some people do because I do not think those damages are that big of a deal. Also if that person means a lot to me I would also ignore the damages they have done.
Sometimes I walk as if I am blind
Looking for a wall to lean on, an ear to understand
That I get what I did was wrong
And I know these words cant take back what I did
But I need someone to listen, to get it, to just not judge
For without that ear, without that judgeless position
the guilt silence brings into me will damage me so
and the remorse will embrace me into a snake's squeeze
And after that, no more will I be able to live with myself
Guilt and remorse do matter to me... to an extent. I am a person who feels guilt pretty easily, and hurting someone close to me makes me feel more remorse than anything else. I can accept an apology, but a good deal of time its not without difficulty. It depends on what the apology is for, and how deeply it affects me. If it leaves but a tiny scratch, I have a tendancy to forgive them easily, but if I really get hurt by it, it could take me a while, and on occasion I find myself keeping a distance even when I do forgive them.
I consider myself an extremely loyal person. Taking this into consideration, I dont think I would be able to completely ignore another's wrong doing. I will take it into consideration, and I would accept the person, in their whole. I am not sure that I would be loyal enough to completely ignore someones damage build up. In my opinion, that would be completely ignorant, because that would turn into idolizing the person for someone they are not.
Human emotion has many things that drive us to do the things we do. For instance, if we steal things that do not belong to us we may or may not feel guilty of our actions. I think that in order to feel guilty for what you have you need to make a bond with that person. This connection is created when you think of a person as a human being that exists rather than an object that stands in your way of your goal. This connection is created when someone is recognized as a person. Whenever we buy something new and replace an old worn out object we do not feel regret, but if we replaced that object with a human being then guilt will show.
As I'm reading about wishes and wants, and the feelings of regret that plague people afterward, I begin to flash back on an old anime I used to watch as a kid. It was called Doraemon and the basic story line was about a robot cat from the future who returns to the past (our present) to help his owner's grandfather (a failing/"bad" student) with his life using cool gadgets that he can pull from out of his pockets. Each episode followed more or less the same pattern: the kid needs a gadget and begs Doraemon for it, who will either relinquish it or hold it back, in which case, the kid figures out a way to "borrow" it. When he tries to use it, the consequences are usually disastrous or unfavorable for him. It was an anime for little kids; inevitably, it would be filled to the brim with moral and life lessons.
For example, an episode I can remember right now is the one where they want more food and use this eye-dropper like gadget that drips a liquid onto a piece of food. After thirty minutes or so, the food will increase by one more quantity. (ie, 1 apple becomes 2, 2 to 4, 4 to 8, and so on). I have a foggy memory of the way it ended, but it had to do with the fact that the amount of food added up to the point where it was too much. The only way to negate the effects of the gadget was to eat all the affected food; unfortunately, they had already eaten too much and could not consume more. Thus the amount of food continued to pile and pile, teaching the moral of "never wanting more than you need." At the same time, I think this episode (and any other one for that matter) is a perfect representation of the last line of this blog, "Be careful what you wish for; it may cost more than you think."
As I lived my life over the years, I often find myself thinking back to various Doraemon episodes and thinking, "Do I really want this? Do I really need that?" I would remember the terrible consequences of the kid's actions and told myself, "If I'm going to end up regretting this later, what's the point of carrying this out?" To me, I think of guilt and remorse as fantasies of what should have happened as opposed to what does happen in reality. It's an impossible goal, but most people do want to be perfect to the best of their ability. Making mistakes, even simple ones that can be easily overlooked, are a blatant sign, almost like a slap-in-the-face, that we are not perfect beings. And we never will be. We just don't like it when we're reminded of our flaws, and that's where the guilt and remorse comes flooding in.
I think that remorse should count as something because as long as someone regrets what he/she had done, I believe they can redeem themselves. They can redeem themselves because they know what they did was wrong by feeling remorseful therefore they are able to make up for it by doing something else. Now when it comes to Dante's Inferno however, having remorse shouldn't matter because they're already in Hell, why should feeling remorseful help them in any way? Feeling remorseful does nothing in Hell mainly because you cannot get out of Hell; it's not as if someone who is in Hell start to feel remorseful, they are able to get out of Hell and into Heaven. No, it doesn't work that way, you are still stuck in Hell even though you feel remorseful. There's no point to feel remorse in Hell it's not like people can even see you’re remorseful. The only people who can see your remorsefulness are other sinners who could probably care less about you. What I'm trying to say is that feeling remorseful in life has a point because at least then you can redeem yourself. Feeling remorseful in Hell does nothing, because you can't redeem yourself and you're in Hell already, can't get out, and so why try?
Yes, I have regretted many things I've gotten. Most of the things I regret having are the toys and games I so desperately wanted and gotten when I was little. When I was little, I wanted all the toys, all the games, and anything that looked fun. I didn't care how much money my parents had, all I knew was that I wanted that toy or game. And when I got what I wanted, I would be happy. I would play with it all the time for the next few days then throw it aside and forget about it. I would then seek out a new toy or game that I wanted and the whole cycle would start over again. Not until I grew out of the 'toy' stage did I realize and regret that I had asked my parents for all those toys. Then I would start feeling bad because I had to sometimes thro a tantrum in order to get those toys and that probably forced them to buy those toys. Now I don't even play with them anymore, I can't believe how much I had wasted and now having realized that regret ever forcing my parents to buy those toys for me. I probably didn't regret it then but I sure regret it now.
Define Irony: Andrew Byrne spends the day looking for his Lion King video, only to realize that Mr. Feraco would quote the movie in the blog.
Betrayal is going against what others who trust you expect or need you to do. A human commits betrayal because of self preservation. We do what we need for ourselves. Except when acting for two or more parties, no act of betrayal happens along with an act of selflessness.
Guilt and remorse are the conscience saying “I told you so.” An act of betrayal should go against what your conscience tells you. If it were not so, then no one would feel bad for a committing these acts.
I do not believe that we should ever dream smaller. You just have to keep your dreams in check, In order to make sure that you don’t run others over in your path to a 9 or 10
I am not willing to hurt others in the process of trying to get what I want. I try to watch my steps, treading lightly, as it were.
I accept apologies, with sincerity. I try to put myself in others’ shoes when doing so. Self preservation is the main drive of most humans. It is also the reason for most regret. [As John Hammond once said,] “I don’t blame people for their mistakes, but I do ask that they pay for them.”
I do not worry about my bill. Sorry to once again bring religion into this, but, these are philosophical questions. My philosophy is through religion. Mathew 6:25-26 says to not worry; that the Lord provides. God does not only provide in life, but in death as well. If you follow his law to the best of your ability, and believe in the teaching of the bible, you are free. Free from sin and guilt. You are provided for in the afterlife.
That irony part at the start made me laugh so hard!
Despite the fact that I think I would turn on my father in the name of the greater good, I’m not sure if I'd have the heart to do so. First of all, I can’t even imagine my father doing something like as bad as Madoff because I know my father is a great man with great intentions. But, if I had to imagine him doing something similar to Bernard Madoff, I think that, because he is my father, I would try to ignore the issue as much as possible until I couldn’t take it anymore. In response to the question of if I’m willing ignore the damage he does, I believe that I am. Unless the sins being done are things that physically injure another human, I can probably delay turning my father in. I don’t think that people can be sure of how they will act in a certain situation. For example, someone may tell you that he/she would turn their father in as soon as possible, however, they may not consider the fortune and lifestyle they would lose - or maybe their greediness would get in the way of them telling the truth. It all depends on how you react while you’re in the situation.
The ultimate factor that determines how far you are willing to go in your pursuit of what you want is, ironically, how much you want it. For example (this one’s a little corny), I truly feel satisfied when I put a smile on someone’s face, and usually, if someone is feeling down and not in the mood to laugh at my hilarious jokes, I go a step further and try to make him/her laugh by doing/saying something stupid. The reason why? Like I said, I’m happy when I make others happy, and so my dedication to turning someone’s frown upside down forces me to go above and beyond the norm by telling a dumb joke to make them laugh. In the words of Winston Churchill, “We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls.” Ultimately, ones dedication to a certain goal determines how far one is willing to go in order to reach that goal.
When I was young, I constantly misbehaved and caused some discomfort within other people. I craved many toys and bicycles, even those “Yu-Gi-Oh” cards lying in the store front window. Well, except for a few toys here and there, I got each and every one of the items I requested for. After acquiring these toys, I would set out to play with them, to achieve that instant gratification idea mentioned in the topic of psychology. I would not share these toys, bringing immediate stares from my parents. At these moments, I would feel instant regret in the sense that I have let my parents down. My parents expected me to be a child who would share with other people. My parents spent all that money and when they give me that look of defeat, I just want to give back the toys to them.
Thinking back to my childhood events, I realized that I did not even take a cent out of my pocket to buy these “toys”. In the present, I still feel like these events reoccur, only that they are a bit different. A couple years back in seventh grade, I was a big Kobe Bryant fan (I still am to this day) and kept talking about how I wanted to get a poster of him to hang on my bedroom wall. My friends did not seem to mind, in fact, they were also huge fans of the “Black Mamba”. A couple of days before school let down, I decided to buy a present for my friend. When the time came to exchange presents, I gave him mind. And this friend, he gave me a poster of Kobe Bryant. At that moment I was utterly euphoric, giving him my biggest thanks. Then, we parted off in the distance to classes. A few hours later, I felt instant regret. Well, all I gave him for Christmas was a pencil box with a new lead pencil inside. I knew he did not need stationery materials, and yet I still gave them to him. My friend gave me what I kept asking for, and I regret giving him something he did not need.
The truth of the matter is that every time I receive something, many thoughts go through my mind. It is like a high and a low; I feel really euphoric, then I just regret it.
There are many examples in my life where I can recall regretting something I have bought. Most often, my regrets come in the form of buyer's remorse, buying products or stuff that I don't really need. When I was little I used to buy cool, nifty toys that I wanted, though my parents often disagreed. Thankfully, my parents refused to buy most of it for me, which would have amounted in a ridiculous amount of unused waste. Though recently, with the advent of the internet and websites like SlickDeals, many of us are pressured to buy items that we don't necessarily need but end up buying. However, regret does not only come in the form of materialistic goods, as they can often be a result of the actions we commit. The most common case would be studying for tests, where I either procrastinate and end up reading for 10 minutes or choosing not to study at all.
As a result, I believe that we should wish more carefully, to pursue our goals and desires step by step. It is important for our goals and desires not to overshadow everything else in life, so that we do not lose track of everything else surrounding us. I find that whatever I pursuit in my life, whether it be goals or desires, are important motivators for my actions. However, I pursue my desires and goals with the intention of not hurting or not taking advantage of anyone. Past that point, I see little in pursuing a goal where it ultimately benefits myself. As such, I cannot sympathize with the Macbeths or the Madoffs in this world, who take advantage of innocent people in this world making an honest living. I find that greed eventually corrupts us and that is not a territory I will cross in order to achieve my goals and/or desires.
Betrayal comes in many different views and people have different opinions on what the term truly means. After being in English class for about two and a half months now and everything that we’re studying I believe that the word betrayal only has one meaning which is human greed or in other words selfishness. Currently everything that we have covered in Dante’s Inferno everyone should be sent to hell because everyone in this world is always trying to help themselves in their own self-interest and people are willing to hurt anyone or does something secretive in order achieve their goal. Guilt and remorse are words that are ones ability to feel sorrow for the false actions that they have done. Guilt is almost as if it was your own parents nagging you to better in school or your boss commanding you to do every job in the office correctly when you only have two hands. Now if human beings betrayed each other and started to feel guilt or remorse for it begins as tree starts out small and petite but, as time progresses it begins to get bigger to the point where you cant handle it anymore and begin to start shaving off branch by branch to condense its size.
Before living in Arcadia I lived in a community of South Rowland Heights during this time my family was living on welfare and always have the repo agency come take something from our house. One day walking with my mom to the local grocery store I saw a Power Ranger little tricycle and boy all I wanted in my lifetime was that tricycle. The price was set at one hundred dollars and that price towards my family was about 2 weeks worth of food. Instead my mother went her way and bought it without my father consent. Right when I arrived at home dinner was great I had a tricycle to ride but, the week after that when I arrived at the dinner table nothing more than just chicken noodle and soup and instant noodle. My family was mature about it and enjoyed the meal but, that feeling of chills ran all over my body. I felt nothing more than just regret for my mom to buy me that tricycle. In the world today until I’m a father I’ll probably have many challenges to overcome but, in the end I learn to live the way that I want it to be because it’s your own life no one else’s. Everyday I worry about the bill for my family and personally at this age I pay for my own texting rates but, I guess that isn’t as bad than paying for car insurance maybe later in life I’ll learn.
There are times occasionally where I reflect on how I am today compared to the person that I was several weeks, months, or years ago. Just recently, I wrote in my Xanga about how I felt everyone needs time to reflect upon themselves and their feelings – whether it is anger, confusion, happiness, love, anxiety or events that happened that made one realize something that they did not know before about themselves.
In my Life Management class, our teacher had us take the tests on Naiviance to help us find our personality type and what career suits our personality. In my Office Technology class, I have been researching on the career that I hope to accomplish: accounting. Whenever I think about college, I become afraid. However, since last month, I do not feel afraid of thinking about college and what I want to have as a career. By researching about accounting, I discovered that to become a Certified Public Accountant, one must take a four-sectioned test – a test in which only about one third of test takers pass.
Pursuing this career has been something that I have thinking about for quite a while. I am willing to put in my best to try to achieve this career first by researching (which I am still doing) and by working hard through community college to transfer to either Cal State LA or to San Francisco State University.
I believe that what determines or pushes us to pursue what we want is how important the thing is to us. A child who wants a certain toy may see it as something that they want and need, and so therefore they ask (and may beg) their parents (or one of them) to buy the toy for them. Although the child may not understand that the toy is not something that they need, they view what they want as important things.
Have you ever wanted something that you'd die for? Or maybe do anything to get your hands on it? In the past, I had numerous times where I experienced that desire, that focus that you've never felt before. Yet, I had that feeling of disatisfication after, not because I didn't like the thing that I recieved, but rather, the pain in the butt that I was towards my parents. When I was in the 6th grade, I wanted a laptop, all to myself. Who would ever even think about giving a laptop to a 11 year old for him or herself? I didn't have that mindset as a 11 year old though, so I was a nag, a annoying little brat that kept whining and begging for a laptop. I never really looked into my parents' eyes and see the pain and the craziness they had to put up with until a few weeks after. There I realized how much of an annoying child I've been to have my way and started to regret the crying and the annoying sounds I've spouted out. Ultimately, you don't really see who you affect in the process of attaining what you desire the most, because then you become brainwashed and so focused on that certain thing, that you block everything else out completely.
The feeling of remorse is not a brightening factor in your everyday life, the guilt that accompanies it doesn't make it any better, but rather makes it even harder to contain within. These two factors matter to me in such a way because of the fact that I have experienced these two numerous times in these past 17 years. I always get this shock through my body whenever I run these thoughts through my head, thoughts that make me as a person feel bad. If I know that I'm at fault or I did something wrong then I get that self-shock that runs within my body and it's like someone's stabbing me from the inside out. Apologies can be simple, to complicated. If the apology is legit and committed, then I would accept it, it really depends on what the apology is for. It can be from a simple sorry to a high definition, extreme sorry package with the flowers, the hugs, and more.
Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person realizes or believes that they have violated a moral standard, and is responsible for that violation. When I say responsible for that violation, I meant everybody, even the bad guys. Guilt and remorse are closely related concepts. And even in Dante's Inferno, Dante felt remorse for not having response an immediate answer to the question of Cavalcante, which led Cavalcate to believe that his son Guido was no longer alive. Although guilt and remorse sometimes matter to me, but I accept apology. I believed everybody has done something wrong in his or her life including myself. And Most of people felt regret and wish to go back in time to fix the errors. But really, what actually drives people to commit the wrongdoings?
Betrayal considered to be the worst sin in Dante's Inferno. And it's closely related to fraud which Dante scared the most. Immoderate desire is what drives people commit betrayal. People all have desires and when something people wanted badly placed in front of them, we tend to be overpowered by desire. But most people will realize their mistakes afterward. What Madoff's sons did - turn on their father in the name of the greater good is an perfect example of betryal. And I would never do something like that.
I considered pursuing one's dream a positive thing, because it can toughen up people. But we should have a limit about how far we are willing to go in our pursuit of what we want. I believe We are responsible of our lives and what we are doing right now (working hard to go to college) , is trying to make our life better.
I don't know how long this response is going to be. I wrote some stuff the other day and realized how bad of a writer I am. Let's see what I can come up with though.
Well, the first question that my mind presented an answer for was the one asking if I have ever gotten what I wanted only to regret it later. This has happened more than a few times to me. I remember one instance in particular, when I was around 6 or 7, I had gotten a particular toy. It had some sort of character attached to something else, but I decided that I wanted the two separate(which would break the toy) so I could enjoy the character. My parents both told me that I wouldn't be happy with that, and they told me not to do it. But in the end, they gave in and separated the character from his little attachment. After all of ten seconds in which I was pleased with my newly broken toy, I looked at it again and realized I liked it better when it was intact, and began to regret breaking it. I also almost immediately stopped playing with that toy. It just goes to show that what we want isn't always really what we want. The real trick is figuring out exactly what it is that you do want.
Next, as for whether or not we should take huge risks and either end up getting what you want or destroying yourself, or taking little risks and never really getting anywhere in life, I think that we should take as many leaps as we can in order to get ahead, but only so long as those leaps don't crush people as a side effect. I may be hypocritical here, seeing as I take almost no risks, (not even ones I want to take) and still encourage others to do so, but I really do believe that everyone should take risks, even when I myself don't. Do as I say, not as I do. Macbeth did not hold enough value in himself, about himself, to believe that he could do something worth doing without destroying his friends and family, and ended up taking unnecessary risks and destroying his personality, the essence of himself, in the process. The obvious, simple, easy solution to this is one of two things: one, don't take risks at all, thus avoiding the problem altogether, or, second, take risks, but don't do anything that would harm someone. Obviously the first one is pointless, simply because virtually no one would want to live a life like that. The second one however, is actually difficult to do. Taking a risk means that there is a possibility of someone getting hurt, whether it be yourself or someone else, and often times people are hurt even if a risk is taken and it succeeds. It's very difficult to judge what effects taking certain risks will have, whether you're considering the positive or the negative. Certain risks have very obvious outcomes, such as, trying a new food. Scenario 1: You try a new food, and you hate it. The food is consumed by someone else or thrown out. No harm done (except maybe to your taste buds). Scenario 2: You try a new food, and love it. That's it. Scenario 3: You try a new food, and love it so much that you consume the rest of the world's supply of that food, causing mass panic in some countries, who mistaking the hysteria for that of being bombed, launch that country's nuclear warheads, and the other superpowers respond in turn. The result? Nuclear apocalypse. It's also a worst case scenario. Like, worst worst case. But it still has a relatively simple cause and effect. Eat the world's supply of a particular food, and you will destroy the world (let that be a lesson to you). However, many risks aren't so clear cut, meaning it doesn't boil down as easily. In a normal event, A+B=C. You do one thing, another thing happens, and you have the resolved problem. Some risks aren't as easy to distinguish though, with the equation probably looking more like (A+B)C=D, assuming C=1 and B=not dying. I don't know. I hate math. I have no idea why I'm using math to make an analogy. My main point is that while you might be able to see what happens for you if you take a risk and it succeeds just as you had hoped, then you have to be aware of those little details, little details like, in Macbeth, killing your best friend. You know, nothing big. If you don't notice these details, that's when you'll end up like Macbeth. That's when you'll lose yourself. It's like seeing a tree, and not noticing the branches, or the leaves on those branches, seeing only the biggest part, the trunk, even when there are so many branches and leaves that it can obscure the trunk. A+B=Fail.
Guilt and remorse are a huge part of my being. Every day, I feel some sort of guilt and remorse, petty little bits of guilt and remorse when I don't hold the door for someone, or accidentally bump into someone. I feel guilt about pretty much everything. I blame a lot of stuff on myself, mainly because it's much easier to blame myself rather than blame others, because others won't accept blame willingly. I don't enjoy conflict, and anytime I don't stop conflict I blame myself, on top of feeling awful about any conflict I cause. As for accepting an apology, I trust people implicitly (sometimes stupidly) and totally, so usually I just brush off whatever it is people are apologizing for and accept their apology right away. Giving apologies is usually harder, because, underneath my shy exterior, I am relatively arrogant (much to my dismay. I hate arrogance) and believe myself to be in the right in a conflict, regardless of what my rational mind would tell me had I not been part of the conflict. Eventually I calm down enough to realize whether or not I was right or wrong, and then, even if I was wrong, I go apologize. As I said before, I do not like conflicts, so I end them in whatever way possible, even at my own expense. I've found that I am very expendable. I'd rather hurt myself to help others than hurt others to help myself.
Oh. I wrote a good amount anyways. Now if only it was any good...
I believe that bad people can still feel guilty about their actions. All people have a conscience at one point; people's conscience serves to grow less and less as one commits a sin many times. I remember that when I first lied, my conscience bothered me. Over time, my conscience bothered me less and less for lying. All people do have a conscience and know what is right or wrong. It just depends how much people commit crimes. The souls that feel remorse in Dante's Inferno is too late and meaningless. Even if they feel genuine remorse, they have to pay for their mistake by suffering. Also, if they feel remorse, it does not change the fact that the offense has already been made, and they cannot do anything to change it.
Betrayal is an action of purposely violating someone's trust in you. What drives a person to commit this deed is something I am not really sure about. It could do with gaining more power, using them for your own personal benefit, and many other reasons. Human beings are capable of actions because we all have an evil nature. We just control ourselves not to act on impulse. Guilt and remorse are the only emotions that help keep us in check. They could also be our punishment for our violations. I could probably forgive anyone if they exhibit enough guilt and remorse. I try to empathize with people when I have a conflict with someone. I really want people to forget their mistakes, move on, and improve their lives. if forgiving them helps them move on, I will accept their apology. However, if someone keeps making the same mistakes many times, I would not forgive them.
We have to keep ourselves in check. We do have to reach our goals through our own hard work. We cannot fall into the temptation and be like Macbeth. If we do fall into temptation, power will corrupt us. We should work hard for our dreams, but we should never compromise ourselves or other people just for power. Resorting to immoral methods does show that you want to go really far in your goal, but the prize is not worth it. What comes around will eventually come back and haunt you. I really hope that I will not be so caught up with reaching my goal that I resort to immoral means and forget things that are important.
Betrayal is the act of turning against someone who has complete and total trust in you. In order to betray someone you must fully be in yourself, the fraudulent probably felt some kind of guilty ping at the actions they committed, but the betrayers took that ping of guilt and used it as a weapon in itself, they became ultimately cold (literally). I always found that betrayal was a truly horrific sin against your fellow man, even if it’s as simple as going to the movies with your significant other when you should be helping a group that’s depending on you. Sometimes betrayal gets lost under murder and other crimes that people report and can physically see. Betrayal goes much deeper than that it stems into the soul.
Betrayal is honestly a fully self serving action, to betray literally means to go against ones fellow people in order to commit or have someone else commit an evil action. This can also be created by one’s own self. You can believe thing and have your body betray you or you could betray it. I have had friends who did things that betrayed their own body and in return heir body fought back. A common example of the chaos that betrayal creates.
You can look at history and even the inferno to show the greatest histories of betrayal, from Judas to Hitler, all of them led the world or someone they cared about believe one thing while they plotted another thing. The whole point of betrayal is to uses someone’s trust against them. During the depression we thought Hitler was restoring Germany justly, when really he raised it to power by killing off millions of Jews. Caesar trusted his two friends to support him, but they only betrayed him by stabbing him on the steps of the very institute they all shared.
I believe betrayal is created from ones desire for chaos, I believe in all of us there is a little devil of sorts. Sometimes we need to upset the established order , we just do it in different ways, sometimes it’s with revolution , the changing of a system to favor a new and hopefully better one. Betrayal is the same change but in order to benefit one’s own interests. Judas believed money was worth more that social change, so he betrayed his teacher. Brutes believed that Caesar was to powerful and he sought that same power. The change of revolution is not in itself bad, just as hell is not a bad place; it’s those that cause chaotic revolution and civil war that corrupt that idea, just as sinner’s corrupt hell.
People resort to betrayal when they see the outcome as something worth compromising values or morals. Nobody betrays someone only to the extent of being "heartless" or "evil", but personal gain. Betrayal serves our selfishness only, and this is why humans are able to commit it. In Lion King, Scar did not kill Mufasa because he was hungry. He wanted to rule, to be king of the territory. Most animals do not develop personal grudges against those who take their mates. Even Dante believes that betrayal can only be committed by humans. Ultimately, betrayal is a combination of our primal urges - power, recognition - with our human reason to satiate those urges.
All people are capable of remorse. I believe that one's conscience can be stronger than another’s, or at least feel more compassion for others. Everyone has a conscience, but some choose to drown out its warnings. Ultimately it does not count for anything. Much like the sinners of Dante's Inferno, all their shame will not send them up to heaven. Maybe if the intent of the misdeed was good, then at least I would differentiate it as good from evil. But after the misdeed is done, the feelings that follow do not matter. In life, a murderer is punished by death, even if he cries a river of tears afterwards. Guilt is capable, but it does not carry any value in t he end.
Everyone can have the feeling of regret. Regret means to dislike your past acts and behaviors, and the acts can be good or bad. For example, Bush, who I considered to be a very bad man, regrets his belligerent attitudes and policies during his interview with The Times magazine on June 11, 2008. Joseph Paul Franklin, a horrible serial killer that killed 9 people, regrets that “some of the victims survived from his attack.” These examples showed that even bad people can have regrets. The remorse that the souls feel in the inferno counts for nothing since God, in Dante’s vision, does not forgive people and will give the accurate punishment no matter how regretful the sinner is.
Betrayal is usually turning on the side that you are on, or breaking an agreement or trust between others. Most of the time, we betray someone for our own benefits. The American government betrayed the trust of Japanese-Americans and sent them to concentration camps even though some of their relatives were fighting the war for us. FDR claimed that by doing so, the country will benefit from the increase in national security. We often believe at the time we betrayed someone that betrayal is necessary in the situation, but often regret it afterwards. Just as we’re capable of fraud, we’re definitely capable of betrayal.
I can accept an apology the first time if the person doesn’t do whatever bothers me, or else it will be pointless forgiving someone that can’t learn from their own mistakes. Making someone feel guilty is not my “thing”, but I like to see them learn from what they did wrong. It’s part of living our lives and respecting one another life as we live it. We shouldn’t be fighting about whose life is better than ours. Because we all live for one thing and that is to make an impact on the world so it itself can progress from what we’ve done. If we don’t pay attention to others in the world and don’t try to help them it would be just a world of greed. No one should live their own life and not respond to others torment or discord.
I’m a loyal friend, but some things I can’t forgive like betrayal. If someone betrays me more than once I will leave them and find someone else worth of my friendship. I’m not say that my friendship is a significant to a valuable gem, but valuable enough to have and should be treated with respect. If I am not respected by you, you will not earn my respect. But I guess if you betray me that mean I probably need to change my ways because I was either too annoying or a hassle. People usually betray someone for being a pain or just don’t like them to begin with, that why some people try to change what they are. Even a bad person can feel guilty that his action cause someone’s death or pain, it applies to everyone. Everyone regrets at least one thing they did in their life and wants to go back to the past and change it.
There is no such thing as a bad person. Bad people are just listed as bad for a certain event or decision they have made. Nobody is fully bad, or else they would be doing something bad every minute, killing everybody in their way. Bad people do have consciences and they definately feel guilt, only for certain things. They do have guilt and regret because they are humans and all humans have these inside of them. Now betrayal is something totally different. Betrayal is caused by selfishness. If you want something for yourself, you tend to betray those who are in your way or make it harder for you to reach your goal. If I want to be popular, and I hang out with loser friends, I would betray those loser friends so that I would not be seen with them and hopefully get popular. I'm not saying I do this, it is just a simple example, like Judas from the Bible. He betrayed Jesus for money, just so that he can be rich.
In my eyes, humans are capable of doing anything they set their minds to. Betrayal is something so easy for a human to commit. Guilt is something that a human cannot stop, making us capable to it. I have gotten many things in my life, and regreted it after, many times. The regret feeling was more like guilt. I wanted something so bad that I forced my parents to get it, and they eventually did, and I felt guilty right away. Loyalty is a great quality to have, but it never stops me from seeing the damage somebody does to me. I am not loyal enough to anybody to just let things that can harm me, go. That would honostly be stupid. That is like saying, you are so loyal to a friend that if he pulled a gun on you, or robbed you, you would let it go.
Betrayal is the worst, ugliest action one can ever do to others. Having the ability to earn others' trusts, befriend or build a stable relationship with them, then completely destroy it. Simply put, betrayal is the opposite of the foundation of any kinds of relationship – trust. By betraying others, one is not only hurting the others' feelings , but also worsening his morals and corrupting his values. Imagine how you will feel if your loved one trades you for his or her own benefits. This may never happen to you because it is not so common in our community for someone to participate in such a greedy action. But what if it is like the end of the world, while everyone panics, trying to protect him or herself? What if the only way for your loved one to survive is to trade you, in exchange for food? The two reasons people would betray others are greediness and selfishness. One wants more and one wants to keep everything. Since betraying others is absolutely arduous – hurting the ones one loves thus hurting himself, only the hunger for properties can lead human beings to commit such ugly crime. Macbeth betrayed the king because he would have the world under him had he killed him. It was dreadful, but it was also understandable. Some people have more greediness inside them, just like some have more laziness and some compassion. Now, it is easy to confuse them with the pimps, those who sell others to benefit themselves. The main difference between the pimps and the betrayers is the relationship. Pimps can sell whomever without feeling guilty because they often do not even know whom they are selling. But the betrayers know who they are betraying, who they are hurting and why they are doing so. Greed is the foundation of betrayal, the reason why one would turn his back from his loved ones.
Guilt and remorse mean a lot to me. Without them, I would have never realized how much I valued the relationship between me and my dad. Years ago, I typed a blog post on my personal blog on how much I hated my father because I did not think he was good enough. I cussed, used disrespectful words (and basically every single insulting, ugly words one can think of) to insult him on that post, not expecting he would have read it, especially since he did not know how to function a computer. One day, he came home, asked if I wanted to talk with him. Curious, I asked why. He patted my shoulder, said one of my uncles have read the post and told him about it. I literally ran to my room, locked the door, cried for at least an hour. It was guilt that led me crying for hours. My dad and I, unlike other fathers and daughters, are really shy to each other. We do not talk much, shop much, see each other much nor do we have fun much. I have remorse for embarrassed him in such an idiotic way. Really, now that when I think of it again, I just want to slap myself for doing so. Since my dad and I still do not talk much, I sometimes wonder if he still thinks I feel the same way about him. I can not use a word to explain how remorse I felt or have been feeling because that blog is and forever will be an invisible wall between us. Most of the time, I can accept apologies and forgive others because I have not yet been disgraced. However, I can not forgive myself for ruining the relationship between me and my dad. Even if I can one day, I will never forget how much I have hurt him, and how much I have regretted about it. Every time when I think about it, I remind myself how idiotic, irresponsible I was and how forgiving, bearable he has been.
The only way I believe one can feel guilt is when that person (whether it's yourself or some one else) doubts his or her action or inaction pertaining to a certain matter. When it comes to who committed the action/ inaction, it just does not pertain to a "bad" person or a "good" person. I believe it doesn't matter who committed the action, I think the only thing that matters is whether that person realizes the action/ inaction they have done. In Dante's Inferno, some sinners see the error in their ways and understand why they are there. Others just show no awareness on what they've done in their lives, but rather remain ignorant about everything happening around them and continue to defy Divine Power.
I try to live my life without regrets, but even I slip up once in a while because I would probably do something I normally would not. Yet some of the regret I feel does not always come from me. If my friends do something that betrays my trust, I feel regret for not seeing this betrayal happen sooner. As for what I think betrayal is, I define it as an act of a person going against the trust of a friend or person that it personally close to that person. I believe the only reason a person would choose to betray someone else is to further themselves at something they want. The main emotion I associate this act with is selfishness or avarice. It's just a constant need to for one's self to be better at the expense of another. Before reading Dante's Inferno, I always wondered how humans can be so evil when it comes to our natures. Some are philanthropic, while others are self-centered. Human reason can take us only so far without corrupting our being. Those that have betrayed someone or themselves at one time or another exceed this human reason and venture into the corruption. In the beginning it may feel that a betrayal is at the expensive of the other person, but when you choose to think about the bigger picture, it's the one that instilled the act, that truly suffers. They will have to live with this burden for the rest of their lives unless they acknowledge what they did and redeem themselves through some sort of virtuous action.
Bad people still feel guilty for what they have done. It may be hard for the bad people to admit it, but no one is born evil. Everyone has a good heart at least one point in their life. The good do not only experience regret, but the difference between the two is that the bad people feel regret forever. An ordinary person only feels regret for a certain amount of time until their problem is solved. A criminal, on the other hand, spends their life in a jail cell regretting their crime that caused him/her to be sent to prison. The remorse the souls have does not count for anything because it’s too late. They probably would not feel remorse if they were not punished in Dante’s hell. If nothing happened to them, their sins and fraud most likely would have continued.
Like most fifth graders, I was a victim of the Yu-Gi-Oh phenomenon. My dad and I visited the local card store weekly purchasing a couple packs at a time. His warnings went in one ear and out the other. Eventually, all my hard work paid off as I created the ultimate deck of cards. I became the top dog of my school. As I graduated from elementary school, Yu-Gi-Oh began to bore me. No one played it anymore and my hormones kicked in. Girls were not attracted to boys that sat around all break playing cards. I put those cards aside for years and found them when I moved freshman year. Even though the cards provided me great memories, I regret most of my purchases. My parent’s hard earned money was invested into cards that ended up in a box under my bed. I wasted Christmas and birthday presents. Yu-Gi-Oh has to be one of my biggest regrets.
In elementary school my class used to hang our backpacks and belongings on hooks that were provided right outside our classrooms. On any given day there would be rows of colorful backpacks lining the school’s halls so that every student’s possessions could be clearly seen. One day on my way to the bathroom I had spotted a black full faced BMX helmet (the ones that look like motorcycle racing helmets). I was fixated on that helmet. I had never seen one up close and I desperately wanted one. I had no idea wear to find one and I didn’t know who to ask to find one, so I did what many other naïve elementary school kids would do. I took it. I sprinted away with the helmet and hid it so I could retrieve it after school without getting caught. I was overjoyed when I got home, but through my excitement I had completely forgotten how my family would react. They bombarded me with questions. Where did you get that? Whose is it? Did you steal it? I hadn’t thought that far ahead and eventually I just lied and said I found it on the sidewalk. Finding no owners for the helmet, my parents just let the whole thing slide and let me keep it. However, I quickly learned what the consequences could have been had I gotten caught stealing. The seriousness with which my parents reprimanded me for taking the helmet was enough to steer me straight, although technically I was never proven guilty. The guilt was too much to take and since then I haven’t even thought about stealing. On top of that, the helmet didn’t even fit. I still regret taking that helmet today, but ultimately I think that experience has made me a better person.
Given my experiences, I definitely can accept an apology. I was on the receiving end of guilt and remorse, so I know first hand how it can steer people straight. In fact, I remember reading an article several weeks ago that dealt with the same thing. A man had tried to rob a store when the cashier pulled out a 9 mm handgun and was on the brink of firing when the man starting crying, revealing that he was only trying to feed his family. The cashier let him go and even gave him fifty dollars and a loaf of bread. I have no idea how he could have that sort of passion, but several months later, the man who had tried to rob the cashier wrote a letter to the cashier. In the letter it turns out after facing death point blank, he turned his life around. He converted to Islam, found a consistent job even in these economic circumstances, and eventually began helping the community. My point isn’t that his circumstances justified his actions; rather, he did end up learning his lesson and if that is the end result of guilt and remorse, they definitely matter and I can surely accept their apology.
I cannot really think of the definition of betrayal. Sure, we understand the basic of betrayal. We take the person's advantage and use them for our interests. A horrid type of betrayal could be that the betrayer forms a bond and destroy everything the victim cherish little by little, till he or she can never stand up with no hope. What drives to someone to do such acts is questionable. It could be that people take pleasure to crush their hope and feel that they're dominant above others. People can betrayed on others by greed or gains, but another thing is that people can betray someone based on revenge, or hatred. I think most people do it not by accident, but also by revenge as well. When you see most revenge movies, there's sometimes a betrayal involved.
As for guilt, villains might never felt guilty for their actions. If they believe they were right, then they feel no remorse for their actions. Like when Voldemort face with Harry at the end of the book. Harry asked Voldemort to show remorse. Voldemort obviously said no, so villians never felt guilt. Some bad people can feel remorse if they actually were good. When they commit a bad act, they feel the weight of the guilt, since they understood what's right and wrong.
Human beings are separated from the rest of the animal kingdom by their power to reason. Dante affirms these differences in the Eighth Circle, recognizing that Fraud is the worst sin committable because only humans can corrupt reason. That said, we do not leave behind our animal instinct; and as such are cursed to live with two conflicting parts of our minds: our desire for sustenance, pleasure, and self-preservation (our instinct), and our desire for morality, knowledge, and love (our reason). These two minds are what cause regret. Like the competing legislative, executive, and judicial branches that characterize the American government, our mind is at constant tension with itself. The government must balance individual liberty with the common good of the community, sometimes sacrificing one to achieve the other. This sacrifice, in hindsight, is not always the most moral choice, as evidenced by the tolerance of slavery for the South’s economic gain. This gap in human reason causes one mind to win over the other, and leads humans to logically commit acts that, when reexamined after careful usage of both minds instead of one, can appear to be illogical. In other words, causing regret.
I believe guilt and remorse are justified feelings because people are imperfect, just like government. Article V of the Constitution establishes the amendment process, the Founders’ acknowledgement of the imperfection of the document. They recognized that government, like people, will make bad choices, but must be given the chance to make sure those bad decisions are not made twice. However, some people may be beyond tolerable imperfection, such as the most heinous of criminals, and must be punished accordingly. The Constitution similarly allows for the removal of officials through the impeachment process. It is this balance of removal and redemption that makes our founding document so revolutionary, and it is The Inferno’s lack thereof that, I would argue, makes it flawed. Dante’s epic is structured around renouncing sin and understanding human nature, but it fails in the latter. Almost every circle in Hell features a sinner who, in life, did many great and good things, but, in death, are punished for slight sins they committed. I think a crucial aspect of human nature is our ability to instantaneously adapt and to learn, a skill that takes animals sometimes generations to ingrain into instinct. If we can learn, we can be redeemed. Dante claims to be learning about sin, but too many times do we see a lack of learning and, in its place, intolerance and vengeance on his enemies. The Inferno is not flawed because it is not liberal, but because it strikes no balance, and does not even attempt to do so.
In my opinion, betrayal is the abandonment of morality in your decisions, as we learn from early childhood what is and is not acceptable in society. We learn the value of truth and honesty, the concept of “treating others as you want to be treated”, and issues of the like. Betrayal is the stark contrast of these ideals, as they lack the human reason they are centered around. Why do we betray those we love, those we don’t, and even ourselves? Everything comes back to the fact that we, as humans, are a selfish kind; ultimately, we live for ourselves. We do anything to get ahead, as long as they are not too ridiculous or illegal, even if it betrays the very principle human good is based on. Unlike animals, we were given the gift of reason, and although they may “betray” others, it is without intent; they do not seek betrayal or revenge. However as humans, it is not uncommon for us to take the “easy” way out. We are inclined to find a shortcut when we are in a hurry and expected to lie when it is crucial to our survival. So what makes one situation an exception to another? Is one form of betrayal any better than another? In the ninth circle, Dante shows no distinction.
I pride myself in being a strong, headstrong, independent individual, one that is never afraid to speak up when done wrong. And honestly, I put up a good front; the whole “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me” idea works for me. Of course, it is not without any truth, as I honestly don’t care what most people think of me, since I am comfortable with myself and my way of living. But deep down, that insecurity still exists; deep down, there is a place so vulnerable to being hurt by those that I love. Anyone that knows me personally knows of my undying loyalty to those I love, and I constantly let myself get used and go underappreciated, simply because I would rather have them betray me than remove them from my life entirely. This is one of my biggest faults, and it might just be the hardest to admit. Although some of these relationships are ultimately detrimental to my wellbeing, I fight to preserve them, perhaps in hope that things will change, that one day I will be repaid for all my efforts. However, that’s a whole other story…
Aaaaaand, I have just dissected my very character and faults on a blog for an English class. How embarrassing.
Betrayal is to break someone’s trust and backstab that person for your own benefits. The closer you are with the victims, the more it hurts them. Dante separates betrayal into two categories in the Inferno; the sinner’s relationship with his victim determines the degree of his sin. I agree with him because people generally don’t expect a family member, or a close friend, to betray them. Two years ago I found out that my so-called best friend stole my Ipod and it really broke my heart. I was angry not because I lost the Ipod, but because it was my best friend who stole it. After that incident, I had no trust in her and our friendship just rapidly faded away. When people are betrayed, the most upsetting thing is not the loss of material stuff, but the loss of a close friend. The worst thing about betrayal is that it breaks the trust among people. Trust is the foundation of every relationship and without it, the relationship will end in failure.
There are many causes that can drive people to commit betrayal. Most of the time, betrayal is the direct consequence of selfishness. People betray their friends or families for their own benefits. Macbeth killed Duncan so he can become the king; the panderers betrayed their family members to gain power; the grafters betrayed their moral values for money and power. People betray in order to gain something they want, something they assume is more worthwhile than the trust they have developed through many years of friendship and intimacy. I do not think betrayal is caused by laziness or heartlessness, it is by selfishness alone. Sinners put their own desires before others and they are willing to fulfill their desires even if it means hurting their loved ones. Betrayers do not care about other people’s feelings and emotions. Human beings are capable of betrayal because we all have a selfish nature. We always put our own interests first and some of us would hurt others to do so.
Doesn’t matter whether people are good or bad, as humans, we always have things we regret doing in life, for the sake of others or our self. Maybe sometimes we know we have been driven away from good, yet can’t help the secret desire in us. We want and crave for more than we can handle in life, later bring the human mind into a sadness and regrettable state. Yet it’s these feelings of regret and guilt that makes what everyone is, human. Wild animals do not feel sad when killing for pray because it’s the circle of life, yet human being have feeling which makes us different from animals.
I can never ignore or run away from these feeling of guilt and remorse when I hurt someone’s feeling or took something dear to them. The people who have felt regret isn’t bad, it’s their action that they want revenge turn them into vicious beings. Just like I don’t want to hurt others, I also wish others would not hurt me. But sometimes we can’t exactly protect ourselves from being hurt, maybe we have to learn how to take it and change the surroundings and ourselves. There’s nothing in life that I am positive about doing, because every time I do something I have to think, is there any consequence for my action. I know I regret doing something before, but I can’t go back and change it, all I can do is look to the future and prepare myself for the future obstacles that I will face.
Life is short, yet it contains memories
All the emotions I’ve felt in life
I’ve learn to take them in
For good or worst in life
I’ll face what’s ahead
Because to me
Based on my own experience, betrayal is something that once a person commits, he/she will not be able to take back the trust that a certain person had. A friend of mine had been very loyal to me, for what I knew. I shared him my secrets and personal problems in order to feel comforted. One day, we had a little argument but it made him feel anger towards which made him tell one of our classmates about my "secret." It was very embarassing. Because of his action, I lost all my trust on him and never talked to him anymore as my revenge. Sometimes, people are not able to control themselves because of emotional reasons. In this case, I think that the anger that he was feeling towards me made him spill out the beans in my class.
In this world of trial, no person is created perfect; everyone is created a sinner. Sometimes, we, as normal human beings, do bad things towards others even though we mean it or not. I have been guilty of something that I have done wrong and to other people, my friends, relatives, and loved ones, it is forgivable. With this environment that I grew up with, I was and I am able to set aside in mind guilt and remorse for I knew that every person also makes mistakes. Having been able to be guilty most of the time results in an apology. To me, an apology is an action that should always be forgiven; the action before that though, no matter how serious it is, should never be forgotten. This belief that I have been living through makes me the person that I am today, that is why I accept every person's apology.
Betrayal to me is being lied to by someone I trust. Once the trust is broken, it will take a long time for them to regain the trust; sometimes they might never be able to in certain cases. I believe betrayal is driven by many factors. It can be an action of heartlessness, selfishness, or it can simply be a careless mistake that we all make from time to time. Sometimes people think they are doing the right thing without realizing that it meant betrayal for others. However, often times greed and a thoughtless, selfish desire cause us to commit the crime. We might think that some betrayal only benefits ourselves and will not damage others, but in many ways others are usually affected by our action. If we cheat on a test, our selfish desire tells us that we will receive a good grade, not realizing we are wasting the teacher’s effort and energy to teach us and destroying our own chance of knowledge. Those who cheats on their significant other often only seeks a thrill, most of them never stays with the person they cheat with and often wants to go back to their significant other. We are often blinded by the benefits we see that we fail to see the long term effect of our action, therefore our greed is the main cause of betrayal.
Guilt and remorse do matter to me in many ways. Like everyone else, I often make mistakes and sometimes would feel guilty of my actions. These guilt and remorse encourage me to learn from my mistakes and change the way I am. If I do not feel guilt or remorse, I would probably think that my action was not a big deal and that no one, including me, was harm in anyway during the process. I think apology is a very important first step of trying to better yourself. However, although I forgive people, I rarely forget what they had done. I have less trust in them than I used to, and I would try not to be too close with them to avoid getting hurt again. While I give them a chance to redeem themselves and regain my trust again, it would be very hard for them to do so since my guard for them will be much higher than before. But if they truly are sorry, it should not be hard for them to regain my trust again.
Regret is what we get after we committed something wrong. Bad people are most likely to feel regrets rather than guilt because a person would most likely to look backwards and see what they rather not had done. Betrayal is when you hurt someone or yourself. These people are capable of doing this because they desire something for their own good without caring if they go against others or themselves. When we aim for thing, we should aim high but consider the damage that we create along side our decisions. I had achieved many different things but ending regretting them. When I was a child, I always wanted to become a grown up but now that I am getting older I regret about it. In the past I tend to think that living in grown up life would be exiting and easy but now I rather think is hard due that you are alone without anyone taking care of you. Another thing when I was a child is that I tend to buy lots of video games but ending up not playing them after a while. This made me think that wasted money and my parent's time.
While trying to achieve our goals, we should be careful about it and try not to harm anyone along the way. What determiner how far you are willing to go depends in your passion for the subject. If you love so much watching Pokemon then you will try to buy the cards. The down side about this is that sometimes we go to far and hurt someone during the process. This creates guilt and remorse and sometimes we end up rejecting what we for so long tried to reach or achieve. Guilt and remorse really matters for me. When I feel guilt I cannot continue unless I redeem myself. I would forgive people only when I see that they are truly sorry.
After bad people keep doing bad deeds for awhile, they start to lose their senses of right and wrong. They become used to the lifestyle that their conscience doesn't affect their actions. However, once they regret what they have done wrong, their conscience comes back to them. Everyone can be good people if they choose to be since they are all given the equal opportunities to do good and evil deeds. Betrayal is something more than just laziness and heartlessness because it is the evil intention of hurting someone. Humans are capable of betrayal because they know what they want, and sometimes they don't care how they get it, even if it means hurting other people. If we didn't have the desire to want so many things in life, we would have a less chance of betraying others.
We should strive to achieve our dreams that are out of our reach in order to accomplish more in life. The inner drive inside of all of us is ultimately what makes us willing to get what we want. Anyone who wants something really bad will do whatever it takes to get that. However, there is a limit to getting what we want in life. We cannot just deliberately sabotage someone's reputation for our own benefits. We are still obligated to do the morally right thing in life since that is more important than getting what we want. People can get what they want without hurting anyone because the moral character is the most important asset to them.
People can feel guilty when they did something that hurts their reputation, and they regret. However, bad people, like murderers and burglars, feel less guilty about their wrongdoings. The wrongdoings they do are serious, and they sometime do it constantly. Their reckless behavior shows them that they do not care and never regret. They enjoy doing all these terrible, awful things. If they ever get imprisoned, they would still give an attitude of not taking in any guilt. The actions they do are based in their dreams, whether they want to pursue it or not. I personally do not want to pursue too greatly, because that would mean gaining too much power and falling into my own guilt. I would not want to damage my reputation, I have an innocent heart. We can wish to pursue small ambitions, but sometimes those small ambitions grow into big ambitions which cause more problems. In the Inferno, the remorse the souls "feel" do not count for anything; sinners can cry out the sound of conscience when they are being punished, but that does not do them any good. All they do is wallow in Hell and carry their malevolent deeds.
Guilt would be feeling the shame and pain for whatever wrongdoing while remorse is having a heavy amount of suffering which is hard to regret. Betrayal is never a good thing. People can choose to betray each other and pay a high price, unless if they are innocent enough of not to. If people do not have heart, then they have no way of looking within themselves, nor can they look at other people's feelings. People violate others or themselves when they attempt to rid of laziness. An apology would not be enough, because what if you hurt someone or fake yourself. The price would be far greater than just saying sorry. People would not even feel sorry for themselves of the wrong things they had done. We all have responsibilities in our lives. I can still be loyal if the people whom I am loyal to do not cause me a great deal of damage.
Bad people can feel guilty for what they have done and they can repent. Everybody has some kind of good conscience. Betrayal is when you promise something and never keep that promise instead they manipulate, tear apart, hurt, and bother all of your friends. Betrayal to me hurts me the most. Somebody who doesn’t trust me. Somebody who manipulates and only thinks about themselves somebody who betrays you is somebody who it was a mistake getting together with or being friends with. Betrayal maybe a friend that harms them or a friend who threatens your friends or a person that hurts you purposefully when you care about them. To me that is what betrayal is.
Everyone can always get what they want. I mostly all the time get what I want. One example is my x girlfriend. I got my way and I started going with her and then it all backfired the next week when something very scary happened, changing my life forever. After that week I totally regretted getting into a relationship with my x. I was like why am I in this relationship but I was too scared to get out of it. Everyone told me to get out of it but I never listened because I thought nobody would understand. But overall I was hurting myself and still regretting my decision and my choices. I am so glad I got out of that relationship.
I can accept an apology when there is a good reason to accept. The person has to prove to me that he/she is really sorry and that he/she has truly changed for the better. Guilt and remorse to matter to me but I can always move on. I am definitely willing to ignore the fact somebody is hurting me just to help them. But I am so glad I have friend to pull me out of those times. Many times I get to involved with something either a girl friend or a hobby. I am loyal enough to tare myself apart from the inside out for some people so when people take advantage of me and use me I can’t tell because I am such a loyal friend. When everything happened with my x girlfriend I didn’t tell until after all of my friends helped me to get out of the relationship how much my x was manipulating me and using me for her own personal gain and not for the relationship at all.
Over all this blog really hit home for me. I can’t really explain all I have been through recently in my life but it really hurt me and my friends really pulled me out of a rut that I had dug myself into.
In our world, everyone have the ability to feel guilty for the things they done and it usually the bad things. For example, a son kills his parent for their money but ending up regretting it when he realize that there are more important stuff than money. It usually a punishment that makes a person regret for what they have done. Another example would be like a government employee accepting bribes, then get send to jail realizing that he didn’t do his duty as a government; to protect the people. The remorse in Dante’s inferno doesn’t count for anything because they can’t make up for their mistakes. Only punishments they can full realize what they done wrong.
For my dream, I can go as far as my limitations can allow me. If it requires for me to hurt someone else in the process of achieving my dream, I won’t let myself do it. To me, dreams are what motivate a person and without them, there is no point in life. If people really want to be something, I think that person can go beyond his abilities to achieve it. It really depends on the person and what kind of dream or desire you want. An evil person may get what he or she want through committing crimes. A person with a good moral value might choose a longer way to achieve his desires and goals as long as it done the right way. It really all depend on the person pursuing the dream.
As I read about Macbeth and the rest of this blog yesterday, it reminded me of the video with Charles Manson and his assisting murderer girls video the same day. Similar to how Lady Macbeth is manipulative, having been able to "plays on Macbeth’s insecurities and weaknesses until she convinces him to kill his king", Charles Manson has the same manipulative counseling on the teenage/college girls into killing innocent people in order to become just like Manson, a "God". Some can argue he is a Seducer but when he dies in his office-spaced maximum security prison, he will be hidden within the flames of his own conscience with tongues of flames. Just like Macbeth who grew old and realized his guilt and sin he had produced, losing everything he had, these woman who have grown 25years later (and to this day still in prison) have become critical of their actions, thus realizing the waste of life. They wanted to become like Manson, living somewhat with the standards of Epicurus (pleasure - peace, passion, and painless living). This leads near the beginning of Feraco's blog, as he exclaims "the reason Macbeth has proven so unsettling throughout the ages is that, horrifying though it may seem, we can see ourselves making the same ugly choices in his shoes." So Yes, the choice for power can cause us to make bad choices.
Can I turn in a familial member for the greater good? Yeah, of course I can. WE can. Yet, in my perspective there are two ways it would go out. Would I have known they would be changed for the better, or would I have to decide to choose to turn them in only thinking about the good of society rather the relationship with family. If I had known he/she were to be turned in in the end pleased with their consequence and having developed form their actions, then of course by all means, take them down in history. At one point or so, we mentioned whether we would rather be forgotten or be remembered negatively...just like Ciacco right? Well, this isn't the same basis. Your next to kin in this situation is brought down in history as a cheat and fraud, a Madoff. It would rather be more critical to be a righteous man than to feel the pain and remorse, all the while acting upon it continuously forever more. Therefore, their "'betrayal' " isn't conceived as one in anyone's eyes except the those who remain deceitful.
Loyalty is an issue. Not quite sure whether mentioned by Feraco, but as everyone knows, it's rough to gain trust and easy to lose it. I see myself being very trustworthy, which probably overrules my behavior of being socialistic and an wanting companion, seeing myself as one of the Sullen certain times. Cycling back towards trust, I'm very trust-giving, so therefore sometimes it is difficult to ignore damages. Then again, although I myself may be loyal to those who have done damage, it does not indicate they too, would feel the same way. Even love is a part of loyalty and somehow when rejected, people find a way to forgive, but not forget. Based on that circumstance, I'm willing to ignore damages, because if loyalty is looked after them, then there should be no hesitation.
"What's done is done" doesn't quite work out right, but somehow "Life goes on" seems to. You can't sow back the events that have occurred, whether tragic or jovial it may be, but life does go on. You can push it aside, but what's done still remains.
We are driven by selfish desires. It’s sad, but true. We are innately selfish, power-hungry animals. It’s demonstrated in literatures – from Greek tragedies to Shakespeare’s plays. Because of our selfish nature, we tend to betray people just to get what we want. Whether we’d be Scar from “The Lion King” or just a Regina George, I believe that everyone is tempted with the choice of betraying someone in order to get ahead. And, of course, after betraying someone, one will feel guilty. Guilt is the sorrow one feels after committing a sin. It is the feeling of regret and even heartbreak. It is what makes people sleepless and unfocused. Guilt can even be a powerful tool in manipulating someone’s decision. Sometimes, feeling guilty gives someone a second change to change or ask for forgiveness. One who does not feel guilt, of course, is damned forever.
Personally, I can accept an apology and sympathize with those who commit selfish acts. Even in the Bible, humans and even Jesus are constantly tempted with power so it is understandable that some people may fail to overcome temptations. Madoff just couldn’t withstand his hunger for money, and at the end, it ultimately became his downfall. I know it’s wrong to steal money from people; but when one is tempted by millions of dollars, it is understandable why he would steal it despite it being completely morally wrong. These temptations can only be battled with one’s own will to be focused with the matter at hand. What is wrong? What is right? Every choice we make in our lives pave a road for us. We either choose to go down the dangerous path or the moral one. Society, of course, tells us what is wrong and what is right.
I do not believe that our lives are our own because we are constantly surrounded by people. If we were to live lives in our own way, the world would be in chaos. There would be no rules and – even shown in “Lord of the Flies” – we would become monsters. That is why there is always a limit in pursuing our dreams. We all have goals; nevertheless, we still have to consider the lives of those around us. We have to remember to be considerate of our families and friends. If we all hurt somebody just to reach our goal, then the goal is not worth much. Why? Because it’s cheating. The only way to determine whether or not we reached our goal, pristinely, is whether or not we did it the right way. Yes, there are people who still reach their goals by hurting others, but that is wrong. They gave into the temptation of taking the shortcut; therefore, committing a sin.
Betrayal is in reality very simple to explain when concerning humans. First off, from science’s point of view, the human body is designed with many automated functions to protect and benefit itself (AKA instincts). We blink when we see something coming towards our unprotected eyes, we cry in an attempt to wash out anything that does get in, we cough to clear our throats of undesired substances, our stomachs growl when we need food, and our throats dry when we need water. These functions are readily apparent, but the same rule applies for the processes in our minds. As with its physical counterparts, brain functions are also designed to benefit and protect the individual. For example, self-preservation is something that every human possesses to varying degrees, and it is meant to protect the individual from harm (To be exact, the frontal lobe of the human brain produces a chemical that drives the individual to fear harm to itself… or was it some other part of the brain... it’s been a long time since psychology). Therefore, it is not hard to understand why one might betray a friend in order to save oneself; the reason is simple and non-complex: human instinct.
Now that I have given my humble opinion on why humans are able to commit betrayal, guilt and remorse, the emotions that often follow acts of betrayal, are next. More often than not, guilt and remorse are only felt because of a moral code that the individual possesses. While some may argue that morals and instincts do not go hand-in-hand, the two can be sort of mixed and mashed. It is true that human instincts and emotions can never be completely be covered by morals, but there are certain religious groups today that stress this very goal, and in doing so, successfully replace (almost) instincts with “moral instincts”. In an effort to find an example that everyone will be able to relate to, I won’t use a real life example but rather one from fiction. The Jedi Knights of the popular Star Wars series is an order based on ancient real-life ones. If you can recall, Anakin’s acceptance into the order was heavily debated because he was too old (he ended up slaughtering a good number of Jedi in the end so yea). A goal of the Jedi Order was to completely replace human instincts with moral ones; because of this, their students needed to be instructed beginning from a very early age—the younger they are, the more malleable they become. Therefore, human instincts can be dulled by morals but never completely erased. Drawing from this conclusion, the feelings of guilt and remorse are not 100% natural; a completely primal human being will have no such emotions.
+ Really, what is betrayal – what possibly drives a human being to commit it? Is it laziness, heartlessness, or something more? How are human beings capable of such actions – of violating themselves by violating others?
Betrayal is to use the love or trust from others and get benefit for oneself, in ways that others will not agree with or even against them. Many could drive people to commit betrayal, mostly is the selfishness and greed from human heart. Since they are self-fish, so they can use other for their own; they are greedy, so they cannot miss any chances to take.
+ Have you ever gotten what you wanted, only to regret it afterward?
+ Should we "wish" more carefully - pursue smaller ambitions for fear of overreaching - or should we risk becoming Macbeth as we reach for the stars?
+ What determines how far you are willing to go in your pursuit of what you want?
My last birthday in Hong Kong, my parent gave me money and let me chose the birthday cake I wanted. But there were too many favor, even I knew the Mango Cheese Cake was so good, but I decided to get something new. I chosen to get the Strawberry Black Forest, but the chocolate was too sweet and made the strawberry taste really sour. And now I cannot taste that Mango Cheese Cake anymore, since that bakery had sold to another person, also most of the staff were changed, so the cake will never taste the same again. And I am so regret that I did not pick what I knew was good and tried new favor, which was not that good. After this experience I do not pick risky decisions anymore. I only pursuit what I knew I can do, not what I think I can do.
+ Do we have a responsibility to try to live our lives well, or are our lives ours and ours alone, to do with as we see fit?
I wish we could live as what we see fit, but in reality it is not possible. Since we have to care about the people around as we care about ourselves. And everything we do in society can always affect other, so there are no me, but us in this world.
Betrayal is the action of breaking someone’s trust, as the betrayer demonstrates their infidelity and dishonesty. Sigmund Freud, psychologist who studied psychoanalysis, believed that the mind has three basic psychological structures: the id, the ego and the superego. The id is basic drives, which demands pleasure through instant gratification, paying no attention to laws, social customs, or the needs of others. However, the ego develops when our demands for instant gratification cannot be met, and we understand that in the real world we cannot always get what we want. It censors wild impulses of human nature as it senses improper impulses and tries to repress them. The third psychological structure, the superego, functions according to moral principle. The superego acts as the conscience and floods the ego with feelings of guilt and shame when we think or do something that society defines as wrong. Thus, at the root of human nature are selfish needs, irrational wishes, unacceptable desires, and immoral urges. Humans betray to get instant gratification, as they block out their moral consciousness. For example, a husband has an affair with another woman behind his wife’s back. We all, by nature, lust and are tempted, but have our egos and superegos to censor our actions. By wanting instant satisfaction, he cheats on his wife because he doesn’t listen to his moral values and principles. He betrays because he throws away his morals, values, and consciousness to get only what benefits him, without thinking about the consequences.
I believe as a friend, I have a responsibility to help them point out flaws and fix them so they can reach their true potential in life. I’m not so loyal to someone to ignore the damage they do to me or others. Our friends are a reflection of ourselves because humans tend to interact with people who have the same interests, likes, and dislikes in our quest to find connections with those around us. If a friend betrayed me, I wouldn’t consider he or she a good friend—and wouldn’t trust them anymore, no matter how close we used to be. If they lied to me once, it can begin a habit, and lying would become a normal pattern. In order to have a successful relationship, truth is at the basis. If there is no foundation for trust, a relationship can never grow because one is scared to open up, scared of looking vulnerable. Loyalty develops from trust, as you become committed to a person based on their trustworthiness to you.
The definition of “betrayal” is to be false or disloyal. Any physical or spiritual attractions would drive a human to commit betrayal as well. For instance, some people betray their best friends or family for the benefits of money, and some people betray their best man by the sexual seductions. For any advantages, people always have their own choices in order to contract either the benefits or the trust between people. Human are capable of violating themselves by violating others, because they would feel guilty while betraying others. Betraying is the other way to oppose their moral, people betray those who trust them in order to take the advantages for themselves. However, the life is fair; nobody could have all the benefits without sacrificing their feelings by against their morals. Therefore, they people will still their own feelings by hurting others.
Guilt and remorse are supposed to be the feeling of regret. When people feel guilty remorseful, they regret of what they ever did, and like to start things over. If people are able to betray each other, they will definitely experience crippling feelings afterwards. Betraying would break a man's heart; it makes a human not to trust anyone anymore. The trust would no longer exist in the world. Also, it would be a hard time to those people, even the time is unable to ease it; they will live in those memories untill they overcome it. However, people will eventually get it over because life still need to move on, no matter what changes.
Having someone believe that you're a good person and promise them something then going behind their backs and breaking that promise. This is what I think betrayal is. It is heartlessness and greed that leads a person to betray someone. People want something so badly that they'll do anything just to get their hands on it and after they have it they want more of it just like money and power. I'm not sure how humans are capable of doing these things. They probably don't care much about their life if they violate themselves. Betrayal is like someone who you've known you're whole life and one day decided to kill you for your money. The person who killed has no respect for themselves.
I believe that our lives are our lives and ours alone but some how it feels as if there's a responsibility thats being pushed on to us to live our lives well. Like I can't do what i really feel like doing because it'll ruin my future. When we go out and do something that we want to do there's always someone saying that, we don't have enough time or there's something more productive that we could be doing. Even if its just something simple like going out and relaxing, it seems almost impossible.
Guilt to me, I think it ruins my life because if I'm just following the crowd doing something that we're not really supposed to do, I wouldn't be able to do it because of how bad I'd feel afterward. Even if I'm just waiting for the person that's committing it I still feel bad. Apologies can be accepted but it really depends on how bad the situation was and what part the person played. Even if I can't really accept it, I'll accept it anyways but our relationship would be different than before the when the problem didn't happen.
Some bad people can feel guilty for what they have done. If you consider a bad person to be murderers and people who rob people and break into houses and cars. Those are the people who do not feel guilty for what they have done. I believe that these people constantly do this in order to make their lives better. But if you consider a bad person to cheat on only one test, then they can feel guilty for it. I do not think the remorse the souls in Dante's Inferno count because where was the remorse when they committed the crime? Where was any sympathy for the people that murderers killed while they where killing them.
Yes i have gotten something that i really wanted only to regret it afterward. During the summer my laptop broke so I was searching online for a new one. I came to the mac website and found myself on there for hours. I really wanted a mac. I wanted it so bad that I said I did not need anything else. So I paid for half and my paid the other half. As school started i realized, "Why can't I drive?" Asking my parents if we could start looking for a car, my parents reminded me that I got a new laptop.
When you guilt it means that you have betrayed or did something wrong. When I think about Dante’s inferno it’s about the souls betraying one another but they can feel no guilt in what they done. They are punished and all they can feel is pain. What drives them to do it is something more, what they do only happens because of how they were born to a different life. One example is like a ghetto area where [disreputable activities] and gang violence all affect the children that grew up in that area. The only reason they would go to school is because they would get free food at one school because it was rated for the top poverty students. Parents have a big impact for a child and having one parent murdered and the other out in the streets selling crack shows how there is a struggle in life. Sometimes the reason is to survive, to put food on the table is to do the impossible and go out and sell your self. Its either that or kill yourself.
Making mistakes in life. Sometimes I go feel guilty when I do something wrong and when I do I always wish that I can go back in time and choose the right choice. When people do crimes I see sometimes its sickening with rape murders and deaths go on I feel that those people are corrupted inside, they cant think right, sometimes I think why does it happen.
Guilt will never be a privilege only reserved for good. Everybody shares feels guilty when one committed any wrongdoings. Guilt is ones ability to reflect one’s false actions; and change oneself so he can become a better person. A more mature and trustable person than whom one was. Back in fifth grade i often play gameboys or other things with my classmates in school when the school had clearly told us not to. Back then I never took my teacher’s word serious, I’ve always thought it was a stupid rule. Now after many years, my actions make me feel stupid. School is a place for one to study, not for gaming. And even though it took me a long time, but I finally realize the importance or school.
Reach out for the stars; dream big! I’m certain that everybody would tell you this. My parents have always told me not to underestimate myself. I know what I’m capable of doing. Dream big merely gives one a motivation to achieve greatness. None of the great successors in our world ever dreamed small. George Washington and the others fought for the independence of our nation. He wanted to give people a peaceful and free country. Franklin D. Roosevelt ran four times for the United States President set on one goal, to lead his people back to the nations bright and shinny ages. Even when it cost his life; making him one of the most respected President of the nation. Martin Luther King Jr.’s I Have a Dream speech brought the nation into a new era. His dream of one day, the people will live under equality.
Guilt and conscience go hand in hand, but guilt only comes if you let it. Genuinely evil souls learn to ignore their conscience, but most human beings cannot. Selfish ambitions are the cause of betrayal; most people benefit turn away from people in order to benefit themselves and their desires. I always forgive people if they apologize because how can I expect to be forgiven if I cannot forgive others? Of course the damage they do will hurt me, and it will take me a while to get over it, but I will try my best to forgive them full heartedly.
I tend to hate spending money on food because I can spend $10 on a meal, but after thirty minutes or so, it’s gone. Yet, whenever I look at the savory food places right in front of me, I just have to buy it. After I eat I regret spending money on what I just consumed, and my feelings of regret begin.
I also tend to have low expectations on everything because when I have low expectations, I am less likely to be disappointed. Yet, I know that this is not a lifestyle I should pursue. We should always reach for the stars and pursue whatever dreams we hope for. My goals in life are to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I try to be on good terms with everyone just because I hate having “beef” with anyone.
There have been many occasions where I have gotten what I wanted, only to regret it afterward. When you want something, you think of all the positive things associated with it. When you buy a new car, you think of all the good things that come with it: comfortable leather seats, a great stereo system, awesome drivability, the new car smell. You don’t think about the car payments, high gas costs, or the maintenance associated with that car until after you sign that contract and drive your shiny new vehicle off the lot. Other than the obvious buyer’s remorse that I’ve faced on multiple occasions (luckily that’s what returns are for), there have been many moral situations in which I’ve regretted the outcome I desired. Yes, I can admit that I’ve cheated on a test. In the end, I might’ve passed the test. However, I just ended up having more trouble on the next test because I didn’t truly learn the material. Yes, I got the result I wanted, but I regretted not being able to have a firm grasp on the teachings for the next test and suffered for that.
Honestly, I can sympathize with Macbeth and Bernie Madoff. In Macbeth’s case, he knew he was going to lose it all. Is there any worse feeling in the world than knowing that your life won’t be any better than it is now? He has this opportunity to obtain the power that he will never ever be able to obtain again. I would definitely go for it. Life is not about being content with what you have. It’s about always trying to better yourself. In Madoff’s case, he was stuck; would he continue with his crimes or simply call it quits? Go big (hard) or go home. His crimes netted him wealth that only some of us could dream of. However, it was still a crime. He knew there was always the possibility of getting caught. He might as well keep trying to get all the money and enjoy his wealth for as long as he could.
As for my bill, I tend not to worry too much about it. Besides, why worry about the bill when you’re trying to enjoy the meal?
Having guilt and remorse are important because only humans are able to have them. Any other living creatures on this planet all follow their own instinct to survive. While humans are able to use logic and creativeness to stand above all other living things. We are given guilt and remorse so we know when we have done something wrong, besides having our morals to guide us. I consider it to be very important, because without them, there are no way for us to know if we truly did something of a negative impact. Thus instead of being oblivious to the things we have done, we need to know if the things we have done are wrong. I believe remorse and guilt are the only things that can maintain our human selves and keep ourselves under control. Because if I am to become a soldier one day, I would only become another killing machine since I feel no sense of regret for the people I have killed.
It is hard to say if I can just accept any apologies. It will always have to depend on the situation at that moment. Small apologies often differs from the big ones. Such as a small accident where I can forgive easily. While insults and other incidents that damage my pride, or receiving physical injuries might require a lot more from myself to be able to forgive someone. I would say that I am very forgiving except when I am being deceived or betrayed. I cannot not stand people who betray and/or deceived me just for their own benefits, making it very hard to me to accept an apology from them. But besides those exceptions, I usually accept the apology, or I would just forget the whole entire incident.
The reason for betrayal to someone is caused by people’s selfishness. The stresses and their thoughts may be the reason leading to selfishness. People are capable of violating themselves or others because the anger and courage increases after having difficult experiences. Even the good person could commit crimes and violence by impulse. People’s minds alter every time by having diverse experiences. People’s minds turn in a bad way by having more harsh experiences than others. Sometimes the circumstances make people betray one another by impulse so later on, if we think back to those mistakes that we make, we regret it. Betraying might be not your real minds but it could hurt someone and usually never able to heal them. We find those sickening feelings because people find one’s preciousness and empty feelings after losing one another.
Pursuing our dream is really essential to our lives because we can benefit a lot from it. Our dream is what we want to be and what we want to work on. Since we like it, we do not get tired easily with our dreams and could work on constantly and efficiently for a long period of time. If we have love towards our dreams, then our dream might last pretty long. Also the livings might determine the end of pursuing our dreams. I think the guilt is acceptable by the gravity of it. I do not think I will accept apology if they betrayed me really badly or other cases because people could break up easily even with small conflicts. I may accept if they could pay those back in an excellent way. I found that there were many people living well together but recently I think people turn toward more selfishly and to live for themselves only mostly. There are fewer opportunities of people accepting other people’s mistakes than before.
A person must definitely wish more carefully and think of the consequences through before attempting. In the story of King Midas, wanting to turn everything he touched into gold; it only led to his misery later on. He eventually starts to starve and accidentally turned his daughter into a statue of gold. We shouldn't settle for less just because we're afraid of over powering our chances, but aim large to reach our full potential.If we never reach for our full potential then we're not improving ourselves and progressing in life; always stuck in one little dark corner with no where to go. When we do try to reach for the stars, we must also know our own limit and the limit of that dream can be achieved; lest we end the same fate as Macbeth. Shooting too far beyond our limits will lead to disaster because we are disrupting the balance of power that a greater force has laid out for us.
Every waking moment I wonder what would happen to my immortal soul after my mortal body starts to decompose six feet under. I know that I commit many sins in the extent of a single day, but at some point I repent and ask for forgiveness; but, I still fear that it isn't enough and I have to pay for it afterwards. I hate creating conflict so I will complement anybody regardless if it is true or false. Eventually all the sins will pile up and I still wonder if praying and repent is enough, or if I'm doomed to spend an eternity in Hell to pay for those sins. I was taught that Jesus did die for my sins and if I ask for forgiveness from God, I don't have to worry. The human side of me is still debating if this is true or just taught to me to quell my fears as a child. But, if I live everyday without that doubt, I feel that I would have turned out as a person without morals which will lead to a worse fate after death.
Generally, loyalty is considered as a positive trait. However, after experiencing different instances I have realized that it is a negative trait. For instance, last year I had a friend who habitually made bad decisions. Although I had previously promised her that I would support her every decision, I could not longer hold true to that promise. Seeing that the promise that I had made was foolish. Although people do need support from others, they also need people to help they identify their faults. Everyone wants to improve themselves. But to improve yourself is to be able to recognize your own faults, and build upon them. Therefore I believe that loyalty is not a hard trait to obtain, but a trait for cowards who are too afraid to tell help others improve.
My whole life I have always been able to hold the longest grudges ever, whenever someone did something bad to me. However, now I have begun to learn to forgive. Guilt and remorse do matter me, because I have had those feelings a lot before. Sometimes I have a slip of tongue, and accidentally say something wrong. Also at times I would make a bad decision which I feel remorseful of afterwards. Every time I do that I always have a feeling of hope that the person will forgive me for what I did. Therefore, I know the people who want me to forgive them also have those feelings. Whenever I feel guilty of an action that I have done, a burning desire for hope of the forgiveness from the other person comes with in me. Thus enabling me to accept apologies.
Only to experience the feeling of regret after getting something wanted means that you wanted something that was not meant to be gotten. Although you may feel the joy after getting what satisfies you, you are reminded by your conscience that what ever may you have done, could have hurt someone or something in your life. In color guard, we are given spots in the show. You are given the spot your coach thinks your capable of, such as, if you work hard and perform great, you get a good spot. If your work ethic is poor and you don’t even care to be at practice, you don’t even get a spot. There was a time in color guard that I was given a spot not as great as this girl’s. I believed I should have have been given that spot so therefore, I challenged her for her spot. Fortunately, I won, and was given her spot but that feeling of excitement and happiness did not last so long as I thought. I had overheard her sadly talking to her friend and hearing her say that she worked so hard for that spot and wanted it really bad made me feel nothing but guilt. I know I may have been better, but I can agree that she would have worked much harder than me to maintain the expectations of having such of a great spot. Although I cannot change what has happened and give her spot back, I just had to feel the regret and guilt I have caused for that girl’s sadness. So I can say, I have gotten what I wanted, but just feel regretful afterwards.
When pursuing what you want and willing to do anything for it, there is no distance for how far you are willing to go. I believe nothing determines how far you are wiling to go to pursuit of what you want because truthfully everyone would do anything by means possible to get what they want, including myself. Even if it means pushing others out of your way for you to be placed on the top, no one would give up that kind of chance. I can honestly say I would do anything to be the best out of my peers even if it’s watching others fail. As bad and sad as that sounds, I know I am not the only person to be like that. In my classes, I am glad I have my friends in there, not because I am able to talk to them, but the competition to get good grades between us drives me to do my best. Everyone in the class would love to be the best person with that A on their paper, and even if it is watching your neighbor receiving an F. So therefore, I believe nothing determines how far you are willing to go, but what you are willing to do for it.
Reading the Inferno I came to realize that the points Dante makes about trust really pertains to how I feel about betrayal. One only feels the full force of betrayal when they develop intimate ties with the deceiver. This really connects with some experiences of mine. When I make a friend I put a lot of trust and loyalty into our relationship. That's why I can't stand when my friends joke about something dangerous like "I broke my arms in a car accident" or "Someone wants to kill you". I can understand humor, in fact I love it , but those statements are at the borderline. Most of the time these only arise when they want attention from me so it is not only a betrayal of my trust, but harsh sense of fraud ( in Dante terms). They tried to gain "power" (attention) from deception.
I believe all this strongly, but humans make mistakes. Guilt is something that weighs heavily on people with a conscience. Sometimes these instances of broken faith are caused by these innocent errors. Remorse is a feeling that tells and reminds a being to not make the same mistake again. It is a load to hold because it prompts the idea that doing these things causes them to be beneath human reason and the way to get back up again is to understand and be forgiven. So by the end of the day, though my trust will be broken, I can find reason to not be wrathful.
The reason why there are people who are “bad” is because they have either done an act that has given them that title or their morals are those of what we would consider as “bad”. Whether they feel guilt or regret depends on how much that person actually cares about what they are doing. There are some that don’t give a second thought to anyone or anything but themselves. Those kinds of people are probably the ones that wouldn’t feel any guilt or regret for the actions they have done throughout their lives no matter how bad the deed was. But there are those that aren’t bad people, they just happened to commit a bad deed. There are those that have an inner struggle on what is the right thing to do. Their conscience cries out to them and they will feel the guilt or regret that comes with it. Even if the souls in Dante’s Inferno feel remorse for what they have done, that doesn’t change that fact that they still committed the sin. There are souls in Hell that aren’t bad people, they just happened to make the wrong choice.
I do believe that we have a responsibility to live our lives as well as we can and not just do with it as we please. Our lives are not something that is just ours but it is also part of all our loved ones’ lives. Personally I believe that our parents live through us. They try as hard as they can to support us to have what they had and more. It is up to us to live our lives to the best that we can to fulfill the dreams that our parents have for us and not have all their efforts be put to waste. There will be a time when it will be our turn as parents doing the best we can for our children and having the wishes of them to have the best lives they possibly can. That cycle will just keep on going, even though it is our lives we still have a responsibility to not throw it away.
Guilt is the feeling I try to avoid most. For me, it's like a message to myself telling me how worthless and shameful I can really be. I end up hating myself more and more. I am fully aware of my actions, but sometimes I give in to temptation. Today for example I told myself "no more ice-cream you already have high blood sugar!" However when I laid eyes on that beautifully wrapped Klondike bar I put aside my health and ran for it like there was no tomorrow. Sigh, the things I would do for a Klondike bar.
I worry about my bill all the time. I try to be the best I can for others, but not myself. I worry about other's safety before my own because somehow I have convinced myself that their lives are worth way more than mine. I tell myself that they are going to reach more heights than I will ever be able to. I have to admit I don't see myself as an important person but it doesn't mean I hate myself. I just worry more about others than myself. I'm not trying to make myself sound like a saint either, heck, I'm nowhere close. I'm just trying to get by and I helping other people makes me feel at my best.
i think that even bad people can feel remorse because just because someone is a bad person, does not mean that they are a freaking sociopath. everyperson will feel bad aboutthe wrong things they have done to a certain extent. I feel lik with good people, thier guilt just naws at them more,and bothers them alot more than the "bad" people. And that nawing feeling in thier gut is what makes them be good, because they cant stand that feeling. And the people who are "bad" are the people who can withstand and ignor that guilt and remorse bitting and carving away at thier souls.
I dont belive that peolple are pure and innocent, that good people are good solely because of the fact that they know what is wrong and what is right. People are good because they know bing bad is not accepted by the norm of society and, they are basically in fear of what people would think about them,or how society would judge them. Then there are the people who are "weak" and suceptable to guilt, the just thinking about doing somthing bad gives them heartburn. I guess "bad" people are just the people who can ignore thier concienses long enough to do a bad deed. Some feel like they are selling thier sould to the devil and feel like it is an even trade. But once again the people who ignor thier conciences dont think they are selling thier souls to the devil, frankly i dont feel like they are thinking about what they do at all.And that is how they manage to do somthing bad.
I really don’t understand how people could have the heart to betray someone or what inside them motivates them to do such things. They are heartless for not considering anybody else’s feelings but their own. It’s an act of pure selfishness; hurting somebody else to get what you want. In the end most of the sins in the inferno and generally in life are centered on being selfish, it’s crazy the things people would do to get what they want, even if it means violating a relationship with another person.
Regret is feeling bad for the actions and decisions that you have made. I believe that only good people feel bad because if you were a bad person I really don’t think you’d care anymore. You’re so used to acting in evil ways it becomes normal to you and you no longer feel any remorse. The fact that a person regrets what they have done means that they still have a morally good conscious in their mind, they probably just made a mistake and chose the wrong decision.
I don’t know whether I’m a weak or simply just kind but I tend to easily forgive and I end up making peace with a lot of people who have betrayed me. I forgive them if I know they feel bad for what they have done and that they’re sorry. It’s all I need to hear because after that what more can I ask for? What they did in the past already happened and nothing can change it. I just need to accept their apology and move on. Although I forgive a lot of people, I hold grudges and I don’t easily forget the things that people have done to me. It’s hard for me to move on and I tend to keep every little
Bad people can certainly feel guilty, regret for the actions they have done because emotion is an instantaneous instinct. People can feel happy after winning a basketball game with a last second three, so can people regret over the sins they committed. Since not all sinners in Dante’s Inferno acted on evil intentions, they do have the right to feel remorseful for what they did. However, the remorse does not serve any real purpose but for self consolation, an arguably selfish desire in the end. Betrayal is, in simple terms, an act of disloyalty, an act that undermines the relationship between people. In most cases, I believe acts of betrayal are driven by selfish motives such as desires for wealth, fame, and success. This should not come as a surprise in any means because in my mind, when stripped down to the basic, people are ultimately selfish living beings. If facing a situation of live or death, I truly believe no one would sacrifice his or her life for another person’s life. Because no one has ever been dead, so death to us is the ultimate curtain in life no matter how much we have accomplished in life. Sure, there are debates about the legacies people leave behind after death, but ultimately, legacy is still legacy and death is still death. Thus, following the same suit, people betray one another for none other reason but to benefit themselves. This may sound ridiculous to some people, but there are people out there who are willing to do anything to get what they want. In those cases, you would find human’s capability of actions such as betrayal expands to a distorted size.
I once received a Lakers' jersey that I wanted for months when I was ten years old. Although delirious at the moment, I regret it afterwards because I could not wear it after a year because the size of the jersey did not fit anymore. However, I do not believe people should wish more carefully or pursue smaller ambitions because what is important are the actions people take toward their goals, not what their dreams are. In Macbeth’s case, he was persuaded by his wife to kill the King in order to garner even more power. In hindsight, there is nothing wrong with his dream to captivate more power, what is wrong is his decision to submit to the evil words of his wife and the hand of fate. As human beings, God gave us the ability to think and the ability to make choices through our lives. Thus, the way of life is different from person to person, there is not a default option toward life; we just have to play it out.
Of course bad people can feel bad for what they have done. It may take time for them to realize it, but sooner or later they feel bad for what they have done. Others feel bad at one point, but get so used to doing bad things, that they do not feel guilty anymore. Betrayal can sometimes be lead by being honest, while other times it can lead to jealousy. You may not agree with a friend and instead of approaching them about it or supporting them, you agree with the opposing person. Guilt and remorse contain a feeling of regret, we know were doing the wrong think, yet we still do it, because at that moment it is what fulfills our pleasures. Even with innocent mistakes we feel bad because we are human. This trait separates us from any other living organism in that we can have these feelings. I have this feeling all the time. Once I get something I really wanted and only use it a few times, I regret buying it, especially if my parents got it for me and it was very expensive. We should risk like Macbeth and reach for the stars.
If we do not reach for the stars we will never know what could have/should have happened. When reaching for the stars it helps us reach a better fulfillment of obtaining our full potential. I have more than one dream so there will be some dreams that are ultimately too great for me to accomplish, but I am fine with failing. There are many factors that determine how far you go for what you want. Hope, determination, optimism, there are so many things that come into play when trying to reach your goals. Some goals aren’t reached, but it is better for you as you learn from why you could not reach the goal and it improves you as a whole. I do accept apologies. No one is perfect in this world; therefore I am willing to give people more than one chance. Through Dante’s Inferno, it is our responsibility to live our lives well, but I see it as we should live our lives however we want. I am never so loyal to someone that I ignore the damage they do. I will forgive what they do, but it does not mean I will forget.
Not just good people, I think everyone would feel guilty about what they have done sometimes. I think it all depends on what one has done. For example, if a murderer has accidentally killed his relatives, he will definitely feel guilty because he probably kills the only person who talks to him. I think in most cases, people, regardless to good or bad, will feel guilty or regret for something that they know they should not do. In general, the only reason bad people do bad things is to make them better than they were before. By doing something that does not satisfy their will, they will definitely feel bad, and of course, by doing something that makes them bad, they will regret about it.
Sometimes, getting something that I want can also make me feel regret. Back when I was young, I always like to play toys, especially those modeled cars. I always like those because they can actually run on the ground with fast speed and there was a cartoon to go with it. Due to those reasons, I have collected a couple of those. Once I saw the newest brand on sale. As a fan of those model cars and the temptation of having the newest car, I really want to buy it. Immediately after I saw it, I got money from my mother, and go to the store to buy them. As soon as I build up the car with the materials I felt regret about buying it. Because it looks exactly like the one I already have except for the color, it is not even worth to buy. Although I regretted, I still keep that car as a lesson for not buy something until I know fully about it.
As much as I want to help the society become stronger, I don't think I could turn against my father like the Madoff sons. If my father did what Bernie Madoff did, I would be devastated and disappointed. However, my dad gave me my life and provided for me throughout the years. It would be wrong to turn on the person who gave me my education, home, clothing, and food. Without him, I wouldn't have anything. It's understandable that the people are angry and upset, but he's my father and I stand by him no matter what.
Some people say that it's okay to reach for the stars because if you fail, you'll land on the moon. When people have big ambitions, they tend to work harder and are more dedicated. These are qualities that are needed in life to succeed. I know that if I pursue my dream school, the worst that can happen is that I don't get it. It's better to know that I tried my best to work toward that goal than to regret not trying at all. Reaching for more and failing will only give me more options between my dream and nothing. Limiting myself to smaller ambitions won't benefit me in the end.
Betrayal means relation broken between people because of one side does not follow the rule of friends. In another word, one person does not loyal to his/her friend and does something that hurts him/her. However, betrayal is not only applied to friendship, it also happens in family relationship, king and people under him and even teacher and students. It is very easy to see betrayal happens in society, which specifically applied to human. This is a problem we need to think about which what cause human to commit this sin. I believe that people commit it because of enticement. I don't think people betray others without any of the enticement which benefits them. They weight all these enticements more than the relationship which causes this action.
I have gotten what I wanted but regret afterward. This is really a bad experience. Remember that when I was young, I liked playing video game. I asked for a “Game Boy” for my birthday present from my parents which I accepted it. I always expect to have such a nice thing which I worked hard to favor my parents and finally I got it. However, the result is not as good as what I expect. I got the play machine. I played for a week and I lost my interest from it. It is very hard to accept this truth because this is way different from what I think. It’s very boring but I thought it was the most interesting thing in the world at that time. This is one of the aspects of human. People want everything when they don’t have it. However, these things do not end up the way we want and we feel bad about it.
Some battles aren't worth fighting because the consequences don't come out the way we imagine them to. Since all actions have consequences, the most important consideration in going ahead with something is the calculation of the consequences. Is it really worth it? In the case of the Macbeths and the Madoffs, it is. Their pride and moral code, however twisted and different from ours, still present themselves within their actions. To them, every penny and drop of pride is worth fighting for, like a wish that can never be fulfilled. They continuously wish only to have the consequences crash down upon them. I do not believe I have made a wish that I have regretted because of the amount of realism I put into my wishes. Unlike the little boys and girls who wish for giant fighting robots or ponies, I could never wish for something I knew could not possibly come true. If I wished that I would win a tennis match, I would unconsciously ask myself what about the my opponent, is it fair that my making a wish was what determined the result? I have since then mostly discarded wishes. They are merely goals with a fancy name attached onto them. It is more important to secure goals and aspirations through actions. But on the other hand, wishing is also just fanciful thinking. The majority of people use wishes to imagine the infinite possibilities that can occur and I say let them. Whether or not we wish, we should always aim for the stars, pushing ever higher to reach a plain where no man has walked before.
I always accept sincere apologies, regardless of the situation at hand. This doesn't mean I give complete forgiveness; it only means that I have agreed to put the past behind me and continue on. To feel guilt and remorse is to realize the error of our actions and so it is logical that I give them another chance. I do hold onto the notion that people change but their past should always be put up for consideration. We can never deny our past because it is inextricably entangled with our present and future. For example, in "Inside Man," Arthur Case's ugly past of betraying his fellow Jews to the Nazi army in exchange for a little bit of money eventually led to his downfall despite his devotion to good deeds for the rest of his life. We may be able to hide our past, but it will always stay with us.
My loyalty is based off of the moral fiber of the person. I don't give it out easily and when I do, it is because the person deserves my loyalty. In doing so, I often overlook their flaws and some of the damage that they do, but when it passes a certain point that breaks my moral code, I can no longer just be a peaceful spectator. So my loyalty comes with conditions, because Jesse giveth and Jesse taketh away.
Of course bad people can feel guilty for their actions. Personally I don't think there is can be someone labeled as a BAD person, the "Lord Sidius" in real life, or "Joker" who just are completely and utterly heartless. I think everyone has some light within them no matter how dim that shines. Regret is definitely not a privilege for the good. We are Humans, capable of doing anything at any time no matter our history, a serial killer could potentially discover a cure for a disease. The Pope, could kill somebody; as humans we can do anything? The remorse the souls feel (I think) in Dante's Inferno are probably just from their punishment they are receiving. They could have asked for forgiveness in life and repented in some way to redeem themselves, but obviously they are dead and in Hell. They must have not had remorse enough in life to do anything about it.
Every so often I worry about the day when my bill will arrive. Have I lived well? Have I maintained an honorable life? These are questions I attempt to take into consideration when making decisions in my daily life. Living an average Joe life is out of the question for me as in I am a firm believer of the saying “Go Big or Go Home.”
Human beings need to acknowledge that when they pursue larger ambitions, the stakes are much higher than those of smaller ones. The obstacles placed in their path will truly test the values of their character. Are they willing to harm others in the way of their path to success? Possibly betray? These are questions that drive me into going big or going home. I believe that pursuing larger ambitions while having the knowledge that everything can ultimately go wrong will truly test my ability as a man - as it should. Along my path of success, I hope to discover the true colors of my character. Having knowledge that on my journey there will be a possibility of remorse and guilt makes me excited. I know that it sounds loco that I’m excited about a leap that could possibly shove me into a life of guilt, but I’m an accepter of reaping what I sow. Nothing satisfies me more than knowing who and where I stand as a person. So essentially, this test of character is my only opportunity for developing and finding out who I truly am. I don’t only seek to be a man of success, but also a man of value.
“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.”
- Og Mandino
I do not believe it is our responsibility to try and live our lives well, but instead up to our moral wants to try and do so. Really to me, it boils down to the person who decides to live their life well. One can even say it is everyone’s responsibility to live their life according to what they see fits. Because surely nobody lives their life according to what they do not want to do. When it really comes down to it our lives are ours alone, sure as teenager we have parents to guide us, but even they don’t last forever. Eventually it will come down to us to decide to live our lives as we see fit, which hopefully we learned to want to live well.
+ Do guilt and remorse really matter to you? Can you accept an apology?
Of course guilt and remorse matter to me, it could even be a physical pain in some cases. I’ve sure felt it, anyway I would also bet money some people can ignore the pain, or even they’ve wronged so much that the pain or even the general feeling of it is deadened. So as much as it matters to me, I believe it doesn’t matter at all to others, but the question is can you accept an apology? This depends, how bad is the action? Sure little things possible even mediocre things I can shrug off with an apology. But there is a limit indeed. I am not letting some punk off the hook just because he apologized after he stole my bike! Hypothetical of course, but would he really learn from his mistake there? I think not, hell just make sure he apologizes every time he steals from me.
The thing that determines how far I am willing to go in my pursuit of what I want is how much I want it. For example, if I wanted a game console (Xbox360,PS3, etc.) or an Ipod, I wouldn't need to have it right away because those, to me, are luxuries in life, not necessities. I might think about how nice it would be to have those every once in awhile, but I wouldn't kill myself for not having them. On the other hand, if my teacher said only five people could go to college from my class, I would do whatever it takes to be one of those five, even if it means pushing others aside. I believe that the more we want something, the more it drives us to achieve it. Kobe Bryant wants to win basketball games (and eventually the championship) for his team, so his competitive drive to succeed is incomparable to others. Thus, I believe that different circumstances calls for different attitudes and behaviors.
I have regretted getting many things in my life that I had previously wanted when I was young and little. I remember when I was still in elementary school, I would tell my mom and dad to buy me those Pokemon and Yu-Gi-Oh cards. Those card games were popular, and when I saw that all of them were playing it, I decided to play too. Now, looking back, I regret not only playing the games, but also for being hooked onto them. It wasn't like my parents were rich and that they could buy me whatever I wanted. And even if they were, I shouldn't have bought the cards, let alone a whole bunch. Once I stopped playing, I gave some of them to my friends while I threw the others away. Although those cards were fun to play, my parents' hard earned money to buy me them was not. Even now, I feel guilty that I carelessly wasted my parents' money away, but it has taught me a lesson- to think about the consequences before I act.
Betrayal is committed by selfish people who want to gain something in exchange for people’s secrets. This sinful action is also done when a person is under pressure from peers or when their morals are weaker than their actions. Betrayal has been pretty common in this society, especially when there gossips goes around. Having an experience with betrayal in my life, I have come to learn that it is hard to find a friend or person who would not betray you whether the secret or promise is small or big. We are capable of doing this because most of us are selfish people. Always “me first”. This is our selfishness. After we do this action, we regret and feel guilty in the end.
Guilt and remorse are characteristics each person must have if they are sensible. If we did not have this feeling then we do not have human hearts. We are made to feel these feelings and accept apologies when other people have wronged us. But if the people continue to do the same mistakes over and over again, it is our nature to reconsider whether if these people are noteworthy to be forgiven. For me, I would get mad in the beginning but I would accept apologies. If I do not forgive the person, I would always have a dislike towards him/her. I do not want to suffer when I could just forgive. Besides, forgiving is an action everyone is suppose to do.
Guilt doesn’t live with everyone in this world. There are people who happily “make choices and don’t look back.” There are also those who do look back and remorsefully dwell on that to ensure nothing of the same matter happens again. Regret really is just your conscience’s lack of ability to justify the act that you committed. However, only those who allow for reflecting on the past will feel it. In Dante’s Inferno, the two characters that we really just call plain evil are Fucci and Capaneus. We label them as “just plain bad people” because even in hell, they never seem to accept that what they did was wrong. They continue to argue against the gods and just “never learn.” All other souls we see suffering in sorrow, are souls that have looked back and realized that they felt guilty doing whatever it is that they did. Those souls we sympathize.
To me, I am a person that dwells on the past for long periods of time. There are so many minor events that have happened to me years ago that I still clearly remember because of guilt. As the regret adds on, I use it to shape the person I am now. I am so worried that I will make the same mistake and cause the same outcome. I don’t like failure. I don’t want to know that I had a chance to change of outcome of something, but I didn’t. I hate that regret and remorse have to be a big part of me, but at the same time, I must appreciate it for the fact that it’s driven and motivated me to do better. I wish I could also say that an apology could erase everything bad anyone has ever done. But to me, a scar will be a scar, and when I look at scars, I see nothing but reminders of the past. Accepting a sorry can be easily verbal, but for my mind to deeply truly forgive, it’s going to take one heck of a ‘sorry’ to do that.
Everyone is different, but we all have committed betrayal at least once in our life. Betrayal to me is when people lie, or talk negative things behind someone's back because lying to someone can hurt people in the long run and talking behind a person's back is just wrong. People usually commit betrayal without even noticing because many people just do it unintentionally. When people gossip they just tend to say the most negative things about others without even noticing how harsh or mean they can be. I believe betrayal is committed because people are just bored and don't know what else to do. It is easy to betray someone. It's not that people love to betray each other it's just that we don't notice when we are at times, or maybe we betray each other because of sweet revenge. I think betrayal is the worse feeling in the world because you loose all your trust in people. It's hard to gain respect and trust with because you do not want to get hurt again. It is better to tell someone the truth to their face then to hide it and tell someone else.
I believe that guilt and remorse does matter because if we do not feel these feelings we would all be heartless and unapologetic. We would never learn from our mistakes and just repeat them over and over again. When people do things that are regretful and wrong and realizes it, then that shows that they're actually really sorry. When people just keep on apologizing but keep on committing their mistakes repeatedly they aren't actually sorry. I usually accept apologies but if I have to keep on giving chances to the same people, I feel that it isn't worth it. I would not accept their apologies again because I cannot trust someone who keeps lying to me. There are friends that have hurt me but have stayed my friends because they actually tried their best to sincerely apologize and make it up to me. I try to keep all my friends and usually if it's just small things that are bothering me i just push it away because it's not damaging enough to let go a friend.
There are a lot of definitions for betrayal. Betrayal is something that people will do in their life no matter what. In a situation there is always a right and wrong so if we take a side, we are betraying the other side subconsciously. It is the selfishness that drives us to do things that make us feel horrible yet sometimes secure. It gives us a secure feeling because in tough situation when it involves yourself, greed will overpower and make you choose what is right for you. It can be sometimes referred to going against your friend in tough situations because that is also a type of betrayal. People are capable of such actions because it is human nature to say one thing is better than the other when compared.
Guilt and Remorse are the two feelings that people feel when they do something they know is bad. They are also both the down feeling of something horrible that more innocent people go through. If someone did so many crippling things, the remorse they feel is no match for the remorse an innocent person feels. People are able to betray each other easily because to some it is second nature to lie and scheme about every little thing. We feel remorse afterwards because at the moment selfishness and greed overpowers the good in us, but later, we feel extremely guilty because we know that we did something bad and yet we still did it. Therefore, we feel horrible afterwards because people are so used to hurting each other so often. Some people scheme so much that they feel different if they tell the truth for once.
Betrayal occurs when one person gains the trust of another, but he/she uses that trust against the other. What kind of people would do such a thing? One such reason is selfishness. It is our instinct to be selfish, and what causes people to betray others is that they find an opportunity to gain a great deal of something with little cost to themselves. Another reason is their beliefs, such as KGB double agents who gained the trust of Americans but harm them because their duty lies with the Soviet Union. Human beings are capable of this because they sincerely have a passion for their cause, be it selfishness or political beliefs.
The consequential feeling on those who betray can be great. Sometimes, this is not true, because they are either psychopaths or they truly have a passion for their beliefs. Normal people tend to be filled with guilt and remorse, because normal people feel and appreciate love. Using that feeling from others to harm them sickens them. Thus, they get the feeling of guilt and remorse, because once they see the effect of what they have done to the others, they feel sympathy for the person. For those who were betrayed, they may or may not accept the fact that they were betrayed. Either they can feel empathy for the betrayer, or not. This entirely depends on how open-minded the betrayed are.
Guilt is something that all people feel at one point or another after they have done something wrong. I personally like to think of guilt as an internal voice. When a person regardless good or bad does something wrong, will know it, for the voice tells them so and they feel regret. However, those people we call "bad" can suppress that feeling and continue to do the wrong things. They ignore the internal voice, and although it is always there, they feel nothing because they no longer listen. The remorse the souls feel in Dante's inferno does indeed count for something - they are finally listening to that voice - but it is far too late, for they are no longer living and cannot do anything to fix what they have done. The purpose of the voice (guilt) is for you to recognize what you have done and to repent, to fix what wrong you have committed and to learn never to do it again. In The Inferno, Dante hears the voice at age 35 and begins to fix what he has done while he still has the chance, for the souls being punished however, it is far too late.
To me betrayal is not laziness, or heartlessness it is a lack of self control. Those who betray others for their own interests are to weak to control their own desires because they know that what they have to do to gain what they want is wrong. For example, Macbeth is unable to control his desire for power, to move from an 8 to a 10. He knows that murdering the king is wrong and had he been strong enough to control his own desire, he would not have done what he did. However, in the end he is too weak and his desire wins out. He never regains control after that point and his desire to remain in power runs wild, causing him to commit countless additional murders until he is finally killed himself.
I view betrayal as a simple disappointment or to be disloyal to someone. I believe that people are driven to betray for personal gains; basically selfishness. People always chase and pursue things so they can improve and have a better life. I don’t think that only heartless people can betray, it just has to be someone that is determined for personal gain. While going through Dante’s Inferno, I noticed that almost all the sins are related to some sort of betrayal or personal gain. People are so centered on improving their life, that they don’t even think about whom they are hurting. Guilt and remorse is basically a feeling that one has when they feel bad about an action they have committed. Guilt or remorse is very strong, and it pokes and tears at you internally, until you have to come clean. I believe that humans have guilt and remorse, so that the painful regret of wrongdoings can be felt and we can learn from our mistakes.
A temper tantrum; it’s a child’s best tool when they want to get something. When I was younger, I loved gundam action figures and I always wanted more and more. When I was a little older, I started to regret getting these toys because I felt they are useless. After learning that they are not only expensive, but can’t do anything other than look good on my shelf, I was disappointed in myself. I regret wasting all this money, and I felt guilty because money isn’t easily earned. We as people always have sudden urges or desires for things and it is hard to control it. After we obtain these things however, we might realize that we might not need it and be like “what were we thinking?” Now as I am older, I try to evaluate the importance of things before going forth and getting it, and I think that has made my parents proud.
Sorry, I just unknowingly spent the last 3 hours reading college forums to get opinions about a college.
Personally, I do not think we are indebted to live our lives well for the sake of anybody, but ourselves. However, I do believe that this possession of the freedom to live life how you want ends exactly at the edge where your life crosses another. Given the infinite amount of ways our lives can and will influence others, our freedom suddenly seems to cancel itself out. I can live my life however I want, but I think some people use that excuse to try and justify their actions in the mistakes they make that is viewed badly by others. People can choose to be self destructive without affecting others in any way except emotionally. However, just like how the person has the freedom to live their life how they want, they need to take responsibility for how their life is viewed by other people. No matter what liberties you take with your own life, the nature of those liberties as viewed by society does not change. One example would be that while I believe people have the liberty to abuse drugs and make a mess out of their life, it doesn't make it any less stupid because they are not really affecting others while doing so.
The problem starts when they do start to affect others. Whatever freedom of self someone possesses, if they're affecting others in the process, that's when I believe intervention is absolutely justified. Unlike the lone drug abuser who only is violent towards themselves (ha, Dante reference), becoming a factor in creating trouble for another person's life immediately pushes blame on you if you affect them negatively. I don't understand why people choose to lead absolutely horrible lives, because people inevitably intermingle, thus creating a tangle of influences. Unless you plan to lock yourself up isolated for the rest of you life, on a large scale, your actions that affect other people, better be good. This is just a end rant, but something that gets me really angry is when smokers smoke in public places. Nobody needs their second hand smoke, and yes it is my business because everybody breathes the same air, and I believe I would totally be a punch in the face would be totally justified at that point in time.
Guilt doesn’t exist in the presence of bad people because guilt is supposed to prevent them from continuing to commit that same crime. Bad people don’t feel guilt maybe because what they have done is not considered abnormal to them while for good people, that action may be taken as extreme. Betrayal is committed because the betrayer has a strong desire to get what they want and is willing to leave destruction in its path. I usually don’t get what I want but when I do, I would feel guilty because something is out of the ordinary. I probably did something to get what I wanted and that something is usually something I am not proud of. I probably stepped on a few toes to get what I wanted.
The stronger the desire, the more we are willing to pursue that desire and get what we want. There are limits to how far we can go until we reach the line and that line is when we are about to commit a sin in order to achieve the goal. Our life is our life to live but each person should have the responsibility to live our lives to our fullest capabilities. We shouldn’t stop trying to reach our potential unless an outside force pushes that person and lowers their potential. I am not loyal enough to anyone to be blinded by their damages but I believe some people are. They would see their mentors as role models and what they do would seem alright but in reality, is not.
I like to dream big. I try not to let fear keep me from trying new things or pursuing what I want, which is why I believe we should still reach for the stars even with the possibility of overreaching ourselves. Ending up broken and corrupt as a result of trying too hard to achieve a goal is better than not putting in effort in the first place. Be it a grade in a class, an award in a competition, or a new goal, I feel phenomenal when I earn something I’ve worked really hard for. Although we should try not to become like Macbeth, following our dreams is still worth that risk, because we then open ourselves to the possibility of improvement. When I tried out for a captain position and didn’t get voted captain or when I went to auditions and got rejected, I still felt settled because I tried and found out what my potential was. When I achieve a goal, I unlock some of my potential because I learn that I can accomplish something more than I have before. Then I feel like I have more to contribute to the world because I’m improving and gaining more skills and experiences.
If Macbeth hadn’t tried to become king, he would just play it safe and remain mediocre. But by trying and becoming king, he then had the possibility to impact the entire kingdom and improve many peoples’ lives. However, I’m not saying that it was okay for Macbeth to murder in order to win the throne. Whenever we pursue a goal purely to gain power, we put ourselves in danger of overreaching. I wanted to be captain because I wanted to dedicate lots of time and give back to a team that I really enjoyed being a part of. I wanted to get accepted to auditions because I wanted to be able to explore more dance forms. I did not pursue those goals just to have power over others, so I did not try to harm others in the process. We are more likely to slip on our morals and hurt others to benefit ourselves when we focus solely on power, when our main goal lies in a desire to gain authority over others. We risk becoming Macbeth as we dream big, but luckily, the chances of us being disappointed in ourselves (like Macbeth) after trying our best are far less than our chances of learning and improving from those experiences.
Guilt is a selfish feeling that humans can have that usually accompanies sins after they committ them. It is something that I always feel after facing the consequences of the bad things that I did. Even though I am always aware of facing guilt if I sin, I don't stop due to temptations and unpredictable outcomes. Often times I find myself thinking before I do something bad even if it somehow benefits me. For example, cheating on a test is not a right thing to do, yet if one succeeds, he/she can get a better score. One might feel guilty about what he/she did, but will also do better in school. However, this is not a justification of cheating, but it just points out a fact that people can feel guilty and continue to be a bad person.
People betray others for various reasons, but generally it generally follows the same concept as cheating. It's basically done to benefit yourself by using other people. My parents often told me that lying is one of the worst ways of betrayal and I believe that the reasons fit. A person would lie to try to avoid trouble and punishment for something they did wrong. However, unlike cheating on a test which only affects the person who does it, betraying affects the persons or people that were betrayed. So essentially, they are violating themselves and others by destroying the connection and trust that an individual has with another. Nevertheless, people still continue to backstab others because many feel like it's something they could easilly hide. The only exception to that is when another person betrays you after you betray somebody else. This is very common because it is difficult to expect betrayals and usually the person who betrayed you is someone you wouldn't have expected.
Sometimes I feel guilty after I have done something that is considered good to other people because I feel that I could have done something better that could benefit them and others also. Like in my philosophical baseline, when someone is doing good things towards one person, they could be doing evil to another. So the thought that I could have mess up someone for that moment or for the rest of their lives kind of haunts me.
Betrayal can come in many different forms and ways; I do not think that people actually plan to betray someone else. I think that if someone is going to betray a friend or a family member, they do not think about it but think about the good things that they are going to receive after. Such as a person selling out their friend's secrets, the person is probably not going to think of hurting their friend at that instant but how much money that they are going to get after he tells the man. Betrayal is being lazy and lack of cognitive thinking which leads to being heartless. Usually, when someone betrays you they are doing something that is benefiting to them and they are lazy to do something themselves to obtain the things that they want. Like I said before, their lack of thinking leads to them being heartless because when a traitor betrays their friend, they are not thinking about how much it will hurt them. Without them thinking, they are being heartless because they did not think about the other person's feelings.
I have gotten a lot of things that I wanted and regretted it afterwards. (This is going to be a really lame and selfish example but it kind of works.) When I was little, I would ask for something like clothes, toys, and etc. and usually I have to choose between two things and when I get home, I always thought to myself, I could have gotten the other one because this toy that I got is super lame.
If I want something, I will try my hardest to get it, and usually I do not give up. The thing that determines how far I would go to get something is probably how badly I want it. Such as grades, when I was little I would do everything to get all like 100 on everything. And I remember one night when I didn’t understand my homework; I got frustrated at everyone because no one else in my family could explain it to me. Compared to when I was little and now, I have loss some of that motivation to get straight A's. Sometimes, I do not get something I want; it could be because there is something that is in the way that is not worth getting through to obtain it. Such as if I had to kill someone to get to my goal, I would not do it because I know that it is immoral.
To betray someone is to gain his or her trust and then turn around and do something to break that bond. Betrayal can vary from degree to degree but in general if you double cross someone you are betraying them. Whenever I don’t turn something in on time when I tell my teacher that I will then I feel that I am betraying him. It does happen more frequently than is comfortable for me, and I feel so terrible afterwards. I feel that even bad people can feel remorse for a sin or violent crime, but that shout of conscience in his or her mind can be clouded if that person is just so terrible at heart. When someone gets to the degree of evil where he or she no longer can feel much remorse, then that is the point of no return. I believe that the person still has a wince of morals, but he just disregards it because committing that certain crime has just become reflex and it no longer phases him. Human beings in general are capable of committing such violent crimes because of outside influences. Whenever there is peer pressure involved or just general pressure then instincts kick in and we become more animal than human. For example, when a man is driven to the point of extreme hunger or discomfort of poverty, he would turn against his fellow man and ultimately kill to get what he wants.
The main problem with pursuing what you want is that people never consider the feelings of everyone else around. A person will just blindly commit an action to gain something rewarding and most times that action will have re-precautions that the individual will not take into consideration. For example I myself will sometimes let others around me fail in order to get what I want. Honestly, if I had the choice to let all the other competition in the college admissions be terminated from eligibility just so I can get in to the highest college, then I would take it. That is probably the ultimate decision of complacency but it is true, at least in my head. I suppose that if it really came down to it I wouldn’t actually eliminate the other competition because then what’s the point of admissions in the first place. I suppose that I am one of those people who talks a lot about vengeance but would never actually act upon it if the moment of truth came around. I do believe though that everyone no matter how good will have thoughts of vengeance at one point or another, because that is natural for us. What does actually separate the good from the evil is those who act upon those immoderate thoughts of evil, as Dante would probably explain it.
Guilt, regret, betrayal, all inner relating from the source of the desire, these feelings and actions are eventually what will break the human kind, the need to live, the need for food, the need for better things will cause betrayal, fraud, and selfish actions. These actions are something from the inside; they are all planned out step by step until the sin occurs. People are capable to do these things due to the nature of man. Most of the time, if you think about it, nine times out of ten, we think of ourselves more than others. When a shooter appears in front, most people will almost always think of dodging the person, or running away from him, not thinking about the others around. We are selfish, and we are made that way. Our instincts will always be for ourselves, and that is what drives the will to betray others. We do it because we need something, we want their trust to get to things we need. Then it comes guilt and remorse.
We feel the pain after these events of betrayal, and mistakes from the rules and manners we have learned over the years. Instincts come first, and the realization of the situation comes after. Sometimes we are so focused into the things we want, that we lose all the other things we have learned over the years. The way we should be, and the way we were taught to be goes out the door, because we are what we are, and nothing can affect the person inside. We feel bad because we realize how dirty, and sick we really are inside.
Betrayal is something that I think is done to all because of greed and jealousy. Why else would they stoop that low to betray somebody? If you do betray somebody, it wouldn’t be called betrayal if you didn’t know the person personally. If one does commit betrayal, then there has to be a good reason for them to do it or else there wouldn’t be betrayal in the first place. The reasons are always either greed or jealousy. I’m not sure what really drives a man to that state of life but they must have their own reasons to it. Maybe they had a crappy life or they were always treated badly. The wounded usually commit betrayal but there are cases where betrayal is happening due to human flaw. If a man promises to do something, and he betrays the people who trusted him to do that act, then that is a type of betrayal also. It’s not because the person had a bad intention; it’s because that person is also a person. A human being is an imperfect being and we do have flaws as well.
The human emotion has many things that drive us to do things we do. For example, if you steal something that does not belong to you, that could lead you to guilt and regret. I think bad people should wake up and start living the real life. I mean stealing Is one thing but theirs bad people that steal lives. All humans are equal and one human been doesn’t have the right to take a live from anybody. Betrayal and guilt are so easy for a human to commit and it’s something we cannot stop but just think about it afterwards. I have gotten many things in life and regret it after. I pushed my mom into buying me something I really wanted, I felt guilty right away because I knew I didn’t or shouldn’t of had got it.
Loyalty is a very important quality to have. With out it I would have trust towards any one. It showed me that people could change if they wanted to.
We should always be careful of what we wish for because in one way or an other, it'll come back to hunt us, some more then others. Take Macbeth, he got his wish, but payed high for it. Then there is me, i wished for some legos when i was a lot younger and later i kept stepping on them and hurting my feet. A child who wishes and gets a dog has to deal with the ups and many downs of owning a pet or the family having a pet. Nothing is 100% free in the long run. Even if you get the dog and everything for free and paid for as long as the dog lives, you still have to deal with the animal dieing. The price then is emotional pain. How ever sometimes you can chose how much you pay in a way.
“Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss here makes a excellent point, you should be happy you got what you wanted, not because it's gone if it leaves. Same with other things, people and animals, you should treasure the memories and not waste the present on missing you loved one or item.
Making the wrong mistakes in life can hurt someone around you. Sometimes I feel guilty when I do something wrong and when I do I wish I could go back in time and redo what I did. The right choice is sometimes the hardest to make. When people do crimes, I see it is sickening with rapes, murders, and deaths. It still goes on in the world and these people choose all the wrong choices. Their identity is ruined because they choose to do badly. I believe that what influence them when they were growing up is their own parents for they do not know how to raise there child. Alternatively, even the pressure can cause their identiy to change the preasure of bad people or evil thoughts. I believe that the wrong mistakes you can get over but other mistakes are unavoidable. The choice you make impacts you for the rest of your life so choose the right one carefully.
I believe that bad people can feel guilty about the things they’ve done only if they truly repent and feel sorry for their actions. I personally believe that regret is one’s conscience acting out. Also I believe only that the inherently good can have a conscience. Betrayal can only be committed by the truly heartless. They are destroying a relationship with something and essentially destroying themselves. Guilt and remorse are just the byproducts of a guilty conscience. Humans only experience these emotions if they have a good conscience, but make a mistake.
There have been instances where I have achieved something and regretted the path I took to achieve that goal. After straying back onto my “true way” I have found out that my dreams are not too great for me as long as I put in my best effort. Guilt and remorse matter greatly to me, but if one is truly apologetic. As long as we live, we should try to live correctly. We all as citizens of humanity have a responsibility to live correctly and benefit our fellow man. I am also loyal to many who have hurt me in the past, but it’s only because I can forgive their actions. If “bill” means the experiences people face when they are around me, then yes I worry about my bill and the burden people face when they know me.
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